Swaddling blankets: How to pacify a crying child in public

Many parents want to know how to stop a child from crying out loud in public. This is a common wish on the part of parents. However, there is a way to stifle crying in a young child that is informed as to attachment needs. This method involves swaddling blankets.

The use of swaddling blankets is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents, owing nothing in return to parents. Good works here means doing good things for your child, meeting your child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt/ 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen/in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating the child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, the children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. These swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them -  were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Whenever children cried, they were held even closer to the bosom of mothers. The swaddling blankets then were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

The cries of a child were pacified when they were held close to mom's bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets served to pacify the child, meaning quiet tears. Whenever in the market with mom, children who were wrapped up in swaddling blankets simply pointed to what they wanted on the shelf, and the mother bought the item for the child. Older children - past age 6 - were given their own spending money, and then the child quickly learned the value of money.

Most childhood crying took place during the first 6 years of life. When that happened, mothers were always there, holding their child close, in mammary closeness. Most of the time, children cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. However, when children were swaddled in public, they simply teared up quietly, usually because they wanted something from jthe shelf, which all parents then were willing to provide. 

Children, in most cases, did not mind being wrapped up in swaddling blankets. They were instead at peace next to their mothers. They also enjoyed the view from mom's bosom. There is no need to kneel before your child. Just pick them up if you want to reassure the child. The best way to hold your child in public is in swaddling blankets. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Attention-seeking behavior in children: Why attention is a core need for children

Many parents have been there. A child is just begging for attention from their parents. Most parents punish their children when they engage in attention-seeking behavior. However, the fact of the matter is that attention is a core need for children.

Giving your child well needed attention is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents, owing nothing in return to parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for children, meeting the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children's behaviors sometimes just beg for attention. There is a reason for this - they need attention. Children growing up in the Early Church were given tender loving care every time they cried. All a child back then needed to do to get the attention of mom and dad was to cry, and the mother then cooed at the child before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need.

Children today do things to get attention, and they usually do so by crying out loud in a way that begs for attention. Most parents are given the advice to give an ignoring message. However, whenever a child cries for attention, that is what they need. 

Children who were older than age 6 also demanded attention by way of whining. Christian parents in the Early Church tended to the whining of children as well as the cries, and they always were able to diagnose a need. Usually, all the child needed was mom, and mom only. 

The idea is to give up the fight, and give into the demands for attention coming from a crying or whining child. You may find that the child isn't asking for much. Whining is a sign of maturity in a child, meaning one step up from crying.

Attention is a core need of any child. There are five basic categories of childhood needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and/or attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! The core attachment need of them all is attention. Infants aren't the only ones needing love when they are upset. Even older children need tender loving care from parents. 

Most of the time, attention-seeking behavior in young children - under age 6 - comes from separation anxiety. Children growing up in the Early Church who needed attention from a parent cried a deathly, screeching cry that breaks down the parents until they give in to the child's vulnerable needs. Most parents interpret this as a child "undermining" parents and "asking for attention". However, the fact of the matter is that they need attention, and so that is what they should get. Children under age 6 usually cry out of fear that mom would "go away and never come back". 

Attention-seeking behavior in a school setting can happen many ways that are disruptive to a learning environment. However, the children who are disruptive the most need the teacher's attention the most. I have come to oppose the existence of school due to how they treat chronically disruptive students. But, since school is here to stay, and not everyone can homeschool, schools should ideally have an IEP for every student, and with children not being suspended simply for being disruptive. Teachers should note that a warm embrace from a teacher is not against the law. Sometimes, a child needs a warm embrace from a teacher when they are acting out to get attention. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why the word "no" should be used rarely (meaning almost never)

Many parents think the word "no" should be used frequently and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents use the word "no" all of the time. However, the fact of the matter is that children need to hear the word "no" rarely, meaning almost never. Children instead need to hear "yes" more than "no"

The frequent use of the word "yes" is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents, owing nothing in return. Good works are defined here as doing good things for your child, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement.  This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children..In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents were punished their children were charged with kidnapping,  with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he surely loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Many times, childhood upset comes from hearing the word "no". Most American parents use the word "no" frequent and often. This frequent use of the word "no" often leads to temper tantrums in younger children. However, Christian parents in the Early Church used the word "no" sparingly, meaning almost never. Whenever children cried, mothers swooped in and cooed at her child before picking the child up, and from there, she diagnosed the need of the child before meeting it.

