Reverse policing: Why children are authority figures to parents

Many parents think that they call the shots at home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents see themselves as authority figures over their children, and feel entitled to respect in that regard. Most parents will cite the Bible for evidence that their parenting conclusions are correct. The fact of the matter is that the Bible endorses a specific form of attachment parenting known as Christian attachment parenting, and the core element of Christian attachment parenting is reverse policing.

Reverse policing is understood using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Parents, in biblical times, were under the lawful authority of their children, fearing and revering their children as vulnerable extensions of God, submitting to children from beneath yet from above. Parents could only say "no" to a request that was immoral or unworkable, and otherwise, children of any age could sue their parents at law. Parents were seen as bondservants to their children, waiting on children head and foot, to the point of full and dutiful submission, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Children brought their parents to this full and dutiful submission by enforcing their law on their parents, especially as older children.

Reverse policing is a concept in Christian attachment parenting where you revere children as you would the police. Parents are to submit to the higher authority which is their children (see also Rom. 13:1-4), and give up the fight with their children, and then give in to their children's orders and demands. This is also known as a policing attachment, and was the most common form of secure attachment in biblical times. Children called the shots in biblical times, and issued lawful orders to parents and other adults.

How did children police their parents in biblical times? Children under age 6 would cry for their every need, including attachment needs such as attention. Even when mothers discerned that children were crying just for attention, mothers responded with sustaining warmth, cooing and placing their children in their bosom in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Older children barked orders at mothers, and sometimes at fathers, and both parents had to comply with their orders in most cases. Parents were in a vulnerable position in most cases, where children could easily manipulate parents to give them what they wanted. Siblings did not rival each other, but worked in unison to bring the parents down to full and dutiful submission to children, being one united front lobbying their parents. 

Most Christian parents in the Early Church did not get angry with their children, ever. When children went into policing mode, parents felt reverent fear of their child, and complied out of reverent fear and terror for their child. Apart from children's orders, parents in biblical times were driven by worry and concern, not anger. When children cried, mothers felt automatic concern, cooing to show that love and concern for their children. Fathers also cooed when a child cried, in unison with the mother usually.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Keeping the Christian tradition

Many parents are authoritative parents. Authoritative parents usually control their children by way of frequent time-outs, and the occasional disciplinary spanking. Most parents still punish their children, and some still do so severely. Most parents see punitive parenting as a Christian tradition. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting is the actual Christian tradition.

Christian attachment parenting can be understood in the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in tbe nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for everything, coming from a depraved and decadent sin nature. In the Early Christian church communities, parents worked to center their entitlement, and children followed in the footsteps of parents. When children were caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers to "keep going down the right path". Children in the Early Church were, instead of caught being bad, caught being good. "Good" here means avoiding entitlement, and when children were caught avoiding entitlement, they were lavishly praised and encouraged in their efforts to overcome their sinful nature. For example, if a child accepted the word "no" or avoided something they really wanted, they were praised for it. Sometimes, children need direct instruction from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to direct parental instruction. Parents could not issue lawful orders to their children, with children being the lawful authority issuing orders. Parents instead made polite requests to their children, from the bottom of their heart, saying "please" and "thank you" in the process. The hope was that children would listen due to have a secure attachment with parents, which all Christian parents in the 1st Century strove for. 

Children are in the providing custody of parents, primarily that of mothers, and secondarily that of fathers. Children, for the first 6 years of life, were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up to either her bosom in swaddling blankets, or worn on her back in a papoose bag, when out and about. Mothers and children were both naked in the family home, and children were naked wherever they went until adulthood. Christian attachment parenting is unique in how it stresses child nudity and motherly nudity as a means to bond better with children, and gain more ease in giving children skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Children, around age 6, started to venture further and further from home, playing outside with neighborhood friends, then retreating back to the closeness of mothers come nightfall, in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Children usually slept next to their mothers until puberty, when they wanted to sleep on their own.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. We have a secular government, balanced by a religious society, and historically traditionally, that religion has been Christianity, in all its denominations. The Bible is a founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. All of our criminal statutes and civil torts are based off of Judeo-Christian moral standards. Since we now know that the Bible commands attachment parenting, we know that attachment parenting is a tradition in this country that we have overlooked for most of our history. When a Christian teaching becomes popular enough in a country like ours, it becomes enshrined into law. God's Law is above the law of the land, and thus Christian attachment parenting is the unwritten law of the land.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is rhe second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

National Spank-out Day: Why corporal punishment is immoral and a sin

Many parents do it, though fewer than in previous years. 37% of parents in the United States used corporal punishment to deal with their child's behaviors. Most adults favor corporal punishment, even if they don't do it themselves, and this abuse is connected to a normative form of punitive parenting. But, why is it a sin to physically punish your child? In fact, it is a sin to do so.

It says in Exodus 21:16 KJV:

And he that stealeth a man, and selleth him, or if he be found in his hand, he shall surely be put to death.

