Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice as a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents avoid co-sleeping at all costs. However, the fact of the matter is that not only is co-sleeping recommended in the Bible, but also, co-sleeping can prevent child sexual abuse.

Righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parents, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offensive touch or speech stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Bedtime refusal is a leading excuse for parents punishing their children. It is common knowledge that children under age 6 usually refuse to go to bed. Most parents interpret this behavior as the child "undermining" the "authority" of parents. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are nor yet ready to sleep on their own. Most children under the age of 6 have primal fears of being devoured by predators.  You might think that predators are a thing of the past. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse comes in the form of a bedtime ritual, with the abuser barging in on the child and raping the child.  However, Christian mothers in the Early Church solved this problem by co-sleeping next to their child, possibly using herself as a human shield against the sexual wrath of fathers. 

The main excuse for parents not co-sleeping next to their children comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with frightening terms such as "sleep dependence". However, children growing up in the Early Church slept next to mothers, with this co-sleeping setup usually ending at the onset of puberty, which was when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. However, even in the case of extended co-sleeping, all co-sleeping has an end to it, with extended co-sleeping being usually due to autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. I myself did not leave my mothers bed until I turned 16, which was when I wanted to assert my independence. 

Co-sleeping is the centerpiece in forming a secure attachment between parent and child. Maybe some older children can sleep on their own, but at what cost to the child? The family bed in the Early Church was nude in terms of setup, with children snuggling warmly next to mothers, with the mother laying between fathers and children, shielding the children from the father's sexual wrath.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents have been there - a child crying out loud in the store, in a restaurant, or even at home. Parents these days believe that crying is a good reason to punish a child. Most American parents cite the Bible as an excuse to punish a child. However, the fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior. Crying is simply a means of a child self-advocating a need.

Tending to a crying child is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where children are to serve children selflessly, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to; the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parening, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

All children cry at some point during their childhood. This is common knowledge amongst American parents. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church cried, mothers cooed at their child before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Cooing is a primal vocalization intended to put children at ease. When mothers cooed at their children, the cries of children were put at ease, before the child was picked up. From there, children who could speak were able to identify for themselves what they needed. After the need was diagnosed in the child, mom diagnosed the need before meeting it. Most of the time, all the child needed was time with mom.

Crying is the primary means of communication posited by children. Children under age 6 cried frequently and often, and usually, all they needed was time with mom, perhaps even suckling the teat of mother if the child was milk-hungry. Children older than age 6 usually communicated needs by way of whining. Whining is actually a sign of maturity in a child. Eye-rolling in teenagers is also a sign of maturity, meaning they grew out of whining.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of\God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilia awareness month: Why pedophilia is not the same as child sexual abuse

Many parents' worst fear is their child being sexually abused, usually while calling would-be perpetrators "pedophiles". However, what if it was your child being a pedophile. Most parents say they would oppose that sort of disorder in their children. What if your child developed the clinical disorder of pedophilia.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is not a form of narcissism, but instead is a form of autism that specializes in child smarts. Most individuals are generalizers in terms of knowledge, but an individual pedophile has a form of autism that specializes in knowledge about children. Ultimately, pedophilia is an immature parent in parallel format. If you see an adult man being kind and courteous to children, think pedophile. I myself fit the category of clinical pedophilia to a T, when pedophiles and pedophilia were understood in their original understanding. 

The Bible is silent on the concept of pedophilia. There was a term for "child saviors" in the early Greek and Aramaic, but those words are not found in the Bible. The Bible does deal with lust as a sin. However, the Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. It is one thing to look the look, and think the think later. But, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. If you find yourself doing the deed with a woman or a child, you shouldn't have even approached her. Even if the sexual target is right there, it is the intent that counts as the approach.

The hatred of pedophiles, contrary to popular legend, did not start in the children's rights movement. The children's rights movement was looking to bring opposition, but the right kind. Most pedophiles are anti-spanking, and can relate to a child on their level. Most pedophiles have no anger at a child, and thus cannot fathom pro-spanking religious doctrine. 

How can you tell if a child is safe around a pedophile? Look at where the child is running to. If they run to you as the parent, and away from the pedophile, that means that the pedophile is unsafe. Pedophiles, when they are safe, are child magnets, and the children just run to them. 

I myself get mixed messages from children. They don't all run to me, but they don't hide from me either. I have a religious belief against speaking to children. The only way around that is if a child comes to me and wants to play. My religious opposition to speaking to children amounts to an infraction, but if the child treats me as a "creep", I know that I have done wrong. If I did play with a child, I would be a human ragdoll, being dragged into a game - such as hopscotch - I have to go with the child. However, if she did approach me for sexual reasons, I would be morally obligated to turn her down.

