"Love parents": Why parents aren't entitled to love from their children

 Many parents demand that their child love them. Most parents in the United States get their parenting advice from religious sources, instead of scientific or medical sources. When you understand the Bible to the fullest extent possible, you understand that the anti-spanking researchers are right. There is no need for a child to "love parents".

It says in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "listen under" and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, owing nothing in return to parents. This refers to being able to tell parents anything, disclose any struggle, including even struggle that most people wouldn't understand or would shun.

This isn't the same as Christian love. Love is to start in the reverse - parents love their children. Christian love for a child is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to sacrificing for your child, just as Christ sacrificed Himself for His children, paying the ultimate price for the good of His children. This is the spirit in which parents should carry out their jobs. It is submission to an enemy, seeking to redeem oneself as her friend, being convicted of one's sin nature and capacity to abuse children, never more knowing what it is like to be a child, leading to bondervice to the every vulnerable need of a child, doing penance for one's wretched adult existence, expecting absolutely nothing from a child.

True love for a parent, by a young child, is too burdensome. Caring about parents? Yes, all children care about their parents to some degree, but love is more than caring - it is bondservice to your child, being righteously enslaved to their every need. It is paying due penance for being the entitled parent that you are by nature. Children, on the other hand, shouldn't be concerned about what they are capable of. Love, in early childhood especially, is a one-way street, as love is a burdensome verb for a child. Parents love their children, be quiet about their whiny complaints, expecting absolutely nothing in return from a child. Children may come to love their parents when they become adults, but that love is earned, and should not be expected at any age.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Corporal punishment of children shall not exist anywhere within the borders of the United States of America, and if you defend your right to impose it on a child, YOU shall not exist, but since murder is wrong, exist in a prison cell, once it becomes a crime here in Pennsylvania, and every state in the nation, and under federal child abuse statutes. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How spanking and corporal punishment of children should be depicted

 I have a past child, and I defend that past child through the teeth, and my past child is the backbone of everything I write. I hate child abuse of all kinds, with most of it being by parents who are entitled to things from children. What is the view on lawfully abusive parents actually like?

Anti-pedophile officials will call their work gloomy but interesting, picturing a blizzard. Anti-spanking work is out in the open, with a shade of suspicion on every adult. It is accepting the evidence in front of you either way, but being tempted to push further into the evidence, even if you have none, to see what other evidence you can collect to present in court.

Picture a sunny day, a perfect-look suburbanite family, but you just know they have something to hide. So, to avoid perjury, you bridle yourself so that you don't rush to false accusation. It is a jaded light, like a grunge film showing what spanking really is like in America. No, not black and white - grunge. Spanking and corporal punishment against children are grotesque, grunge topics...A nice looking family, but appearances aren't everything, yet at the same time you know nothing about them, so presume nothing. Then, when they scream at their little toddler for "running around", we know what scum they really are. Since no law prohibits such abuse, I count them as among the damned, and move on with my life, horrified by what I just witnessed.

Picture toys and warmth, mixed with arched-back terror and fear. That's lawful child abuse through authoritative parenting. Picture parents otherwise willing to spend time with you, but then turn on you on the last day with punishment for either something you don't understand or for standing up for yourself. It is a marred innocence, mixing "loving" instruction with "loving" punishment. Those warm toys and gadgets that parents buy you are great, but enough. You are ANGRY enough that YOU WANT THEM LOCKED UP! Think an arched, insecure back mixed with warmth, amidst all the toys and goodies your parents bought you.

Spanking and corporal punishment is a grunge issue, in a way that anyone can be the abuser, and most likely every single adult in a store or restaurant is the abuser at some level. I naturally tune this out due to righteous judgment that presumes innocence,..I want no hint that my abuse would even exist, and when you identify by it, I want no sign that you exist with that identity of "pro-spanking parent", you fucken spoog and speck.

I want my abuser to fear. To the pro-spanking parent, I am a shady little chuck-E doll, that is always looking up to them as they punish their child...and then they can't. Too insecure. Too much of a guilty conscience around me. I enjoy that reverence for my trauma. I love being a spooky figure to all of society for my ANGER against spanking and corporal punishment of children. I am a school principal to these pro-spanking schoolkids who think everything is a joke. I am scary to my abuser, and I want them all arrested. Arrest them all. Arrest all the punitive parents, and let gentle parents take over the world. Gentle parents, everywhere; gentle parents, everywhere; gentle parents, everywhere...And that's what I presume for my own safety.