Children growing up in the Early Church got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Whenever children petitioned for what they wanted, they got what they wanted in most cases. Whenever the child was offended by the word "no", the parent had to reassure the child of their good intent. If the parent got defensive at all when confronted for saying "no", including by children, it was deemed parental entitlement, with any offense stemming from parental entitlement being child abuse. If the parent was entitled at all, they needed to give a full-blown apology to their children later, or else be excommunicated from the church. 

Even in the case of the word "no" being necessary, most Christian parents in the Early Church used nicer sounding ways to decline needs. These statements include things such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen", with a reassurance and an explanation given to the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why back talk is not bad behavior

Many parents punish their children when they talk back. In many American homes, talking back is the only reason that a child was ever punished. Growing up with a parent abuser, back talk was the number one cause of punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that back talk is not bad behavior, and should not be punished as such. 

Back talk is a common behavior in older children and teenagers. The solution to this problem is the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here to doing good things for your child, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the child, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children today are punished all of the time, including for talking back. Most American parents insist on respect from children, and are sorely disappointed when they don't get the respect that they feel that they deserve. However, Christian parents in the Early Church never punished their children for anything, including back talk. 

Whenever a child growing up in the Early Church talked back, mothers in particular diagnosed the vulnerable need behind the defiance. The idea then was to give up the fight with the children, and give into the child's petitioned wants. You may find that they aren't asking for much. Most of the time, all a child needs is time in with mom.

Healthy rebellion in teenagers is not rolling eyeballs or open defiance, but instead involves a push to do things independently. Think things such as your child making you dinner, or doing other chores around the house. There is no need to insist on chores - it happens naturally.

Children who are raised in a secure attachment rarely ever disobey their parents. Such children are usually cooperative, but in an affectionate way. Most children growing up in the Early Church listened to their parents, not due to fear of punishment, but because they trusted in parents. A child then could also cry easily when they needed something from parents, with mothers diagnosing the need before meeting that need. Parents get a break from constant crying once the child turned age 6. Children past age 6 were cooperative, but in an affectionate way.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous submission: How to properly love your child

Many parents think that they love their children, and at the same time, punish their children and call it "love". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that love is submission, and submission is love. Parents are to submit to their children, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

Christian love for your child is spelled out in Matthew 22:35-40 KJV:

Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and all thy soul, and all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all of the law and the prophets.

The Greek root word translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers, in the context of parenting, performing good works for children. Good works are defined as doing good things for your neighbor, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Children in biblical times were loved by parents just as one would love a neighbor. See also 1 Cor. 13:4-8.

The concept of righteous submission is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refer to doing good things for your child, meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Punishment is not a proper form of love for anyone, especially a child. Love is instead defined as submission to your neighbor, including doing good things for your child. Nowhere in the biblical context is there room at the inn for punishing a child and calling it "love". Child punishment is not love, but rather is a form of hatred towards a child. 

Christian parents in the Early Church did not insist on children loving them, but instead loved their children, with this love coming in the form of good works on the part of parents. "Love parents" is a man-made teaching, as parents in biblical times loved their children first. The most a parent can look forward to while their children are still children is their children being affectionate with them as a parent. Affection is not Christian love, and thus children should not be expected to love their parents - love is a verb, and a strong verb at that.

If you avoid punishing your child in all instances, the rewards involve your child taking care of you when you are aging as a parent. If you submit to your child when they are little, the hard work pays off later, with children caring for their parents as they age. However, if your parents expected you to submit, or otherwise abused you by your perceptions, you can shun them. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the law of the land is enough to define child abuse. Most parents think that the Bible has no answers as to what child abuse is defined as. However, the Bible has a definition of child abuse, namely whatever the child perceives as abuse.

The Greek root denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. All parent anger towards children was seen as parental entitlement then. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived by children as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to a child losing heart. Ultimately, this highlighted word refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a basic understanding of trauma. Whenever a child lost faith in God, and became atheist, the parents were put to shame, and were blamed for a non-believing child leaving the faith.

Child abuse was seen under Christian law was defined in biblical times as any abuse perceived by the child as such. Most cases in biblical times were largely self-reported. Whenever a child came forward about child abuse that they were experiencing, the parent was rebuked. The evidence gathered by the rebuke was then turned over to the council, and from there, both parents were put before a council of 3 elders. Christian law then came in the form of an inquisitorial system of jurisprudence, where the council guided the investigation into the parents.

