Good Christian manners in parents: Why to say "please" and "thank you" to your children

Many parents want to teach their children good manners, but fail to have good manners themselves towards their children. Parental entitlement is the sinful nature of parent-kind and adult-kind, meaning wanting things from children to the point of demanding, punishing, or controlling. Control and punishment are not family values.

The Tenth Commandment states in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife. Thou shalt not cover thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is לחמוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers here to parental entitlement, meaning wanting things from a child to the point of seeking to impose said want onto children. This is cross-referenced by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude of "I can talk to you however I want, as I am the parent, and you must speak nicely to me" leading to said attitude being imposed upon a child through punitive or controlling means, including demanding children show manners without parents showing any to children.

The Fifth Commandment, in full, states in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning the secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, with children demanding things from parents, and parents supplying said needs, with children being able to tell parents anything, sharing anything and everything under the sun with a parent, without fearing punishment or control from parents, owing absolutely nothing in return to parents, with parents deserving nothing in return from children, but nonetheless with children showing gratitude and thanksgiving for the charity and generosity of parents by emulating the example and momentary instruction of parents. In a functioning relationship with your child, ordering them around and showing menace won't work. Parents are to show their non-entitlement by saying "please" and "thank you" to their children, with an example being "would you please clean your room" as opposed to "clean your room!". Parents are to rarely ask things of children, with children instead electing to do things on their own for parents, trying to please parents and thank them for being so kind, generous, and show gratitude for not punishing them, and being polite to them instead. I myself, as an adult, would humbly ask a child, on a very rare occasion, to maybe do something for me such as pick up a load of groceries when my hands were full, and I knew they would care enough about me to go to the trunk of the car and pick up a bag, because I care about them and haven't damaged the relationship in any way. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to "stirring the pot" in terms of children's emotions, in a negative way, with this root word literally literally refers to the offenses in the Bible under the Eighth Commandment, meaning the torts and damages under the Law of Moses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child. For many children, it is offensive to be ordered around and then punished for not listening, with parents asking the child to do anything and everything in the book. The idea is to ask very little of children. So you want them to grab a coffee for you? Why don't YOU serve THEM at table instead, being chivalrous to them, honoring their presence, perhaps holding the door for them, stepping aside to allow them to run through. It is an attitude of Christian politeness towards children, meaning a "tip the hat" attitude towards children. Saying a simple "please" when requesting something from a child, and a "thank you" once they do it, is simply polite, but also shows, practically and morally, that you have no entitlement in relation to a child, or else you are fighting against it.

But, a child will do all these things for you once you are chivalrous to them, even though they owe nothing to you morally legally, they will be convicted morally otherwise. A child who is truly obedient and polite towards parents has parents that honor them first, meaning I often pay the tab when going out to a restaurant, and I do so in order to give back. Obedience to parents is giving back, out of instinct, in a way that feels good in a way you rarely describe, but first parents need to give into the pot, meaning put all their effort and assets into raising a child without punishing, controlling, or manipulating them in any way, as controlling approaches provoke children to anger by way of the counterwill and counter-control of the child.

Parents in the biblical context asked very little of their children, with expectations being low with the culture then endorsing attachment parenting, with infants up to age 3 swaddled to their mother's bosom, and even older children carried on her back, perhaps on a stroll through the city to market. Children were the ones to command and demand their parents serve their children, meeting the every need of children. Only judicial corporal punishment existed in the Bible, and only in the Old Testament, meaning Christians are bound by the New Covenant with God after Christ, and the New Testament not depicting any punishment at all, perhaps, but maybe logical consequences such as excommunication and shunning dressed as such (1 Cor. 5:11), in which case it was usually usually the mother stepped in and divorced the father of her children (1 Cor. 7:10-11), which, in the case of child abuse including spanking or corporal punishment, the whole church community sided with her and excommunicated the father, shunning him from all sight.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let the entitled, verbally abusive and menacing parents descend forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How we oppose pro-spanking ideology - marketplace of ideas

Many people here oppose pro-spanking parents like I do, only I hate them even more, and want them all dead or converted. But, I can't kill them, because the good Lord won't let me take vengeance against a single soul.

