Why the definition of a child sexual abuser should not be based on religion

Many people do not know what really happens when you make a report of child sexual abuse to your local child abuse hotline. I rarely step into legal debates these days, but the current laws that criminalize pedophiles are unjust. Pedophiles shouldn't be blamed by law enforcement for the abuse of children. Blame the choice to abuse a child instead.

Pedophilia is a mental health disorder involving preferential or exclusive sexual attraction to children under the age of 14. Pedophilia is basically arrested sexual development, usually associated with a developmental disability such as autism. It is a specific form of autism that is capable of empathy, and where that empathy is specialized in children, with their sex drive corresponding with their empathy specialty. Most pedophiles are highly sensitive people (HSPs) that specialize their high sensitivity in children.

Most child sexual abuse is not committed by pedophiles, but by sexually entitled adults. ALL adults are responsible for the rape and sexual assault of children, even if only a few adults sexually abuse children. 1 out of 4 girls will be sexually abused by their 18th birthday, as well as 1 in 6 boys. Rape is rape, and sexual assault is sexual assault, regardless of the victim's age, and the motives are same, regardless of the victim's age. 

What motivates child rape and childhood sexual assault? Location, location, location, but ultimately a choice, to sum things up. It is usually a secluded location where the abuser acclimates themselves to. Usually, the adult committing the abuse is sexually entitled in some way. Adult sexual entitlement can be caused by sexual repression or overindulgence in sexual desire, with both leading to approaching a child for sexual purposes. Usually, the adult sexual attraction to children is repressed so low that it comes out the other end, as an ambush and not an approach. Just like with the rape and sexual assault of adults, the abuser just snaps, then snaps out of it, and it comes out of nowhere for the victims that have to suffer and endure the abuse.

The profiling systems of law enforcement should be changed, with the criteria widened from the narrow criteria that we call "the religious pedophile". Any adult whose sexual entitlement is perceived by the child should be called into questioning, and should be charged, with the child being taught at school how to defend themselves and reverse gaslight against all forms of child abuse, with the definition of child abuse in general being expanded to whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. Ultimately, the "creep" test should be used to judge beforehand who the sexual abuser is - whomever a child calls a "creep" abused them in some way, even if only through sexual harassment.

Every single adult has the capacity to sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions, and so all adults are individually responsible for preventing child sexual abuse before the fact. Usually, child sexual abuse occurs when normal adult sexual attraction to children, usually pubescent children, is repressed. When you repress anything, it comes out eventually, and it comes out sideways. Child sexual abuse usually occurs when the adult represses their sex drive for children, and then acts on opportunity when they are alone with a child. Usually, they make up a religious excuse afterward as an attempt to rationalize their choice to sexually abuse a child.

Why should all adults be singled out for the sins of a few? Because all adults are capable of raping and sexually assaulting children, and there is a high danger given most adult men in particular repress and avoid sexual fantasies about children. In a narrow minority of cases, the abuser has a mental disability which causes them not to understand the harm they are inflicting on their child victims. I myself was the latter type of abuser - that type of abuser usually sexually harasses children, and doesn't graduate to sexual assault or rape. I admit my responsibility for what I did, as I am a depraved and decadent adult whose sexual self-interest is children. I want nothing from children except to be around them, in which case I enjoy their company. A child owes me nothing, and I owe them everything I can give them, which is usually to leave them alone.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators who sexually abuse children and then blame pedophiles will BURN in everlasting Hell and torrents! Repent!

Skin-to-skin closeness: Why this is crucial to form a secure parent-child bond

Many parents seek cooperation from children by way of punishment and controlling demeanor, and think punitive parenting. This is a common mistake that American parents make regarding their children. The fact of the matter is that children need a secure parent-child bond. That type of bond is formed by skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with children.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children then resting in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This rest, in biblical times, meant rest in the bosom of mothers, and in the shelter of fathers, but more so rest in the bosom of mothers, experiencing skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with mothers. This close bond and friendship between mother and child fostered cooperation between parent and adult. Attachment parenting was the norm in Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Church, and customary law mandated that parents utilize attachment parenting methods to bond with their child and gain cooperation.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was understood, in its original context, as prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul here was rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, with such parents misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits. Paul was explaining the big picture, citing the Jewish commandment to "love your neighbor and not provoke them to anger" and applying the Jewish commandment to a Christian context. The rod verses - all seven of them - refer not to raising children, but a form of judicial corporal punishment, with the father being a legal authority over his ADULT son, being appointed as such by the court to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. MINOR children could not be charged with a crime, as children were not subject to the Law, instead being seen as learning the Law. Spanking and punishment of children, as a custom, does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures who beat and whipped their children as a form of discipline, with the colonial powers taking that false doctrine around the world.

Skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy was the main way that Christian parents in the 1st Century gained cooperation of children. Children went naked wherever they went, and women also went naked in the home, with women using their nudity to serve their husband and children, separately. Children ranged beside children by day, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, or else on top of her if the child was under age 3 (for access to nourishment, and for safety purposes - the child would be crushed otherwise when mothers rolled over). Children, when taken out in public, were held to the mother's body with swaddling blankets and papoose bags.

Children up until age 6 never left the side of mothers in the Early Church, and were swaddled next to mothers at all times. Children older than that were more mobile, and played freely, but never left the line of sight of parents. The ancient world was full of war and mayhem, and so parents offered shelter from such hardships. Children were allowed to run around freely, but with the supervision of parents.

Children eventually, come young adulthood, became cooperative with parents. Children were not expected to follow the example of parents fully until young adulthood. Children have poor self-regulation and self-control compared to adults, and their brains aren't fully formed until they are adults, and so they are going to cry, throw fits, and cause mischief. Most behavior that children are punished for is developmentally appropriate in nature, meaning understandable given their age and development. The idea is to respond to behavior, not react to it. Children cry and throw fits for the same reasons that a baby cries - they want love! So, why not give them loving attention? They are only little once, and the phase where they need your constant loving attention is just a phase - children grow out of these phases all on their own, with help of a good, disciplined example in a parent.

Children in biblical times called the shots. In biblical times, the every cry and demand of a child was a lawful and binding order, meaning a summonses from God. Children were deified and worshipped as extensions of God. Parents reverently feared their children, with said fear leading to obedience and submission to children and their every vulnerable need. Parents could not issue lawful and binding orders upon their minor children...The context contained herein is applicable today just as it was in biblical times. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Religious child abuse against pedophilic children: Why we should care

Many parents assume that pedophiles are the people that are abusing children out there, and that all blame lies on the pedophile. The belief is that we need to "protect children from pedophiles". What if the pedophile is a child?

I myself am attracted to children, and have not repressed it one bit. I find pedophile girls to be especially attractive, once found out, in an affinity way. I do have a self-interest in this arena as well, but I do not want to punish a pedophilic child for their desires for much younger children. But, I know that if I was a repressed pedophile, I would be driven to punish such a child.

Pedophilia is a mental health disorder involving sexual attraction to children under age 14. The disorder is genetic, and is in the same genetic family of disorders as autism and other developmental delays, with the arrest in emotional development causing hormonal imbalances leading to the onset of pedophilia. Most pedophiles are aware of their desires by their mid-teens, sometimes earlier. There is a growing crisis for these children. Pedophiles rarely abuse children, and pedophilic children are at high risk for suffering parental abuse and alienation. 

True abuse of pedophiles rarely is trauma-related, but is instead rooted in abusive religious doctrine. One major religious trigger for pedophiles is Matthew 5:27-30 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman in order to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body be cast into hell. And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body be cast into Hell.

"Members" refers not merely to body parts, but parts of the human soul, as understood by people in the context in which this was given. Christ here is simply talking about sexual harassment, not simply looking at an attractive child or even fantasizing about an attractive child. The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo). This word does not refer to mere desires for children, but instead adult sexual entitlement, or sexual want for a child to the point of approaching said child sexually. 

Masturbation to sexual fantasies of children was recommended by clergy in the Early Church for pedophiles who had a sexual attraction to their children. Today, this context can apply to pedophilic children, meaning children who are attracted to much younger children.

The most common abuse of pedophiles committed by parents of pedophilic children is parents stomping all over fantasies, interrupting masturbation sessions, and other forms of sexual shaming abuse. Parents seem to know, even before the child does, that the child is headed towards being a pedophile, and then they punish masturbation sessions and read children verses in the Bible as a form of sexual shaming abuse.

Why should we care about pedophilic children? Usually, it is the child you'd least expect, but in a way that makes sense once you get to know the child fully. Usually, they have a form of autism where empathy is specialized on children. "Exist" autism is a form of autism involving strong, highly sensitive empathy that is directed at a specific group of people. When that group of people is children, think pedophile. Most pedophiles today are not repressed, and are aware of their condition on the surface, thus they have a gift of seeing right into children and being able to understand and predict their behavior, but their highly sensitive empathy is conflated in a bittersweet way by a sex drive towards children. Hence, these children know that preying on much younger children is wrong, yet they still feel sexually towards them. Child-centered autism is a form of autism where you can pretty much tell that they are a pedophile, as child-centered autism involves preferring children as friends over adults. Children with this form of autism have serious deficits in relating to same-age peers or adults, but, on the other hand, have clear strengths and gifts in interacting with children. Most with autism are animal-oriented in their empathy, meaning they don't get people, period, and would rather spend their time around animals, and there might be a sexual reason for that as well. 

