Giving in secret: Why parents should not brag about how they "bring up" their children

 Anti-parent is based on a single Bible verse, meaning one that is often misused by religious abusers. The commandment is to give in secret, as opposed to bragging about good works for all to see.

What is help? It says in Matthew 6:4 KJV:

That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret Himself shall reward thee openly.

This commandment means not to ambush children in secret, but help them in secret, as a momentary courtesy usually, under the table. It is not identifying by your help, but by your flaws, by you lack of ability to help in certain situation.

This conditions you a certain way. No child wants my help until they ask, and until then, they can figure out the world out for themselves. When a child does ask, it is a courtesy, not a right, but a duty nonetheless, to help them, with the limits they say as to what they need...Nobody should feel the need to brag about simply doing the right thing.

Help should not be a warm thing except on a superficial, courteous level, meaning you don't have to give advice to your child, but since they asked, give them the advice, and when they walk away in a lovable tone-deaf manner, you don't chase after them for walking away while you were trying to help them on an issue they needed help with. You do not deserve to be heard by your child as a parent - that is earned.

Love is help, and vice versa! Help must come with the consent of the individual receiving help, or else it is "help" entitlement. "Help" entitlement is any sinful attitude of "I am the parent, and I know what is best for you, even if you don't" leading to wanting to help a child to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child.

Let the entitled braggart parents burn!

Pro-social child worship - Biblical ways of submission to children

Many parents in our society support the false Christian doctrine of reverent child hatred. I support child-friendliness in the church. Most churches do not even obey God's Law like they should, meaning Divine Codified Jurisprudence calls for a different doctrine - pro-social child worship.

It refers to Matthew 22:35-40 KJV:

Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, Master, which is the greatest commandment in the Law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and all thy soul, and all thy mind. This is the first and the great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the prophets.

The Greek root word translated "thyself" is σεαστοὕ (Latin: seastou), with Christ here using selfish analogies to convict one of not respecting one's neighbor, by conflating the neighbor's plight with oneself in how Christ explained things, referring to the belief then that every man was an extension of God, thus YOU are an extension of God towards your child in terms of serving them. The Greek root word translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to reverent terror and fear leading to conviction to surrender to God through one's child, giving up all adult power and control to their footstool, treating them like royalty, sacrificing for your child just as Christ did for His children, taking up the cross for them like His did, rendering oneself beneath one's child, devaluing oneself as a servant and caregiver towards children, doing good works for children, serving them as if they were God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, feeling grateful for one's good works and their impact on children.

The result of these efforts is found in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children obey your parents in all things, as this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning rest and security in the love and grace of parents, being able to be oneself in relation to children, being able to say anything to parents, owing absolutely nothing in return to parents, but nonetheless showing gratitude for loving care by listening to and heeding the voice of parents, meaning in terms of reassurance of voice and not fear of the voice of their parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the torts and damages system under the Eighth Commandment that included assault and battery laws extended to children in terms of protection, referenced and summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense perceived by a child in relation to the entitled attitudes and behaviors of adults.

Children were worshipped in biblical times, meaning they were the highest yet lowest extensions of God, with worship being service of one's child's needs, food, water, shelter, transportation, attachment - but especially the last one. Infants and young children even were swaddled next to their mothers, and held against her body as a form of skin-to-skin contact, as what is recommended today by professionals knowledgeable about attachment parenting.

Let the parents who provoke children to parents BURN in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous demand: The role of children in parenting

Many parents in the United States have certain demands for their children, meaning demands are seen as a parental role. However, true biblical parenting calls for parents to accept the demands of children. Children are demanding, and they have the right to be, even while being submissive to parents.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in parents, being able to confide into them and be oneself in relation to parents, owing absolutely nothing in relation to children, yet nonetheless showing gratitude by hearing the voice of parents, understanding what they ask for based on developmental appropriateness of the request, leading to children listening to and heeding instruction of parents based not on fear of a parent's voice, but reassurance and familiarity in such in the form of voice imprint. This is based on Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to being convicted by God of one's depraved, entitled sin nature, leading to surrender to God through one's child (Matt. 22:35-40), giving up all adult power and control to the footstool of a child, treating them as if they are royalty, sacrificing for one's child like Christ did for His children, taking up the cross for one's children, rendering oneself beneath one's child while instructing her, devaluing oneself as a mere caregiver and servant to one's child, leading to good works, expecting absolutely nothing in return, being infinitely grateful for one's child and what they do for their child. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and is one of the Greek root words that refers to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, referring to torts and damages under the Mosaic Law, namely assault and battery laws that extend to children in terms of protection, referenced and summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense perceived by the child.