I convict parents, by selling my ideas to them in a way they can relate to. Most parents in this country get their parenting views from religious sources, so I try to be a competitive source to mainstream family values outlets such as Focus on the Family and EzzoTruth. I believe in family values as well, but not like they do it, and have more evidence for my beliefs than they do.

It is the spirit of righteous debate, meaning pro-social shut down in my case, as *I* have all the facts, and YOU don't, dear parents. I, at least, here, know where you are headed, and yes, some of us DO believe in that place - HELL! Fair warning, is all my posts are, but if you are one of ours, you are one of the ones I like, and otherwise, unless you are headed here, you will be destroyed on the last day.

The Fifth Commandment: Why respect is earned

Many parents demand respect. These parents cite the Fifth Commandment to "honor parents" as the reason for deserving respect. However, no adult deserves respect just for being "the adult" or "the parent". The Fifth Commandment does not demand respect for parents, but merely lays the groundwork for it to happen.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and mother: that thy days may be long upon the land the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

This is actually the first commandment with promise, meaning a promise of life, as before the Fifth Commandment, parents could kill their children and sacrifice them to the god Molech, and could do so with impunity. After this commandment, in order for a parent to put down a stubborn and rebellious son, the adult child was afforded ample due process under the Law, meaning a stubborn and rebellious son had the right to his own attorney, and the parents had to testify against him, which was heavily stigmatized then. Most parents after the Fifth Commandment did not put their children on trial, and testify against them, but simply waited for them to come home from a rebellious journey, praying for their safe return, but loving them anyway, even if their children didn't love them at the time. The commandment against stubborn and rebellious sons applied only to adult sons.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated several times in the New Testament, namely in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, being able to share anything and tell anything to parents, being oneself in relation to one's parents, with children demanding their every need, and parents providing, bearing the brunt of the intensity of childhood needs, with children owing nothing in return to parents, and parents deserving absolutely nothing in return for their charity and generosity towards their children, but nonetheless with children showing gratitude and thanksgiving for such charity by children emulating the example and momentary instruction, with cooperation and compliance motivated by closeness to parents, not punishment or control. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" children, in terms of the Jewish idiom of "stirring the pot" in terms of a child's anger or upset, ultimately referring to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, referring to the torts and damages system under the Eighth Commandment, which involves theft or kidnapping, meaning, at the very least, the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, with kidnapping referring to hostage-taking parenting strategies such as spanking, whipping, corporal punishment, false imprisonment, or other "or else" measures, with "or else" refers to hostage taking in the form of threats that may or may not be backed up by punishment in order to "hold in one's hand"..

In the biblical context, parents did not obtain complain and cooperation through fear of punishment, but closeness and secure attachment. The Greek root word denoting parents is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and refers to children leading their parents to their own needs. Infants were swaddled to the bosom of their mother until age 3, and were breastfed right up until then or else even later in childhood, with older children remaining close to mothers as well, leading parents by the hand to what they need, demanding their needs, with parents supplying. In Ancient Israel and adjoining churches, child surrender to parents was based off of closeness, not punishment, with that culture being an attachment parenting culture. Closeness and secure attachment was used by Jewish mothers and fathers for parents to gain cooperation with their children, and also have a closer relationship with them. Mothers nurtured, and fathers lovingly encouraged spiritual growth.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive or permissive attitudes will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and rot in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for the evil one and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: Why this applies to parents more than children

Many parents are punitive towards their child, and that is due to a longstanding church policy of pro-social child hatred. Most parents do not understand who in the family - the parent or the child - is culpable for having a depraved sin nature. What is sin? Wanting while demanding. Isn't that the nature of all of us, as adults in relation to children?

Every single adult is guilty for there mere existence in relation to children, and are to struck with reverent fear and terror denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos), leading to conviction to surrender to God through one's child, knowing that one has wronged them and also does not understand what it is like to be a child, leading to submission to children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God, paying due penance to children as to God, merely for existing in relation to children, deserving of punishment for that existence, being grateful for one's non-existence in relation to children, while still being their time-slave and caregiver.

