Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents think that crying past a certain age is deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents think that children crying past a certain age are deserving of punishment. However, children who cry are communicating a vulnerable need. The Bible agrees.

Tending to a crying child was part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their child were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is a myth that a child would cry in order to "undermine" parents. The fact of the matter is that children growing up in the Early Church cried in order to communicate a vulnerable need. Crying was seen in the Early Church as self-advocacy for needs. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

For the first 6 years of childhood, children cried constantly, and were in constant closeness to mothers. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were held constantly by mom, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between aged 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, crying when mom was out of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". 

Crying in children was never a reason for punishing children in biblical times. Crying was seen as a summonses from a child advocating for vulnerable needs. Children, during the first 6 years, cried freely and often, not having to hide their feelings from parents. However, children past age 6 were actually more docile on their own, and had more self-control due to having all of their needs met. Instead, children whined in order to get what they wanted/needed. Children grow out of both crying and whining eventually, with both vocalizations intended to self-advocate for a vulnerable need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Santa Claus: Why Santa should not bring coal for Christmas

'Tis Christmastime. Many parents bring Santa Claus into the lives of their children. Most children grow up believing in Santa. However, all too often, parents take advantage of Santa and turn the whole thing into a behavioral modification tool. The fact of the matter is that punishment of any kind is against God's Law.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is when an adult is sorely disappointed when children don't meet up to expectations, leading to an adult temper tantrum. Whenever you impose an expectation on a child, prepare to be sorely disappointed. Any anger on the part of an adult towards a child was considered parental entitlement in biblical times. A temper tantrum, under anti-entitlement tradition, includes hasty attempts to be controlling with a child, imposing a want onto a child, with intent to corner a child into behaving the way parents feel that they deserve. When the temper tantrum in parents was perceived as offensive or damaging by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as a slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is a common threat coming from parents. Many parents threaten to "call Santa" and with children getting "coal for Christmas". Santa should know better than to provoke a child to anger through threat of punishment. Any time you threaten to "call Santa", you commit the moral crime of provoking your child to anger. "Provoke...to anger" refers to any offensive or damaging speech or behavior perceived by a child, including the threat of "I'll call Santa if you keep it up".

I myself got threatened with coal for Christmas. I was a very willful child, and so getting coal for Christmas was a fear for me. That was until I asked for coal for Christmas. Yes, I asked for that. I was a strange child. At least it took the power away from adults to be controlling by punishing me for my behavior.

Coal for Christmas is considered child abuse even as a threat. This is because the slightest of personal offense can be understood as the slightest of emotional pain. Whenever you inflict emotional or physical pain onto a child, it is considered child abuse.

Most behavior in children is developmentally appropriate. What is developmentally appropriate is different from child to child. However, children under age 6, in the Early Church, lacked self-control, and also were unable to learn from their mistakes. Young children - under age 6 - cried a lot, as they wanted to stay right next to mom, while feeling separation anxiety. Children shouldn't be excluded from Christmas because they cry and pout, as that is what a parent gets for punishing cries due to separation anxiety. Most children grow out of separation anxiety starting at age 6. Children are going to cry and pout, and so they shouldn't have to "watch out" this Christmas season. Yes, I listen to that Christmas carol, in order to profile it.

Mary, mother of Christ, was an attachment parenting mother. She was terrified for Christ, and tried to script to Him what to say. Only, Christ knew what to say before Mary even finished her sentence. He was not punished by Joseph when running away to the temple. When he was found, the rabbis were astonished by Christ's knowledge of the Law, seeing such wisdom as shocking in an eerie way. Christ did not have to be trained up in order to be the Messiah - Christ was perfect from day one. There is no room for punitive parenting in God's Church this Christmastime, especially since Mary and Joseph were both gentle parents. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to teach your child to be thankful this Thanksgiving

It is Thanksgiving day. Many parents want their children to learn gratitude. This is a common want on the part of parents. However, most American parents teach children gratitude by way of punishing children when they aren't thankful for what they receive from parents. However, parents can do something not punitive in nature to encourage gratitude in children.

It says in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to melding the countenance of children. In this context, melding a child's countenance referred to one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior. One form of good behavior then was gratitude, with gratitude being praised and encouraged whenever seen in children. Ultimately, children learn how to be grateful in the punitive tense when they heard out the instruction of fathers. The Greek root word translated νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction, where fathers left out a Bible, with children being praised and encouraged for forming a grateful theology, meaning when children avoid the slightest of deservances, leading to punitive gratitude automatically. 