The writers of all 88 books of the Bible were written with an anti-spanking bias. This is because all of the writers were Jews, and Jews never endorsed punitive parenting of any sort. Even King Solomon endorsed attachment parenting in his secular writing, with the rod verses referring to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes in the case of an adult being convicted of a criminal offense. The book of Proverbs is poetry, and is not to be taken literally.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that temper tantrums should not be allowed to happen in a family home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children when they throw a temper tantrums. However, the fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are not bad behavior, but instead evidence of a bad relationship with your child. 

Tending to temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting in the good works of parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for your child, such as meeting the child's every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Temper tantrums do happen a lot today. However, most children growing up in the Early Church did not kick and scream in full tantrum mode. Instead, they cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ever ignore. The mother then picked up the child after cooing at the child, holding the child in mammary closeness, and from there, she diagnosed the child's need before meeting that need. In most cases, all the child needed was warmth and affection with mothers.

Children only throw tantrums as a spill-over of suppressed emotion. Children today are not allowed to even feel their emotions. It all starts when children are punished for crying, which only teaches children how to hide their emotions better. Children growing up in the Early Church instead were allowed their full range of emotions, which was burdensome for the mother during the first 6 years, but paid off with a cooperative, affectionate child later. 

Most cries coming from a child under age 6 are due to separation anxiety. Most children growing up in the Early Church morbidly feared that mom would "go away and never come back". This stage in development mostly happened under age 6. When children don't cry all the time, that's when you should worry - think autism. Most children want their mom from day one, even when she is nowhere to be found. A baby who sleeps through the night from day one is surely autistic.

Whining also happened in biblical times, during the latter years of childhood. Children whine in order to\get your attention, and it sure does get a parent's attention. Children naturally whine when they are petitioning for a vulnerable need. If it happens elsewhere, such as in the case of a want, maybe all the child needs is attachment.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that crying is bad behavior. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children merely for crying. However, the fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior, and instead is a means of self-advocating a need.

Tending to crying in a child is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your child in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest  in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for your child, namely meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return.  See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke....to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments. reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses, stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Crying is not a way that children "undermine" parents. All cries from children instead are a means to communicate a need. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers, intended to put children at ease. Whenever the mother cooed at her children, they immediately had their cries pacified. Cooing simply tells children that they are heard, and that their voice matters. Usually, children growing up in the Early Church needed attachment with mom, in which case mammary closeness did the trick. 

There are five main categories of needs in children; food, water, shelter, transportation, and/or attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Whenever a child needed something, they cried out loud, with mom scrambling to find the need behind the cry. 

Children growing up in the Early Church did not throw massive temper tantrums like they do today. Instead, children simply cried out loud, and kept crying until the need in the child was met. The most common antecedent for tears in children was separation anxiety. Cries for attachment in children was a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. Today's children aren't allowed to feel in the way that they were allowed to back then.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent. for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the wrong choice to make as a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice for a parent to make. However, not only does co-sleeping gel a bond with a child, but it also protects children from child sexual abuse.

I myself have trauma from not being allowed to co-sleep with my mom. My father would lash out and become violent when I tried to sneak into bed with my mom. However, the fact of the matter is that God opposes this sort of behavior on the part of parents .

Righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents/ This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 refuse to go to bed. This bedtime refusal is a common excuse for punishing a child. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are too young to be sleeping on their own. Children, until age 6, have a morbid fear of being devoured by predators. Maybe you think there are no predators today. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse takes place as a bedtime ritual. However, Christian mothers in the Early Church co-slept with their children. The father could not rape the child, as the mom was right there. The mother, if necessary, used herself as a human shield for the father's sexual wrath. Child sexual abuse was a rare offense in the Early Church, and in the biblical context as a whole.

The main excuse for parents not co-sleeping next to their children comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with terms such as "sleep dependence". However, children growing up in the Early Church co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. However, even in the case of extended co-sleeping, co-sleeping always has an end to it. Most extended co-sleeping is due to autism, bipolar disorder, and/or ADHD. I myself co-slept next to my mother until age 16, which was when I wanted to insist on independence from mom.

