Birth nudity: Understanding the Christian tradition of birth nudity

Many parents think that attachment parenting is a "new age" form of parenting. However, attachment parenting is an ancient custom dating back to the Early Church, and even before then. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is birth nudity. When done the right way, birth nudity helps to gel a bond with your child.

Birth nudity is the most intimate expression of the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Christian parents in the Early Church allowed their children to go naked, wherever they went. Children under age 6 were in deep birth nudity closeness with mothers, with young children going naked wherever they went, and mothers going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth even when they were merely picked up. When children cried, mothers picked up the child and then found some way to soothe the child's upset, depending on what vulnerable need they had. Usually, all a child needs is YOU.

Birth nudity can be practiced today by allowing your child to go naked whenever they were situated in the context of the family home. When a child cries, the mother should pick up the child, and give the child mammary closeness. Mammary closeness, in part, means breastfeeding, for as long as your child latches on to the teat of mothers. The idea is to leave clothing hanging in an open area of the home, for the child to discover and try on, with most children instinctively finding their clothing at some point, and trying it on. When children try on their first clothing, give them praise and encouragement for covering up.

Birth nudity has a right way and a wrong way to be practiced. When you find yourself smacking your child around just to get them to wear clothing, you are not using birth nudity properly. Birth nudity is properly applied as leaving the nudity go, until the child finds their clothing and tries it on. Children naturally will be curious about wearing clothing, in which case they should be praised and encouraged to keep the clothing on once they put it on.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents want to be seen as strict with their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents strive to be strict with their children. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, calls for parents to pamper and baby their children.

Righteous pampering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See also Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Righteous pampering does not refer to any old pampering, but pampering and babying children in accordance with the context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly being attached at the hip, not allowing mothers to leave their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mom cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up her child in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping usually ending at the onset of puberty. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever the went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth merely when picked up. 

When children attained the age of 6, they were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Children growing up in the Early Church engaged in wet and messy play, with children exploring the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, engaging in mud battles along the way. However, they had to check in with mom first, and tell her where they were going. Come dinnertime, children were called one by one, by name, and were treated to a nice, warm, homecooked meal from mom. Children past age 6 insisted on doing things on their own, usually in a way that pleased the parents. Children alternated between doing things on their own, and being close with mom, with children spending more and more time away from parents as they get older, doing things in the mean time just to please parents.

Children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltered way. In biblical times, there existed many environmental hazards for children, such as venomous snakes and scorpions, with no antivenom to treat the wounds on a child. Today, there also exist dangers when children stepped outside, namely busy traffic and would-be kidnappers. Children under age 6 are too young to appreciate the environmental hazards outside.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to properly discipline your child (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents believe that their child needs discipline. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, most American parents think that discipline means punishment. The fact of the matter is that discipline is a father's way of nurturing from afar, in a teaching way.

God's Law reads in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific form of nurturing from fathers, namely of the teaching sort. Whenever children were caught in the act of good behavior such as showing patience or self-control, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. The more the child showed patience or self-control, the more they were praised and encouraged to keep showing discipline. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the Christian warning of fathers. Religious instruction started out with parents leaving out a Bible after the child turned age 6. When children were caught in the act of exploring the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement for reading God's Word. From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer format, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers on the context.

Children mainly found grounding and discipline in their religious beliefs. Religious education, in Christian households in the Early Church, usually started around age 6. From there, children studied the Bible and then asked parents questions as to what the Bible meant. The religion served as a form of teaching good behavior. 

Children growing up in the Early Church came to religious conclusions entirely on their own. Most children then found grounding and discipline in the Christian faith. There was no need to lecture children on good behavior - children then learned to center their countenance though their religion alone. 

Before children turned age 6, they were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mom went, so did her child. Children were either held in mom's arms during the first 2 years of childhood, and from there, children were seemingly attached at the hip with mothers. When a child had all of their needs met during the first 6 years, they were resilient and ready to take on the world.

Children are perfectly capable of accepting Christ on their own. It is a myth that children need their will broken in order to accept Christ as their Lord and Savor. Most children will become religious at some point in their childhood. Religion is a human need for children and adults alike.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible has no concept of child abuse. Most American parents want the present child abuse definitions to stay. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse. The biblical definition of child abuse is whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get from children what they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement then. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived as damaging or offensive to a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages and offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients, in fact, had a concept of trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not the individual atheist simply being a lost soul. 

