Opposing Parental Entitlement: September 2024

Monday, September 30, 2024

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents have to deal with it. Their child cries in the middle of Wal-Mart. Most American parents punish and reprimand their children when they "embarrass" their parents through their tears. Many parents believe crying to be deserving of punishment in and of itself. However, the fact of the matter is that children cry when they are communicating a vulnerable need, the best way they know how.

Tending to a crying child is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Crying is not bad behavior in a child, at all. Most Christian mothers in the Early Church instead tended to the cries of their children. Whenever a child cried in the Early Christian church communities, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers, with that vocalization putting a crying child at ease. When children heard their mothers cooing at them, the cries of the child were then pacified. From there, mothers diagnosed the need, and then met it.

One way of dealing with a crying child is allow them to suckle the teat of mothers. In the Early Church, breastfeeding could happen everywhere, including even in public. Whenever the child latched onto the teat of mothers, they needed mom's milk. Breastfeeding officially ended when the child pushed away the teat of the mother, which is when parents in the Early Church introduced their child to solid food.

Most children who cry out loud are either ignored, or worse, punished. However, most crying in a child is developmentally appropriate behavior given the age and development of a child. When children don't grow up in some way, that is a sign of a developmental disorder such as autism and/or ADHD.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Sunday, September 29, 2024

Birth nudity: Why God wants birth nudity in the family home

Many parents think that children need punishment when they cry. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents are unaware as to the long standing tradition of birth nudity in this country. Birth nudity is a time-honored Christian tradition predating the formation of the Early Church.

Birth nudity is the core tenet of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 31:25-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Birth nudity is a time-honored tradition predating the Early Church. Birth nudity happens when mother and child are confined next to each other in the family home. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home.

This birth nudity setup allows for easy skin-on-skin contact between mother and child, with children receiving skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance every time that they were even picked up. Once children were picked up, they were held next to the bosom of mothers. If the child was tired, mom and child co-snuggled next to each other. If the child was hungry, they were fed. If the child needed mom's milk, the teat of the mother was right there for the child to latch onto, for as long as the child accepted the teat to suckle. If the child needed mom, she was right there.

Today, birth nudity can be applied as allowing your child to go naked in the confines of the family home, while leaving out a nice fit of clothing in plain view of the child. This birth nudity lasted until the child was curious about the clothing hanging out in plain view.

Birth nudity, as practiced in the Early Church, helped facilitate closeness during a stage of childhood frought with separation anxiety. Most children growing up in the Early Church started out childhood having separation anxiety in relation to parents. Separation anxiety is a stage of childhood where children under age 6 were morbidly afraid of mothers "going away and never coming back". Only, in the case of birth nudity, mom is right there, and thus children can receive the rays of skin-on-skin from their mother in the context of birth nudity.

Expectant mothers are advised to quit their job and let the man of the house pay the bills. The whole reason for this is separation anxiety in children under age 6. Children aged 0-6 are bound to develop separation anxiety. Christian mothers in the Early Church accommodated this anxiety in children by offering children birth nudity closeness, meaning mothers stayed home and tended to their children, with both mother and child going naked in the family home. The idea is to be there for your child day and night, at least until the first 6 years have passed.

Birth nudity involves near constant skin-on-skin sustaining warmth in relation to children. Most of that closeness came in the form of mammary closeness. Skin-on-skin warmth is the easiest way to become an attachment parenting mother. Once you take that plunge into skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, your only regret will be not doing it sooner.

There is a right way and a wrong way to do birth nudity. Old Order Mennonites allow for their children to be naked, while nonetheless punishing them nonstop until they put on the clothing. Proper birth nudity, however, allows for child nudity until the child elects to wear the clothing on their own. Children are naturally curious about items in their environment, and that includes clothing hanging on the banister. The child sees the adults put on clothing, and then the child copies the example of parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Saturday, September 28, 2024

Righeous child worship: Why children are extensions of God

Many parents think that the Ancient Jewish society was a child enslaving society. This is a common attitude from American parents. Most American parents want to be seen as extensions of God in their children's lives. However, the Early Christians in particular were, in fact, attachment parents of the child worshipping variety.

