Why the Bible says to expand child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible does not have answers as to what defines child abuse. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that there exists a biblical definition of child abuse, namely whatever the child victim perceives as abusive.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. When this sense of entitlement was perceived by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to trauma, meaning long-term psychological damages. Whenever a child lost heart, and became an atheist, Christians blamed the atheist's entitled parents for discouraging the child at hand, not the child who grew up to be an atheist. In the Early Church, atheism was embarrassing for the parents in question, not the child who grew up to be atheist.

Child abuse, in biblical times, was defined, in short, as when children perceived the sense of entitlement in a parent or other adult, it was deemed child abuse. When child abuse was discovered in a home, an individual parishioner rebuked the parents. After enough rebukes, the parents were put before a council of three elders, who decided the fate of the allegedly entitled parents. Christian law then operated as an inquisitorial system of jurisprudence, meaning the council let the church investigation into the set of parents in question. After the guilty verdict was reached, the child was given a choice - go with parents, or go with pedophiles. Most all of the time, the child went with the pedophile, and then they were nursed back to health, with the pedophile lactating for the child. Children were never raped when taken in by pedophiles, and if a child as much as was afraid of a pedophile, there was another investigation into an alleged sexual abuser of children infiltrating the church.

The depraved and entitled parent who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Why adults have individual responsibility in preventing child sexual abuse

Many people blame pedophiles for the epidemic of child sexual abuse that is taking place across our nation. However, contrary to popular belief, sexual abuse of children is not a predestined fate, but rather a lifestyle choice. Most child rapists and child sexual assailants are not pedophiles, by the strict understanding of the diagnostic criteria. Most child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, not simply a predestined fate that every pedophile has. 

Most children know how to protect themselves from child sexual abuse. Whenever children react to the adult in question in a repellant way, think abuser. When children spot a non-abusive pedophile, they instead want to go with the pedophile at hand. Most children get along with non-offending pedophiles in an objectifying way, like a ragdoll. 

The concept to focus on as an adult is adults abstain. It is okay to look the look at children, and maybe also think the think later. However, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. In order to escape the approach, you need to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children.

Child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity. Most child sexual abusers repress their sexual thoughts about children. When you repress something like that, you run the risk of the desire coming out sideways, like a ton of bricks for the child victim. The only way to acknowledge such a sexual desire is to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. This helps spend away the sexual attractions, to the point of inner peace. 

Most child sexual abuse happens along the lines of the family sexual dynamic, which comes in the form of a criss-cross. Most victims are girls, and most of the time, her father is the perpetrator. The father usually approaches his child victim come bedtime, and the daughter usually instinctively goes along with it. However, those attractions should remain mutually unrequited, with the father engaging in sexual fantasy about his daughter. When the father masturbates to sexual thoughts of his child, the young girl ends up having a healthy body image. Child sexual abuse, however, tramples on the body image of young girls.

A pedophile is the last person to sexually abuse a child. Most pedophiles have child smarts in terms of autism, meaning that children are the center of our world. Most pedophiles disclose not in the form of an explosive disclosure, but in the form of a tearful disclosure. I myself instead was an obvious abuser, meaning I followed children around, coming onto them strong enough to creep them out. When the abuse happens in a public venue, think pedophile, but the wrong kind. A pedophile usually is not the one guilty of sexually abusing a child. Pedophiles instead have a collective parent trauma from sexually shaming parents. However, even when no parent is shaming you, you still have to deal with having a dead end in terms of sexual attraction to children. My mother tried to stop me from abusing children, but I had a will of my own. A mental illness is any thought process that interferes with your daily functioning, and pedophilia fits that criteria even if you have someone to talk to like I did - my mother was there to talk to, but I was obsessed with individual children nonetheless. A pedophile should be able to vent about their attraction, just not to the child themselves. My crushes came in the form of train cars, with my mother even hoping for the caboose.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually abuse children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared as the second death for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry out of nowhere

Many parents have gone through this - a child crying out of nowhere. It usually happens during the first 6 years of childhood. This is a common childhood behavior that has a reason behind it. The fact of the matter is that when a child cries out of nowhere, they need YOU.