Older children, meaning past age 6, showed gratitude automatically, as a developmental stage. Whenever children showed gratitude, thank THEM in return with lavish praise and encouragement. From there, children sought out more praise and encouragement. 

Children under age 6 are incapable of gratitude. They want what they want, when they want it. Punishing a child for ingratitude is futile. This is because children that young are incapable of being grateful, and are too young to learn. Children are able to learn gratitude past age 6, and learned through praise and encouragement.

Most unthankful behaviors at Thanksgiving are developmentally appropriate behaviors. Some children will be fussy. Some children will throw food. Some children will complain about the food. Either way, they are acting in an immature way, with children growing out of these behaviors eventually. Saying "be grateful" never taught anyone to be grateful.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.                                                        

Gratitude: How to teach your children gratitude this thanksgiving

It is Thanksgiving day. Many parents want their children to learn gratitude. This is a common want on the part of parents. However, most American parents teach children gratitude by way of punishing children when they aren't thankful for what they receive from parents. However, parents can do something not punitive in nature to encourage gratitude in children.

It says in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refer to melding the countenance of children. In this context, melding a child's countenance referred to one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior. One form of good behavior then was gratitude. Ultimately, children learn how to be grateful in the punitive tense when they heard out the instruction of fathers. The Greek root word translated νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction, where fathers left out a Bible, with children being praised and encouraged for holding views of gratitude towards life.

Older children, meaning past age 6, showed gratitude automatically, as a developmental stage. Whenever children showed gratitude, thank THEM in return with lavish praise and encouragement. From there, children sought out more praise and encouragement. 

Children under age 6 are incapable of gratitude. They want what they want, when they want it. Punishing a child for ingratitude is futile. This is because children that young are incapable of being grateful, and are too young to learn. Children are able to learn gratitude past age 6, and learned through praise and encouragement.

Most unthankful behaviors at Thanksgiving are developmentally appropriate behaviors. Some children will be fussy. Some children will throw food. Some children will complain about the food. Either way, they are acting in an immature way, with children growing out of these behaviors eventually. Saying "be grateful" never taught anyone to be grateful.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.                                                        

Christian attachment parenting: Why God endorses attachment parenting for children

Many parents think that biblical times were harsh on children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents are punitive parents, and cite the Bible as an excuse for child abuse.

The Bible is America's book. The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a nation glean from the Bible and its context how to live. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately endorse or command a parent to punish their child in any way. The seven verses in Proverbs refer instead to the 40 minus 1 lashes, with the 40 minus 1 lashes being used frequently on parents who punished their child. Striking another Jew was unlawful except in the context of a courtroom, including the 40 minus 1 lashes. The 40 minus 1 lashes only could be applied to adults convicted of a capital offense, as a final warning that they might be executed for one last offense. Christ's work on the cross repealed the 7 rod verses in the Bible, as well as all of the harsh punishments in the Old Testament. Attachment parenting was the norm in both the Old and New Testaments.

The Bible, when understood in context, is an attachment parenting document, as the Ancient Jews were an attachment parenting culture. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parents, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish in Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in the context of parenting, as melding the countenance of children, in a way that strengthens. In this context, melding the countenance can refer to only one thing - lavish praise and encouragement of children when they were caught in the act of good behavior, with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good behavior through the Christian example of parents. However, Christian parents in the Early Christian churches backed up their example with praise and encouragement, not punishment and force. This praise and encouragement was usually for acts of self-control, thereby centering the countenance of children. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction is what ultimately led to the centering of a child's countenance.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? During the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever children went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6 ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and not come back".

These first 6 years led to trust, not just in mothers, but also fathers. At the time children reached age 6, they were usually ready to hear out the instruction of fathers, with children being eager to hear out the facts of life in this secure attachment context. This secure attachment won over children to the religious instruction of parents. Fathers also had a sexual attachment to their children. However, fathers in the Early Christian churches were forbidden from "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting. Instead, fathers righteously masturbated to sexual thoughts of their child. The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and does not refer to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think later. However, if you find yourself doing the deed, either by way of flirting with or propositioning children, or else touching them anywhere on their body with sexual intent, you shouldn't have even approached her. Even if the child is right there, they are off-limits due to being an immature believer.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for more child protection laws

Many parents think that the Bible calls for punitive parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, when the Bible is understood in context, it can be understood as an anti-spanking document that calls us as Americans to support more laws protecting children.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is throwing an adult temper tantrum when you don't get what you feel that you deserve from children. Any parent or adult anger towards a child was deemed parental entitlement on the part of parents. When children perceive such a temper tantrum as offensive or damaging, it becomes child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor toward children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their child one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Sweden was the first country in modern times to ban all punitive parenting, with this ban being passed in 1979. However, several ancient societies also banned punitive parenting. This included the Ancient Jews, including the Early Christians. In the Early Church, all child punishment was deemed an offense under the Law, including "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting.