God's Word reads in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

This passage was seen as including children with the "least of these". Righteous child worship holds that children are the "least of these", extended to the doorstep of parents for love and charity, with parents being in full and dutiful submission to children, and children resting in the love and submission from parents. Parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Whatever you did to your child, such as punishing them, you did to God. Whatever you did not do for children, you did not do for God.

Righteous child worship is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous child worship does not mean literally praying to your child for good things, and instead means that children are to be served and submitted to just as parents would do for God. Whatever you do for your child, you do for God. Whatever you don't do for your child, you don't do for God.

Love for your children involves heeling to the commands of children, in full and dutiful submission to children, just as a parent would heel and submit to the commands of God. In most cases, when a child growing up in the Early Church wanted something, it was seen as a lawful summonses from children for parents to give children what they wanted. The only instance where parents were allowed to say "no" was when the commands of children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually struck up a compromise with children, instead of giving children a complete "no".

Children in biblical times were seen as doing no wrong, meaning a child was completely innocent and incapable of doing wrong, even if they did do things wrong technically. Children were instead seen as collective Godhead, issuing lawfully binding orders to parents and other adults.

Whenever children cried, mothers were quick to coo at a child before picking them up, and from there, diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Children got most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed, with children being seen as extensions of God.

Children were seen in the Early Church as being extended by God to the doorstep of parents, for purposes of love and charity coming from parents. Parents, in biblical times, were to be in full and dutiful submission to children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Early Christian culture was a child worshipping culture, meaning that children were seen then as extensions of God called to issue lawfully binding commands. When parents heard the commands of children, they heeled to those commands, expecting absolutely nothing in return. The Early Christians did not enslave their children. Instead, parents were righteously enslaved to children, submitting to their children just as they would to God.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Friday, September 27, 2024

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents believe in putting children in time-out. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, some American parents are looking for alternatives to punishment. One stated alternative is time-in. There are many ways of doing time-in, including calming corners and kneeling down to children. However, the biblical way of doing time-in is mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking.- child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Time-in can be done in various ways. Some child advocates recommend that children be sent to a calming corner, and others recommend kneeling down to the child before reassuring them. However, there is one biblical way to do time-in - mammary closeness. Mammary closeness is when children are cooed at before being picked up and held close to the bosom of mothers. From there, mothers diagnosed the need and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

One method of mammary closeness is breastfeeding. When children under age 6 cried, they were offered the teat of mothers. This breastfeeding happened even in public, with young children suckling the teat of mothers, lasting until the child refused the teat of mothers. When the child refused the teat of mothers, they were then introduced to solid foods. Most children refused the teat of mothers around age 2, with some children continuing to suckle the teat of mothers until age 6 or even older.

Mammary closeness is ideally done in skin-on-skin format. In biblical times, children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. When you try skin-on-skin mammary closeness with your children as a mother, your only regret will be not doing it sooner.

The breasts of women are not intended primarily for the sexualization of men. Instead, the female breasts were intended primarily for nurturing children. Whenever children are held close to the bosom of mothers, they are cushioned in skin-on-skin format, then lulled to sleep by hearing the mother's heartbeat. Children who were milk-dependent latched onto the nipple of the mother, suckling her teat until the day that the child refused the teat of mothers.

Thursday, September 26, 2024

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" rarely (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents take up the attitude that children should "no" frequent and often. However, this was not how things went in the Early Christian context. In the Early Church, children heard no seldom, meaning almost never. Instead, children need to hear the word "yes" frequent and often.

The word "yes", when used often, is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context. as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, 'reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The word "no" was used by Christian parents in the Early Church seldom, meaning almost never. Parents instead heeled to the command of their child, with parents being required under customary law to say "yes" to children whenever possible. Parents were only allowed to say "no" in the case that the petitioned request of children was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually struck up a compromise with children.

Children growing up in the Early Church got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. When young children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, they were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, and even then, the child pointed to what they wanted, and mothers got the item off of the shelf, just for the child. Older children were given their own spending money, with this money never coming from chores, but instead was a free handout from parents. This was intended as a natural consequence, teaching children the finite nature of money.

Children do not need to hear the word "no" all of the time. Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the core of these needs is attachment! Part of a secure attachment is children hearing the word "yes" far more often than the word "no". Children have no need to hear the word "no", as this damages the relationship between parents and children.