Children had the right to demand anything from parents in the biblical contest, owing nothing to parents, as ancient Israel and adjoining churches were attachment parenting culture, meaning attachment parenting was the norm in such cultures. The role of the child was to control parents from beneath to get what they need. This means parents were to listen to the every emotion and upset of children, not expecting anything in return, in a way that earned respect and compliance from children, being their friend, starting from day one, but a more mature, responsible friend that looks out for the smaller child. Children demand, and parents supply based on the child's demand, and the diagnostics involved. This is how parenting was done in the biblical context, and so that is how it should be done now, and all of this is uplifted by the above quoted passage in the Bible.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive or permissive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will instead be cast into the ever-burning lake of fire and brimstone, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Honor parents": What the Fifth Commandment really means

Many parents believe that they are deserving of respect, and demand it from children based on that. Honoring parents, however, is not what it is widely understood as, as a concept. Honor from children is earned, not served for free on a silver platter from children. 

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God hath giveth thee.

This commandment actually rescued children from punishment, especially the last part, meaning that before the Ten Commandments, Canaanite law allowed for fathers to kill their children for whatever offense they saw fit. Under the new Mosaic Law, parents had to go through the court system. "Honor" in this case refers to family honor, in first-to-last fashion, meaning a stubborn and rebellious son didn't just make parents look bad out of "meaningless honorifics", but that children must have learned to be angry at everything from somewhere, and thus the parents look bad because they look like abusers. No child was executed merely for rebelling against a child, as the parents were pressured by the rest of the family, meaning extended family in this cultural context, to recant what was basically an allegation of elder abuse. That is what "stubborn and rebellious son" meant - not "back talk" but a form of abuse of parents, meaning a delinquent young man.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in parents, being able to be oneself in relation to children, being able to tell parents anything, not owing anything in return to parents, yet nonetheless with children showing gratitude by listening to the voice of parents, because they are reassured and not because they fear punishment from parents. This comes from Christian love for children, meaning being convicted with reverent fear and terror, leading to parents surrendering to God through their child, sacrificing for their children, taking up the cross just like Christ sacrificed for His children, shielding them from blame, rendering oneself beneath one's child, devaluing oneself as a caregiver or servant to the child, leading to good works and then gratitude for such, expecting absolutely nothing in return. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, and uplifts the torts and damages system under the Eighth Commandment, including assault and battery laws that extended support to children, repeated and summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitled behavior and attitudes from adults. This is the concept of mutual submission, meaning parents and children submit to each other and respect each other, with parents carrying the burden of providing, and children simply resting without responsibility.

Ancient Israel and adjoining churches supported attachment parenting, meaning children were swaddled next to their parents, held close in skin-to-skin contact with their mother until age 3 by bands tied around the mother's body. This was for children up to age 3, with even older children playing freely in close range to parents, also sleeping next to mothers in particular, with parents not even thinking of putting their hands on a child or even raising their voice to them abusively. Punitive parenting was not the norm in ancient Israel, so much that there didn't need to be any specific commandment given to the ancient Jews against it. The commandment not to provoke children to anger was the Apostle Paul warning fathers of rebellious children that their punitive attitudes towards their children were being reflected in their rebellion, meaning your child is a reflection of you, based on how you treat them. The Greco-Roman culture then supported the punishment of children, whereas Jewish law then forbade it.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will instead be condemned to the lake of burning fire and brimstone, which is the second death prepared for Satan and His accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why pro-social self-behaviorism is a tenet of gentle parenting

Many parents support behaviorism on the political and religious left for children. Most progressive Christians, by definition, are either pro-spanking or pro-behaviorism for children. In the progressive world that I grew up in, it was half like training a dog and half like being called into the principal's office (the latter one literally, many times). Think the rules plastered everywhere, with the consequences hung over you. That's what it is like to be raised on the left...Behaviorism should be for parents, meaning applied to themselves in the Lord.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-11 KJV: 

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: for whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth everyone who he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then ye are bastards, not sons. Furthermore we had fathers of our flesh that corrected us, and give us reverence: shall we much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits and live? For they chastened us for a few days after their own pleasure; but He for our own profit, that we may be partakers in his holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous but grievous: nevertheless afterwards it yieldeth the peaceable fruit unto them which is exercised thereby.