Tending to children struggling with separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are dutifully and selflessly submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children sometimes cry for seemingly no reason at all. However, there is always a reason for a child crying. In biblical times, children cried out for their mother up until age 6. When children cried, they were morbidly afraid of mom "going away and never coming back". For the first 6 years of childhood, children were either held or else were attached to their mother at the hip.

The problem facing children today is that format are forced to hide their separation anxiety. In contrast, children growing up in the Early Church were allowed to experience all of their emotions, including separation anxiety, with mothers soothing their children especially when they cried out for her presence, in skin-on-skin closeness. Today, most children instead suffer from, in most cases, separation discomfort.

In biblical times, separation anxiety came in the form of a deathly, screaming cry. The child did not stop crying until the mother responded to the cries coming from a child. Usually, mothers soothed the child by reminding them of their presence, in skin-on-skin closeness. 

A secure attachment consists of a child crying, and then the mother cooed at the child. The main reason that children cried was to be reassured that mom wasn't going anywhere. A secure attachment involves a child feeling safe expressing any emotion in relation to a parent figure. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents punish their children in order to discipline them. This is a common act committed by a parent. Most parents insist on some discipline in the family home. However, proper biblical discipline of children is catching them in the act of being good.

Proper discipline in parenting is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, giving to children without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia). This word can mean many things regarding a centered countenance, but in light of Eph. 6:4, stanza 1, this word can only mean one thing in this context - centering the countenance of children with praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of being good. Whenever children were caught in the act of good behavior, parents gave children lavish praise and encouragement with statements from fathers such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned from the Christian example of parents how to behave. However, this good example was backed up by way of lavish praise and encouragement, not punishment and force. This praise and encouragement helped in centering the countenance of children. Children need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to gentle instruction, spoonfeeding children with necessary information. In the Early Christian context, this meant self-directed religious instruction. Fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were praised and encouraged with praises such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers giving pointers on the context. 

Sometimes, children did act up. However, parents then knew what parents today need to know - most childhood behaviors deemed "naughty" were healthy and normal behaviors in a child. Most parents in biblical times laughed with their children when they came in wet and messy from a day's play. When children were defiant, mothers and fathers alike cried out loud in the form of righteous wailing. If children drew on the wall, mothers feigned a complement, and cleaned up the child's artwork later.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way to do time-in

Many parents think that punitive measures in parenting is the way to go. This is a common attitude amongst American parents, with most child abuse happening in the form of time-out, with the occasional spanking done "out of love". I myself was abused in this way. However, time-in is there to replace time-out. There are many ways to do time-in, but the one biblical form of time-in is mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, giving to children without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Whenever children cried, mothers picked up the child. The mother cooed every time the child cried, with the child being picked up whenever they cried. The child then rested in the mother's arms, in mammary closeness. From there, the mother diagnosed any needs beyond being held, and then met those needs.

Breastfeeding and mammary closeness go hand in hand. Breastfeeding ended when the child refused the teat of the mother, with suckling of the teat lasting until then. In most cases, this lasted until age 2, but could last until age 6 or even beyond. Mothers could breastfeed whenever they were called to, including in public. 

Children under age 6 were in constant closeness to mothers, including when out and about in public. When children under age 6 were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tied from the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, children were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Whenever children cried, they were held closer to their mother's bosom, with milk-dependent children being offered the teat for them to suckle. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which grew throughout the Ancient Middle East. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why parents should heel to the commands of their child

Many parents think that they call the shots in bringing up children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think they rule the roost. However, the fact of the matter is that children give the orders in parenting, when using the context as a guidepost.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, giving to children without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of offensive touch perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Parents, under customary law of the Early Church, were to heel to the command of their children, with children giving orders from their place of rest in relation to parents. Parents in biblical times, by default, were forbidden from saying "no" to their children. The only exception to this general rule is if the orders from the child were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. However, even when children were told "no", customary law required that parents give reassurance and an explanation. Children under age 6 issued orders by crying, with children past age 6 asserting themselves by way of whining and begging, with mothers responding to the every upset of their children.

Righteous ordering can be understood as akin to going to a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. When an item is out of stock, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parenting is like being a server at a restaurant, meaning parents are to wait on their children hand over foot, always wearing a smile.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents think that they are deserving of respect from children from day one. This is a common form of parental entitlement on the part of parents. However, the fact of the matter is that all respect and honor of parents comes from one place - a secure attachment between parent and children.