Co-sleeping is the ultimate way to gel a bond with your child. Righteous co-sleeping is the centerpiece in the secure attachment between parent and child. In the Early Church, the family bed came entirely in the nude. Fathers hung up their robe when entering the house, with the mother hanging up her dress. Children went naked wherever they went, including when in bed next to mom. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: How to prevent child sexual abuse (before it happens)

It is the worst fear of many parents. Their child fell prey to a child sexual abuser. However, the main model of child protection today comes in the form of collective responsibility. However, all adults have an individual responsibility to abstain from sexually abusing a child. Children have the right to protect themselves from child sexual abuse. Whenever a child refuses to go with a certain adult, think child rapist, and listen to your child.

Children self-protect means that children have the right to avoid an adult due to the child perceiving risk in an adult. Most children refuse to go with a sexual abuser, and this avoidance happening out of nowhere usually. Children never lie about abuse. They don't try to ruin the lives of adults. All a child wants is to be believed. If your child confides into you about an adult being creepy, keep them safe from the adult in question.

Adults have a duty to abstain from sexually abusing a child, in the form of righteous avoidance. Part of righteous avoidance is righteous masturbation. The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to any old sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think later, but if you find yourself doing the deed, you should not have even approached her. Even when the child was right there, it is the deed that counts. Doing the deed is defined as flirting or propositioning with children, or else touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. 

I myself am a pedophile, and I make the conscious choice every day to not sexually abuse a child. I can tell that most adults don't take that responsibility seriously like that. The main way to abstain from sexual abuse as an adult is to masturbate righteously, without pornography, in order to stay out of trouble. Most of us as pedophiles are the last people to harm a child, with me being the exception - I myself was an antisocial "flirt" in relation to children. An abuser pedophile acts on the surface in most cases, meaning in the form of sexual harassment. It is one thing to admit to being a pedophile, but when you are obvious about your advances towards a child, maybe it is time to reel things in. I myself was an obvious abuser, meaning a joke pedophile with a kernel of truth to the joke. 

Some children are blind to the risk of child sexual abuse towards them. Those children either are clinically pedophiles or else are predestined to become a pedophile once they reach age 16. Most pedophilic children don't have a natural fear of being sexually abused by an adult. 

Every single adult is guilty in relation to children, as any old adult could sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. The key to avoiding sexually abusing a child is to righteously masturbate to sexual thoughts of children, Usually, adults can completely abstain once they spend away the sexual desires towards children. Most adults are attracted to teenagers of the opposite sex, with 20% of men having a secondary sexual desire for prepubescent children. Only 1-2% of the male population are pedophiles, and they are already aware of their desires towards children, with child sexual abuse coming from an unaware level of attraction to children. The only way out of trouble with children is to make yourself aware of your adult attraction to children, meaning spend it away until it is all gone. If it doesn't go away after a few tries, you are a pedophile and need to own up to that. 

A pedophile is an individual with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14, with this attraction usually visible as an individual with autism whose specialty in terms of knowledge and expertise is children. If they get along great with children, despite being autistic, think pedophile. Most autistic adults do not get along well with children at all. Most pedophiles fit the autism acceptance profile of child smarts, with most of these pedophiles supporting children's rights. Pedophilic adults are amongst the least of adults to harm a child in any way. These pedophiles exist today, meaning not only in ancient times, with me fitting the diagnostic criteria to a T. I myself am self-diagnosed as a pedophile, meaning it is a self-diagnosis that denotes my struggle with sexual desires towards children. Pedophilia can be managed much like any other mental illness, and usually, they only need a therapist in order to unload baggage and having their struggles listened to, like listening to someone's heartbeat. I myself have a mother and a therapist to talk to, as well as a group of trauma survivors. That's all a pedophile needs - someone to listen to them. It is a myth that pedophilia can only be treated in an inpatient setting, as a pedophile simply needs listening and validation, in the form of compassionate empathy. 