This was expanded by the courts to include any servile treatment of children, and this was, in turn, interpreted by the religious authorities to include corporal punishment of any kind towards children. Punitive parents were given many warnings before the rest of the child victim's family turned the parents in to the religious authorities. When put before the Sanhedrin, they were interrogated by the panel of judges supervising the investigation into their physical punishment of their children. If the Sanhedrin came to a two-thirds majority, the parents were both issued 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, and were put on watch. In the case that the parents would punish the children once more, the parents were righteously kidnapped, and all who testified against them together hung them bloody with barbed wire. Executions of parents in the Old Testament were some of the more common instances were executions were applied.

This commandment is repeated more succinctly in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any corporal punishment or other punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his writings.

April 30 is National Spank-out Day. Corporal punishment, except for the most extreme cases, is a form of lawful child abuse. I myself am a survivor of law-abiding parents, and once and a while, I received a disciplinary spanking. A disciplinary spanking is a lawful form of corporal punishment consisting of 5-8 swats to a clothed bottom, after all other measures have failed to control the child. Lawful child abuse is when you are being controlled from a higher power, and that higher power is your parents. That is one level of lawful abuse. The other level is the adults the parents bring into your life, who back them up every step of the way. As a child, you have no freedom and no rights. Nobody believes you, because nobody believes that it is abuse. You just want the police to come to your house and read your parents the riot act - only the police only enforce existing laws, and no law exists that criminalizes your parents for abusing you. The problem is parents and their power and influence. If we took away the power and influence of parents, they wouldn't be able to do their dirty work.

Our country is headed in a new direction on this issue. Since the 2010s, corporal punishment of children has been on a steady decline, decreasing from 94% in the late 1990s to 37% in the early 2010s. We are entering into a new era where we can effectively pass laws to ban corporal punishment. Two states, Delaware and Hawaii, have particularly restrictive laws on corporal punishment. The most effective of bans on corporal punishment have been gradual, in line with public opinion. Thus, public opinion needs to change. I offer, on this platform, biblical evidence convincing parents to shed their parental entitlement. Parental entitlement is the root of all child abuse, and if all parents lacked entitlement towards their children, I would have less work to do convincing parents on what the Bible actually says about punishing children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through physically punishing their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake\ of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor your parents: What it truly means to honor parents

Many parents want to be honored by their children. This is a common sentiment amongst American parents. Most American parents feel entitled to being honored, and thus demand respect from their children. Many parents enforce this respect with punishment. The fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment refers to something very specific.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment, in context, cross-references the parent protection laws. "Do not strike your parents" refers to deliberately and repeatedly beating parents. "Do not curse your parents" means do not impose a gaslighting curse on your parents, meaning do not impose airborne gaslighting on your parents, at all. "Stubborn and rebellious son" refers to committing crimes as a young adult, thus making your parents look bad. Most parents were not believed when they said that their own children were abusing them. Most people said "where did they learn that behavior", thus blaming the victim. This commandment only applies to adults living apart from their parents, hence the language "deliberate". Apart from this commandment, a parent's only protection is with the secular law.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, with parent believers resting securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slughtest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemminug from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, waa anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Children, in the Early Church, had lawful authority over their parents, and were able to issue lawful orders to their parents. Parents usually had to comply with the orders of children, usually issued through crying or whining. Parents could only say "no" to children if something they ordered was completely immoral or unworkable. Parents were not allowed, under Christian law, to speak against their child, or anyone else's child for that matter, lest they perjur themselves. Children were seen as sacrosanct in biblical times, meaning the guiding belief of parenting was that children could do no wrong, even if they did do things that were considered morally wrong, technically legally. Children had a lot of rights in biblical times, and parents were bondservants to the rights of children.

The Fifth Commandment only applies directly in certain specific situations, meaning those that constitute clear and deliberate elder abuse, which is rare and only convicts adult children living away from parents. Other than that, the Fifth Commandment, for minor children in particular, appoints parents as God-ordained head of household, but in a charitable and generous way. Mothers in particular responded to the every cry and upset in their children, even simple cries for attention, usually with skin-on-skin reassurance. By night, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin fashion. Parents submitted to children from beneath yet from above, fearing their children in the Lord.

Parents were caregivers to children, not lawgivers or lawmakers. Parents in biblical times focused on a secure attachment, which every Christian parent in the 1st Century strived for with their children. Early Christian mothers bonded with their children by way of skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, with mothers and children being naked in the family home, and with children being naked wherever they went. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Discipline and limit setting in Christian homes: How to set proper limits (without spanking or punishment)

Many parents think that children need to be disciplined in order to set limits. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most parents in America think discipline comes from discipline imposed on children, meaning punishment. The fact of the matter, however, is that true discipline is not imposed on children, but modeled to them for them to follow.

