Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents abuse their children by way of false imprisonment tactics such time-out, and then the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". However, the Bible commands something different than this setup. Time-in can come in many forms, but the biblical way of doing time-in is mammary closeness. 

Time-in is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refer to doing good things for children, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Time-in can be done in various ways. Some parents send their children to a calming corner, and other parents stoop down to the child's level to reassure them. However, there is one biblical way of doing time in - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up their child, with the young child - under age 6 - being offered mammary closeness. From there, the mother diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed from mom, they got it. Most of the time, all children needed was mammary closeness with mom.

Breastfeeding and mammary closeness go hand in hand. Whenever a milk-dependent child growing up in the Early Church cried, the first thing that mom checked for was milk-hunger, meaning the mother would offer her teat to the child. If the child cried after or during the breastfeeding session, mothers tested for other needs. Children usually refused the teat at around age 2, but in some cases, children did not refuse the teat of mothers until age 6 or even beyond. Mothers breastfed their children whenever called to, including even in public. When the child refused the teat of the mother, they were ready for solid food. 

The crying of a child has a specific biological purpose - to break down the mother, and keep breaking down the mother, until the mother has no option but to give in to the child's cries for vulnerable needs. It sure gets your attention, doesn't it? It should get your attention, as that aspect of childhood is designed by God so that children get what they need from children. 

The female breasts are not there primarily for men to ogle. Instead, the female breasts were designed by God to nurture children. The cleavage of the breasts were meant to cushion children's tears, and the nipples were meant to nourish the child. Maybe men will find that side of a woman attractive, but the boobs are there for the child, not primarily the man of the house. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!