Aren't we all guilty of abuse towards children as adults? Most adults can easily be profiled based on how children react to them. The main type of abuser is the mean adult. A sexually entitled adult is called a creep by a child. Whenever an adult is called mean or creepy by a child, think abuser of some sort. I myself was called creepy by a child, or else was given that treatment by a child. Maybe I have earned my keep in relation to children since then, but I don't say. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let then descend into torrents of Hell-fire, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that punishment is an acceptable way of dealing with a child. Most American parents use time-out as a means of being controlling towards a child. However, the proper way of dealing with a child's upset is time-in. Time-in can come in many forms. but with only one form of time-in being biblical in nature - mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting in the good works of parents. Good works are defined here as doing good things for your child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke... to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context. as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Time-in is seen by most parenting experts as a modern way of dealing with an upset child. However, time-in, in fact, happened in biblical times. There are many ways to do time-in, but there is one way to do it biblically - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, with the child usually being held in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. From there, the mother diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Mammary closeness and breastfeeding go hand in hand. Whenever milk-dependent children cried, they were offered the teat of mothers. Mothers breastfed whenever and wherever they were called to, including in public. When children wanted to move onto solid foods, they pushed away the teat of the mother. Usually, children were ready for solid food by age 2, but sometimes, the breastfeeding happened until age 6 or even beyond.

The female breasts were not primarily designed as something for men to sexualize. The bosom of mothers is shaped in just the right way by God to nurture a young child. The idea is to hold your child next to your cleavage, in skin-on-skin format. The nipples are there in case the child still needs to suckle the teat of mothers.

Most childhood cries are due to separation anxiety. The idea behind comforting a child with separation anxiety is to hold the child next to your bosom, in mammary closeness. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked outside of the family home. Whenever the child was merely held, it came in the form of skin-on-skin mammary closeness. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke not your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need ALL of what they need

Many parents feel the need to ignore certain needs of a child. This is a common method of cutting corners as a parent. Most American parents insist on children not having certain needs, in order to make room for what the child "really" needs. This is what is called "benign" deprivation.

The concept of "benign" depravation is prohibited under the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with the child resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works was defined then as doing good things for a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement/ This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings/ Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Most parents in America only meet some of the child's needs, while ignoring other needs. "Benign" deprivation refers to parents ignoring some of the child's needs, in order to save room for what the child "really" needs. However, Christian parents in the Early Church met the EVERY need of a child, without exception. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. 

In a "benign" deprivation setup, children are punished merely for crying out for a vulnerable need. Only a few of the child's needs are met, with the rest of the needs being grounds for punishment once the child cries out for those needs. However, children need their EVERY need met, without punishment for their self-advocacy for vulnerable needs.

Children usually did not hear the explicit word "no" when being denied a request. Instead, most Christian parents in the Early Church cushioned the blow by saying nicer-sounding alternatives to the word "no", namely phrases such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen". Parents were also forbidden from declining a request that points to a need. Children usually cry in order to have a vulnerable need met, and never to "undermine parental authority". 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel entitled to respect from their children. This is a common want amongst parents. Most American parents demand that their children respect them. However, the fact of the matter is that respect is earned in parenting. The concept behind respect for parents is respecting children first.

The teaching of mutual respect is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling on parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, this respect came in the from of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mother, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with this co-sleeping closeness happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with the child experiencing skin-on-skin contact when they were merely picked up. 

Children did respect their parents in biblical times. This respect for parents initially came in the form of a cooperative, affectionate child. From there, adult children took good care of their aging parents. First, the parents gave to their child, and then. from there, the child gave back to their parents. However, this only happened if the parents were warm and caring for their children while the children were still dependent on them. The key is to give up the fight with your child, and give in to the child's demands - you may find that they are not asking for much. 

Respect for parents is earned, meaning not given to parents for free on a silver platter. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to a child. Nor even respect. Not even affection. Not even forgiveness. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children

Many parents believe that child abuse wasn't a concept that parents in biblical times had. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that Christian parents in the Early Church had a concept of child abuse. Child abuse is defined under the Law as anything perceived by a child as abusive. The root of all child abuse is parental entitlement.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement involves a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any anger towards a child was seen as parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement on the part of parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul,  and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. Atheism was a thing in biblical times, and was seen then as a sign of trauma. Whenever an adult went atheist, it was seen as a shame onto the parents, not the child. 

Punishment of a child, meaning all punitive parenting, was seen as an offense against the child. Punitive parenting was defined then as any parenting based off of anger, with this anger being seen as a form of parental entitlement. Parental entitlement was seen as an offense in and of itself, much like any form of entitlement.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by an anti-spanking source, as all of the biblical writers were Jewish, with Jews always being anti-spanking. When parents in the Early Church were caught punishing their children, they were brought before the council to be questioned by the church elders. The Early Christian law was an inquisitorial system of justice, meaning the council directed the investigation into the parents. The deacons then profiled for parents, with pedophiles being the "child saviors" of the time. All the pedophiles\were allowed to do was nurse the child back to health by way of male lactation - sexual relations with a child was always banned, and always will be banned under God's Law.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents have to deal with it. A child crying for seemingly no reason at all. This is a common situation that parents find themselves in. Most parents punish their children as a means of dealing with children crying seemingly out of nowhere. However, the fact of the matter is that children usually need YOU and YOU only as a reassurance for separation anxiety.

