Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children

Many parents that they have the right to punish and discipline their children as they see fit. Most parents see the concept of child abuse as a modern concept, with the ancients not having a concept of childhood and child abuse. Child abuse was seen in biblical times as anything that the child perceived as abuse. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offensive touch or speech stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, meaning trauma in this context. The ancients had a basic concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was treated as a sign of childhood trauma in an adult child, as opposed to simply an adult rebelling against God.

The law of the Early Church was enforced by way of pro-social rumor. Whenever the members of a parish caught wind of punitive parents, the word spread, until the word reached the council. Usually, the word started when a young adult tuned atheist, and shunned their parents, and from there, people slowly started avoiding the entitled parents. When parents were handed a guilty verdict by the council, a pedophile stepped in and took in the abused child. However, the only closeness allowed with the pedophile was male lactation that nursed the abused child back to health. Pedophiles then never brought in children, but they did allow children to go with pedophiles, with pedophiles being seen as a form of foster care then. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by Jews. Never did a Jew worth mentioning punish a child. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones. The rod verses refer to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes, and was intended only for adult children, and only within the context of an Israelite court of law. Christ came to fulfill the Law, and that means repealing the harsh punishments in the context of the Old Testament with his work on the cross. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" rarely (meaning almost never)

Many parents feel the need to tell a child "no" all the time. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, children only need to hear the word "no" rarely, meaning almost never. Children need to hear your "yes" far more than your "no". 

The frequent use of the word "yes" is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for children, meeting the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child. stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Most parents today feel that children need to hear the word "no". Most parents say "no" for seemingly everything that children ask for. However, Christian parents in the Early Church rarely used the word "no", meaning almost never. Children got whatever they needed from parents, with benign wants counting as a need. 

Christian parents in the Early Church were restricted from saying "no" except in certain specific instances. Children got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Parents, under customary law, were prohibited from saying "no" to children except when the petitioned requests from children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When children were told "no", parents were required to give reassurance and an explanation for saying "no". 

Even when children were told "no", parents usually found other ways of declining a petitioned request from children. Christian parents in the Early Church usually found a nicer sounding phrase to decline a request, such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". Many times, that alone prevented a temper tantrum in children. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Cooperation in children: How to gain cooperation from children

Many parents have dealt with it. A child is talking back, being uncooperative and unmanageable. However, children rarely are cooperative with parents when parents are using punitive measures. However, the fact of the matter is that cooperative children have cooperative parents raising them, with cooperation starting with parents being cooperative towards their children's needs. 

Cooperation from children is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where children are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:25-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all form of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your children hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Most parents want cooperation with their children. Parents usually start off on these goals from early on. However, most parents punish their children in order get cooperation from their children. With that said, there is only one proper way to gain cooperation from a child., and that is a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home.

For the first 6 years, children growing up in the Early Church were held close to mothers. Children definitely cried a lot, and usually cried a deathly, screeching cry due to separation anxiety. Most young children morbidly feared that mothers would "go away and never come back". The purpose of closeness was to reassure children that mom is going nowhere.

After age 6, the hard work on the part of parents pays off. Most children growing up in the Early Church were cooperative with parents, but in a playful and affectionate way. Children usually cooperate with an attachment figure, usually in the form of telling mom exactly where they were playing. Children engaged in wet and messy play. However, when children were called back home for dinner, they automatically returned to the home, where they were treated to a nice, warm dinner. 

When children growing up in the Early Church past age 6 were not playing, they did chores around the house, without getting paid. The goal of children going to work at home was to please mom and dad. They might try to cook dinner, and even when the food was burnt, parents ate it anyway, not complaining about the cooking. That form of cooperation is known as "make your day" cooperation. 

When children growing up in the Early Church, past age 6, wanted every item in sight in market, mothers gave children a pocketbook full of free spending money. The child surely learned quickly the value of money. But, even when the child ran out of money, the mother paid for what the child could not. Children did not earn money through the chores that they did, but instead were given free money of an amount determined by parents. 

