Giving in secret: Why parents should not brag about how they "bring up" their children

 Anti-parent is based on a single Bible verse, meaning one that is often misused by religious abusers. The commandment is to give in secret, as opposed to bragging about good works for all to see.

What is help? It says in Matthew 6:4 KJV:

That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret Himself shall reward thee openly.

This commandment means not to ambush children in secret, but help them in secret, as a momentary courtesy usually, under the table. It is not identifying by your help, but by your flaws, by you lack of ability to help in certain situation.

This conditions you a certain way. No child wants my help until they ask, and until then, they can figure out the world out for themselves. When a child does ask, it is a courtesy, not a right, but a duty nonetheless, to help them, with the limits they say as to what they need...Nobody should feel the need to brag about simply doing the right thing.

Help should not be a warm thing except on a superficial, courteous level, meaning you don't have to give advice to your child, but since they asked, give them the advice, and when they walk away in a lovable tone-deaf manner, you don't chase after them for walking away while you were trying to help them on an issue they needed help with. You do not deserve to be heard by your child as a parent - that is earned.

Love is help, and vice versa! Help must come with the consent of the individual receiving help, or else it is "help" entitlement. "Help" entitlement is any sinful attitude of "I am the parent, and I know what is best for you, even if you don't" leading to wanting to help a child to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child.

Let the entitled braggart parents burn!