Tending to the cries of separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents perform good works for their child, with children resting in the good works of parents, with good works being defined as doing good things for your child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Most parents experience their children crying out of nowhere. This is a common reason for parents punishing their children. However, all crying in children has a reason for it. The most common reason for crying is separation anxiety. 

Children growing up in the Early Church cried whenever they wanted mom to stay within their line of sight. Children then who were under age 6 morbidly feared mothers "going away and never coming back". Children cried a screeching, deathly cry when they wanted attachment with mom. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need.

Children growing up in the Early Church, when under age 6, needed constant reassurance that mom wasn't going anywhere. Children cried loud and deathly cries whenever they needed bonding time with mom. This is when mothers cooed at the children, with cooing being a primal vocalization that put children at ease.

Children in biblical times, unlike children today, were able to experience the full range of emotions, including cries due to separation anxiety. Children today are not allowed to experience their full range of emotions. Thus, children suppress their separation anxiety, with the crying fits being the tip of the emotional iceberg that is a child today.

Children under age 6 need constant reassurance that mom isn't going anywhere. It is recommended that mothers stay home for the first 6 years of childhood. This is what was done in the Early Church, and this was because children otherwise were faced with their worst fear - mom seemingly "going away and never coming back". Maybe a woman is capable of work like a man is, but at what cost to the child? It should be safe for mothers to return to work once the children attain the age of 6, and cease the cries for attachment.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your child

Many parents feel the need to be punitive with their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want to avoid being seen as pampering their child. However, the fact of the matter is that parents are obligated to pamper and baby their children, especially during the first 6 years of childhood. 

Righteous pampering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossian 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with the child resting securely in the good works of parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament. punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their child were charged with kidnapping - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking. and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not refer to any old pampering, but instead pampering and babying children in a certain specific way, using the context as a guidepost. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting the child's need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period  Whatever children needed, they got it. Whenever mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her young child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their parents. with this co-sleeping sustaining warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth, with children experiencing skin-on-skin contact merely when picked up.

After children attained the age of 6, children were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Older children who played outside engaged in wet and messy play. Children past age 6 explored the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, playing in the mud. However, children had to check in with mom first, to tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called by name - one by one - and were treated to a nice warm meal, after being cleaned up by mom with a handrag.

Children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltered way. This was because the child could not appreciate the environmental hazards found outside, namely venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. However, even today, children under age 6 had dangers to face while being outside, namely oncoming traffic and would-be kidnappers. Children under age 6 usually want mom and mom only during the first 6 years of childhood, and so it all worked out.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent. for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to children honoring them. This is a common want on the part of American parents. Most American parents insist on honor from their children. However, honoring parents refers ultimately to taking care of aging parents. 

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment does not mean that parents have the right to insist on respect from children. Instead, the Fifth Commandment simply means caring for your aging parents. However, that care for aging parents is earned, with parents getting care from their children as a reward for giving them a memorable childhood. When children were abused at all, they had the right to shun their parents.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Fifth Commandment, when understood in context, does not mean that parents have the right to insist on respect or honor. Instead, parents took good care of their children. In return, children took care of their parents as they aged. However, even then, children had the right to disown and shun their parents if the parents were abusive. 

Honoring parents ultimately refers to giving back to parents after they gave to you when you were a child. I myself was abused by my mother, but I sure give back to her anyway. as she apologized for abusing me. A genuine apology is the only reason an adult child is obligated to forgive their abusive parents. I give back to my mother by paying for dinner at the restaurant. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment. suffering God's Wrath day and night forever\and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Attention-seeking behavior: Why attention is a core need for children

Many parents have to deal with it. A child is simply begging for attention from parents. This is a common aspect of parenting. Most American parents punish their child when they act out to get attention. However, proper Christian parenting is attachment based, with attention being a core need for a child.

Attention is indeed a core need for children in relation to parents, and is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works onto children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brough their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Sometimes, children's behaviors just beg for attention. In most cases, children cried out loud in order to self-advocate for vulnerable needs. A core need of children is attention, meaning children need attention as an attachment need. Children in most cases cry out loud because they need something, with attention being a core need of children.

