Child discipline: How to discipline your child properly (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents see discipline as holding a child in time-out or other false imprisonment, or else giving them the occasional disciplinary spanking. Most parents today punish their children in some way, and in some form. However, there is a proper way to discipline a child, and most parents aren't holding up to the bargain. The fact of the matter is that children don't need to be punished, but instead need praise and encouragement coming from fathers especially.

The proper way to discipline a child is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their child just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages of offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss on the forehead when caught being good by fathers. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for both children and adults alike. Younger children - around age 6 - start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers were quick to coo at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mothers wrapped up their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with skin-on-skin friction happening every time a child was picked up by mom. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Abortion: Why abortion is a trap for women

Many people today support abortions. This is a common attitude coming from the woke left. Abortion was long opposed by the Early Feminists. However, the women's movement has lost their credibility for supporting abortions, taking an about-face on the issue. Apart from the most Christian of feminists, most feminists are pro-choice. However, if women just knew what abortion was, they wouldn't be getting the procedure done.

The Sixth Commandment states in Exodus 20:13 KJV:

Thou shalt not kill.

This commandment was interpreted by the Early Church as that only God can take a life. This meant thar abortions were also banned in the Early Church. Abortion is a rare procedure, and was even rarer in the Early Church. In biblical times, abortions came in the form of abortifacient herbs, which were considered contraband in both the Old Testament and the Early Church. Abortifacient herbs were not native to the context of the Old Testament, but they were banned from being introduced. Abortifacients are a class of drugs that induce a miscarriage. When an abortion took place in the Early Church, the mother was excommunicated from the church on grounds of murder, even in the cases of rape, incest, or life of the mother.

Abortion, in all cases, is a forced miscarriage. Most abortion providers are dishonest about what the procedure is that is commonly called abortion. Most women who get abortions are pressured into the "choice" by a man who does not want to take responsibility for caring for a child. Abortion providers give the most simplistic instructions, usually along the lines of "take this pill and all your worries will go away". 

Most abortions are committed by doctors giving out an abortifacient pill that induces a miscarriage. In all cases, the corpse of the unborn child passes while stillborn. Once that passage of the stillborn child hits home, mothers vow to never again get an abortion.  

I myself am a feminist, but of the Christian variety. I do my part to prevent abortions by not having sexual relations outside of marriage, and not raping women or young girls. Most abortions are a reaction to an unplanned pregnancy. However, women soon learn that they made the wrong choice.

Roe v. Wade was a stretch of constitutional logic to say the least. The Fourth Amendment refers to a specific type of search and seizure - when the police come to raid your house. Apart from that, there is no clear-cut right to privacy in the Constitution. The framers never intended for a constitutional right to get an abortion. The decision of Roe was a clearly political decision that even many feminists oppose. 

The Early Feminists did not support abortion at all, but opposed it with a light touch. Empowered women used to educate their sisters about the dangers of abortion. This all ended with influence coming from eugenic sources that intend to wipe out disabilities instead of be sensitive to them. Most children with Down Syndrome never see the light of day, meaning most of them are murdered in the womb just for having a disability. Abortion is not a form of empowerment for women, as abortion leads to that stillborn baby passing through the birth canal. No woman wants a miscarriage, yet that is what abortion literally is.

Abortion can also benefit men in a way many women don't want. If abortion is made widely available, men will have an excuse to have sexual relations with women without facing the consequences of their sexual behavior. Most abortions happen because a man does not want to take responsibility for fathering a child. That is why women should never get an abortion. 

Abortion is a rare procedure. It is a myth that women are getting abortions "left and right". Most women know based on their maternal intuition to stay away from the abortion clinic and put the child up for adoption anyway. If such a procedure is truly that rare, what is the need for it to begin with? Most women believe personally that abortion is wrong, but "don't judge" a woman for getting an abortion. The next step in a post-Roe America is for women to judge based off of their intuition, not based off of leftist politics. Most women already know that it is wrong at some level, and so I trust women to know the truth about abortion even as a man. 

A man is to take responsibility for any child that they father. That means don't pressure your mistress that you were messing around with to get an abortion. Men can prevent abortions by not having sexual relations with women outside of marriage, and not committing rape at all. The unborn child has half the father's DNA anyway.