I myself am a pedophile, and wore the label since I was 16. I first told my mother, and she thought I would grow out of it. I told a therapist, and she thought the same thing. But, when they figured out that I would never grow out of it, they accepted me despite it because I was working on it, and choosing not to abuse children. I did abuse children sexually, but in the form of sexual harassment, and that triggered an investigation - the police assumed the worst, in a corrupt way, but thankfully it was only sexual harassment that the children could forgive. What helped me improve to the point that I am today is simply having people to talk to about my disorder. That's all a pedophile needs most of the time. Maybe I needed to be a conservative Christian for the aversion therapy benefits, but not everyone is going to believe in nor accept Christ. The key tell-tale sign of my pedophilia to the world is the fact that I would rather be friends with children, in a way that allows for them to boss me around, and drag me around like a human ragdoll. Most fathers were that passive with their children in biblical times, meaning they melted for their children.

The religious abusers of children who prey on pedophilic children and alienate them will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and will suffer in everlasting Hell and torrents! Repent!

Why children are an authority over parents (not vice versa)

Many parents fashion themselves as authority figures over their children. This is a common mistake made by parents in the modern age. The fact of the matter is that children are the real authority over their parents, and get to self-advocate their needs in that capacity.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christan Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as the parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for children is not borne out of fearful compliance, but instead out of restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents about anything and everything that is on their minds, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, with customary law then mandated the use of attachment parenting in order to foster a secure parent-child bond with children.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was understood, in its original context, as prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law in order to rebuke Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits. Spanking and punishment of children do not come from the Bible, but instead, it came from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures that beat their children as a form of punishment. The rod verses in Proverbs refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes imposed upon a capital offender, from the father's perspective. Minor children could not be charged with any criminal or civil offense, including any capital offense, as children were not subject to the Law, but were simply learning it.

Children were heavily deified in biblical times, meaning children were seen as extensions of God to obey and heed command to. The every cry of a child in a Christian home was a lawful and binding order to heed that need of a child, or else burn in Hell for eternity for provoking their child to anger. 

Children were authority figures in the home, meaning they called the shots, having immense lobbying power from beneath. Children had the unilateral right to issue lawful and binding orders and take parents to court if they felt they were not being treated satisfactorily. Parents of dependent children, however, had no right to take their child to court. 

How is this put into practice? It all starts with the word "yes". Adults love to say "no" to children, but most of the time, it isn't necessary to say "no". Children don't ask for much. Maybe a candy bar in the checkout line? So what? If they want more and more, that means they trust you and are counting on you to give it to them. That is why children become so emotionally unhinged when you give them everything - they trust you, and that leads to them trusting you with their feelings. Children express their needs on their own, and they do so with wants. Most childish wants express an attachment need to connect with parents - they see the items as coming from YOU as the parent, and are comforted by your charity.

Attachment parenting was the norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Children went naked wherever they went, and women also were traditionally naked in the home, in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Women served their children, in the mother role, by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness (especially during co-sleeping). Children ranged next to their mother by day, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to their mother, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness. Parents were seen then as servants to their minor and dependent children, being righteously enslaved to their children, and with children being in place of God on earth. This deifying sentiment was expressed by mothers serving their children with nourishment and sustenance, blindly heeding to the cries that are their needs.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Punishment of children: Why it should be banned (and why God's Law already bans it)

More and more parents these days are switching to attachment parenting, and not punishing children physically. Over 60 countries have banned all corporal punishment of children, at least as an educational law, and many more have committed to banning it in the future. However, around 60% of parents still use force in parenting in the United States. God's Law is above the law of the land, and the punishment and controlling demeanor towards children is prohibited under God's Law. The secular authorities should catch up with God's Law, and ban all punishment and controlling demeanor towards children everywhere.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children and others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents is not borne out of fearful compliance, but instead out of restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe confiding into parents about anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, with such parenting being mandated under customary law. That customary law is lifted up for all to see by this commandment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was understood and intended, in its original context, to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was rebuking a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Some Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs even then to justify their punishment habits. Punitive parenting such as spanking does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the customs of European pagan cultures who beat their children into submission, with each Roman province having its own cultural method of punishing children. The rod verses - all seven of them - do not refer to parenting, but a dated, archaic form of judicial corporal punishment where ADULT children were issued 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction for committing a capital offense, warning the errant son that if he continued with his criminal habits, he would be put to death on the spot. Ultimately, the Apostle Paul was challenging these parents to see the big picture, meaning Paul was advocating that parents love their children as their neighbor, and not provoke them to anger. Paul was lifting up the Jewish command of "love your neighbor and do not provoke them to anger" and applying it to Christian parenting.