The Greek root word describing chastisement and correction is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning self-discipline and centeredness in relation to children, in this context in a way that is listens to and validates the every vulnerable need of children. It is being self-disciplined and controlled in relation to children, usually in a reticent, shy way that allows for children to talk, or scream, or shout in joy and freedom, with parents taking on a burden, taking up the cross for their child, just as Christ took up on the cross for His children. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoό) and refers literally literally to a scourging with the cat o' nine tails under Roman law, literally meaning the rod of correction as a form of punitive nostalgia, but only towards oneself as a parent, if anything in family values besides being a husband. It is "cracking the whip" one one's own back, punishing oneself for one's own flaws and faults as a parent, centering one's parental aggression by turning it inwards. It is charring oneself in relation to children in relation to oneself, then purifying yourself of sin with the gratitude of good works. The gratitude from good works is what vs. 11 refers to, meaning parenting is hard, and grievous, but it all is rewarding in the end.

Heb. 12:5-11 is NOT an excuse for any sort of child abuse, including even lawful corporal punishment, as the biblical context clearly points to a prohibition of all corporal punishment of children on this earth. It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline and self-control in a parent, of the specific type that serve as a shelter for children, and their true emotions, simply listening and validating to their every emotion and upset, with parents being safe people for a child's emotions, no matter how big or small, with parents chastening themselves up in the Lord. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) meaning the admonition of the Lord, meaning God's loving reproof. God's loving reproof should be rare, and like a nudge to the child to set them in the right direction, meaning usually a denial of requests such as "no". Otherwise, children have complete and total freedom to be themselves in relation to parents, fearing no punishment or reprisal from them. This is weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, meaning the torts and damages under the Law, namely the assault and battery laws, repeated and summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This is rewarded by the Greek root word denoting obedience, which is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, meaning being able to be oneself in relation to parents, and confide anything into parents, owing nothing in relation to them, yet nonetheless showing gratitude by hearing the voice of parents, understanding based on developmental capacity, and then children listening to parents not based on fear of punishment or control, but the familiarity and reassurance of a parent's voice, meaning voice imprint and not punishment of any kind. It is like a slight, gentle tug or pull to keep you safe, where you rest in the fact that you are being corrected, not fear at all, and can correct your parents when you feel the need to in terms of how they provide. 

Behaviorism is a biblical concept, but only when self-applied. Behaviorism is focusing on behaviors as a form of teaching, not so much the emotions that guide them. Parents in biblical times actually were strict with themselves, meaning mothers in particular were completely selfless. Today, parents should, when they feel like punishing, controlling, or sexually objectifying children with their actions, do the opposite of what they feel like, in a way that chars oneself as the parent, in relation to one's child and oneself, and then purifying oneself of sin guilt by doing good works for children, and then feeling grateful afterwards for your own good works of care, support, and protection to children.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN and SUFFER in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why I hate all adults (myself included)

Many people think only certain people abuse children, and this is a common comfort blanket for adults. The fact of the matter is that no adult truly means well in relation to children, as every adult has the capacity to abuse a child.

Every single adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and are to be convicted by God of their original sin, then surrendering to God through their child, surrendering adult power and control over children to their footstool, treating them as if they were royalty, sacrificing for one's children selflessly, taking up the cross for them just like Christ did, rendering themselves beneath your children, devaluing themselves as mere caregivers and servants for their child, leading to good works done for a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

I myself was born in original sin as an adult, meaning I am a sexually/behaviorally negligent adult by way of entitlement. Gentle parenting is seen very differently from someone like me. Pedophiles like me hate spanking and always will, meaning I can't ever get angry at a child. I actually, by nature, don't want to set limits, but set them free from all limits, giving them rights before they are ready. Gentle, attached parenting is actually more structured, in a way that some forms of it that rely heavily on logical consequences actually make me feel uncomfortable still, due to their strictness.