Modern Israel has also banned punitive parenting by way of court ruling. In 2000, a case was heard by the Israeli Supreme Court, with the ruling allowing for the secular courts to hear child abuse cases. Beforehand, if the sectarian courts were Christian or Muslim in orientation, the parents were kept with their children. There was never a defense allowing for punitive treatment of children in the Israeli Penal Code, with the Jewish courts enforcing the law as such already. Ultimately, the Israeli ban was something most Jewish Israelis already knew.

Child abuse is not something that the Bible is silent on. It is a myth that the Early Christians lacked an understanding of childhood. Christian parents in the Early Church were warm and kind to their children, meaning not entitled at all. Maybe the definitions of childhood were different, but those ages are nowhere found in the biblical text. Instead, the law of the land decides the definition of childhood today. In most jurisdictions, that age is 18.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, whichi is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven!

Child discipline: How to discipline your children the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common attitude among American parents. However, most American parents think discipline means punishment in parenting. However, the fact of the matter is that discipline in biblical times meant catching your child in the act of good behavior, and then praising and encouraging them.

Child discipline was seen as part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and that thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to melding a child's countenance, in a way that strengthens. In the context of this passage, this can only mean one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior, with fathers giving statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good traits from their parents' Christian example. However, this example was backed up by lavish praise and encouragement, not harsh punishment or force. This all worked to center the countenance of children. Ultimately, parents looked for self-control from their example, with this self-controlled example being melded in children through the praise and encouragement of parents, with children then doing the good work in terms of self-control in order to earn the praise of their fathers. Children also need religious instruction from parents, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction starts out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being eager to learn the facts of life, and with fathers giving pointers on the context. This religious instruction also served to center the countenance of children. 

When children didn't behave in a way that was considered good, and got into mischief, the behavior was met with laughter. For example, when a child drew on the wall, parents feigned praise through laughter, and then cleaned up the mess when the child wasn't around. It is good to have a sense of humor as a parents, as children are going to say the darndest of things, and get into the darndest of things. They are too young to know better, and so parents should leave the behavior go. 

This child discipline occurred within the context of a secure attachment between parent and child. Whenever young children cried, mothers cooed at their children. This setup helped gel a bond between mother and child. Fathers also had a secondary attachment towards children, with this secondary attachment started with fathers imprinting onto a child using righteous masturbation. Mothers ultimately bonded with their children by way of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. Fathers then saw the skin-on-skin closeness between mother and child, and usually ran right to the masturbation packet, imprinting on children from there.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adults attracted to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents want their child to be safe from being sexually abused. This is a desire that most all parents have. However, all adults are capable of child sexual abuse, under the right/wrong conditions. All adults have an individual responsibility to avoid adult sexual entitlement in relation to children.

All adults are guilty in relation to children. Any old adult can commit the moral crime of child sexual abuse, under the right/wrong conditions. Child sexual abuse is not committed by a few hoodlums running the streets, but instead is a crime of opportunity, meaning a once-and-a-lifetime opportunity that every single adult can be bought on. Common risk factors involve being men, being alone with a child, and not masturbating beforehand. However, the main risk factor is lack of masturbation.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead to sexual entitlement. Adult sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want from children, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think later. However, if you find yourself doing the deed, you shouldn't have approached her. Doing the deed involves either flirting with or propositioning a child, and also touching a child on any part of their body with sexual intent.

There is only one way to avoid doing the deed with children. The idea is to acknowledge your sexual side for your child, by way of righteous masturbation. A pedophilic narcissist does not have offenses weighing on them, but instead is running away from their sex drive towards children. The only way out of this trap is in. In the Early Church, righteous masturbation was seen as a purification ritual that purged unrequited lusts.