Prosecuting child abuse in the Early Church came in the form of pro-social rumor. When a child shunned their parents, word spread far and wide that a parent was entitled. When word reached the council, a panel of 3 elders heard the case of the abuse. If they found the parents guilty, the parents were excommunicated from the Early Church.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing child punishment. Even King Solomon endorsed attachment parenting for the little ones. The rod verses in Proverbs refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a sentence for a criminal act. However, the harsh punishments of the Old Testament were abolished by Christ's Work on the cross. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, more so than even the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to what laws to pass, with most of the English common law based off of the Bible. It just so happens that the Bible itself is an anti-spanking document, and thus the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions under the secular law. This country has a Judeo-Christian heritage, with this being reflected in the legal codes of this country.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (not more)

Many parents think that a child with ODD is "spoiled" and needs more limits. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children for rebelling against parents. However, some children actually do have ODD as a secondary disorder. Such children need less limits, meaning not more limits. 

Children in biblical times were never punished, even if they were oppositional and defiant. When Christian parents in the Early Church punished children, they were excommunicated for offending their children out of entitlement. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Children with ODD today are punished by their parents. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that an oppositional and defiant child needs parents to give up the fight, and give in to the demands of children. Christian parents then knew that when you try to control a child, they fight back. ODD is the counterwill of a child on steroids. When you pick a fight with a child with ODD, they might actually win the fight. So, just give up the fight with your child, and give in to the child's demands. You may find that the child isn't asking for much.

ODD is a disorder that usually stems from not having the right medication to control the child's ODD symptoms. Most ODD is secondary to another mental health disorder, usually autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. Usually, all the child needs is the right medication. However, until then, parents should focus on keeping their child safe. Some cases of ODD involve a willful form of standalone autism that cannot be treated with medication, in which case a parent just has to accept their ODD child. Trying to control such a child is futile, as ODD involves a strong counterwill. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think that only pedophiles sexually abuse children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents view the issue of sexual abuse as distant, meaning they don't believe their child when she discloses that she was sexually abused by an adult. However, ordinary adults are the number one threat to children, as child sexual abuse is a means of adults oppressing children. Children should be empowered to profile all adults for abusers. 

Children are able to profile abusers of children of all kinds, including child rapists. Whenever a child refuses to go with an adult, the adult in question does not mean well in relation to children. However. your average abuser pedophile is a zig-zag groomer, meaning they approach a child in a way that evades the parents. Even then, all a child has to do is not give any personal information to any random adult that asks for it. Children are capable of reverse gaslighting their abuser, if empowered in that context.

The Greek root word translated "lust" in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here not to just any sexual desire, but instead refers to adult sexual entitlement. Adult sexual entitlement refers to grooming a child in any way. Grooming refers here to taking the first steps towards sexually abusing a child. The most common form of grooming is automatic approach. Most sexual abusers of children defend adult sexual entitlement when caught sexually abusing a child, and this alone constitutes adult sexual entitlement. Parent sexual entitlement is when a parent in particular rapes or sexually assaults their own child, and defends it in court. 

It is one thing to look the look at a child, and think the think later. But, if you find yourself doing the deed, you shouldn't have approached the child, and shouldn't have even looked at her (see also Matt. 5:27-28). Christ was talking about, in the Sermon on the Mount, the automatic approach of a woman. The only way out of doing the deed with a child is to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. thereby purging unrequited lusts for children from yourself. If you don't masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of children, you might find yourself in a situation where you bite off more than you can chew. The only way out of sexual entitlement is in, meaning righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation is masturbation simply to stay out of trouble, without any pornography involved. 

All adults studied by researchers have a sexual attraction to children. Most adults repress their sexual desires towards children. However, among men, 20% of men have a secondary sexual attraction to prepubescent children, and most all adults have a sexual attraction to teenagers. Even women are capable of sexual attraction towards children, usually towards teenage boys. Sexual attraction, in and of itself, is normal. When it reaches the extreme of being a sexual preference, it then - and only then - becomes a mental health disorder. Most adults are unaware of their sexual attraction towards children. Pedophiles are painfully aware of their attractions to children, and anyone that painfully aware of their attraction to children is the last person to rape or sexually assault a child.