Tuesday, September 24, 2024

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored and respected. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, apart from a few narrow protections, parents are required to earn their honor and respect from their children. Respect in parenting is earned, not handed out on a silver platter.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

This commandment does not prohibit speaking against parents. It instead refers to moral statutes prohibiting clear elder abuse. Children are not allowed to strike or physically attack their parents (see also Exod. 21:15), curse their parents with airborne gaslighting (see also Lev. 20:9), or blame parents for moral crimes that they commit (see also Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from these narrow protections, parents are to earn their keep in relation to children.

The best way to understand the child's role in honoring parents is the commandment not to strike out at parents. You can use your parents for pretty much anything you want from them, and they are there for you. However, striking out at parents is not the way to get what you want. The key to dealing with children striking out at you as a parent is to wail righteously, meaning crying out loud when children strike out at you. You may find that your child doesn't want to take advantage of you as a parent, and simply wants to be heard. But, children should not be encouraged to strike out at parents to get what they want.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimand, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times, but that respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up her child next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the child reached the onset of puberty, which is when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate extra rays of skin-on-skin closeness, with these skin-on-skin rays happening every time a child was even picked up.

Monday, September 23, 2024

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think that child sexual abuse is something only a pedophile would commit. Most adults blame pedophiles alone for the sexual abuse of children. However, all adults have an individual responsibility to abstain from sexually abusing children. If you only get sexual fantasies of children in your sleep, know that you might be at risk for sexually abusing a child.

Every single adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children. Every single adult is deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children and the God that protects them. Any old adult is capable of child sexual abuse, under the right/wrong conditions. That doesn't mean all adults will, but that once-and-a-lifetime opportunity still exists for most adults to fall into, under the right/wrong conditions.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and maybe think the think later. But, if you find yourself doing the deed with a child, you shouldn't have approached her. "Doing the deed" involves either flirting with or propositioning a child, or else touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. All sexual relations outside of a marriage between one adult man and one adult woman are prohibited by God, with any marriage requiring mutual consent on the part of both bride and groom, as well as equality in the marriage. When there was no equality to be had in a marriage in the Early Church, the father stopped the wedding when asked "anyone who disapproves of this wedding, speak now or forever hold your peace". Most marriages in the Early Church were backed up by the father's blessing.

Most child sexual abuse comes from repressed sexual desire for children. Most adults have sexual attraction to at least teenagers as a secondary attraction, with 20% of men having secondary attraction to prepubescent children. Most adults completely repress their sexual attraction to children. This repressed desire then comes out sideways, like a ton of bricks. Any time you repress something as powerful as a sex drive, it comes out sideways when someone gets too close for comfort. The only way out of this dynamic is righteous masturbation, meaning masturbating without any pornography, in order to stay out of trouble.

Most pedophiles do not sexually abuse children, with 3 out of 4 pedophiles not sexually abusing children. According to research, approximately 1-2% of the male population are pedophiles, but probably much less. I myself am a pedophile who was an abuser while being a pedophile. I was an obvious abuser, meaning I was open not just about being a pedophile, but also made my crushes on children obvious to everyone around me. Most pedophilic abusers operate on the surface, in the form of sexual harassment. Think the pathetic loser who follows a child home from school, trying to flirt with a child out in the open. I myself would make my crushes obvious by following them around and waving the "hey baby" wave. I did it in plain sight, meaning I had no clue that my attention was inappropriate. Most pedophiles do know better than to flirt with children, and find better ways to relate to children. I use myself of an example as to how pedophilic abuse happens in most cases. It is okay to confide into someone else about being a pedophile. It is just not okay to flirt with children, even when it is out in the open. I myself, by track record, am an antisocial "flirt".

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let then descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the command of their child

Many parents think that children need parents to set limits with them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think they have the right to mete out orders onto their children. However, the fact of the matter is that righteous ordering means parents have to heel to the command of their children.

Heeling to the command of children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof in this relationship falling squarely on parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages and offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous ordering ultimately refers to parents heeling to the command of their children. Children in biblical times issued commands to their parents. In most cases, parents heeled themselves to the command from children. The only times that parents were allowed to say "no" was when the commands coming from the child were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents struck up a compromise with their children in most cases.