God's Word reads in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment was directed towards an adult audience. The commandment to honor parents was understood simply an obligation to care for aging parents. In order to earn care from your child, you need to form a secure attachment from children from early on, preferably from day one. From there, children gave back to their parents once they got older. However, Christian teaching allows for survivors of parents to disown their parent.

Honoring parents is the positive consequence of forming a mutual submission with a child, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, giving to children without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking  - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children were the ones honored first in biblical times, with children growing up to give back to parents in some way. Adult descendants of parents usually honored their parents by caring for them as they age. I myself have made peace with my abusive parents, and give back to my mother by paying the restaurant bill. However, I could shun her if she defended her abuse of me in open court. I still remember being sat down in time-out, and I remind her of how I feel whenever the topic comes up.

Until children reached adulthood, children were in constant closeness with mothers until age 6. After age 6, children engaged in wet and messy play. Parents did not see this sort of play as a form of usurping the parental role. Parents simply cleaned up the mess when the child got home, cleaning up the child with a handrag. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice in parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents oppose co-sleeping as a strategy to gel a bond with their children. However, not only does co-sleeping lead to a secure attachment, but it also can prevent child sexual abuse. When using the context as a guidepost, co-sleeping is the way to form a secure attachment with a child.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, giving to children without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 oftentimes refuse to go to sleep in their own bed. Bedtime refusal is a common excuse for parents to punish their children. However, children that young are definitely not ready to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have primal fears of being devoured by predators. You may think that predators don't exist. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse happens as a bedtime ritual, with the sex offender sneaking into the child's bedroom and raping her. Mothers in the Early Church solved this problem by having children co-sleep next to them. The father could not have his way with the children, because mom was right there, willing to use herself as a human shield if necessary to protect her children. Co-sleeping came in skin-on-skin format.

The most common excuse for parents to avoid co-sleeping comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with frightening terms such as "sleep dependence". However, children growing up in the Early Church co-slept next to mom every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. However, even if the child co-slept past the onset of puberty, they were treated to co-sleeping with no end in sight. Extended co-sleeping is a sign of autism and/or ADHD. Even if your child is co-sleeping into the teen years, all co-sleeping has an end to it. I decided to end co-sleeping myself at age 16, when I wanted to prove my independence.

Co-sleeping is the centerpiece in forming a secure attachment with children, with righteous co-sleeping being the ultimate way to gel a bond with your child. The family bed, in the Early Church, was completely nude in terms of setup. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the family home, with fathers also taking off their robe when walking in the door. Children slept next to mom on one side, with fathers sleeping on the other side of mom.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child punishment: Why punitive parenting is prohibited in the Bible

Many parents feel entitled to their so-called "right" to punish or be controlling with their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist on their so-called "right" to use punitive measures in parenting, which includes child abuse such as punishing children. Indeed, the ancients had a concept of child abuse - whatever is perceived by child victims.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Parents who merely got angry with their children were charged with parental entitlement. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived as offensive at the very least by children, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Punitive parenting here is defined as any parenting motivated by anger. Most parents in the Early Church did not ever expose their children to parent anger, except to protect them from harm or abuse. Most parent anger in biblical times was intended ON BEHALF of the child, as opposed to AT the child.

All punitive parenting was prohibited in the Bible. This prohibition includes, but is not limited to, any punishments or reprimands towards children. Whenever parents were caught being harsh or punitive with their children in the Early Church, they were put before the council. When convicted, the parents were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

Child abuse did exist in the Early Church, and it stuck out like a weed. What parishioners looked for in a parent was a hot temper. Most Christian parents in the Early Church never got angry with a child. So, when parents lost their cool with their children, they were immediately identified as abusers. Most parenting then was motivated by worry or concern, not anger. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoked their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel entitled to respect from children. This is a common attitude towards children on the part of parents. However, the fact of the matter is that respect in biblical times was a thing in children, but only in the form of closeness to parents.

The acronym of mutual respect is denoted as part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parent. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where children are to submit to their children, giving to children without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, this respect for parents in the Bible, as understood when using the context as a guidepost, came in the form of closeness to parents, as opposed to fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands are full. Between aged 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child before picking them up, and from there, mom diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mom in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with skin-on-skin warmth happening every time a child was even picked up.