I myself am a pedophile, and I take responsibility for my sexual behavior. I myself have a sin list a mile long in relation to children, as I was an antisocial "flirt" in relation to children. I myself am deserving of absolutely nothing from children. I myself have a "love" addiction in relation to children, meaning my crushes came in the form of train cars. I was a dating abuser towards children, meaning I groomed children with zig-zag methods. I asked one girl her phone number, hoping for a good time call. It is rare that a pedophile sexually abuses a child, but if they are a dating abuser, think pedophile, of the wrong kind. I myself didn't know the boundaries, and so I cross my heart. Never again. Most abuser pedophiles have a form of autism that makes them unaware of the social nuances around interacting with children. A pedophile is an individual with a primarily or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. Most child sexual abuse is committed by non-pedophiles, with most sexual abuse committed by pedophiles being excusable as long as the pedophile in question is remorseful in light of the youthful nature of the incidents. I committed sexual offenses against several girls as an adult as a child, namely by being an antisocial "flirt". Whenever a child is sexually approached by anyone, it is child sexual abuse. I don't think it is morally acceptable to even let children have sex except with themselves. I support an age of consent of 18, with zero close-in-age exceptions.

A pedophile is an individual with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. A pedophile usually has a form of autism that specializes in children and children's issues, with their sex drive corresponding with their autistic specialty. Whenever a man with autism is child smart and/or trauma smart, think pedophile. When they are fixated on a specific child, and approaches the child victim, think abuser pedophile. A pedophile can be a child, and a child can be a pedophile. If children have the clinical disorder of pedophilia, they have two strikes against them. All a pedophile needs is listening and validation, and the rest they do on their own. I was an impulsive, prideful pedophile, and even then, all I needed was to have someone to talk to, and unload all of my crushes on. The rest of the work I did on my own. Pedophilia can be a disorder even without surviving sexual shaming abuse, as I never was taught by a parent to hate myself. I instead simply had crushes coming in the form of train cars, with the last one hopefully being the caboose. Whenever a pedophile has an impulsive crush on a child, pedophilia becomes pedophilic disorder. Whenever that approach towards a child results in the child perceiving sexually motivated intent, it becomes child sexual abuse.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice as a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents avoid co-sleeping because of misleading information concerning "sleep dependence". However, co-sleeping was the norm among parents in biblical times. Co-sleeping also has prevention benefits in relation to child sexual abuse.

Righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking or punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 refuse to go to bed on their own. This is a common excuse for punishng a child. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 were not yet ready to sleep on their own. Children that young have a primal fear of being isolated in a room away from mom. Parents may think that predators only existed in ancient tmes. They would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse comes in the form of a bedtime ritual. However, that couldn't happen in biblical times, because the mother was right there, perhaps ready to use herself as a human shield. Co-sleeping, most of the time was skin-on-skin in terms of setup. The moment that fathers were aroused, they were redirected to righteous masturbation.

A common excuse for parents to avoid co-sleeping comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with parents being scared by terms coming from professionals such as "sleep dependence". However, co-sleeping always has an end. In biblical times, children shook off the co-sleeping closeness next to mothers at the onset of puberty, with co-sleeping in the mean time happening in skin-on-skin format. However, even when the child might have had a developmental disorder such as autism (by way of historical diagnosis), co-sleeping had an end to it. I have autism, and I shook off my mother's closeness at around age 16, in order to prove my independence. My mother slept on the floor at first, but then the next night I slept on my own. But, I was the one to assert my independence beforehand, and that is what matters.

Co-sleeping was the centerpiece of the mutual submission between parent and child. In biblical times, the family bed came in nude format, meaning skin-on-skin co-sleeping. This nude co-sleeping helped gel a bond with mothers primarily, and secondarily fathers. Fathers imprinted on their children by way of righteous masturbation, meaning masturbation in order to stay out of trouble.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!  Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Preventing public meltdowns: How to curtail public temper tantrums

Many parents, if not most, have had to deal with it. A child kicking and screaming in public. This is a normal behavior in children. However, there are ways to pacify a temper tantum in a child when in public. None of these methods involve punishment or force of any kind.

Preventing public meltdowns are a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child. This secure attachhment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Public meltdowns were pretty much absent in the Early Church, and that was because young children were wrapped up in swaddling blankets, thereby pacifying the cries of children, for only mom to hear. When children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child in swaddling blankets, with this closeness coming in the form of skin-on-skin warmth. From there, mothers tucked their children underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. However, beforehand, mothers tied the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - from the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Whenever children cried, their cries were pacified by being swaddled next to the bosom of mothers. Mothers, when children cried, held the crying child closer to her bosom. In most cases, the child cried when they wanted an item off of the shelf. However, most of the time, all children had to do was point to the item, and then mothers got the item off of the shelf.