The word "no" was used seldom by parents in biblical times, meaning almost never. Children growing up in the Early Church got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Parents heeled to the commands of children in most all cases. Children growing up in the Early Church were given freedom to impose standards and limits on their parents.

Righteous ordering can be understood as akin to ordering from a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. When the restaurant doesn't carry an item, the waitress is nice about it, even if your aren't. Parents are to wait on children hand over foot, acting as a hired bondservant serving the child, working for a lump sum - meaning the child is as independent as possible.

Children are extended by God to the doorstep of Christian parents, for love and charity, with parents expecting absolutely nothing in return. Parenting isn't about being like God, but instead is about serving God, with children being extensions of God to be righteously enslaved to. Children issue the commands, and parents heel to them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Sunday, September 22, 2024

Redefining child abuse: Why our Judeo-Christian values call for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents believe that the Bible does not have a mere definition of child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents support child abuse definitions being the same as they are now. However, our founding Judeo-Christian values support expanding the definition of child abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Most of the time, parents want respect and praise, then imposing that want through parent anger. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is parents throwing a temper tantrum when they don't get from children what they feel that they deserve. All parent or adult anger was deemed parental entitlement in the Early Christian context, as all anger at a child is sore disappointment when children don't give parents what they feel that they deserve. When this entitlement leads to offenses or damages perceived by a child, it becomes child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting. including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Sweden was the first country in modern times to ban all forms of punitive parenting, with this ban being passed in 1979. However, many ancient cultures had a concept of children's rights, at least on the basic level of children's rights. The Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Christian culture, already had a ban based off of the Eighth and Tenth Commandments.

Israel officially banned punitive parenting of children in 2000, by way of court order. The Supreme Court of Israel ruled that the secular courts could hear cases involving child custody in cases of child abuse. Basically, the Supreme Court ruling was more of the same, as Israel never had a legal defense for parents who punished their children. The State of Israel was founded on children's rights tenets.

Israel currently has a statute prohibiting all domestic violence, understood broadly based off of all violence or battering within a home. This prohibition included any punishment or abuse of a child. Domestic violence laws were based off of whatever the child perceived as domestic violence or domestic abuse.

Saturday, September 21, 2024

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice for a parent to make. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, endorses children co-sleeping next to parents. In the Early Church, righteous co-sleeping was a way for parents to gel a bond with their children. Co-sleeping also prevents child sexual abuse before it happens.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof landing squarely on the parent. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 refuse to go to bed on their own. Punishment is commonly meted out by parents because children refuse to go bed on their own. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have a primal fear of being devoured by predators. Parents might think that there are no predators to mention in their own home. They would be mistaken. Most child sexual abuse takes place when a child is isolated in their bed, as a bedtime ritual. Mothers in biblical times dealt with this risk by bringing their children into bed with them, in skin-on-skin format. The rape or sexual assault of a child was then thwarted, as the mother was right there, ready to even act as a human shield in order to protect their child from being raped or sexually assaulted.

The main excuse for parents not co-sleeping next to their children is fearmongering spread by pediatricians or mental health professionals serving children about supposed "sleep dependence". However, the fact of the matter is that co-sleeping usually ended for children growing up in the Early Church when they reached the onset of puberty. Most children past the onset of puberty want their own place to sleep. Even when children did not leave the family bed, they likely had a developmental disorder such as autism or ADHD. All co-sleeping has an end to it. I myself have autism, and I didn't leave my mother's bed until age 16, in which case I wanted to prove my independence to my mother.

The ultimate way to gel a bond between parent and child is righteous co-sleeping. Children growing up in the Early Church co-slept with their parents every night, in skin-on-skin format. The family bed was a real thing in the Early Church, but came entirely in the nude. This nude family bed helped gel a bond between mother and child, with children receiving rays of skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy.

Friday, September 20, 2024

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper their children

Many parents think that children need to learn hard lessons. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents do not even want to be seen as pampering their children. Yet, this righteous pampering is what the Bible teaches, when understood in context. Parents are to pamper and baby their children when using the context as a guidepost.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof in this mutual submission relationship falling squarely on the parent. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not simply refer to pampering children any old way, but in a certain specific way. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at her children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked when in the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped easily facilitate skin-on-skin contact between mothers and children, with children receiving their dosage of skin-on-skin closeness every time they were even picked up.