The Greek root word denoting the Tenth Commandment, and cross-referencing said commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and literally refers here to parental entitlement, namely the entitled attitude of "I am the parent, and I have the right to respect from my child (and everyone else)" leading to seeking to impose said want onto a child. Figuratively literally, the word points to our flawed human nature, meaning the desire to want things you can't have, to the point of demanding and rebelling, in this case irreverent rebellion against the child's needs. It is in the nature of every parent/adult to want things from children. Children are the ultimate judges of adults in this regard. 

Original sin is the groundwork in which the family is set up on, in terms of parent guilt. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, with children demanding their needs and parents supplying, with children ruling parents from beneath and being doted on like royalty, with children owing absolutely nothing to parents in return, but nonetheless with children showing gratitude and thanksgiving by emulating the example and momentary instruction of a parent. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up", which refers to the Jewish idiom "stirring the pot", which refers to the offenses under the Eighth Commandment, meaning torts and damages under the Law of Moses such as theft and kidnapping, and being perceived by the child as the slightest of personal offense coming from entitlement, with the entitlement guided by the offense of the child, with only a credible apology to the child, out of compassionate empathy, disproving abuse, in which case it never was to begin with. Otherwise, a child's perception of offense colors the adult's attitudes and behavior, meaning any behavior or attitude imposed on a child to the point of offense is entitlement.

Parents are to char themselves, then replenish in seeing the fruits of their toil. See Hebrews 12:11 KJV:

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: but afterwards it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

The Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord which parents "are exercised thereby", coming from toil and hardship, namely the Greek root word translated "grievous" is λυπέ (Latin: lupe) and refers to parents chastening themselves up and centering themselves in the grief and toil of parenting, and the restrained exercised thereby. Parents were born in original sin, and so one must admit it, accepting the chastening of the Lord, with the personal results in parents being spectacular...and then the children follow suit! It is chastening up oneself in the Lord, holding space for children to do the same, then listening to and validating their every emotion, positive or negative, with their upsets reassured through reflective listening, meaning repeating what they vent to you in short gulps for clarification, and otherwise refraining from advice unless asked for or else is urgent. Let children find their own answers in the shelter of parents. 

Children, too, have their own sin nature, but it isn't binding, meaning it is an ignorant type of sin nature, to the point where they can't find the intent to sin, and since children cannot find the intent to sin, they cannot be guilty of sin, thus children having no sin count until they reach adulthood. Children simply are imperfect human beings, as we all are, and need boundaries and limits like all adults do. The difference is that children aren't responsible for their sins, due to not being able to take responsibility due to their young age and developmental level, thus children should simply be given momentary instruction as a test to see whether they can follow an instruction, and if not, just let it go, or else, if necessary, keep them safe through close supervision.

The depraved and entitled parents who are punitive or permissive will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, descending downwards, with God turning His back on them from the very beginning, predicting their demise as parents! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual submission: Why parents and children must respect each other

Many parents demand that they be listened to and respected, without earning any of it. Most parents in the United States want respect from their children, and want to order children around, and then children listening.

The Epistles according to Paul the Apostle state in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, meaning children demand things from parents, and parents supply the need every time, with parents bearing the brunt of their child's demanding behavior that petitions for needs or a redress of grievances, with children owing nothing in return to parents, meaning owing nothing at all, but nonetheless showing gratitude and thanksgiving for the generosity of parents by emulating the example and momentary instruction of parents. Parents are to be generous and charitable towards their children, and not punitive. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" anger and upset in children, namely the Jewish idiom of "stirring the pot", literally literally referring to, in a contextual manner, the offenses, meaning the torts and damages under the Eighth Commandment, including assault and battery laws. Basically, the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child is abuse, thus a moral crime, thus sin.

In the ancient Israel and adjoining churches, parents gained cooperation from their children by way of closeness, not punishment or control, meaning infants up to age 3 were swaddled in her bosom, with the child being breastfed right up until that age (or sometimes older), with children being naked then in order for there to be easy skin-to-skin closeness with mother. Older children voiced their feelings towards children without censoring themselves, with respect then meaning children were honest with parents, and parents respected them back for being so honest with children. The biblical context was attachment parenting culture, meaning corporal punishment in the Old Testament only existed as a form of judicial corporal punishment, and didn't exist at all in the Early Christian churches.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Satan invented child abuse, not God. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Shielding blame: Why parents shield blame from children

Many parents abuse their children, meaning most parents are abusive in the United States. Many parents defend their right to punish their children. Many parents believe there is blame in childhood. There isn't. Children are blameless and exempt from prosecution.