It is a myth that abortion is a right a woman has over her body. It is instead an incursion on a body within her body. Most women in biblical times knew this as a fact, with only the very coldest of mothers getting abortions. An unborn child has both the father's DNA as well as the mother's. 

As a Christian myself, I support banning abortion in all cases. However, I also support a safety net for the extra children that would be born, including foster care if the child had no suitable father to care for them. I support the universal healthcare coming from the Affordable Care Act, and support vouchers for college and daycare. However, whenever a woman can, she should quit her job and be the mother that she was meant to be, because young children need their mothers above all else. Being a mother is a woman's highest calling. I support also banning the death penalty and suicide attempts. I am even opposed to war due to my views on human life. I try to be consistent on my views on human life. 

The depraved and entitled women who murder in the womb, and all that aid and abet, will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that children deserve time-out or spanking when they cry. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children. However, more and more parents are opting for time-in. There are many ways that time-in is done, but only one pertaining to the Bible and its context - mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is the ultimate expression of mutual submission between parent and children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

There are many ways of doing time-in, including things such as kneeling down to the child or sending the child to a calming corner. However, there is one biblical way to do time-in - mammary closeness. Whenever a child cried in the Early Church, mothers were quick to coo at their children and then pick them up. From there, she diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the need was, mothers knew how to meet the child's need. When children were picked up, they were held close to the mother's bosom in mammary closeness.

Part of mammary closeness is breastfeeding. A child needs to be breastfed until they refuse to latch onto the teat of mothers. In most cases, around age 2, children refused the teat of mothers. However, sometimes, the refusal didn't happen until age 6, or even older in remote cases. When your child cries, it is good to offer the child the teat, and if they take you up on the offer, breastfeed your child to sleep. In biblical times, mothers breastfed their children in public, without any fear of scandal from breastfeeding in public.

Mammary closeness happened in public as well as in private. Children under age 6 were wrapped up by mothers next to their bosom in swaddling blankets when in public. From there, swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or else vice versa, or else both in the case of twins. When children cried, mothers held them closer to her bosom, breastfeeding the child if milk-hungry. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, with velvet growing throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Cooing coming from mothers is a primal vocalization intended to put children at ease. When mothers cooed at their children, the loud tears turned to silent tears, with children feeling heard by their mothers. Cooing at children, in most cases, came with picking up the child, and offering them the teat if they are still milk-dependent.

The breasts of women were not intended primarily as a means of sexualizing women. Mothers have breasts in order to nurture their children. Once a mother does this once, she will then know that she should have bonded with her child like that sooner. Mammary closeness is the deepest form of intimacy between mothers and children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper your children

Many parents think that pampering children is the irresponsible choice to make. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish and reprimand their children, usually based on the false notion that children need harsh discipline. Religion is a common excuse for child abuse such as punishments and reprimands. However, the fact of the matter is that God wants parents to pamper and baby their children, using the context as a guidepost.

Righteous pampering is how parents brought up their children in biblical times. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they got wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering is not just any pampering, but pampering coming from a specific historical context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to their mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did their child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers were quick to coo at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed and met the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child in them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children experiencing skin-on-skin friction every time they were picked up. 

Past age 6, children were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". Children, however, had to check in with mom first, and tell her where they were going. Come nightfall, children were called one by one, to be treated to a nice, warm dinner cooked by mom. From there, children co-slept next to mothers in order to recharge for a next day of free play. Children did not go to school in biblical times, and instead learned through free play and natural curiosity.