I myself come from a pro-spanking authoritative upbringing. For most of my childhood, I was subject to false imprisonment techniques such as time-out and grounding, and even the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". When I was little, I was given a disciplinary spanking when I was younger, and a slap to the face when I was older. Sound familiar? I now have a legal trauma from the legal defense on the books for pro-spanking parents. Because of that upbringing of mine, I was in a battle of wills as a child. I was a proud child to begin with, but then my parents started fighting back when all I wanted was to be heard. I did get along with teachers who turned out to be gentle parents in their personal lives, but usually, I fought back when I was punished. Whenever you try to control a child as proud as I was, they control back. When I was spanked, I immediately grabbed at the door and broke the knob, then when they put a lock on the door, I kicked the door until it frayed. When children in gentle parenting groups have bipolar disorder like mine, but is instead dealt with using compassionate listening, the bipolar mania is simply a bunch of sillies, not a battle of wills. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoked their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Swaddling blankets: How to pacify your child's cries in public

Many parents want to know how to pacify a child when out and about in public. This is a common want on the part of parents. Most American parents don't want a child crying out loud in public. The fact of the matter is that the use of swaddling blankets is the solution to a child crying out loud in public.

Wrapping up children next to their mother in swaddling blankets is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works is defined as doing good things for children, meeting the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here is lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the children, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

Whenever mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. When children cried in public, mothers held the child closer to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

What is so special about swaddling blankets? When children were worn by mothers in swaddling blankets, their cries went soft and muted. Mothers could hear the cries of their children, but other people could not. Not only that, but children enjoyed the view when wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers.

Many parents have had to deal with a child kicking and screaming in the middle of the store. However, children usually cry out loud when they want mom, with the cry being a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. However, these same cries were pacified by swaddling blankets, meaning only tears without wailing. Swaddling blankets are a quick fix for a happy, cooperative child. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think that pedophiles are the ones sexually abusing children. This is a common myth held amongst parents. However, the fact of the matter is that any old adult could commit the moral crime of child rape or childhood sexual assault. Most of the time, sexual abuse of children is a crime of opportunity, not a career offense. 

Children are perfectly capable of self-protecting. Whenever children refuse to go with a specific adult, think abuser in the case of the adult in question. Most children can tell instinctively that an adult in question intends harm towards them. The idea behind protecting children is to trust your child's instincts, as children never lie about abuse.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. However, even if the child was right there, the indecent act is what counts. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think later. However, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. "Doing the deed" involves flirting or propositioning a child, or else touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. 

The only way out of sexual entitlement towards a child is through righteous masturbation. The idea is to masturbate to the first child that comes to mind, and focus on those sexual fantasies, until all of it is spent away. If the fantasies don't go away in time, then you are a pedophile and need to own up to that fact. If you only get child fantasies in your sleep, you are a rapist and need to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. Usually, you will find your daughter attractive first in fantasy. It may be unpleasant, but repressing sexual thoughts of children can only lead to trouble - with the repressed thoughts coming out sideways onto a child like a ton of bricks. 

Pedophiles are the last of all adults to sexually abuse a child. I myself am the exception to that rule. Most pedophiles who commit sexual offenses against children are like me - they operate on the surface level, as a form of sexual harassment. Most pedophiles are amongst the few adults who have never wronged or abused a child. However, even then, most pedophiles are capable of admitting adult privilege, by way of avoiding parental entitlement. A pedophile, in most cases, is an individual with autism who has child smarts, with their sexual drive reflecting their specialty in knowledge about children.

There exists a camp of adults who oppose children's rights by defending the criminals, including feign defending pedophiles while lumping pedophiles in with criminal narcissists. Most pedophiles are not narcissists at all, and instead are entitled victims in relation to children. Most pedophiles who sexually abuse a child are vulnerable victims who got themselves in the wrong habit. However, since they were sexually entitled to begin with, charge them alongside the other non-pedophilic adults who sexually abuse children. 