A pedophile is not an anger packet waiting to surface. Instead, pedophilia is a sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophiles have a form of moderate-severe autism where their whole world revolves around children. A pedophile is an individual with autism who has child smarts. Autism means "one with". A pedophile has a form of autism that is one with children. Most pedophiles have an affinity attraction to children. Pedophiles do abuse children sometimes, but don't we all as adults have something to atone for in relation to children? I am a regret adult, meaning I sexually harassed several children as a part of an autistic fixation surrounding my child victims. A pedophilic abuser usually acts on an autistic fixation about a specific child. Most pedophiles don't do what I did. Some pedophiles are rapists, but that type of pedophile is rare. 

Pedophiles are perfectly capable of admitting adult privilege. Adult privilege means here that all adults collectively are abusers and oppressors of children. The point of children's rights is to admit your part in the oppression of children, and strive to avoid all self-interest in relation to children. I myself, as a pedophile, want nothing to do with my self-interest. A pedophile is perfectly capable of avoiding parental entitlement, and avoidance of parental entitlement is the core of children's rights. Pedophiles don't need extra help in order to avoid abusing children. Most can resist their sex drive towards children with no help at all from anybody. Righteous avoidance also helps some pedophiles, with me using images of Hell to scare me away from pursuing a date with a child. I myself have wronged children, in the most obsessive of ways. For parts of my life, a specific child was the center of an autistic special interest of mine. I am now under investigation for my sexual obsessions towards children. I am grateful for the forgiveness of both children and the police, as I deserve absolutely none of it. 

I am opposed to privilege arguments, as they divide the country on the basis of identity, with the only valid identity - for the most part - being American. However, we all can get behind children's rights as adults, as all of us have adult privilege in relation to children. Haven't we all wronged or abused a child at some point in our lives? Maybe pedophiles are a close exception, but even they have sexual desires pointed towards a child. We are born sinful, meaning we have a flawed genome as a species. Pedophilia itself is a genetic disorder, linked to developmental disabilities such as autism or ADHD. Most pedophiles will never rape or sexually assault a child, and most will never abuse a child otherwise. "Pedophiles" should not even exist as a forensic label. News outlets should not call sexually entitled adults "pedophiles".

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want to be respected and honored. However, the fact of the matter is that honoring parents, in the Bible, means simply caring for parents as they age.

The Fifth Commandment reads in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment does not mean that speaking against parents alone is sin. Instead, this commandment means that adult children should ideally care for their aging parents. This commandment exists because  Ancient Israel had an elder abuse epidemic. However, children have the right to shun their abusive parents. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works in parenting refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Speaking against parents is the number one motive of punishment or punitive measures in parenting. Most parents punish their children for speaking against them. However, punishment of a child - for any reason - is prohibited in the Bible. The idea is instead to form a secure attachment with your child, which leads to children caring for you as you age.

Honoring parents simply means caring for your parents as they age, and only if they earned being cared for as parents. It is okay to shun a parent who was entitled or abusive. Most parents today are entitled, meaning they insist on respect when there is none to be had. Parents must earn the respect they hope to receive from children. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your children in the Christian faith

Many parents want their children to have religion. This often comes in the form of parents preaching religion to their children. Most American parents believe in breaking the will of a child in order to instruct them in the Christian faith. However, children don't need to be punished in order to accept Christ as their Savior. 

The Christian warning of parents is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific form of nurturing, namely nurturing in a teaching way. Whenever children were caught in the act of good behavior, they were given lavish praise and encouragement by fathers for more behavior of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, and backed up their example with praise and encouragement, as opposed to backing it up with punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to Christian warning for children, but the gentle type. Parents started out the religious instruction of their children by leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given praise and encouragement for more of the same in terms of heeding warning. From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being curious about the Bible, and fathers giving pointers as to the context.  

Children do not need their will to be broken in order to accept Christ as their Savior. Children surely don't need "the devil beaten out of them". Children instead simply need praise and encouragement for studying the Bible. Children usually first develop religion when a Bible is left out, for children to explore and ask questions about. The idea is to look up the context yourself, and from there, give children pointers as to the biblical context. 

Christian warning here refers not to punishing or using force on children, but to fathers pointing out the context to children. Fathers should sit down next to their children when they ask a whole bunch of questions about the Bible, and have quality conversation about the biblical context and how it relates to the Bible. At some point, children are bound to ask questions about sin and atonement, in which case they are ready to be warned about the existence of Heaven and Hell. However, they are not ready to learn about sin and atonement until they pop the question themselves.

Children naturally absorb religion as a human need. There is no need to push religion on children. Grateful positions should not be forced on children, but should be allowed to happen on their own as an indicator of religious astuteness. When they tie their hands behind their back, they have hit perfection. When you force religion on a child instead, it doesn't work the same as if they found those positions themselves when exploring the Bible on their own. 