Older children were instead given spending money whenever mothers were doing errands at market. Children then would buy foods and candies that they liked. However, they quickly learned the finite nature of money. With that said, children did not have to do chores or work to earn the money, with this money being free money. Running out of money was a natural consequence for the child, in which case mom would pay for the rest of the items picked out by the child. Children at that age relegated their meltdowns to the privacy of their own homes.

Most of the time, children throw a temper tantrum upon hearing the word "no". However, under the customary law of the time, by default, ordered parents to heel to the commands of their children, just as they would to God, with children resting safely and securely in relation to mom. The only valid reasons for saying "no" as a Christian parent in the Early Church was when the commands from children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When parents said "no", they were required to, by way of customary law, give an explanation for why they said "no", as well as reassurance in order to cushion the blow. Most of the time, parent and child struck up a compromise, thus avoiding a flat out "no".

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your child in the Lord (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have religion. This is a common attitudes amongst American parents. However, most parents go about it the wrong way. Most American parents punish their children, and keep punishing their children, until the child's will was broken. However, there is a way to instruct your child in the Lord without imposing punishing or force.

Passing down the faith is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest long on the the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home/ This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages and offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they got wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking. and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translating "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to melding the countenance of children. In this context, melding the countenance can refer to one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of good behavior. When children were caught in the act of good behavior, they were praised and encouraged to keep being good with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good traits through the Christian example of parents. However, parents backed up their example with praise and encouragement, instead of punishment or force. This regimen of praise and encouragement served to center the countenance of children. Children need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement from fathers such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction ultimately led to the centering of the countenance of children. 

Most children in America receive a specific religious instruction - the will of the child was broken. The idea is to obtain a confession of sin coming from a child. However, this method of religious instruction is totally unnecessary. Children, like adults, have religion as a need. Even in atheist homes, children want a religion to call their own in most cases. Children start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious sect. But, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. 

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of fathers? How about starting with a secure attachment with mothers. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were held constantly by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing children out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that children would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried out loud, mom picked them up, and from there, she met the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. A secure attachment to mothers leads to a secondary attachment to father, meaning however children relate to their mothers is how they relate to fathers. From there, fathers disciplined their children by way of praise and encouragement, with a rapport with children stemming from that praise and encouragement. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents believe that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" all of the time, instead of the word "yes" all of the time. However, children should hear your "yes" far more often than the word "no".

The frequent use of the word "yes" is part of the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses. namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral stature prohibiting all forms of punitive parents, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punish their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children growing up in the Early Church got almost everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed, while resting vulnerably in the love and submission of parents. Parents were ordered under customary law to heel to the command of children. Parents had to give their children most everything that they wanted/needed. Under customary law, the only way parents were allowed to say "no" was when the request from the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, most of the time, parents struck up a compromise with their child, thus avoiding a flat out "no". When parents did have to use the word "no", the child had to be offered an explanation and reassurance.

A common place for children to hear the word "no" is the store. In the Early Church, young children under age 6 were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, and all they had to do was point to an item that they wanted, and then the child was given the item that they wanted. Older children past age 6 were given their own spending money, while doing nothing to earn it. This setup with older children helped teach the finite nature of money.

Children need the word "yes" far more often than the word "no". The more you say "yes" when a child wants something, the more you gel a bond with your child. Children will ultimately associate YOU with all the goodies that they got from you. Even if they don't use it often, they know it is a gift, and are grateful.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents think that the Bible gives them the right to punish their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents cite the Bible as a command to punish their children. The key passage that holds the pro-spanking argument together is Hebrews 12:5-8. However, this passage is not even about earthly parenting.

God's Word states in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastening, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards and not sons.