I am opposed to the legal or moral usage of the word "pedophile". There is a difference between pedophiles and sex offenders in relation to children. Child sexual abuse is just one way that adults oppress children, and it usually isn't in the form of a "love affair". The only pedophiles that exist are the clinical pedophiles. There should be more mental health services for pedophiles, with the word "pedophile" being reserved for individuals with a sexual preference for children under age 14. A pedophile is blatantly aware of their sexual preferences, and can easily make the choice not to sexually abuse a child. Most adults can easily ignore their sexual entitlement towards children, as it is something easy to repress. When you repress something as powerful as a sex drive, it is bound to come out sideways once confronted with the right/wrong opportunity, like a ton of bricks in the eyes of the victim.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent! 

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants you to sleep next to your children

Many parents think co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice in parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, not only does righteous co-sleeping gel a bond with a child, but it also helps prevent child sexual abuse.

Righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good work here refers to doing good things for children, meeting the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

It is common knowledge that young children under age 6 oftentimes refuse to go to bed. This is a common and normal behavior for children to engage in. Most parents punish children when faced by children refusing to go to bed. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have morbid fears of being devoured by predators when isolated in their own bed. You might think that predators don't exist today. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse happens as a bedtime ritual, with the sex offender approaching the child when they they lie in bed. However, child sexual abuse was rare next to non-existent in the Early Church, and that was because the mother was right there, perhaps using herself as a human shield against the sexual wrath of fathers.

The most common excuse for not co-sleeping comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with scary terms such as "sleep dependence". However, children growing up in the Early Church co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth every night, until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. However, even if extended co-sleeping lasted into the teen years, all co-sleeping had an end to it.

Righteous co-sleeping is the centerpiece of a mutual submission relationship between parent and child. In the Early Church, the family bed came entirely in the nude. This setup allowed for easy skin-on-skin warmth between mother and child in particular. This birth nudity setup helped gel a bond between parent and child.

I myself have a trauma from authoritative parenting, and a major power struggle growing up was co-sleeping. I would sneak into my parents bedroom to snuggle with mom. Otherwise, my bipolar mania would keep me up at night, and the racing thoughts that came with it. My father shook me by grabbing my throat several times and yelled at me. However, co-sleeping did have an end to it - when I turned 16 and wanted to prove my independence. I did not have insomnia at the time that I turned 16 and was medicated for bipolar disorder with lithium carbonate. The idea until then is to focus on keeping your child safe above all else, giving up the fight over bedtime, and give in to your child's demands to sleep next to you. My mother did not use skin-on-skin closeness except when I was under age 2, but otherwise, she did it right by allowing me to snuggle next to her at night. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parent have had to deal with it. A child crying seemingly out of nowhere. This crying is a modern excuse for child abuse such as spanking and false imprisonment such as time-out and grounding. However, the fact of the matter is that the every cry of a child comes for a reason. Chances are that the child is crying for YOU.

Tending to separation anxiety is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting their children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking merely for things that that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Children sometimes seemingly cry for no reason at all. Most parents punish their children simply for crying. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew that children always cry for a reason. Children who needed attachment or other needs cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. This crying served a specific God-given purpose, and that was to break down the mother, and continue to break down mothers, until they gave up and gave in to the child's vulnerable need. 

Separation anxiety is a form of anxiety primarily found in children under age 6. A child who has separation anxiety is morbidly afraid of mothers "going away and never come back". Even when mothers were in the other room, children growing up in the Early Church cried out loud for tender loving care. Most of the time, children were attached to the hip of mothers, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, with mothers reassuring children that they are going nowhere.

Children always cry for a reason. Most of the time, children growing up in the Early Church cried because they needed mom. Attachment was the first need that a mother tested for. When children refused the teat of mothers, they were introduced to solid food. When the child cried as being nursed, the child must have needed something else. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the lights were too bright. Maybe the sounds were too loud. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible does not touch on the issue of child abuse. This is a common sentiment amongst American parents. Most American parents instead misuse the Bible as an excuse for child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse, with that definition being more expansive than today's definitions. Child abuse is defined in the Bible as whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Whenever parents got angry with their children, that anger alone was deemed parental entitlement. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a concept of trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, the parents were blamed for the abuse of their child. Atheism then was seen as evidence of child abuse, not mere rebellion against the religious establishment.