When children were aged past age 6, they played freely outside, naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". However, children needed to check in with mom before they went out exploring the terrain. Come nightfall, children were called by name, one by one, and were treated to a warm, homecooked dinner on a porcelain plate. Then, children retreated to co-sleeping warmth between mother and child, recharging for another day of active play.

Children under age 6 were kept indoors with mom because they could not appreciate the dangers of the outside world. In the Early Christian context, the dangers facing children included venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom to counter the venomous bite. Today, dangers for young children under age 6 consist of busy streets and oncoming traffic. Children under age 6, in most cases, cannot possibly understand that the street is dangerous, and so they need constant closeness with mothers. This constant closeness also helped gel a secure bond between mother and child, with children needing mom due to having separation anxiety.

Thursday, September 19, 2024

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many parents think that throwing temper tantrums at all is bad behavior. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children merely for throwing temper tantrums. However, the fact of the matter is that temper tantrums in children are normal and natural behavior for a child.

Temper tantrums require skin-on-skin treatment from mothers. This skin-on-skin treatment is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context. as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed to any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Temper tantrums are not bad behavior. Instead of punishing children who were throwing tantrums, mothers in the Early Church cooed at their children before picking them up, thereby holding the child to her bosom in mammary closeness. From there, she diagnosed the need of the tantrumming child, and then met those needs. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

Whenever children who were milk-dependent cried, they were nursed to sleep through breastfeeding. The children were offered the teat of mothers even in public, with this breastfeeding setup ending when the child pushed away the teat of mothers. Most of the time, this refusal of the teat happened around age 2, but some children didn't push the teat away until age 6.

Children also cried in public as well as in private. To deal with the tears of children, mothers wrapped up their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied to the right breast of the mother, then across the dot to the left leg of the mother, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Whenever children cried, their cries were pacified by the swaddling blankets, so only the mother could hear the child and coo at her child, before meeting the need diagnosed accordingly. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was commonly grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Cooing is a primal vocalization uttered by mothers. The purpose of cooing at children is to put them at ease. Cooing at children pacifies their cries, and from there, mothers diagnosed the need and then met it. Children with verbal skills will then state what they need verbally in most cases. Children usually cry because they want their needs to be heard. Cooing lets children know that they are being heard, and that their emotional welfare matters.

Most temper tantrums happen because of the word "no" being used overzealously. The way around this is for children to hear your "yes" far more often then your "no". In most cases, under customary law, saying the word "no" to a child was forbidden. The only reasons a parent could say "no" was when the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, most parents found room to compromise with their child.

Wednesday, September 18, 2024

Righteous respect: Why parents need to earn respect from their children

Many parents in America feel entitled to respect from their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents forcefully demand respect from their children, and back up that demand with punishment. However, righteous respect from children is earned by parents.

Righteous respect is something earned by parents, and is part of a mutual submission relationship with children. The burden of proof in this relationship falls squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, respect then meant closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers will "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping sustaining warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth and closeness, with children getting skin-on-skin warmth even when they were picked up.

Respect in parenting is earned, not handed out on a silver platter. Parents are not deserving of anything from their children. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Parents are to earn the respect coming from their children. Parenting in biblical times was seen as a thankless job, but somebody had to do it in order for the species to procreate. Parents were seen as bondservants meting out charity and love to children extended by God to parents at their doorstep, giving to their children without receiving.

Tuesday, September 17, 2024

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents think that a child crying is a child deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children for crying. However, the fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior. Crying is a natural and normal way for children to advocate their needs.

Crying is not bad behavior, but rather is a way that a child advocates for a vulnerable need. This self-advocacy is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-36.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Crying was not seen as bad behavior in the Early Christian context. Instead, mothers knew that when children cried, they had vulnerable needs that needed to be met. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church cried, mothers cooed at their children, with children then being treated to skin-on-skin closeness. From there, the mother diagnosed the need, and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers, with that vocalization putting children at ease. When children heard their mother cooing at them, their cries were pacified, with mothers then diagnosing the vulnerable need of a child. In most cases, children needed closeness with mothers, and so children were treated to warmth and sustenance by mothers. If there was any additional need besides closeness, that need was met as well.