Most child sexual abuse is not committed as a career offense. Most of the time, sexual abuse of children is an opportunistic offense that has little to do with pedophiles. Most people who are aware of this nuance are trauma survivors. They were on the receiving end of the abuse, and so if they can seen nuance in their situation, I support them. The fact of the matter is that their abuse  was a normal desire for children that \is repressed, and with that desire coming out sideways, like a ton of bricks.

I myself like to point out that not every one of us as pedophiles has a squeaky clean record. I myself am non-deserving of appearances, and thus I answer to the court whenever being accused of being a pedophile. I myself also don't hide my gaze, and intentionally avoid acknowledging the parent when I look the look at their child. I am not allowed to hide my pedophilia from public visage, except to masturbate righteously. I also budget my words, and remain silent and shamefaced in my public demeanor. I am not afraid of the parents, as much as feel righteous terror in relation to children, and when they call me a "creep", I am caught in a silent stupor. I myself have a sexual harassment problem in relation to children, meaning I approached children sexually in order to flirt with a child. There is an investigation into my advances towards children, and I plan to fully cooperate with the authorities, thus opening my life up to the public. I was accused of rape, but what I did amounted merely to sexual harassment. I understand sexual harassment as a form of sexual assault involving unwanted sexual advances. Most pedophiles operate on the surface. Think the creepy dude who hides his face around  children. 

3 out of 4 pedophiles have not sexually abused a child by the North American research. I myself could have been kept away from my erotic target with stranger danger alone. However, 95% of child victims of sexual abuse know their attacker. But, when it is a stranger, think pedophile of the wrong kind. I myself have to do what is called the "bay of fundy" treatment, and that is because I have a clinical history of mania and impulsivity alongside a self-diagnosis of being a pedophile. I do not perceive this "bay of fundy" treatment as degrading at all. I deserve absolutely nothing in relation to children, and being convicted as a pedophilic adult alone centers my countenance. Maybe I needed a therapist to unload baggage, but most of the work I did myself. I identify strongly ss a pedophile who chooses the straight path in relation to children, meaning I know more than anyone how much of an actual choice it is to sexually abuse a child. It isn't in the cards, or predestined fate. It is simply a choice to avoid a child sexually, as I myself am capable of that choice under the right/wrong conditions.

I myself am a pedophile, and am out to the whole world as of late. I myself have my mother as my accountability partner. She is the type of mother to be easy to talk to about anything. She acknowledges that I am a pedophile, but knows of my choice not to sexually abuse a child. My mother probably feels more worried than she is willing to admit, and I welcome people to worry about me, as I am deserving of absolutely nothing but punishment in relation to children. I just ask that my right to be made known not be usurped. I want people to know what they are dealing with. I actually want people to worry about me concerning my pedophilia, and I'm simply there to listen and validate. I am people smart as a pedophile with autism, meaning in order to be child smart, you need to have some people skills on tab. The bay of fundy will come back, but only if a child wants me as a playmate. I literally did not understand the boundaries around children. Even if a child wants to play, it better be something like hopscotch, or else I will literally turn her down if she wants sexual favors.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. This is a common entitlement on the part of parents. Most parents feel deserving of being honored. However, the fact of the matter is that parents are not entitled to anything from children just for existing.

God's Law states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Many Christian parents interpret this passage as a command not to even speak against parents. However, all this commandment means, in context, is that children should care for their parents as they age. Ultimately, it refers to giving back to patents, if you can. Some parents are completely dishonorable due to being abusive towards their children. No abused child has to honor their parents, as even then, honor from parents is earned.

Honoring parents correctly is a form of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV::

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey"is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above. expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:25-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement  This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards childreen. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Honoring parents is a positive consequence of parenting done right. For the first years of childhood, children were first held close for the first 2 years. During the last years of childhood, children play freely, in terms of wet and messy play. However, the young adult years should be the dearest to parents - when children give back to their parents knowingly and willfully, just to be kind to their aging parents. But, such loving-kindness like that has to come from somewhere.

Punitive parents were discovered by way of Christian law, even in biblical times. When abused children grew up, they shunned their entitled parents. Some parents even were put before the council, where a panel of 3 elders decided the fate of the parents. Gentle parenting was illegal under Roman law, and so Christian parents then disobeyed Rome and obeyed God in parenting. Much of the abusive parenting in biblical times was lawful in nature, with young boys and girls getting a hand-over-knee spanking. The Early Christians shunned this practice, deeming the punitive parents as scofflaw parents within the church community. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of .Heaven is at hand!