I myself am a "coming from" gentle parent, meaning total submission to the child, leading to total acceptance of the child from day one. I just need to learn to be more assertive with children, which gentle parenting tells me how to set limits with children.

I am entitled to nothing as an adult in relation to child, meaning I am deserving of nothing good and everything bad and "disrespectful" from a child, meaning I deserve disrespect from a child until I earn their respect.

I belong in Hell for my capacity to harm children, but am set free from that fate due to my choices in relation to children. Otherwise, I'm gone.

Spanking and corporal punishment - and why it violates the natural laws guiding child protection in America

In over 60 countries worldwide, spanking is illegal under the secular law, including European countries such as Sweden and Iceland, as well as much of continental Europe and the bulk of Latin American countries. Most people, and most churches, don't know that spanking and all corporal punishment is banned under the natural law of the United States.

We are ever-so evolving as a nation with our understanding of Christian natural law, by way of understanding the biblical context with once merely remote redemptive theologies on things such as slavery and Jim Crow, which are now mainstream anti-slavery doctrine. Natural law in the United States does forbid corporal punishment, as the Bible forbids it as well.

Natural law is what God thinks is right and just, meaning in this case the mutual submission between children and parents, with parents respecting children first. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in everything, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender to parents in the form of running to them, being able to be themselves in relation to parents, being able to confide into parents about everything, owing parents absolutely nothing in return, yet nonetheless being grateful for children heeding the voice of parents, not out of fear of punishment, but out of familiar comfort and reassurance, like a gentle tug or pull. This comes from a different kind of surrender from parents, meaning being convicted by God to break one's own will to abuse a child, giving up the fight, leading to surrender to God through one's own child, sacrificing for one's child just as Christ sacrificed for His children, taking up the cross for them, rendering oneself beneath one's children, devaluing oneself to the role of mere servant and caregiver, attendant to a child's every need, leading to good works just for the sake of doing good for children, and gratitude of such, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up" children, which refers to stirring the pot in terms of their emotions by harsh treatment. This ultimately refers to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, meaning the slightest of offense perceived by the child, coming from the entitled behavior of adults. with entitlement being referred to by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and referring to the entitled attitude of "I am the parent, and I have the right to discipline my child as I see fit" leading to wanting things from children, or wanting them to listen to your directions, to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, therefore leading to visible controlling, punitive, harassing, or sexually objectifying or hateful attitudes, and then to an offense as perceived by the child. This means any slight menace or look that offends the child, and is intended to control in some way, is abuse, meaning if the child perceives another tug, a heavy, controlling one that strangulates them of air. The Greek root word translated "they become discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to the long-term harm of spanking, mainly through damages in retrospect, namely a clinical diagnosis of PTSD or another anxiety disorder.

The Apostle Paul, in this passage, was cracking down on corporal punishment in the Colossian church, affirming the fact that Jewish last considered such behavior towards children to be kidnapping, thus in spirit a capital offense by way of hanging by way of bloodletting on the last day. In the Early Church, child abuse was considered a collective offense with individual guilt, meaning they were removed on the last day, meaning excommunicated and disfellowshipped for punishing their child. The death penalty was not practiced for parents or anyone, but was emphasized to show the severity of the moral crime to the abusive parents on their way out. 

The Early Church was completely anti-spanking until the 3rd Century, when Constantine took over the Christian church, then pandering to the pagan cultures of Europe. The Romans were brutal to children, and women too, and both were property of the father under patria potestas, which is an idolatrous teaching and excuse for domestic abuse against a man's family. Corporal punishment, as a teaching, is Catholic infiltration within God's Church, promoting pagan customs of spanking of girls and whipping of boys within Hellenistic culture, in order to either correct misbehavior and/or correct "unchaste" behavior in girls. These customs are not Hebraic in origin, and since they aren't, they don't belong in the Christian faith.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They instead will be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! God's Law is above the law of the land, and thus any punishment or control of children will be repaid by the Lord on behalf of children on the last day.