Children growing up in the Early Church were allowed to cry freely. From there, the mother diagnosed the needs before meeting them. Many times, all the child needed was tender loving attention. So, mothers simply held the child next to her bosom, in mammary closeness. From there, milk-dependent children were nursed to health by way of being allowed to suckle the teat of mothers. 

Older children - past age 6 - whined in order to self-advocate a need. Whining is a mature way of a child self-advocating a need, meaning a step up from crying in terms of maturity. Children growing up in the Early Church only whined when they were self-advocating a need. This whining came in the form of direct self-advocacy for need because children were allowed to feel all of their feelings. Today, children are not allowed to have their own feelings, and thus the actual need is buried in adversarial discourse with a child. 

The key is to give up the fight with your child, and give in to their demands. You may find that your child isn't asking for much. Most of the time, children run straight back to mom for refuge when given the first taste of autonomy. In the Early Church, respect for parents came in the form of warm closeness, usually with children being affectionate with mom. In most cases, that's all a child needs - loving attention from mom. 

Children should not be making messes and wreaking havoc just to get some attention with mom. When raised naturally, they simply cry when they need attention, or else whine if they are older. But, when you ignore your child's attention needs, they will do anything just to get your attention, and that oftentimes means mischief of some sort. Christian parents in the Early Church responded to the every cry of a child, from day one. Children cried often during the first 6 years of childhood, but then switched to whining after turning age 6. Whining only happened rarely, when the child actually needed something. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend\into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to help your daughter in body positivity

Many daughters have had to deal with it. A young girl who doesn't accept the natural form of her body. This is a common issue facing young girls. However, there is room for body positivity in the context of a Christian home. That involves a sexual dynamic known as the "electra" complex.

It says in Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery. But I  say unto you, That whosoever looketh upon a woman to lust after her hath already committed adultery with her in his heart.

The Greek root word translated "lust" is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is good for a man to look the look towards his daughter, and even think the think later. However. there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. "Doing the deed" involves flirting or propositioning a child, as well as touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. Any romance was strictly forbidden, meaning any romantic passions were to be avoided at all costs. The idea is to base a marriage on friendship, not romance. If you find yourself doing the deed, you should not have even approached her. A father's approach towards his daughter is a sign of sexual entitlement, especially if his eyes are wide-open and staring at the sexual target. 

Young girls need a positive male influence as to their body appearance. Whenever a young girl catches the sexual gaze of her father, she learns to love her body. Biology does not discriminate on the basis of looks, meaning even if the daughter is overweight, she catches the eye of her father,

The sexual dynamic of a proper Christian household comes in the form of a criss-cross. The father-daughter dynamic was mutually unrequited. With boys, the attraction was to mothers, in dead end format. The reason for this dynamic is for parents to supervise, as a sexual attraction to children entails the ability to notice every child in sight. 

A big part of body positivity in young girls is knowing they are their father's favorite sexual fantasy. Most of the time, young girls don't mind the fantasy. This is especially true when the child is a little on the chubby side. If the young girl perceives a threat, she will avoid her father, and that will show in his daughters.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! A healthy way to avoid this rut is to masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of children. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous submission: How to love your child (the right way)

Many parents think that they love their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents/ Most American parents insist that their punishment of their child is love. However, love can only mean one thing in relation to children - parent submission.

God's Law states in Matthew 22:35-40 KJV:

Then one of them, which was a lawyer, tempting him, and saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him. Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and all thy soul, and all thy mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all of the law and the prophets.

The Greek root word translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers in the context of parentimg to parent submission. This parent submission comes in the form of good works. Good works here is defined as doing good things for your neighbor, including your child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Love does not insist on praise or recognition. See also 1 Cor. 13:4-8.

The role of children in biblical times was to rest in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in said good works from parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Good works for your child, in the Early Church, meant doing good things for your child. This can include meeting any and every need of a child's vulnerable needs. There are five basic categories of needs in a child; food, water, shelter, transportation, and/or attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment!

Parenting was intended by God to be a servile profession, meaning parenting is a thankless job. A parent was not seen in biblical times as an authority figure, and was instead seen as a selfless caregiver, tending to his/her children, waiting on their children hand over foot, with mothers diagnosing the need before meeting the need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!