When children disowned their parents, and went atheist, word spread far and wide across the church. At some point, the rumor spread to the council. When the council ruled in favor of the child victim, the child was given the choice - go with parents or go with pedophiles. Most of the time, children chose pedophiles. If the child instead went with their abusive parents, suspicion fell squarely onto the pedophile. Nobody brought in children then. The child then found refuge in pedophiles, with  pedophiles lactating in order to nurse an orphaned child to health. Sometimes, the abuse wasn't discovered until the abused child became an adult, and shunned them, with the rest of the church falling suit.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 of the books of the Bible were written by Jews. No Jew worth mentioning, then and now, supported punishing a child for anything. Even King Solomon advocated attachment parenting for minor children. What King Solomon was talking about in Proverbs was the 40 minus 1 lashes, with striking a Jew was only allowed in the context of a courtroom as a sentence for a crime. Christ endured whippings unjustly before being placed on the cross, and thus the Early Church never supported a whipping of any kind.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior in children

Many parents have to deal with it. A child kicking and screaming on the floor, crying out loud. This is a common and normal behavior for children to engage in. Most American parents think that children should not be tantrumming. However, the fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are not bad behavior.

Tending to the cries of children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Temper tantrums in the form of kicking and screaming on the ground were not common in the Early Church. Instead, children growing up in the Early Church simply cried out loud, crying a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. Christian mothers in the Early Church responded to the every cry of their child, cooing before picking up the child, and from there, mom diagnosed the need of the child before meeting that need. Children then simply cried instead of throwing a kicking and screaming temper tantrum, and that is because they feel heard from the moment the temper tantrum started. Children only kick and scream when they don't feel heard, and only after trying to keep it together for entirety of the day out of fear of punishment. 

Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers especially, intended by God to reassure children that they are heard and that what they need matters. When mothers cooed at children, the child's cries were pacified, with mothers then seeking to diagnose the child's needs. 

Children always cry for a reason. There exists five main categories of childhood needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! Whenever children cried in the Early Church, Christian parents scrambled as to what the child's exact needs are. The most common and normal need for children - then and now - was time in with mom, usually in the form of mammary closeness. The first thing a mother of a milk-dependent child checked for was milk-hunger. If the child cried when being breastfed, the mother knew that the cry was petitioning other needs. When children under age 6 were weaned, mothers tended to the every cry of the child with children being held next to the bosom of mothers in mammary closeness, and if that didn't work, mothers learned through trial and error what pleases their child. The purpose of crying in children is to break down the parent, and continue to break down the parents, until the child's every need was met.

Children today throw explosive temper tantrums because they aren't allowed even to feel. They learn to hide things from parents, including how they feel, out of fear of punishment. However, Christian parents in the Early Church did not punish their child at all simply for feeling big emotions. Children growing up in the Early Church were never punished for anything, and so they could easily just cry as comes naturally, and expect a response from mom.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents abuse their children by way of false imprisonment tactics such time-out, and then the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". However, the Bible commands something different than this setup. Time-in can come in many forms, but the biblical way of doing time-in is mammary closeness. 

Time-in is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refer to doing good things for children, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Time-in can be done in various ways. Some parents send their children to a calming corner, and other parents stoop down to the child's level to reassure them. However, there is one biblical way of doing time in - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up their child, with the young child - under age 6 - being offered mammary closeness. From there, the mother diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed from mom, they got it. Most of the time, all children needed was mammary closeness with mom.