Children growing up in the Early Church did respect their parents, but not like you might think. Children then were cooperative with their parents in most cases, but in an affectionate way. Children were in constant closeness to parents in biblical times, in a playful and connected way, with children attached at the hip in relation to mothers. Mothers were the primary caregivers of children, with children relating to fathers as a secondary attachment. Children never feared parents in biblical times, and ran to mom especially when they got in trouble.

Parents are not deserving of respect from children just for existing. Instead, parents have to earn their child's respect, as opposed to respect coming for free from children. Parents are non-deserving of any respect from a child. Not even cooperation. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. The way to earn respect from a child is attachment parenting.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents think that children should not be pampered. The argument is that if you pamper your child, you end up spoiling them. This is a common fear amongst American parents. However, children in biblical times were pampered and babied. The fact of the matter is that you as a parent should pamper and baby your child. 

The acronym of righteous pampering denotes part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers here to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children, giving without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering isn't pampering or babying your child any old way. When using the context as a guidepost, there is only one way to pamper a child. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, with children morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers rushed in, cooing at their children before picking them up, and from there, the mother diagnosed the need, and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about in public with mothers, mom wrapped up the child in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping setup happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity setup helping to facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact even when the child was merely picked up.

Past age 6, children played freely outside, naked. Children past age 6 engaged in wet and messy play, venturing farther and farther from home, with children exploring the terrain, coming home in a mess. However, children had to check in with mom first, and tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called by name - one by one - with children being treated to a warm homecooked meal on a porcelain plate. Children then washed up before jumping into the family bed with mom and dad, recharging for another day's play.

Children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltered way. Children under age 6 only left the house while tied to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The reason for this was that children under age 6 did not appreciate the dangers that existed outside of the family home, with these dangers including things such as venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom for the children then. Today, there exist dangers for children when outside, namely busy streets and would-be kidnappers. Most of the time, children that young stayed home, and only left the house when swaddled next to the bosom of mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children from abuse

Many parents think that the Bible is silent on issues relating to child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents follow the secular law in abusing children, with most parents abusing their children. However, God's Law is not silent on child abuse. All forms of punitive parenting are banned in the Bible.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is a parent or parent in loco parents being sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. All parents in biblical times were seen as parent entitled when they as much as got angry towards a child. When this sense of entitlement was perceived as offensive or damaging by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek\Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Parent anger, in most cases, was seen by parents as something to shield a child from. Lashing out at children was seen as akin to a viper striking out at a child. Most parenting in the Early Church was motivated not by anger, but by worry or concern for the child.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. The writers of all 88 books of the Bible advised parents towards attachment-based solutions in their secular writings, as opposed to punitive measures. Even King Solomon advised parents against punitive measures towards minor children, with the rod verses instead referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes meted out as a sentence for crime (with minor children never being whipped). For the first 6 years, children were in constant closeness with mothers, with the latter years of childhood being full of wet and messy play.

Punitive parenting is defined in this post as anything fear-based in parenting. Children should not have to fear their parents. Instead, children should be close to their parents. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need all of their needs

Many parents buy into it. The argument is that parents don't have to meet all of the needs of their children. The idea behind "benign" deprivation is that children should not be comforted when they cry, except under certain specific times when it is "warranted".

"Benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parent in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents give without receiving, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parents, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The concept of "benign" deprivation gives parents room to ignore some of the needs of children, in order to focus on "real" needs. However, children growing up in the Early Church got all of what they needed, with this including most of what they wanted. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! In the Early Church, whenever a child was tired, it was deemed an attachment need, as mothers co-snuggled and co-slept next to children whenever the child needed a nap. This co-snuggling, in biblical times, was done in skin-on-skin format. 

A common method of "benign" deprivation is to say "no" to almost every petitioned request coming from children. In the Early Church, customary law prohibited parents from saying "no", by default. The only exceptions to this general rule was if the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, the word "no" had to be given with reassurance and an explanation.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!                                                                                                                                                                               

Punitive parenting: Why punitive parenting is not the way to deal with childhood behaviors

Many parents think that the Bible prescribes punishment or force in parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents cite the Bible to justify their punitive parenting habits. However, the fact of the matter is that punitive parenting, including punishment of all kinds, is prohibited in the Bible.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Parent anger towards children was deemed parental entitlement in all cases. When this sense of entitlement was perceived as offensive or damaging by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Punitive parenting means any parenting that is fear-based. Most parenting in America is punitive in nature. In most American homes, children are frequently put in time-out, with there also being the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". All of this is banned in the Bible, as it provokes offense in the child. Any time a child lives in fear of an adult, that is deemed child abuse.