Why discipline is for parents, not children

In every parent-child relationship, there should be discipline. But, most American parents think that discipline is for the child. The reality is that it is not to be imposed on the child, but to be imposed on parents by themselves, guided by the Holy Spirit.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, that thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable attachment leading to rest and security in the love and grace of parents, with children then being able to tell parents anything, owing parents absolutely nothing in return, but nonetheless leading to the child listening to children in the love of their parents, who are extensions of Christ sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for his children, giving themselves up for their children in His example.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, and is to be applied to parents by themselves and not children by parents. It can be understood as pro-social V self-treatment, like an hourglass. You come to know that you are evil and wicked by nature, and loathe yourself for that entitled parent nature, with a reverent fear that prompts you to seek resources to learn more positive ways of relating to your child, with God's reverent fear being denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to low-level fear intended to spur an individual into action, leading to good deeds done for a child. It is centering oneself in relation to one's child, while allowing for your child to show their true feelings to parents, with the parent being the disciplined, centered individual modeling said chastened attitude by listening to the child's tears. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning God's Loving Reproof, meaning giving an instruction to a child, but not entirely expecting them to follow it. Maybe they are too immature to understand the direction, so you dim down the instruction, or just let them run around and knock things over, and keep an eye on the behavior. Admonition then only meant correcting misbehavior, verbally or, more rarely, by logical consequence of physical removal. Physical punishment was unlawful then and now, with the Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and is one of the Greek words in the New Testament that reference the offenses under the Law, and this includes, as summed up implicitly by the New Testament, the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child through sensory gaslighting, going downward in severity.

Discipline is for parents to embrace, not for children to submit to slavishly. Parenting in ancient Israel was attachment-based in nature, meaning parenting then was based on closeness, not control over a child. Children remained close to their mother, and never left her side until many years after their birth. Punishing and controlling children is an idolatrous custom coming from Rome. The Roman Catholic Church tried to appeal to pagans by letting them keep their child-battering customs, even though it was against biblical law. They hid the Bible away from the ordinary person, and most people were illiterate anyway. Parents are to discipline themselves first, then tend to their child, seeing every cry or whine as a cry for help, assistance, and guidance, not as something to punish or "beat out of them".

Let the depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his angels. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Coming out" for pedophiles: How to be supportive of your pedophilic child

This week, a NFL football player comes out as gay. Many non-offending pedophiles draw comparison with the LGBTQ community, saying they have a sexual orientation that is "just like being gay". It isn't. I'm not gay myself, but many who are gay or lesbian are insulted by the comparison between pedophilia and homosexuality. There are clear contrasts between being a pedophile and being gay, with the first and most blatant being that pedophilia takes you nowhere in life but down, if embraced to its fullest. It is an abusive tendency that, if left unbridled, can lead to the abuse of a child. The point is that most pedophiles DON'T act on those tendencies, and never will. "Never will" means the fact that they "will" is their worst fear, meaning the mere existence of that possibility is scary to them to the point of panic attacks

Pedophile pride is a form of anti-contact gaslighting. No pedophile is truly proud to be one. Comfortable in one's own skin? Absolutely. We are just very good at thought amplification, meaning we might be able to appear prideful when we really are like "really, don't you frickin' get it, people". 

Pedophiles don't want to be praised for their disorder or sexuality, but need a listening ear. They want listening and validation, using the other person as a soundboard to reflect how they feel right back to them. Pedophilia exists on the level of trauma from childhood abuse, and thus is an integral part of my trauma and why my anti-spanking trauma expresses itself on the level of a sexual trauma.