One way to deal with a crying child is to offer them your teat as a mother. In the Early Church, children were treated to breastmilk whenever they cried. From there, the child fell asleep by the end of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding in the Early Church was done even in public, with the child falling asleep when swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, with this swaddling arrangement happening whenever mom and children under age 6 were out and about. Even when in private, however, mothers were quick to breastfeed their child to sleep. From there, mothers co-snuggled with their nursed child in most cases. When children didn't want milk from mom, they pushed away the teat of the mother, in which case the child was introduced to solid food.

Most parents punish their children whenever they have tearful outbursts, oftentimes by spanking them. However, most all the behavior that adults call "naughty" is actually developmentally appropriate behavior. Most mothers in the Early Church knew this intuitively, and thus they simply treated a crying child to closeness. From there, children were often breastfed to sleep, with this breastfeeding regimen ending with the child pushing away the teat of the mother. Even then, children need skin-on-skin sustaining warmth when they cry. In most cases, all they need is mammary closeness, but it is good to check for other needs as well.

Monday, September 16, 2024

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the command of their child

Many parents think that the righteous ordering of a family home in relation to children is from top to bottom, and enforced by punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that they can give the orders, and that children have to obey their parents. However, the fact of the matter is that righteous ordering means parents heel to the command of their child.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof in this mutual submission relationship falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Righteous ordering means that parents heel to the command of children. This means that children should get most all of what they petition from their parents. The only reason that parents could say "no" to children was if the commands of the child were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually struck up a compromise with their children, instead of parents having to give a flat out "no".

Children growing up in the Early Church got almost everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Children's needs fall roughly into five categories; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these is attachment! Part of attachment is giving children most everything that they want. When children wanted something from market, such as sweets and candy, they were given what they wanted, or else were given their own spending money if they were older. Children who got their own spending money did not have to do chores in order to earn that money. When children wanted more spending money, the parents usually heeled to the command of their children, giving them money if they had enough money to give. With young children around age 6, who were wrapped up in swaddling blankets usually, pointed to the item that they wanted, and then mothers obliged, and paid for the item herself.

Righteous ordering is like ordering food at a restaurant. You can have it your way at a restaurant, but the item has to be on the menu. If the item is not available for some reason, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parents are there for the righteous usage of children, meaning parents are to wait on their child hand over foot, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Parents are not to be seen as like God, but are to view themselves as bondservants working for their children in exchange for a lump sum - with that lump sum being the child being as independent as possible. A parent is to heel to the command of their children, meaning they should allow their children to order them around, with parents heeling to the commands of their children. Instead of parents being in place of God, children should be likened to God by their parents, with children being extensions of God on the doorstep of parents, with parents giving children love and charity without receiving any reward or recompense in return.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Saturday, September 14, 2024

Why to catch your child being good (as opposed to catching them being bad)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. However, this means to most parents that children should be caught in the act while being bad. But, parents in biblical times instead caught their children being good, as opposed to being bad.

Catching children being good is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parent. See also Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children then following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Younger children - past age 6 - start out with religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be your choice of religion, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child, before picking him/her up and holding the child close to her bosom, and from there, she diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin contact with mothers, with children receiving skin-on-skin friction with mothers every time they were even picked up.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Friday, September 13, 2024

Redefining child abuse: Why our Judeo-Christian values call for broadening child abuse definitions

Many parents think that they have the right to punish a child. Most American parents cite the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. However, we as a nation are founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Those founding values call for lawmakers to make punitive parenting unlawful under the secular law.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. "Imposition" here refers to any parent anger or adult anger towards a child. Whenever this temper tantrum on the part of parents or adults is perceived as offensive by the child, it becomes child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have not gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The first country in modern times to ban all punitive parenting was Sweden in 1979. But, even before Sweden's landmark punitive parenting ban, many ancient societies prohibited striking or punishing a child. One of those societies was the Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Christian society.

Modern Israel has banned all punitive parenting since 2000. But, even before then, Israel never had a legal defense for punitive measures being used on children. The problem was that family courts were sectarian in terms of orientation, with the Christian courts especially siding with the parents of an abused child. The Supreme Court of Israel ruled that the police could unilaterally dissolve the family, meaning arrest the parents and collect their children, with the secular courts being able to dissolve the family without the permission of the sectarian courts.