Any anger towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. Anger towards a child was seen as something not to expose a child to. Any anger towards a child was seen as akin to a viper lashing out at a child. Adult anger towards children was seen as something abhorrent, in a predatory way. Most parents then did not get angry at their children, and instead were motivated by worry and concern.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to pacify a crying child in public

Many parents think that crying children deserve punishment when they "embarrass" a parent with a public meltdown. This sort of meltdown is a common excuse for child punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that there is a simple way to pacify crying in a child - swaddling blankets.

Children's rest in swaddling blankets is a form of the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, giving to children without receiving, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your children as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishment of a child into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The cries of young children - under age 6 - were pacified in biblical times by way of being wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddled child was tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. When children cried while being swaddled, they cried silently, in a pacified manner. The swaddling blankets worn by children in the Early Church were made of velvet, with velvet being grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Most public meltdowns are a reaction to the word "no". The idea is to use the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Whenever children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, they cried quietly and in pacified format when they wanted something off of the shelf. The child simply pointed to the item that they wanted, and then mom took the item of the shelf, just for the child who is snuggly warm in the bosom of mothers, with children enjoying the view from their rest in the bosom of mothers.

Today, you see children kicking and screaming on the floor of a restaurant or store. That almost never happened in biblical times. Swaddling blankets serve to pacify the cries of children. They do cry, but only silently, meaning tears only and without the wailing. Children also enjoyed the view from being wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torments, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attraction to children

Many parents and adults use the concept of collective responsibility to combat child sexual abuse. Collective responsibility involves gauging how quickly an institution responds to the embarrassment of having a child rapist on board with them - the more transparent, the better. However, pointing the finger is not the best attitude towards child sexual abuse. Whenever you point the finger, four more are pointing back at you. All adults are guilty in relation to children, merely for existing, as all adults pose some threat to children sexually.

1 in 10 children will be sexually abused before attaining the age of 18. However, only 1-2% of the male population are pedophiles, and so pedophiles can't be guilty for all of the sexual abuse happening to children. Most child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, with the act being a response to a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that the adult in question refuses to abstain from. Making the choice to abstain from child sexual abuse is a commitment to a child in the form of lifestyle choice.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to mere sexual desire, but instead refers to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and maybe think the think later. But, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. "Doing the deed" refers to, at minimum, flirting with or propositioning a child, or else to touching a child at all with sexual intent. The only way out of the approach is to allow yourself righteous masturbation to child fantasies.

If you have a sexual attraction to a child, it should be made safe to disclose that attraction. If you can identify by your adult attractions to children, identify by it, as an at-risk adult, in most cases, cannot express that emotional reality with others. Some pedophiles post a risk to children, but that risk - in most cases - is minimal compared to other adults. The way to disclose is using clinical language, including possibly clinical celebratory language if necessary. 

I myself am a flawed adult, and have a sin list a mile long in relation to children. I myself have a sexual harassment problem in relation to children. I myself would follow young girls around in public, wanting romantic closeness with the child in question. I myself was an obvious abuser, meaning I made my advances towards children obvious to the child and everyone else around her. Most pedophiles have a squeaky-clean track record in relation to children. I didn't, and so I use myself to point out what to find in an abuser pedophile. 

Only 1 in 4 pedophiles are guilty of child sexual abuse towards a child, with the rest posing minimal risk in relation to children. Most of the time, the pedophilic perpetrator surfaces in the form of sexual harassment. Most pedophiles have a form of immature autism where their sexual development is arrested in time. Most of the time, the pedophile has an autistic specialty in children in terms of knowledge and social skills, with their age-oriented sexual preferences reflecting their specialty. The word "pedophile" simply means "friend of little children" in Greek. Some pedophiles did commit actual rape towards a child, but those instances are rare. 

