Why children don't have to "love parents"

 Parents in America want their children to obey and heed command, at various levels, depending on whether the abuser is authoritative or authoritarian. A common theme is "love parents" as the widespread, false interpretation of the Fifth Commandment. Children don't have to "love parents". Only rest next to them.

The Bible teaches mutual submission between parents and children, starting with parents. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection, feeling safe talking to parents about even isolating, misunderstood issues, owing nothing back to parents, yet being convicted to respect them anyway, because they respected and loved you first. The way to respect children is avoid offending your child, as denoted by the Greek root word ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the damages and torts system under the Mosaic Law, summed up in the New Testament at a low, contextual level as the slightest of personal slight imposed upon the child. Anything that the child finds offensive, alarming, or otherwise unsafe or uncomfortable is sin. 

Parenting in that culture was attachment-based in nature, which meant constant closeness to parents, especially the mother. Co-sleeping was the norm in that culture, especially for the first 3 years of a child's life, when the child was seen by that culture as an infant, namely in the sense that toddler tantrums were treated the same way as infant cries. 

Parents are to love children, not the other way around, sacrificing themselves by turning themselves into their children, like Christ gave Himself up to the Roman guard, despite being perfect, with no parent being perfect, and all parents born with a depraved sin nature. It is submitting to your child as their enemy, seeking to reconcile, due to your mere existence as an entitled adult, which is offensive to your child in its natural state. Christian love for a child is a verb, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao)

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!