In the Early Christian church, church ordinance prohibited all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. An errant parent, usually a father, who spanked and whipped his children was put under surveillance by the church, with there being brief, impromptu lines of questioning that were masked in nature. Then, the offender was put on trial, and all the witnesses to the child's abuse turned on the offender. The punitive parent had to answer "yea" or "nay" to the charges, and their answer was screened for entitlement, in which case the pro-spanking parent was excommunicated from the Christian Churches of God. This context should guide our laws on punishment such as spanking and corporal punishment.

What can a parent do instead of punish? All children cry for the same reason a baby cries - they want love. So why not give them some love? Time-in is an ancient tool to help a child calm down and be reassured that parents are there to listen, but it must be done the correct, biblically authentic way. The idea is to hold a crying child to the bosom of mothers, head first, and for mothers to wear appropriately low necklines in order to accommodate their child. This stops the tantrum with 1-2 minutes, and then children are ready to talk, and then parents and children should talk things out with each other. This is how mothers in biblical times dealt with temper tantrums.

Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, and women also went naked traditionally within the family home, with women going naked in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers served their children with nourishment and sustenance, meaning breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness I (including in co-sleeping) and intimacy respectively. By day, children ranged next to mothers, and sometimes clung to her. By night, children slept next to children, in a co-sleeping fashion. Mothers wore their children in swaddling blankets and a papoose bag when going out in public. Children called the shots in biblical parenting, meaning they demanded a want/need, and parents provided, being righteously enslaved to their children. The every want/need of a child was a lawful and binding order on parents, and children self-advocated for their own needs readily, usually by crying. Children were seen as lawful extensions of God to salute and obey, as children were heavily deified in biblical times - parents referred to their children, in passing, as "my little god" (in the case of boys) or "my little goddess" (in the case of girls). Deifying statements were seen as terms of endearment for a child then. All of this warmth and charity in parents led to children following the example of parents, including the religious example of parents, with children looking up to attached parents and wanting to be like their parents...The parenting context contained herein might be dated in some ways, but most of it can be applied, albeit with some tweaking.

America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Those values command attachment parenting. We as a nation get inspiration on how to live from the Holy Bible. We, throughout our history, have learned more about our values. We learned that slavery and Jim Crow were wrong. We now have to learn that there is nothing in America's book, the Bible, condoning punitive parenting, and everything opposing it. God's Law is above the law of the land, and Divine Law prohibits any punishment or controlling demeanor, as perceived by the child and the child alone.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many adults blame pedophiles for the sexual abuse of children. This is a common falsehood believed mainly by more conservative individuals. Most adults, especially adult men, do not want to be seen as a pedophile, not knowing what pedophilia actually is. The fact of the matter is that all adults are responsible, since sexual assault and rape of children happens for the same reasons that it happens to adults - sexual entitlement. Any adult can become a child sexual abuser under the right/wrong conditions.

Pedophilia is a mental health disorder featuring preferential sexual attraction to children under age 14. Pedophilia is a genetic disorder usually associated with autism. What usually causes pedophilia is hormonal imbalances at the onset of puberty leading to the arrest of the sexual development of the child. Most genuine pedophiles state that they grew up, but their attractions did not. 3 out of 4 pedophiles choose not to sexually abuse children, according to research from the Canadian Centres for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH).

If most pedophiles can simply choose not to abuse children, then how does sexual abuse occur? Location, location, location, but ultimately, a choice. An adult usually gets alone with a child they have attraction to, usually a pubescent child that most adults would be attracted to. They choose to be there, meaning they don't just happen to be there like they claim, and they bite off more than they can chew. The sexually entitled adult then makes the choice to sexually assault or rape the child, all of a sudden.

Why did they do it? They had sexual needs for children that they neglected. Adult sexual self-interest is a self-interest that should be satiated with solo masturbation, meaning every once and a while, you go there to comb out the gunk that is clogging the pipes. Then, you will have a way out when alone with an attractive child. 

When you aren't prepared for being sexually attracted to a child, you get an antisocial guilty conscience where you repress the desire until it can be repressed no more - then it comes out the other end, all at once, on the child. In practice, this is trying to hold yourself back until you can no longer, reducing your options so you have no way out, then sexually assaulting or raping the child. 