Breastfeeding and mammary closeness go hand in hand. Whenever a milk-dependent child growing up in the Early Church cried, the first thing that mom checked for was milk-hunger, meaning the mother would offer her teat to the child. If the child cried after or during the breastfeeding session, mothers tested for other needs. Children usually refused the teat at around age 2, but in some cases, children did not refuse the teat of mothers until age 6 or even beyond. Mothers breastfed their children whenever called to, including even in public. When the child refused the teat of the mother, they were ready for solid food. 

The crying of a child has a specific biological purpose - to break down the mother, and keep breaking down the mother, until the mother has no option but to give in to the child's cries for vulnerable needs. It sure gets your attention, doesn't it? It should get your attention, as that aspect of childhood is designed by God so that children get what they need from children. 

The female breasts are not there primarily for men to ogle. Instead, the female breasts were designed by God to nurture children. The cleavage of the breasts were meant to cushion children's tears, and the nipples were meant to nourish the child. Maybe men will find that side of a woman attractive, but the boobs are there for the child, not primarily the man of the house. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents do not want to be seen as pampering their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents don't want to pamper or baby their children. However, the fact of the matter is that God wants children to be pampered and babied. 

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

Righteous pampering does not mean any old pampering, but rather a certain specific form of pampering and babying children, as understood in context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Children aged 2-6 ranged next to mom, attached at mom's hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever children were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format every night, until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children under age 6 went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children receiving rays of skin-on-skin contact merely when they were picked up. 

Children past age 6 played freely outside, naked. Older children growing up in the Early Church engaged in wet and messy play. Children at that age ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, engaging in mud battles along the way. However, children had to first check in with mom, and tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called home - one by one - and were then treated to a nice, warm, homecooked meal from mom, after cleaning up the child with a wet handrag. From there, children hopped into the family bed with mom and dad, and co-slept next to mom, recharging for another day's play. Play in the Early Church was education, and children learned everything they needed to know from play. 

Children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltered way. In biblical times, there existed many environmental hazards for children, namely venomous snakes or scorpions, with there being no antivenom. Today, there exist other hazards, namely busy streets and would-be kidnappers of children. Children, then and now, were not capable of understanding the dangers of playing outside in the streets.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need ALL of their needs (not just some of them)

Many parents think that children need some of what they need. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that they children should only get some of what they need, as opposed on all of what they need. This is the doctrine of "benign" deprivation, and it is unbiblical.

The doctrine of "benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for children, namely meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

"Benign" deprivation allows for parents to only meet some of the child's needs, thus saving room for children to get what they "really" need. However, Christian parents in the Early Church met the child's EVERY need, not just some of the child's needs. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

A common way for parents to deprive children of what they need is to say "no" to a child all of the time. Children need to hear the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Usually, children growing up in the Early Church got whatever they petitioned for. Under customary law, Christian parents back then were only allowed to say "no" when the petitioned request from parents were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When children were declined a request, they were given reassurance and an explanation. Even then, parents usually declined petitioned requests using nicer-sounding language, such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen". 

Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! These were the needs met by parents in children, in the Early Church. Sleep was lumped in with attachment, and that was due to the fact that when children were tired, mothers co-slept next to their children, gelling a bond that would last a lifetime. Christian parents in the Early Church never deprived their children of a need, with benign wants being seen as attachment needs.

My trauma is based off of the concept of "benign" deprivation. As a child, I wanted to move to a cheaper house in a city that I had a special interest in. My parents could have moved, but they instead thought I was simply asking too much of parents. However, children should get whatever they want/need, no matter how big or how small. Another reason for conflict as a child was getting what I wanted in the store. A notable time was when I wanted something at a supermarket, and threw a temper tantrum when I didn't get what I wanted. Maybe such behavior would be bad in adults, but children need a break due to immature brain development. Ultimately, my grandmother could have just given me what I wanted, and not argued back with me as a child. Soon after, my grandfather did the right thing and gave me spending money, which was also the parenting custom of the Early Church. I forgive the adults that abused me, but I don't forget what they did to me. Child entitlement is the one you let go, as it usually won't last long if left go.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel entitled to respect from children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist on respect from children. However, parents are deserving of absolutely nothing just for existing. Mutual respect is when children learn to respect their parents, the right way.