Teaching discipline to children occurs within the context of the Christian teaching of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. In the 1st Century, Christian parents worked on centering their entitlement, and their children followed in their footsteps. When children started to emulate the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep going down the right path". Children were caught being good, and were rewarded with lavish praise and encouragement every time they acted in a disciplined way. Sometimes, children needed direct instructions from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to direct parental instruction. Parents could not issue lawful orders to minor children, with children being the individuals with authority in parent-child  relationships. Instead, parents requested things from their children from the bottom of their heart, saying "please" and "thank you" in the process, hoping children would listen to them based on a secure attachment. All Christian parents in the 1st Century strived for a secure attachment with their children.

Children are not going to be disciplined right away, but they will at some point. Usually, in the Early Church, children under age 6 were not disciplined, and often cried. Tantrums were averted by the fact that children were swaddled next to, or in back of, mothers. Children were very immature before age 6. After age 6, children held their emotions together when playing outside, keeping their discipline when venturing away from home. But, when children came home from playing outside all day, they reverted to immature behavior around their mother, usually in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. 

Child nudity was an important part of Christian attachment parenting in the Early Church. Mothers and children were naked in the family home, with children being naked wherever they went. This context can be applied today by mothers being naked with their children in the family home. This leads to stronger attachment with adults on the part of children, and more ease in mothers engaging in skin-on-skin bonding with children.

Keeping a secure attachment with your child makes them want to be like you, because they like you, and want to follow in your footsteps. This means YOU as a parent need to work on your discipline issues, and work to center your entitlement. Children are watching your every move. When children see you work on your entitlement issues, they work on their own entitlement issues. When you punish your child, you impose your entitlement onto your child, and then children learn to be entitled - like a vicious cycle. 

Setting limits with children rarely requires direct instruction. Most of the time, all children need to know the limits is a disciplined example from a parent, coupled with a secure attachment. In biblical times, parents did not directly instruct children much in what was expected. Instead, parents worked on their entitlement and did what was expected of them, and then children followed suit.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why children need to be pampered

Many parents think that pampering children is a bad idea. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents do not want to pamper children. However, the Bible encourages parents to pamper their children. Children need to be pampered, at least every once and a while. But, why not all of the time?

Righteous pampering is part of the greater Christian doctrine of mutual submission in parenting. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishment of children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

In the Early Christian church communities, children were pampered by their parents. Also, parents wanted to be seen as pampering their children. Children in the Early Church got most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed. Mothers, from day one, held their babies all of the time, never putting down the baby, or at least keeping the baby within eyesight. 

Children, for the first 6 years of life, were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side, with children being wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, perhaps letting the child suckle her teat if milk-hungry. Mothers and children were both naked when at home, with children naked wherever they went. Mothers cooed as their children cried, reassuring children that "this too will pass". Come nighttime, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin fashion, with both mother and child in the nude, laying in bed.

Christian attachment parenting is unique in its stress on child nudity and the nudity of the mother. When borh the mother and children are in the nude, mothers can more easily bond with their children in skin-on-skin format. This sort of living setup hastens the bonding process in terms of secure attachment. It is also the ultimate way to pamper your child.

The Ancient Jews wanted to be seen by those around them as pampering their children. In modern American society, parents are embarrassed when they are "too nice" to their children in public. In Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, it was the opposite. A crying child was comforted immediately, even in public, and young children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. Some children were wrapped in swaddling blankets to the back of their mothers. Christian homes in the Bible were some of the warmest homes in the Roman Empire.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Most parents have to deal with it. Most children engage in temper tantrums, to some degree. Most parents think that temper tantrums are deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents punish temper tantrums, sometimes physically. The fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are good behavior, not bad behavior, and thus parents are to understand when their child is throwing a temper tantrum. Children cry and tantrum in order to communicate vulnerable needs to parents. 

Dealing with temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek roor word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in his original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Whenever a child threw a temper tantrum in biblical times, mothers responded to the tears of their child, every time. No crying child ever went ignored. Children who cried and tantrummed were given skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, with mothers cooing as they provided skin-on-skin reassurance. Mothers and children were naked in the family home, with children being naked wherever they went. Child nudity is a large part of Christian attachment parenting, with child nudity making it easier for Christian mothers in the 1st Century to bond with their children. Children under the age of 6 were in constant closeness with mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to the bosom of mothers when out and about. Child nudity in the home allows for parents to properly form a secure attachment to children.

How do you apply the abovementioned context? Allow children to run around the house naked, and play around the house while naked. Clothe them when they go out and about, but allow them to be naked while in the privacy of their own home. Mothers are recommended to go naked themselves. When children are throwing a temper tantrum, mothers are to hold the upset child to their bosom in skin-on-skin format. When out in public, find a public restroom, and tuck the upset child under your shirt. Children should be reassured with the words "this too will pass".

Temper tantrums are not bad behavior. They are a way that children communicate their need. Never ignore a crying a child. Even if they just need attention, give them the attention that they want and need. All children cry and throw tantrums for the same reason an infant cries - they need love! So, why not attend to the every cry and tantrum of a child with sustaining warmth.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!