Pedophilia is not a good thing, and most parents know that. Parents should know that if they think their child is hiding such a secret from them, to STOP PUNISHING AT ALL. That means no punishment of the child, to the point where they just open up, then parents are to say "I'm here to listen, and you can tell me anything". Pedophilic children tend only to disclose their condition in home setting like that. Why? The worst fear of any pedophile disclosing is punishment and/or rejection, and when we don't punish children, and allow them to tell parents whatever is on their minds, those thoughts would come out, and the parents usually admit they don't get it. Take "get it" as in shrugged shoulders, not despair. It's a joke pedophile in most cases to gentle parents, meaning the odd remark of "that girl was hot" or "that girl is so attractive" and the parent just rolls their eyes. But, if I were to choose to abuse a child, meaning commit something along the lines of sexual assault or rape, she'd be fuming mad, meaning on the antisocial level. She's happy I am working on those issues, but speaks to me on the issue in a distant yet warm form of pro-social callousness, meaning not callous towards the individual but towards the disorder itself, being reassuring that manner of callousness. Pro-social callousness shows your privilege and distance over your child/pedophile. Think listening in a way that says you don't live their life, and never will hold the pedophilic perspective, so take a step back and learn about what pedophilia actually is instead. Autism awareness advocates recommend a similar form of pro-social callousness - drop all assumptions about the pedophile you are raising, meaning drop all media assumptions especially about the condition  Let your child tell you what it is like to be a pedophile. Usually, like in my case, this brings parent and child closer together. 

"Callousness" refers to the parent's lack of effusive emotion or praise, and for a pedophile with pro-social traits, this sort of sensitivity shows that you don't want anything from me. The other person listens warmly, but while non-verbally setting a boundary, meaning it is conditional acceptance of your pedophilic child, with the trust that they won't abuse a child behind your back, and that from that point on you will feel safe telling parents everything about the disorder, and parents are then to listen. The less you punish a child, the more they share. It says in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

This is actually a commandment for parents, not children. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, to the degree that children can tell their parents anything, or be anything, and parents won't punish you, instead allowing a pedophilic child to discuss all matters of the condition with them. The more they talk to parents, the deeper the bond between parent and child.

No, parents, it is not similar to being gay for you as a parent. The reason organizations such as Virtuous Pedophiles talk about it as such is due to the permanent and lifelong nature of the condition, meaning there is no cure for any sexual attraction, including pedophilia. This "cure" stigma doesn't come from trauma survivors, but the false teachers and spinsters in the pro-spanking lobby that we hate.

Pedophilia is a mental health label denoting adult sexual entitlement, when directed towards a child. It is a disorder because of where it is pointed - at a child. Some teens need more guidance as to what is abuse and what isn't. I am pro-pedophile only in the sense that pedophiles have the patients' right to disclose their condition to any mental health professional when they deem it necessary.

Respect for parents: Why respect in life is earned

Most parents in the United States abuse children. What is the number one cause of child abuse in the United States? Lack of "deserved" respect. Respect parents is a command in the Bible, but mainly for parents. Honor thy father and mother might not be applicable, as the context shows, if your parents won't honor you.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Father, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to respect in the form of secure, vulnerable rest and trust in parents, meaning a blind trust where you can tell parents anything, including things that incur persecution or abuse from others, with children owing nothing in return to parents. This compliance and cooperation should be a result of Christian love for a child, namely by sacrificing for one's child as Christ sacrificed for His children, giving himself up without expecting absolutely nothing in return. It is submission to the child's best interests as her enemy, earning to be her friend, just as mankind is the enemy of God and has offended God for merely existing, and thus should pay due penance accordingly. Parenting is paying penance for even having any power or control in relation to children, which every single adult has in relation to children to some degree, and every single adult has abused a child or enabled an abuser of children, at some point in their lives.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers, in context literally, to the offenses, namely here offenses against children. The Apostle Paul is telling parents, namely fathers of Greek descent, who had habits of punishing their children, that punishment was not allowed under Jewish law. The Law was followed by Jewish-Christians at the letter of the Law, in terms of requirements, whereas gentile Christians followed the Law by the spirit of the Law, meaning love God, love your neighbor, and don't offend either of them, with everything else playing out. Anything disrespectful to a child was seen as offending your neighbor, and thus child abuse.