Every single parent is guilty in relation to children to children mere for existing, and are to be struck with reverent fear and terror for the every vulnerable need of a child, leading to conviction to surrender to God through one's child, giving up one's adult power and control, sacrificing for one's child, taking up the cross for one's child, just as Christ sacrificed Himself and took up the cross for a crime He didn't commit, shielding blame from children, with parents taking the blame and children having none, rendering oneself beneath one's child, devaluing oneself as caregiver and servant, leading to good works for a child just for the sake of good works, expecting absolutely nothing in return, being and feeling grateful for the toil of parenting. This is Christian love, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). 

The Fifth Commandment is stated in its proper context in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refer to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, meaning hiding behind the shield of parents, with parents being the human shield for all blame towards a child, being a human barrier for children's upset, allowing children to vent their upset to them, with parents listening reflectively and using Socratic reasoning, with children owing nothing in return to parents for the listening, meaning owing nothing at all to parents, but nonetheless showing gratitude and thanksgiving for one's parents and all they do by children emulating their example and momentary instruction. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) literally translates to "stirring up" children, meaning the Jewish idiom of "stirring the pot" concerning a child's emotions, with the word ultimately referring to the offenses, namely the torts and damages under the Eighth Commandment, which involve, at the very least, the slightest of offense perceived by the child, usually charged as kidnapping and not simple theft under the ordinances of the Early Christians. 

Parents in biblical times shielded their children from blame, meaning the Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) refers to a restful form of surrender to parents, meaning restful and peaceable surrender in the care and protection of parents. Parents then were confronted for their child's behavior, not the child. Note in Matthew 19, where the little children were climbing all over Jesus in the temple. The high priest admonished the parents, and didn't shoo the children away or chase them with a misused object. That is because the children weren't the ones in trouble, but presumably (by way of the high priest) that the parents were guilty of an offense for their children's "out of order" behavior, in the case that Christ took offense to the children's rambunctious and exuberant behavior, which Christ didn't. Parents in biblical times didn't punish their children for "embarrassing" them, but defended them or else apologized for things that were truly reckless by a child. Parents in biblical times also took the blame from their children, meaning reverent rebellion of children.

Parents today are to defend their child's upsets, bad moods, and so forth, and should not care about being judged, as you are there for your child. No matter what, a parent should be attached to their child securely, and non-violent and non-punitive, and it should be like a plow - where nothing stops the parent from protecting their child, including from their own demons, and any offense taken by everyone else is collateral damage for a greater good, which is protecting children.

The depraved and entitled parents who punish or mollycoddle children will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What we do here at Opposing Parental Entitlement

Many are confused as to what we do here at Opposing Parental Entitlement. We ban parents, and that's all there needs to be said. But, wait, there's more!

We are an anti-parent organization, meaning against parents identifying anywhere in the world, meaning anywhere in plain sight, meaning anywhere on the Internet. We gentle parents hide. 

If you say "I am a parent" when I call out your abuse of your child, and your parental entitlement, expect that to be the last time you ever hear from me. 

We are an academic gaslighting powerhouse, in list-of-facts format to bring the pro-spanking parents to repentance, convicting them in the Lord of their depraved, wicked adult nature. We don't want parents to exist, anywhere in perception, meaning we want people raising children to parent, and parent the right way, without punishment or control of any kind, or any entitlement imposed on children.

Anyone on my page who identifies as a parent is first questioned, then banned, or banned when the identification is obviously trolling. We want to know easily who the parent trolls are by how they identify, and if they don't call themselves out by their glorified title, I will.

As for my regular readers, I know you are a parent, in the way I like, you're fine, unless you cause a disruption. But, there is no reason, given what I have written about parents, for even my core readers to say they are a parent except to gaslight me. Talking about parenting your children is quite alright, and I talk about parenting in exemplary tense as well. But, why BE a parent, meaning say it all the time? That's virtue signaling, much?

As for pedophilia? Why not a pro-social honest replacement to parents? Pedophiles every once and a while in the therapy room, and you can just tell, because it is on the surface.