Most adult men in particular have sexual attractions to teenage girls. Most adult women presumably have a sexual attraction to teenage boys, as many teenage boys have sexually mature features. Most child sexual abuse is committed against teenage girls. Thus, any old adult could sexually abuse a child, under the right/wrong conditions. The key is to admit to those hidden desires, and be self-honest about them using righteous masturbation. 

With righteous masturbation, you get to explore all of the possibilities with a child known to man, but always landing with the same conclusion - nothing at all. I myself experience masturbation as cathartic, meaning it purges all unrequited lusts in relation to children. I personally also use righteous avoidance strategies, such as charring and tarring all prospects with images of Hell. Most pedophiles don't need righteous avoidance to keep children safe, but I am an abuser pedophile myself in terms of track record, and so I need the extra self-accountability. I also have confided in my mother, and appointed her as my accountability partner. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually abuse children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent! 

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that children need punishment in order to behave. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish and abuse their children with time-out, with the occasional disciplinary spanking "out of love" from time to time. However, the fact of the matter is that time-in is better than time-out, spanking, or other forms of punishment. There are many ways to do time-in, but the only biblical way to do time-in is mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is a form of time-in practiced in biblical times, and is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. In this mutual submission setup, the burden of proof fell squarely onto the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

There are many ways to do time-in. Some forms of time-in involve sending a child to a "calming corner". Some parents actively listen to the tears of children. However, the biblical way of doing time-in, when using the context as a guidepost, is mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers were quick to pick up the child, and hold the child close to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness and breastfeeding go hand in hand. Whenever children cried, mothers of milk-dependent children diagnosed the need by first allowing the child to suckle her teat. From there, the child still cried when they needed more from mom. Breastfeeding was acceptable everywhere in biblical times, even when mothers were called to breastfeed in public. 

When out and about in public, children under age 6 were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers. However, beforehand, the swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Whenever children were cried, the cries were pacified, with mothers then holding the child closer to her bosom, with milk-dependent children being offered to suckle the teat of mothers. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, with velvet growing throughout the Ancient Middle East.

God gave women breasts not primarily for men to ogle or sexualize, but instead for mothers to nurture children, with the cleavage of women being there for children to rest on. Children were also made for mom, meaning children still have baby teeth until age 6 because children need to latch onto the teat of mothers for breastfeeding at that age, with children often needing mom's milk until age 6. If mothers simply held their child in skin-on-skin mammary closeness, they would regret not using skin-on-skin mammary closeness sooner. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice on the part of parents. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible, with the context being a guidepost, calls for parents to sleep next to their children. Co-sleeping also saves lives, by way of preventing child sexual abuse. 

Co-sleeping is the centerpiece of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the parents. See also Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is\υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return/ See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger"  is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offensive touch or speech stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children,and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 often refuse to go to bed on their own. This is a common excuse for punishing a child. Most parents punish a child who refuses to go to bed come bedtime. However, the fact of the matter is that younger children are not ready to sleep alone while isolated in their own bedroom. Children under age 6 have a primal fear of being isolated in a room alone, fearing being devoured by predators. Many parents would think that there are no predators in today's world. They would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse comes in the form of a bedtime ritual, with the abuser sneaking into a child's room come nightfall. In the Early Church, mothers prevented child sexual abuse by way of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Maybe the father wanted the "icing on the cake", but the mother was right there to stop it, perhaps using herself as a human shield to the father's advances towards his daughter especially. 

The main excuse for not co-sleeping next to children comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with terms such as "sleep dependence". However, the fact of the matter is that all co-sleeping has an end to it. Children growing up in the Early Church usually wanted to sleep next to their mothers in skin-on-skin format until the onset of puberty, which is when children, in most cases, wanted to sleep in their own bed. Even if a child wanted to sleep next to mom past the onset of puberty, the family bed was made available to the child. I myself stopped sleeping next to my mother at age 16, which is when I insisted on sleeping on my own, in order to prove my independence - I first had mom sleep on the floor, and then from there, I started sleeping entirely on my own.