Mutual respect is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. Good works is defined here as doing good things for children, meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, this respect came in the form of closeness to parents, as opposed to fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children were attached at the hip of mothers, ranging next to her, crying a deathly and screeching cry when mom left the room, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, Christian mothers cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. When children and mothers under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up their children next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin closeness, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin contact merely when simply picked up.

Children in biblical times were respectful towards their parents. This respect came in the form of playful affection on the part of children. Most children were cooperative in the form of following mom around, in a peaceable and orderly fashion, like goslings to a mother goose. Most children obeyed their parents not out of fear of punishment, but due to strong trust in parents. Children were especially easygoing after age 6, when they played freely in the form of wet and messy play - but they sure cooperated with parents otherwise, giving back in the form of things such as willingly doing chores without even being prompted to do chores, just to please mom and dad. Teenagers in attachment parenting homes even find a place of employment, usually flipping burgers or bussing tables.

Parents are non-deserving of anything coming from a child. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Respect in parenting does not come for free on a silver platter. Respect is not a right for parents, with the burden of proof in a mutual submission relationship falling squarely onto parents. If you loved your children the right way, meaning the gentle parenting way, you should find that your children are willing to care for you as you age.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored by their parents. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents demand that children honor them. However, the fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment simply says to care for your parents as they age. 

God's Law states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

This commandment does not prescribe that children never talk back to parents. This is a common misinterpretation of the Fifth Commandment. The fact of the matter is that the commandment to honor parents simply means that children should ideally take care of their parents as they age. However, when parents were abusive towards children, the adult children had the right to shun their parents.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting a child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Honoring parents today means caring for aging parents. It is not a moral crime to speak against parents. It is not a moral crime to defy parents. Instead, children should take care of their aging parents, as a thank-you for all of the fond memories made with parents. However, if parents were abusive, adult children were allowed to shun their abusive parents.

The reason for the Fifth Commandment was that adult children, in biblical times, would gaslight their parents or beat them to get what they wanted. The Ancient Israelites had an elder abuse problem, so much that the Ten Commandments had to include a commandment to honor parents. God writes to His Audience. Today, the Fifth Commandment serves as a means to encourage the giving of thanks for having good parents. Some parents deserve to be shunned for how they treated their children, and so children were given the option to shun their abusive parents if they felt that their abusive parents were that horrid in how they dealt with their children.

I myself have a complicated relationship with my abusive parents. I have forgiven my parents for their abusive behavior, but I sure haven't forgotten. I was punished by lawful means, meaning false imprisonment tactics such as time-out or grounding, alongside the rare disciplinary spanking done "out of love". My parents followed the secular law while abusing me, and that part was the worst part. If my parents did not apologize, they would be shunned by my court entirely. Some parents need to be shunned by their children in order to wake up and smell the coffee. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children from abuse

Many parents think that the ancients had no concept of child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most parents instead believe that the Bible calls for the punishment of children. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible has its own definition of child abuse, namely anything perceived by the child as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they did not get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards children was seen back then in the Early Church as parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a concept of trauma. When a child went atheist, that was seen as a sign of abuse in a child. Adults who were atheist were seen not as arrogant, but instead were seen as trauma victims.

Child abuse by parents was an act that was shunned across the board, with the pro-social rumor spread throughout the church that a specific parent or set of parent. The pro-social rumor usually started with the children, and ended with the council. When the council handed down the verdict, the child was given a choice between going with parents and going with pedophiles, with children usually choosing pedophiles, and with pedophiles only getting close to children in order to lactate, as opposed to a barter setup.