This passage, when understood in context, is comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó), with this word having a figurative meaning to it. This sort of metaphor was known as rod language, with such a metaphor existing in several ancient languages, including Ancient Greek. In the Early Church, you didn't say "I had a long day at work", but instead said "God whipped me hard today". Ultimately, the modern saying that applies here is "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"

God whips His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the believer. However, God only whips His children when it doesn't harm them. However, earthly parents are flawed parents, and only whip to them when it harms them. This passage does not refer to earthly parenting. However, there do exist parenting passages in the Bible, with these passages prohibiting any sort of punishment whatsoever. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to melding the countenance of children. In this very context, melding the countenance of children meant only one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of good behavior. Ultimately, children learned good behavior through the Christian example of parents. However, this example was backed up by lavish praise and encouragement, instead of harsh punishments and reprimands. All of this praise and encouragement helped to center the countenance of children. Most parents want self-control in a child, and so they looked for self-controlled behavior on the part of children, and then praised and encouraged children for more of the same. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged by statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. This religious instruction ultimately led to the centering of a child's countenance. Your child may choose different religion than you would, but at least they have values.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else in a papoose bag on mom's back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Instead of being a likeness of God as a parent, parents are to serve children just as they would God. Children are extensions of God, extended to your doorstep for love and charity. All of the abovementioned methods are ways to win over children just as an adult believer would win over God.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child punishment: Why to catch your child in the act of good behavior (as opposed to catching them behaving poorly)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common wish for parents to have regarding their children. However, parents usually go the wrong way about it. The  right way to discipline a child isn't punitive parenting, but rather involves praise and encouragement. 

Catching children in the act of good behavior was part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παρορίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishment into the church. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to melding the countenance of children. In this context, this could only mean one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of showing good behavior. Children learned good behavior ultimately from the Christian example of parents. However, parents then backed up their example with lavish praise and encouragement, not harsh punishments or reprimands. This all worked to center the countenance of a child. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed biblical instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, children's religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction served to further the centering of the countenance of children. 

Mothers nurture from up close, and fathers nurture from afar. When children were under age 6, they were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. Fathers kept their distance during the first 6 years because of a sexual attachment between father and child,  especially between father and daughter. Fathers were a secondary attachment to children then, with mothers being the primary attachment figure between parent and child. Fathers imprinted on their children through righteous masturbation, meaning they imprinted on their children through masturbating to sexual fantasies of their children. After the attraction was spent away through masturbation, fathers disciplined their children by way of praise and encouragement, forming a close bond along the way.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why to catch children being good (as opposed to catching them being bad)

Many parents think that children need discipline. This is a common belief amongst parents that children need discipline. However, most parents equate discipline and punishment. This is a common view of children coming from parents. However, the fact of the matter is that children need praise and encouragement, not punishment and controlling treatment.

Catching children being good is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with the, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any form of punishment in his secular writings. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) means melding the countenance of children. In the Hebraic context of the Bible, this could only mean one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior. This good behavior was ultimately learned from their parents' example. The Christian example of parents was ultimately backed up by the lavish praise and encouragement of parents, instead of the punishment and shaming of parents. This lavish praise and encouragement helped to center the countenance of children. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction first started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, children talked about religion with parents in question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to point out the context. 

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? Children growing up in the Early Church had a secure attachment with mothers. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also being naked in the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate skin-on-skin contact, with children getting rays of skin-on-skin from mothers throughout the day.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why children deserve to be pampered and babied

Many parents believe that pampering and babying children is the wrong thing to do as a parent. This is a common attitude towards children by parents. However, when using the biblical context as a guidepost, the Bible is all for pampering and babying children. God wants your child to be pampered and babied, as opposed to being punished and reprimanded.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not mean pampering and babying children just any old way. It instead refers to a certain specific way of pampering and babying children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and then, from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping sustaining warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children in most cases wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked in the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate skin-on-skin warmth whenever they were even picked up.

When children turned age 6, they were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, and playing high risk games such as "marriage". However, children had to check in with mom, telling her where exactly where they were going. Come evening, children were called, one by one, to a nice, warm homecooked meal. From there, children co-slept next to mothers, with children recharging for another day's play.

Children growing up in the Early Church were kept inside for the first 6 years. This level of protection was deemed necessary due to there being venomous snakes and scorpions. However, even today, there exist dangers outside the confines of the household, namely busy streets and child abduction. Christian parents in the Early Church protected their children, but did so in a sheltering way, even homeschooling their children in a play-based way. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents oppose the idea of expanding child abuse definitions any more than they are defined now. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse, with that definition being broader and more expansive. In short, anything perceived as offensive or damaging by a child is considered child abuse under God's Law. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult temper tantrum when the adult in question doesn't get what they feel that they deserve from children. In fact, any anger towards a child coming from an adult was considered entitlement of the parent variety. When this temper tantrum was perceived as offensive or damaging to a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The first modern country to ban all punitive parenting towards children was Sweden, dating back to 1979. However, several ancient cultures also prohibited all forms of punishment of a child. The Early Christians were one of those ancient cultures. In fact, in Ancient Jewish culture as a whole, spanking and punishing a child was deemed a capital offense.