Attraction to children is treated as a taboo subject, and it shouldn't be. All adults should be, at the very least, aware of their sexual self-interest in children enough to self-regulate it. We should be aware of that side of us, albeit in an abstinent way. A rapist is someone who represses sexuality to the point where the sexuality comes out as entitlement on the other end, and attacks the victim. A child rapist is no different.

I myself abused children sexually, and I admit it openly. I committed sexual harassment against a child. My current understanding of child sexual abuse is inappropriate advances that range from leering to rape. I myself have given children advances that they perceived as unwanted and made them uncomfortable, meaning it annoyed them. Most of it I did at a local swimming area, and I had to unlearn the locational imprint on the place. I imprinted on the place, meaning I felt acclimated to loosening my self-control around children, approaching them for a sexual relationship. I followed young girls around the grounds of the swimming area. One girl tried to send smoke signals that she felt uncomfortable, but I only listened when told directly. I am entitled to nothing from children, as I have wronged them with my abuse. I am grateful that my victims have forgiven me for what I did, as I don't deserve any of it.

The adult fornicators of children that blame pedophiles for their abuse of children will BURN in everlasting Hell-fire and torrents! Repent!

Instruction by example: How to impart good Judeo-Christian family values onto children

Many parents in the United States want to teach their children Judeo-Christian values, as America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Anti-spanking and attachment parenting stances are often associated with rally cries to abolish Judeo-Christian family values. But, one does not have to give up on their values in order to give up spanking and corporal punishment. Good values are taught by example, and that example does not need to be backed up by any punishment whatsoever.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers, officially speaking, to wanting things from or of others (including children), to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, it refers to any want, whatsoever, from another person. Ask, and you shall receive. Demand, and you will get nothing. Children are constantly watching your every move, and they do so for future reference, so they know how to behave as young men and women. So, work on your entitlement issues, which we all have as fallen and depraved human beings. If you want something you can't have, stifle anger surrounding the issue. Entitlement is like a fuse, meaning if you have that fuse attached to wanting anything, it is an entitled want. This includes wants from children, meaning if wanting something from your child makes you blow a fuse, you should stifle that want, and do the opposite of that want.

On the other hand, Christian discipline is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia). This word refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that starts with the person admitting their original sin, and ending with an attitude that one is entitled to nothing, and thus grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up attitude that is good to model to children. Children won't be able to put that example into practice at first, but as they approach young adulthood, the good values should sink in, meaning children are observing your behavior for later, so behave in a peaceable and orderly fashion around them. That means, also, behaving in a peaceable and orderly fashion towards children, meaning being calm, in a listening and validating manner, when they cry or are upset, instead of throwing a temper tantrum of their own.

An example does have to be backed up by something, meaning something has to motivate a child to take up an example, and that method must motivate the child to look up to an adult and like an adult, as a role model. Punishment causes separation between parent and child, and thus demotivates a child to follow the example of parents, with children being unmotivated to learn the good values of their parents. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, with children being in place of God, and with parents expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents is not borne out of fearful compliance, but instead out of restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe confiding anything and everything into parents, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, with such parenting being mandated under customary law as a means to back up the Christian example of parents, and win over the cooperation of their child. Parents in biblical times did not demand respect, but instead earned it, and earned the honoring of their example as well.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was understood, in its original linguistic and legal context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law to a few Greek Christian parents, rebuking them for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits even then. Spanking and punitive parenting does not come from the Bible, but instead comes from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures who beat their children in order to discipline them, which was the case throughout mainland Europe. Punitive parenting is more of a European tradition that got transported throughout the world through the colonial powers. God chose Israel because Ancient Israel was an attachment parenting society.

Children will not take after their parents from day one. One can expect children to have poor self-regulation, and thus they will not be able to emulate the example of parents right away. But, children are observing and absorbing everything in their environment, from what is on TV, and also your behavior. This includes your behavior towards them. Children tend to treat adults as they are treated by adults, and if treated with respect by adults, they will do their best to treat adults with respect. This does not mean they will obey 100% of the time, but they will understand for later - when they can do better - how to behave by how parents behave.

Children should be won over in terms of backing up an example, not broken down and punished. Children in Ancient Israel were worshipped, meaning deified as extensions of God, with parents being righteously enslaved to their children. Children could issue lawful and binding orders and take their parents to court, but parents could not do the same for a minor or dependent child, meaning children demanded, and parents provided. The reason for this setup was that the ancients knew that a charitable parent could win over their child over to the Judeo-Christian values of society then. Ultimately, children got most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed, and so they wanted to honor the example of their parents. Mothers especially did everything for their children, and so adult children treated their parents with fondness and affection.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let the pro-spanking parents descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!