The Bible, in and of itself, is an anti-spanking document. All 88 of the books of the Bible where written by Jews, and Christ Himself was a Jew. No Jew worth mentioning ever punished a child. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting in his secular writings. The rod in Proverbs refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, with striking another Jew only being allowed in a courtroom setting. Since Christ endured corporal punishment, the Early Christians shunned all force in parenting. Children were seen as completely blameless, except for fornication or drunkenness offenses, where parents confronted the child for committing a blasphemy offense upon their baptism, with the sin guilt counting only in retrospect, with all children dying before knowing Christ welcoming them into the Kingdom of Heaven. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (meaning not more)

Some parents have to deal with it. A child being oppositional and defiant in how they relate to parents. Most parents think that such a child needs firmer limits. However, the fact of the matter is that parents of a child with ODD should be setting less limits, meaning not more.

Proper dealing with ODD in children involves the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting a child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking- child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Most parents think that a child with ODD needs more limits, usually meaning more punishment in order to control a child. However, there is no way to control a child. Christian parents in the Early Church did not use controlling measures in parenting. The ancients knew better than parents today that whenever you try to control an individual, they seek to control back. This is called the counterwill. The idea is to give up the fight with your child, and give in to their demands. 

Some children were difficult to manage even in the Early Church. Some children did not want the standard warmth and sustenance from mothers. These children were known as stand-beside-me children. The main limit given to a stand-beside-me child was to stand beside mothers, even if most stand-beside-me children disregarded that limit. A stand-beside-me child was a willful child, and yet they were the most prized of all children. Punishing even a stand-beside-me child - meaning especially a stand-beside-me child - was seen as unlawful under any circumstance. The ancients even then knew that some children cannot be controlled, and so the more willful the child, the more freedom the child had. Most children were constantly attached at the hip when younger than age 6, but stand-beside-me children had to be instructed to stand next to mom at all times, except when playing freely outside, with stand-beside-me children leaving the side of mom sooner than most children, thus playing freely when most children were afraid to leave the side of mothers until age 6. Stand-beside-me children were given freedom to roam from an early age, even when most children wanted closeness and snuggling with mom.  

ODD is a common disorder, and usually is secondary to another disorder such as autism, bipolar disorder, and/or ADHD. Usually, all that is needed is a change in medication. Until then, the parents of a child simply have to keep their children safe. Sometimes, the autism itself is the co-morbid disorder, in which case the parent simply has to accept their child, flaws and all, stroking the child's ego, as there is no medication for autism as a standalone primary diagnosis. 

I myself was never diagnosed with ODD. However, I fit the diagnostic criteria to a T. The only reason that my doctor didn't give the label was to avoid the stigma attached to the diagnosis. ODD means a child is completely uncontrollable in their behaviors. Most children have a counterwill, but a child with ODD has a counterwill through the roof, to the point where you can't stop them even as their parent. But, adults sure tried to be controlling with me, and punished me at home and at school when they couldn't manage my behaviors. I myself have trauma as a result of a battle of wills between adults and me as a child. I had teachers who listened to me, and I hardly gave them any trouble. Even when medicated, I still was afraid of parents, meaning I distrusted parents with their children, meaning my anger turned into anxiety. I ultimately had to put my trust in a God that would avenge the abuse that I suffered. I myself now have a trauma from entitled parents, thanks to adults who sought to control someone that could not be controlled. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that they need to use the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents tell their children "no" all of the time. However, the fact of the matter is that children need to hear the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Instead, children should hear your "yes" far more often than your "no". 

Saying "yes" to children frequently is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works are defined here as doing good things for children, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolute nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refer here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of s child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The word "no", when used frequently, constitutes child abuse under the biblical definition. Whenever a child hears the word "no", it offends them. When parents defended their choice to say "no" to a child all of the time, they were deemed parent entitled as parents. The only way to righteously offend your child is to reassure children of your good intentions, in a gentle parenting voice, like only a gentle parent could do. 

Under the customary law of the time, the word "no" was used seldom by parents, meaning almost never. Christian parents in the Early Church were only allowed to say "no" to a child under the strictest of circumstances, namely when the petitioned request from a child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually used nicer sounding language than a flat out "no", with phrases such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen".