Children were also praised and encouraged when they engaged in good behavior. When children showed self-strictness, they were praised and encouraged for more good behavior of the same. Studying the Bible was just one reason why children were praised. Whenever a parent saw good traits in children, they were given praise for more of the same. Good traits here refer to self-control, meaning when children waited patiently for example, they were praised and encouraged lavishly. The idea behind self-control in children was to show it yourself in your good Christian example, and watch as the child follows suit. When the child shows self-control, including patience, the father should praise and encourage more self-control in children.

Fathers were the primary religious teachers of children in biblical times. When children found the Bible, fathers praised and encouraged the child to keep reading the Bible, and invited the child to ask them anything they were curious about concerning the context. Fathers, from there, gave pointers as to the context, in a fun and inviting way. Today, parents should explore the biblical context, and answer any questions their children may have about the Bible.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God1 Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to raise cooperative children (without punishment or force)

Many parents think that the answer to children talking back is punishment of children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children for simply not cooperating with parents. However, the proper way to get a child to listen is to win them over. 

Cooperative children are a byproduct of a parent who cooperates with their child, in mutual submission format. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, with parents performing good works for a child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works for children involves doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Cooperation is a common motive for parents to punish their children. Most punishment coming from American parents happens when children are uncooperative. However, the fact of the matter is that defiance and back talk happen when you pick fights with your child, instead of forming a bond with your child.

Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that the best way to gain cooperation from children was to give them their every vulnerable need, thereby forming a secure attachment with children. For the first 6 years of childhood, mothers held their children close, either by holding them or letting them seemingly be attached at the hip. 

When children were older - age 6 and up - children were cooperative with parents, in an affectionate way. Children growing up in the Early Church cooperated in a "make your day" way, meaning they wanted to please parents, usually by doing things on their own. Children then alternated between free play and closeness with mom, with these intervals being more spaced out as the child got older. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that children cry in order to "undermine" parents. Crying in children is usually met with punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that children cry to communicate a vulnerable need. There is nothing to take personally in a child's crying.

Tending to a crying child is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Many parents insist on children not crying. This is a common entitled demand coming from American parents. However, crying is not bad behavior. Christian mothers in the Early Church responded to the every need of a child, with children crying out for love from a parent. Parents in the Early Church met the every vulnerable need of children, without exception.

There are five main categories of needs in children; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Whatever the child needed, they got it. Sleep, as a need, is lumped in with attachment, as a tired child needs warm and comfy co-sleeping with mom, which also helps to gel the bond between parent and child in the family home. 

Whenever children growing up in the Early Church cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers that was intended by God to put children at ease. From there, children who could talk put their needs into words. Most of the time, all the child needed was loving comfort from mom. 

Crying is a normal stage of development for children, especially children under age 6. Most parents soothe babies when they cry. However, children cry most of the time for the same reason. Most children just want love from a parent when they are crying, meaning they cry for the same reason an infant cries. Babyhood in the Early Church lasted until age 6, instead of babyhood ending at age 1-2. Children never cry to "undermine parental authority". They instead cry because they need something, much like an infant. Children growing up in the Early Church who were aged 6 and up whined when they needed something, which simply prompted mothers to meet the needs of children. 

Children growing up in the Early Church simply cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. Most of the time, children then did not kick and scream when crying, as that behavior happens when parents don't listen the first time. Most parents punish their children merely for crying, which makes the child hide their needs, until they can't take it anymore, and fall apart in the form of a temper tantrum. Crying instead should be seen as a child's way of communicating their every vulnerable need, and thus a parent should respond to the every vulnerable need of children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of child abuse. Most American parents support the current legal definition of child abuse, as it stands. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse, namely whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking. wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. All anger towards a child was deemed parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a concept of childhood trauma, namely when a child grew up to be atheist. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, as opposed to the atheist simply being seen as a lost soul. 