Even in modern Israel, a court ruling officially banned all forms of punitive parenting. However, even when Israel was founded in 1948, there was no legal defense for punishing a child. Certain family courts that were sectarian in orientation overlooked punitive parenting. However, the court ruling allowed for the secular courts to hear child abuse issues, and enabled the police to both arrest parents and collect the children.

In recent years, Israel's Knesset has passed a law against domestic violence in all spheres of life, including domestic violence or abuse against children. Any violence or abuse within the context of the family home was deemed domestic violence, or else domestic abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Why God endorses attachment parenting

Many parents think that the Bible is a pro-spanking document. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents instead punish and reprimand their children. However, the Bible, in\and of itself, is an attachment parenting document.

The Bible is America's book. The Bible is a founding document of this country, even more than the Constitution in and of itself. Most parents think that this founding context allows for punishments or other controlling demeanor towards children. However, nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to strike or punish a child. The 7 rod verses in Proverbs refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes, and only as a sentence for a crime, and only in a courtroom setting.

Attachment parenting was seen then in the form of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing, after punishing their children one last time. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to melding the countenance of children. In the Hebraic context, this could only mean one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of good behavior. Children learned good behavior through the good Christian example of parents. However, the good example of parents was backed up by praise and encouragement, instead of punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started with fathers putting out a Bible for children to discover and explore. Whenever children were caught in the act of reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Whenever parents saw religion in their children, they received praise of the same. This praise and encouragement of religious behavior helped center the countenance of the child as they got older.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? How about start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her children. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were held constantly by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Children between ages 2-6 ranged next to mothers, following mothers from room to room, not allowing her out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom will "go away and never come back". After age 6, children played outside freely, naked. Most of the time, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping sustaining warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep.

In the Early Church, mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. This distance from fathers was due to a sexual attachment with his children, meaning men imprint on children by way of masturbating to sexual thoughts of said child. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think later. But, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo). This word does not refer to ordinary sexual desire, but instead to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement was defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. If you find yourself doing the deed with a child, either by flirting or proposition a child, or else touching them anywhere on their body, maybe you shouldn't have approached a child. If the child is right there, you still should not attack the child with flirtation or other forms of sexual assault. The only way out of the approach is to masturbate with intent to discharge. Then, the rest is history...

For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers. But, when children got older, they were given lavish praise for things such as self-control and reading the Bible. Children, until then, were nurtured up close to mothers. When children picked up the Bible, and were caught reading it, they were lavishly praised and encouraged for discovering the Bible.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct children in the Lord

Many parents want their children to grow up in some religion. This is a common wish for Christian parents in this country. However, the most common way to instruct a child in the Lord is to "break their will". However, children have an human need for religion, and so they should be instructed in the Lord by parents gently, meaning without punishment or shaming.

The religious instruction of children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to melding the countenance of children. In the Hebraic context of the Bible, this could only mean one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when caught in the act of good behavior. That good behavior ultimately came from the Christian example of parents. However, parents backed up their example not with punishment, but instead with lavish praise and encouragement. The idea is to find a child centering their countenance on their own, and then give them praise whenever they show self-control. Children need a religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers giving pointers on the context. 

Children naturally are spiritually curious, and so there is no need to be heavy on the instruction. Children will grow towards the religious denomination of their choice. It may not be your choice as to religion, but at least they have values. Punishment only alienates children from being spiritually curious on their own, and discourages children from learning at their own pace.

How do you motivate your child to hear out the instruction of fathers? Why not start with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Breastfeeding in most cases lasted until age 2, but sometimes, the breastfeeding of children lasted until age 6 (or maybe even later).  When children turned age 6, they were allowed outside to play, venturing farther and farther from home, but while first notifying mom of where they are going. Come nightfall, children were called by name - one by one - and were treated to a warm, homecooked meal from mom. Children then co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children in most cases wanted their own place to sleep. From there, children recharged in the loving warmth of mothers for another day's play.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!