The depraved and entitled parents who punished their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child throwing a kicking and screaming temper tantrum. Most parents punish their children when they throw temper tantrums. However, crying in and of itself is a normal phase of child development. Temper tantrums happen when your child doesn't feel heard.

Tending to crying children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for your children, meeting the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents , who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church/ Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Temper tantrums are a leading motive for child punishments nationwide these days. However, there was a day when children didn't regularly throw themselves onto the floor in the form of a temper tantrum. Instead, Christian parents in the Early Church tended to the every cry of their child. Children growing up in the Early Church almost never kicked and screamed on the ground in a temper tantrum, and that was because mothers tended to the cries of children, not ignoring any cry coming from children.

Crying is a normal phase of child development. Temper tantrums only happen when children are punished for crying. A normal reason for a child crying is separation anxiety. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church felt detached from mom, they cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. That crying would not stop until all of the child's needs were fully met. Usually, but not always, children cried out of fear that mothers would "go away and never come back". Once that need was ruled out, mom kept diagnosing until all of the child's vulnerable needs were met, through trial and error. 

Temper tantrums happen when children are punished merely for crying. When that happens, children learn to hide their emotions, until the child blows their top because they can't hold it in any longer. Christian parents in the Early Church avoided this by tending to the every cry of children, from day one. Children cried intensely for mom during the first 6 years of childhood, not stopping the cries until all of the child's needs are met. Whenever a child is kicking and screaming on the ground, they are not being listened to. 

Lawful trauma can be understood as a battle of wills. Whenever you seek to control a child, they seek to control back. The way to attachment parenting is to give up the fight with your child, and give into the cries for vulnerable needs. You may find that your child isn't asking for much. In most cases, all they need is YOU as their mother. I myself was a willful child growing up, and when adults battled me, I battled back. I only got along with teachers who didn't battle me. Whenever you punish a child like I was punished, they fight back, and keep fighting until the parents give up the fight. In the Early Church, children were given warmth from day one, and thus did not throw temper tantrums at all. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent. for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why children need a secure attachment in order to be cooperative

Many parents think that back talk is bad behavior, meaning worthy of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents do not allow for their child to talk back. However, the fact of the matter is that children cooperate best when given a secure attachment with mom. 

The Fifth Commandment says to honor your parents. This commandment was repeated many times in the New Testament, including in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Back talk happens when children are treated in an adversarial manner by parents. Most parents see parenting as a never-ending battle of wills between parent and child. The key to getting a child to listen to you is to give up the fight, and give into the cries of your child.

Whenever Christian mothers heard the cries of their child, mothers cooed before picking up their child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed something, they got it.

Whenever a cry was followed by a coo from mothers, it was deemed a secure attachment. Whenever a child is living in a securely attached home, they usually are more cooperative, but in a way that is affectionate in nature. In an attachment parenting home, children usually on their best behavior after age 6. 

Christian parents in the Early Church simply had to wait 6 years before getting cooperation from children. Children under age 6 constantly cried out for their mother, and would not stop until the need was fully met. When children past age 6 were out and about with parents, they were always there, trailing behind their mothers, like goslings to a mother goose. When children wanted something, they were given their own spending money. However, if children ran out of money, mom would always supplement. Children past age 6 may have engaged in wet and messy play, but otherwise were peaceable and orderly in their ways. Children did not have to work for money, with children instead receiving free money from parents. 

Children growing up in the Early Church, past age 6, were sometimes given requests from parents. When this happened, children instinctively cooperated with parents. Children were given room for rebellion, but usually, they surrendered to the loving arms of mothers, trusting parents in all things. But, first, parents need to get through the first 6 years of childhood, when children cry out loud, with these cries being for YOU as their mother. After age 6, you will usually have a child that trusting in your word enough to listen to your word. That trust was based off of the warmth and reassurance of Christian parents in the Early Church, meaning that all that work during the first 6 years of childhood pays off as a reward for being so kind and loving towards a crying child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!