Child abuse was prosecuted in the form of pro-social rumor. Whenever a child shunned their parents for being abusive, word spread far and wide thar a child was abused. When word reached the council that a parent was abusive, the parents were put on trial before a panel of 3 elders. If the parents were found guilty, the parents were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing the punishment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones. The rod of correction consisted of the 40 minus 1 lashes. In most cases, it was the parents being whipped for abusing children, with the grandfather administering the whipping. The harsh punishments in the Old Testament were abolished by Christ's Work on the cross. The rod verses ultimately were meant as wisdom, as otherwise, the father might refuse to whip his son who ran afoul of the Law. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live as a society. It just so happens that the biblical writers were all anti-spanking, and all recommended attachment parenting, at least in their secular writings. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants you to sleep next to your child at night

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice on the part of parents. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents don't want a child sharing a bed with them. However, the fact of the matter is that parents should co-sleep next to children, just as the ancients in the Bible did for their children. Not only does it gel a bond with children, but it also helps prevent child sexual abuse.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works was defined then as doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Bedtime refusal is a common motive for punishing children. Most children under age 6 refuse to go to bed on their own. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have primal fears of being devoured by predators when they are left in a room isolated and alone. You might think that predators don't exist today. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse happens in the form of a bedtime ritual. Christian parents in the Early Church had it all figured out - meaning the mother was right there in co-sleeping closeness, so that nothing could happen. The father slept on one side of the mother, and the children on the other side of mom. 

The most common excuse for not co-sleeping next to children is fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, namely with frightening terms such as "sleep dependence". However, Christian parents in the Early Church slept next to their children every night, in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping usually lasting until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. However, even in the case of extended co-sleeping - meaning into the teen years - co-sleeping always had an end to it. 

Children co-slept next to parents in the Early Church as a means for parents to gel a bond with their children. The family bed was a thing then, with the family bed coming completely in the nude. Children went naked wherever they went, with parents going naked within the context of the family home. Fathers hung up their robe, and mothers hung up their dress, with the children being in a loving state of birth nudity. Mothers held children close, with young children under age 6 not wanting to leave her side. 

I myself was hurt badly by my father's attempts to crack down on my attempts to climb into bed with mom. He grabbed me by the throat, and installed locks on their bedroom door. I will always remember that from my parents, even if I do forgive them. I forgive my parents, but I never will forget what they did to me. I was mainly targeted with false imprisonment tactics such as time-out and grounding, as well as a few disciplinary spankings done "out of love". I am now ANGRY at parents for how I was treated as a child. I started sleeping on my own at age 16, as a means to prove my independence, meaning there was no need for punishing me when all I wanted was my mom comforting me for insomnia as a part of bipolar mania.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (meaning without punitive measures)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think disciplining your child means punishing them. However, there is one right way to discipline a child, namely catching children being good. 

God's Word reads in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific type of nurturing, namely nurturing in a teaching way. Whenever children were caught being good, they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers for more of the same. Christian parents set a good example for children, and backed up that example with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment or force in parenting. Children also found religion on their own, with religion being a human need for both children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to a warning, namely in the context of hearing out the warning of fathers. When children were caught in the act of exploring the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement. From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with the child asking questions about the Bible, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. 

Mothers nurture up close, with fathers nurturing from afar. Fathers kept their distance from young children, and left the mother to care for the child. When children attained the age of 6, fathers started looking for good behavior in children, and when they saw it, they praised their children for more of the same. The more the child centered themselves, the more praise they got. 

It is a myth that fathers in biblical times used "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting to quell the upset of a child. Instead, fathers simply masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children, and imprinted on their child that way. Any rape of a child was seen as unlawful in biblical times. Righteous masturbation is what gave fathers an outlet for their sexual attachment to their children, with masturbation simply being intended to keep adults out of trouble. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Catching children being good: How to discipline your child the right way

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common wish on the part of parents. Most American parents catch their child misbehaving, and then punish them. However, the fact of the matter is that parents in the Bible instead caught their children being good, and encouraged more of the same.

God's Word states in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a special form of nurturing, namely nurturing of the teaching type. Whenever children were caught being good, fathers lavishly praised and encouraged children for more of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, and backed up that example by way of praise and encouragement, as opposed to backing it up with punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to warning, as in hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. This warning came in the form of praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of reading the Bible. From there, religious education came in the form of question and answer, with children asking parents about the Bible, and fathers informing children as to the biblical context. Religion is a human need in a child. However, religious trauma happens when children are punished in the name of religion.

Catching children being good was always a Jewish tradition, including during the time of Christ. All of the biblical writers -  all of whom were Jewish - endorsed a form of nurturing where children are caught being good. No Jew worth mentioning ever endorsed punishment as a form of discipline. Child discipline in the Early Church instead came in the form of praising and encouraging good behavior in children.