Righteous co-sleeping isn't just any co-sleeping, but instead is co-sleeping in proper form, meaning skin-on-skin co-sleeping. In biblical times, the family bed was completely nude in terms of setup. Fathers put their robe on a clothing hanger, and so did mothers with her dress that resembled an apron. Co-sleeping of this sort was the centerpiece of mutual submission between parent and child, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping setup serving to gel a bond with a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the command of their child

Many parents think that they should call the shots in the family home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the acronym of righteous ordering calls for parents to heel to the commands of children. The Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, is clearly in favor of children ordering parents around.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Parents are to heel to the command of their children, with children giving orders from their place of rest. In biblical times, by default, parents were not allowed to tell their child "no" at all. The only exception to this general rule is when the orders coming from the child were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever children were told "no", customary law mandated that parents give an explanation as well as reassurance. Instead of parents setting limits with children, children set limits with parents.

Righteous ordering can be likened to ordering at a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. If the item is out of stock, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parents are to wait on their child hand and foot, being righteously enslaved to their children. Parenting should be a thankless job.

Righteous ordering, meaning children calling the shots, helps improve the secure attachment between parent and child. Most childhood wants are actually needs. When a child feels safe enough around you to order you around, you have earned their respect. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning lake of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child kicking on the ground, throwing a fully blown temper tantrum. However, most American parents believe that a tantrumming child is being "bad". However, the fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are not bad behavior, but instead are normal behavior that is to be expected given the child's age and development.

Tending to temper tantrums in children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was intended in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children cry for a variety of reasons. In the Early Church, mothers responded to the EVERY cry of a child, with crying and tantrumming in children being seen not as bad behavior, but instead seen as a child trying to communicate a vulnerable need. Children cried from their place of rest in relation to parents, and mothers then cooed at the child, putting the child at ease. From there, mothers diagnosed the needs, then meeting those vulnerable needs. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. 

Cooing at children is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers especially, but also fathers who doted on mother and child from afar. The purpose of this vocalization is to sap up and reassure a crying child. The cooing of mothers in biblical times ultimately put children at ease, so that mothers could better assess what their child needed, and then meet that need.

Most temper tantrums come from the word "no". However, under the customary law in the biblical context, parents were forbidden from using the word "no" to decline a petitioned request from a child, by default. The only exceptions to this rule is if the petitioned requests from children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, when parents had to decline a petitioned request, they were required by customary law to give an explanation and reassurance when they uttered the word "no", with parents usually finding a nice-sounding alternative to a flat out "no". 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible has no answers on child abuse issues. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents think that child abuse definitions should stay the same. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible prohibits any sort of child abuse, as perceived by the child.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult who is sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel they deserve. Adults are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any adult anger at a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times, and was prohibited as such. When children took offense to this sense of entitlement in adults, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Any anger towards children was seen as a sign of an abusive home in biblical times. Most parents were warm and gentle towards their children in biblical times. The definition of child abuse in biblical times was defined using the understanding of entitlement leading to offense. Any sort of punishment towards a child was banned in biblical times, including the Early Church.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with the writers of all 88 of the books of the Bible were anti-spanking, and opposed any sort of punishment of a child in their secular writings. However, God's Law takes it further, and prohibits anything that merely would offend a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need everything that they need

Many parents believe in what is called "benign" deprivation. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents cut corners, and punish children merely for having vulnerable needs. However, the fact of the matter is that children need all of their needs, not just some of them. 

"Benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. The burden of proof in a mutual submission relationship falls squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In  the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and oppose any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The concept of "benign" deprivation is a shortcut in parenting, where parents pick and choose what needs their child "deserves" or "doesn't deserve". However, this concept is alien to the Bible when using the context as a guidepost. Children need ALL of what they need, not just some of their needs. Whenever a child cried in biblical times, mothers were quick to respond to the cry, cooing at children in order to put them at ease. From there, mothers diagnosed the need, and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

Children have five main categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! Attachment is a core need of children. When children were tired, it was counted as an attachment need in biblical times, because mothers co-snuggled next to their children when they were crying their tired cry. 

A common way for parents to deprive children of their needs is to say "no" all of the time, to almost everything that a child wants. However, under customary law in biblical times, parents were by default prohibited from giving the word "no" to children. The exception to that rule was if the child wanted something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even when children were told "no", they were given an explanation as well as reassurance. It is a myth that children need to hear the word "no" all of the time. Wants usually fall into the category of attachment needs, meaning if you say "no" to a child all of the time, that damages the parent-child relationship. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!