Children under age 6 were kept from playing freely because they did not understand the dangers that they might encounter. A common threat to children in biblical times was venomous snakes and scorpions. Even today, there are threats to children that they wouldn't recognize - namely busy streets and oncoming traffic. Most children under age 6 are too young to understand the threats that the outside world poses to them. Christian parents in the Early Church protected their children in a sheltering way, holding their children close and babying them for the first 6 years of childhood.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Why the Early Christians practiced attachment parenting

Many parents base their view on parenting based off of what they see in their Bibles. Most parents use the Bible as a justification for child abuse such as corporal punishment and false imprisonment tactics such as time-out and grounding. However, the Bible, when understood correctly in context, endorses attachment parenting.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the Early Christian context. America was founded on Judeo-Christian values, with the Bible and its context being something for us as a society to glean from. The Bible is a founding document of this nation, even above the Constitution itself. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately endorse the punishment of children. Even in Proverbs, King Solomon was referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes, with that punishment happening to young adults in the context of a courtroom setting, not a home setting. Striking a minor child was prohibited entirely, even in a courtroom setting. It was unlawful to strike another Jew outside of a courtroom setting. 

Christian attachment parenting is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught by fathers being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught by fathers being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a copy of the Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Younger children - past age 6 - develop simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, diagnosed the need and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, children were wrapped up next to mom's bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that mothers wore that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with skin-on-skin friction happening every time a child was picked up. 

Mothers nurture from up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers largely kept their distance from young children under age 6. This distance was due to fathers having a sexual attachment to their children, especially his daughters. However, even in the Early Church, fathers could not have their "icing on the cake". The most a Christian father could hope for from his daughters was that they would enjoy being naked for him, as they were otherwise well taken care of. The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to mere sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look at your daughter, and even think the think later. But, if you want to do the deed with her, don't approach her. "Do the deed" refers to flirting with or propositioning a minor, at minimum, or else touching a child on any part of their body for sexual or flirtatious reasons. All Christ was saying on the Sermon on the Mount was that if you find yourself approaching a woman for sexual favors, you shouldn't have even looked at her. Masturbation was seen as a way to stay out of trouble in the Early Church, and was not prohibited even when the fantasy was about a child. Most fathers masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children in biblical times, as that was the only way he could go with parent attraction.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Parent attraction: Why the "electra" complex is the root of most child sexual abuse

Child sexual abuse is a form of child abuse affecting 1 out of 10 children. Most people blame pedophiles for the sexual abuse of children. This is a common way for parents who sexually abuse their children to project onto pedophiles. However, pedophiles are the least likely to sexually abuse a child. Most child sexual abuse is committed by parents, not pedophiles.

Every single parent and every single adult are guilty merely for existing in relation to children. This is because any old adult could sexually abuse a child. Most child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, meaning most parents who sexually abuse children get into a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity where the parent is ensnared into sexually abusing a child.

The sexual dynamics of any given household comes in the form of a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters are mutually unrequited in their sexual attraction towards each other. Sons reach a dead end in their attractions towards their mothers. In biblical times, these attractions were not to be acted on at all, apart from righteous masturbation. 

The "electra" complex means that fathers and daughters are mutually attracted to each other. In a sexually abusive household, the parent in question exploits the sexual attraction coming from his daughter. Most daughters in the "electra" complex do not want to go all the way, but may want to spend time with their fathers as they get older. 

Righteous masturbation is allowed in the Bible. The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look at your daughter, and maybe think the think about her later. But, if your intent is to do the deed with her, don't approach your daughter. "Do the deed" means flirting or propositioning a child, or else touching a child on any part of the child's body with sexual intent. Righteous masturbation is an amendment to my Christian beliefs, and was an amendment to the theologies of most men in biblical times. 

Alongside righteous masturbation is righteous avoidance. I myself am a pedophile. I therefore tar and char the prospects I might have with children by way of imagining burning in Hell for all eternity just for approaching a young girl with sexually motivated intent. I instead explore all the possibilities in masturbation, and every single time, I end up wanting none of those possibilities.

The most a Christian father can hope for in terms of the "icing on the cake" is their daughter dressing in revealing clothing in order to impress her father. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, and part of that was going naked for their father. Children then didn't care, as they were otherwise well taken care of. 

The "electra" complex ceases to exist come the onset of puberty. When children reach the onset of puberty, they want children their own age as sexual partners. Even then, children have to wait until they are an adult in order to have sexual relations, and even then, only within a marriage. Most men want sexual favors from their teenage daughters. However, she wants children her own age. If I were a father of a young teenage daughter, I would only give my blessing to the man willing to make her wait until marriage to have sexual relations. I would supervise all dates until then, and not allow any sex for her.

