Why children are an authority over parents (not vice versa)

Many parents fashion themselves as authority figures over their children. This is a common mistake made by parents in the modern age. The fact of the matter is that children are the real authority over their parents, and get to self-advocate their needs in that capacity.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christan Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as the parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for children is not borne out of fearful compliance, but instead out of restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents about anything and everything that is on their minds, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, with customary law then mandated the use of attachment parenting in order to foster a secure parent-child bond with children.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was understood, in its original context, as prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law in order to rebuke Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits. Spanking and punishment of children do not come from the Bible, but instead, it came from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures that beat their children as a form of punishment. The rod verses in Proverbs refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes imposed upon a capital offender, from the father's perspective. Minor children could not be charged with any criminal or civil offense, including any capital offense, as children were not subject to the Law, but were simply learning it.

Children were heavily deified in biblical times, meaning children were seen as extensions of God to obey and heed command to. The every cry of a child in a Christian home was a lawful and binding order to heed that need of a child, or else burn in Hell for eternity for provoking their child to anger. 

Children were authority figures in the home, meaning they called the shots, having immense lobbying power from beneath. Children had the unilateral right to issue lawful and binding orders and take parents to court if they felt they were not being treated satisfactorily. Parents of dependent children, however, had no right to take their child to court. 

How is this put into practice? It all starts with the word "yes". Adults love to say "no" to children, but most of the time, it isn't necessary to say "no". Children don't ask for much. Maybe a candy bar in the checkout line? So what? If they want more and more, that means they trust you and are counting on you to give it to them. That is why children become so emotionally unhinged when you give them everything - they trust you, and that leads to them trusting you with their feelings. Children express their needs on their own, and they do so with wants. Most childish wants express an attachment need to connect with parents - they see the items as coming from YOU as the parent, and are comforted by your charity.

Attachment parenting was the norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Children went naked wherever they went, and women also were traditionally naked in the home, in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Women served their children, in the mother role, by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness (especially during co-sleeping). Children ranged next to their mother by day, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to their mother, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness. Parents were seen then as servants to their minor and dependent children, being righteously enslaved to their children, and with children being in place of God on earth. This deifying sentiment was expressed by mothers serving their children with nourishment and sustenance, blindly heeding to the cries that are their needs.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!