Avoiding expectations: Why parents should say "please" and "thank you" when asking children to do things

 Many parents expect things from children, in a top-down fashion, enforcing such expectations with punishment and control. Expectations imposed upon a child are sin, as imposition is the root understanding of entitlement.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not merely to wanting things from children, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child. This refers to wanting your child to do anything for you, or be anything for you, without their informed consent. When the entitlement impacts the child, it becomes abuse. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and is one of the words referencing the offenses in the Bible, which are summed up in the New Testament the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child through entitlement. Entitlement is imposed want onto the child, and once the child finds the imposed want to be alarming, threatening, or annoying, it becomes abuse, and every step and intent before that is tarred as abuse and sin. The Apostle Paul here was referring to the fact that when you disrespect your child, they mirror that disrespect to you. The Apostle Paul was anti-spanking, as was the tradition of his Jewish faith. Parenting then was attachment-based, where parents did not have expectations towards their child, meaning expecting a child to do something "or else". Children did have limitations then, meaning the occasional word "no", but any punishment then was only legal in a judicial setting, and only towards legal adults, and corporal punishment only existed as judicial corporal punishment, and only in the Old Testament context. Parenting was about secure attachment, with the Greek root word translated "obey" being υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and is the secure rest of children in the care, support, and protection of parents, owing absolutely nothing in return to parents.

How does a parent even set limits without entitlement towards children? Ask nicely and politely for your child to do something for you, saying "please" first, then "thank you" later. This is called using your manners, and it's just polite to do for your child. Don't scream orders towards your child, and then throw an anger fit when they don't listen. Be polite, keep your hands to yourself. The word "please" signifies that you are stooping to a level below the child in terms of non-entitlement, and your physical stance with a young child should reflect this. Scolding a child while above them alone is frightening to small children.

The depraved and entitled parents and adults will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will suffer the second death for all eternity in the lake of fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices. You don't go to Hell unless you work for the devil. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!