A parent who is disrespectful does not deserve respect. A key part of Christian obedience to children is choice to listen to parents, spurred on by a secure attachment to parents. In such an attachment, parents serve as a shelter to children, enabling children to listen to the instructions of parents in response to a parent's providence and respect for the child. Basically, the child chooses on their own to listen to parents, without parents demanding such in response to their gentle, non-violent treatment of children. It is not a reverent respect of parents, but a close feeling towards a parent where you are connected at the hip, and your parent is your best friend, being able to talk to them about anything. That's all that attachment parenting is, and at the same time, this is what the Bible means by respecting parents. Parents need to respect their children, in order to earn respect from their children.

The parents who provoke children to anger through punitive or permissive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the everlasting fire of Hell, meaning the second death prepared for Satan and his angels on the very last day. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why not to shame a child's choice of garb

A common association with gentle parenting is child nudity, and there is intersection between the two. Usually, in our society, children aren't naked except in private, but may wear showy attire to impress either peers or adults...and that's the only reason why they do it. 

Many parents like to police especially the dress of their daughters. This comes in different levels of severity. Think the father with a gun, keeping his daughter "safe". Why the quotation marks? Some of those fathers might rape and sexually assault the child. As for me as a father? She can dress however she wants, and I'll just have to deal with it. Quite an easy chore. No complaint, if I'm attracted to her.

The Tenth Commandment prohibits coveting and entitlement, and said commandment is repeated by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektes) and refers to wanting a child to dress a certain way, to the point of enforcing said "dress code" on a child, leading to theft/abuse, as stated explicitly in Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to stirring up children, but literally literally to the offenses under the Law, as transported to our modern lives in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights imposed by a child. Taking false offense, however, is an offense in and of itself, if you get offended in a way that is pushy or manipulative.

You might get offended, naturally and viscerally, by a girl in 5th grade wearing a tank top and short shorts, and no undergarments, and you can just tell by the contours. But, you don't complain, as that is a bad way to feel about a child, meaning it is entitlement. Looking at a child is abuse when they perceive it as abuse, or if you form the intent to police their dress, even if that policing is sideways, meaning through gossip.  

Let the sexually entitled parents burn in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why to say "please" and "thank you" to children: Showing good Christian manners to children

 Many parents order children around, and punish them when orders aren't met. This is taken to various degrees, with authoritative parents being the most common type of abusive parent in the United States. However, the Bible forbids ordering children around like a slave, then getting into a fit of anger when they don't listen.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers not simply to wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse,

The Greek root word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude in a parent of "I am the parent, and I have the right to my child to listen to what I have to say" leading to demanding, controlling, or punitive behavior, leading to the child perceiving said adult's behavior as offensive. We are specifically speaking of harsh, slavish commands that show no tact or politeness towards the child as a human being. In Colossians 3:20-21 KJV, it states:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up", and refers to offenses committed against children. An offense is the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child through sensory gaslighting. This means a child can perceive the order "clean your room" as an offense, if not stated with a "please". "Could you clean your room, please?" is a much better way to instruct a child, and they will listen if you have earned their respect. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers more to what is expected of parents directly, than what is expected of children indirectly, as it refers to respect in the form of secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to tell or confide into them anything, owing nothing in return to parents, with parents earning this respect from loving their child. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to children as their enemy, working to be their friend, being convicted of one's depraved capacity to harm a child, not knowing ever more what it is like to be a child, leading to bondservice from the parent in order to meet the child's every vulnerable need. It is sacrificing for your child, just as Christ gave himself up for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Parents should expect absolutely nothing in return, and saying "please" and "thank you" ensures to the child, and to those watching, that you are being respectful and polite to your child, and honoring them.

Parenting in ancient Israel was attachment-based in nature. This meant constant closeness, especially to mothers, with co-sleeping being the norm. Children were either held by their parents, namely those under age 5, or played freely with siblings, particularly older children. Punishment, including physical punishment, was illegal except as a sentence for a crime, and only legal adults were sentenced for a crime. Corporal punishment was not an instrument of church discipline in the Early Christian parishes. Children listening to parents then was a reward for parents listening to children. This context applies today, as the closer your children are to you in terms of pro-social friendship, the more they will listen to you, especially when saying "please" and "thank you" to children, which one can imagine that parents did then.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in ever-lasting Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!