It is a myth that fathers in the Early Church used "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting. The fact of the matter is that Christian fathers in the Early Church instead disciplined through positive reinforcement, meaning catching children for being good, and giving them praise for more of the same. Mothers nurtured up close, with fathers instead nurturing from afar in a teaching way. Fathers in the Early Church masturbated righteously in order to imprint on his son or daughter. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents oppose the idea of pampering children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents believe that pampering your child is the same as spoiling them. However, the fact of the matter is that God wants you to pamper and baby your child, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This highlighted word refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission. where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works refers here to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable needs, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Righteous pampering refers not to any old pampering and babying of children, but a certain specific form of pampering, using the context as a guidepost. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly attached to mom at the hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up their child, and from there, she diagnosed the needs of that child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children receiving rays of skin-on-skin contact merely when being picked up. 

Children aged 6 and up engaged in wet and messy play, naked. Children growing up in the Early Church ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, getting into mud battles in the mean time. However, children had to check in with mom before venturing outside. Come evening, children were called - one by one - and were cleaned up with a handrag before being treated to a warm, homecooked meal from mom. When older children weren't playing, they accompanied mom to market, and were given their own spending money - without ever having to work for it. Children alternated between wanting closeness with mothers, and wanting to be independent from parents, and as the child got older, the more they wanted to do things on their own.

Children under age 6 were very much protected, but in a sheltered sort of way. There existed environmental hazards in biblical times, namely venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. Children that young rarely went far from home. Today, there also exist dangers, namely busy streets and would-be kidnappers. It is recommended that mothers stay home for the first 6 years of childhood, meaning quit her job in order to tend to her little ones. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children

Many parents think that child abuse is a modern concept. Most parents support the child abuse definitions that we have today. However, the fact of the matter is that the ancients in the Bible did have a concept of child abuse. Child abuse is defined in the Bible as anything that the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Parent anger directed towards a child was seen in the Early Church as parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement on the part of parents was perceived by the child as damaging or offensive, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients in the Early Church had a concept of trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not merely a sign of a lost soul.

Prosecuting child abuse in the Early Church came in the form pro-social rumor. When parents were shunned by their children, it was immediately seen as a sign of child abuse. Word spread far and wide of a child being abused by parents. When word reached the council, the panel of 3 elders came to a verdict as to the fate of the parents. When the parents were found guilty, someone else took in the child. Sometimes, family members were unwilling to step up to the plate, in which case children went with pedophiles. These pedophiles were known as "child saviors", meaning men especially trained in nursing an orphaned child back to health. Pedophiles then did not rape their child charges, and instead masturbated to sexual thoughts of their child charges. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing punitive parenting. All of the biblical writers endorsed attachment parenting. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones. The rod of correction in the Bible refers specifically to the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning as a sentence for a crime. Christ put an end to the harsh punishments in the Old Testament by doing His Work on the cross.

The Bible is a founding document, even above the Constitution itself. The Bible and its context is something we glean from as a society. It just so happens that the Bible gave an anti-spanking commandment in Col. 3:21 and also Eph. 6:4, stanza 1.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect in parenting is earned

Many parents feel entitled to respect from children. This is a common attitude on the part of American parents. Most American parents demand respect from children, while earning none of it. The fact of the matter is that respect in parenting is earned, not bestowed on a silver platter. 

Mutual respect is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works ultimately refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and even took in a few orphaned children into the church. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times, but came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly attached to mothers at the hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers were out and about in public with children under age 6, mom wrapped the young child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with it - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children receiving rays of skin-on-skin contact merely when being picked up.

The number one motive for parents punishing their children is when parents feel entitled to respect. However, the fact of the matter is that respect in life is earned, not handed out for free on a silver platter. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Not even respect. Not even affection. Not even forgiveness. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored by their children. The commandment to honor parents is widely interpreted as not speaking against parents. However, the fact of the matter is that honoring parents simply means caring for them as they age.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment does not prohibit speaking against parents. Instead, this commandment simply means caring for your aging parents, just like they cared for you for so many years. However, parents who punished or abused their children could be shunned by the children that they abused. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works is defined here as doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Children today are punished merely for speaking against parents. The most common way that parents punish children today is through time-out, and then the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". Most parents punish their children when they insist on respect without earning respect from children.

The commandment to honor parents does not mean that children have to avoid speaking against parents. All the commandment to honor parents means is to care for your parents as they age, and only as a reward for taking care of you for so many years. If parents were abusive, the only way an adult child had to forgive their parents is if the parents gave a genuine apology, with the genuineness of the apology being determined by the abuse victim.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!