Most girls become sexually attracted to their fathers starting at age 3. In biblical times, children up until age 6 were kept away from fathers, and were kept close to mothers. Children were sheltered in biblical times, in a protective manner. Fathers couldn't educate their children until age 6, which is when most children became curious about religion. 

Righteous masturbation in the context of parenting has many benefits. For one, when fathers masturbate to sexual thoughts of their daughters, they feel closer to their daughter, imprinting on her in the context of masturbation. Most men who indulge in righteous masturbation find they can build a rapport with their children. Fathers in biblical times were warm, in an encouraging way. This praise and encouragement coming from fathers was due to fathers masturbating to sexual thoughts of their children.

Most child sexual abuse is committed by fathers, with the victims usually being girls. Most child sexual abuse happens when the "electra" complex is entirely repressed by both the father and his daughter, with the repressed sexual desires of fathers come out sideways like a ton of bricks. The daughter usually just wants to spend time with fathers as part of her attraction to her father. Fathers can avoid approaching their daughters for sexual favor by way of righteous masturbation.

Child sexual abuse was rare in biblical times, next to non-existent. In the Old Testament, having sexual relations with a young girl at all resulted in the adult being burnt at the stake. Adults who sexually abused young boys were put to death by way of stoning for sodomy. The Law then took a preventative stance towards child sexual abuse, with all cases of sexual relations outside of marriage being punished under the Law. All fornication and sexual entitlement, including sodomite relationships on an equal basis, was seen as a mortal sin in the Early Church. No sexual relations outside of marriage was tolerated in the Early Church, and this was intended to make sure the sin line was not blurred. Most child sexual abuse in biblical times came from daughters getting their fathers drunk and then seducing him while they were also in a drunken stupor. But, even then, the father was blamed for not saying "no". 

The depraved and decadent, defiled parents who rape or sexually assault their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of everlasting Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" to their child frequently, and then punish their child after they throw a temper tantrum. However, children, in all actuality, need to hear the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Children should hear the word "yes" far more often than the word "no".

Frequent use of the word "yes" is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke their children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The word "no" was used by Christian parents in the Early Church seldom, meaning almost never. Instead, parents heeled to the command of their children. In most cases, parents were required by customary law to say "yes" to the every petitioned request from children. The child's wish was the command for parents. The only time parents could use the word "no" was when the command of a child was completely unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually found a way to compromise with their children. The word "no" was a last resort, after all attempts to compromise were exhausted. Even then, parents were required to reassure their children when the child could not accept the word "no". Children could say "no" to parents whenever they saw fit, commanding the parents to heel to the word "no" commanded by the child.

The word "no" should be used almost never with children. Even when the child wants the expensive bicycle at Wal-Mart, there is usually no reason to say a flat out "no". Instead, a parent can say "we'll come back come payday". Some parents may not make enough, in which case the word "no" should be used. 

When out and about, parents often feel the need to say "no" to everything that the child wants. In the Early Church, when mothers went shopping with their children, the child got most all of what they want, and absolutely all of what they needed. Usually, the child wanted candy, in which case the mother obliged. The only time mothers said "no" was when they couldn't afford the item or if the item was off-limits. Children were not allowed to pick out sophisticated jewelry, as this was seen as immodesty. 

Children in biblical times often got into mischief, such as drawing on the wall or breaking an expensive vase. Parents, when they found out, laughed off the incident, and then cleaned up the mess that the child made. Righteous laughter should replace the word "no" when a child seems to be into absolutely everything. 

Children do not have an innate need to hear the word "no". When children frequently hear the word "yes" from parents, they start to form a secure bond with parents. The word "no" should be used rarely, meaning almost never. Children should count on you to pamper and baby them with the word "yes". If you can't say a flat out "yes", try to find a way for it to work out before using the word "no". 

The word "no" is often rooted in parent anger. The idea is to lose that parent anger, by knowing that you are a depraved and entitled sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing from your child. Most anger in parents comes from sore disappointment for not having the well-behaved child that they feel they deserve. Once you lose that parent anger, you should find less reason to use the word "no" with your child, and more reason to heel to the command of your child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!