Currently, Israeli authorities invoke a criminal statute prohibiting all domestic violence, including domestic violence against children. When children are struck or punished in Israel, the parents are immediately and swiftly arrested on charges of domestic violence. The children then were collected by necessity, because the child would otherwise be homeless and without parents.

In America, there is no law prohibiting any sort of punitive parenting under the secular law. However, America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian values, with the Bible being a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. Nowhere in those values does it legitimately say to strike or punish a child. Even in the 7 rod verses in Proverbs, what is being referenced is the 40 minus 1 lashes, with this passages being repealed passages - Christ did away with the harsh punishments of the Law with His work on the cross. The commandment against provoking children to anger means don't offend them with your anger.

Thursday, September 12, 2024

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. The word "no" is used frequently by most American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible and its context prescribes that the word "no" be used seldom by parents, meaning almost never. Children need to hear the word "yes" far more often than the word "no".

The word "yes", used often, is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few children during his time as a deacon.

It is a myth that children need to hear the word "no" from parents "frequent and often". The fact of the matter is that children growing up in the Early Church got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Christian parents in the Early Church heeled themselves to the command of a child, saying "yes" most all of the time that children petitioned them for something. When parents had to avoid saying "yes", they usually came to a compromise with their children instead of saying a flat out "no".

The word "no", by default, was banned by way of customary law in the Early Church. Parents were required by customary law to say "yes" frequent and often to the command of the child, and "no" rarely. The only time a parent could say "no" was when the command of the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When the word "no" was handed down by parents, the child's parents were required to gel the situation by offering an explanation as well as reassurance.

When out and about with mothers, children often wanted to buy something. Children under age 6 were wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to mothers, and they often pointed to an item that they wanted, usually sweets or candy of some sort, and mothers bought them what they wanted in most cases. Children older than age 6 were given their own spending money by mothers, not from doing chores, but as charity from parents, with parents giving their children money while receiving absolutely nothing in return.

The every vulnerable plea of a child for what they wanted was seen as a command for the parents to heel to. The every wish of a child was the command of parents, with few exceptions. The main reason for parents to say "no" to children was to deter sexually amoral choices such as child-on-child sexual interactions. Even then, the child was reassured with statements such as "you'll get your chance once you're married". Parents said "no" warmly and reassuringly, meaning with a token of apology for offending the child with the word "no".

Wednesday, September 11, 2024

Pedophilic children: How to bring up a pedophilic child

Many parents worry about their child being sexually abused. This is a normal fear on the part of parents. However, most parents don't plan on having a child with pedophilia. However, a child can be diagnosed with pedophilia as young as age 16, and can be identified earlier. Pedophilic children are the most oppressed of all children, as they have two strikes against them - being a child and being a pedophile.

Most people think that a pedophile is an anger packet imposed on a child. However, the fact of the matter is that a pedophile has a child-centered form of autism. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children in terms of knowledge and social skills, with their sexual preferences reflecting their specialty in children and children's issue. If a man with autism is a natural at nurturing children, think pedophile, as most individuals with autism find children annoying.

Most pedophiles are not sexual abusers of children. According to research, only 1 in 4 pedophiles have sexually abused a child. That means 3 out of 4 pedophiles have done nothing wrong in relation to children. An adult pedophile is the safest of all adults around children. Most pedophiles have not committed a sexual offense even as a child.

Most pedophiles do not disclose in the form of a "bomb going off". Most pedophile disclosures are tear-filled and vulnerable, as most pedophiles want their desires to go away. However, the fact of the matter is that the desires aren't going away, and so the pedophile needs to feel comfortable in their own skin. The only way out of that fog is masturbation to sexual thoughts of children.

The way to tell if your pedophilic child is going to become an offender is the nature of the disclosure. An abuser pedophile is usually an obvious abuser, meaning they frequently disclose about crushes that they have to a child. An abuser disclosure of pedophilia is a tone-deaf one, meaning the abuser pedophile in question discloses their pedophilia without understanding the gravity of the term. Most pedophiles instead disclose in tears, wanting the desires to go away. I myself was an obvious abuser, meaning I disclosed in the form of a joke pedophile. Most pedophiles don't see the issue as a joke, but as a painful life problem. I disclose my abusership in order to point out to the casual reader what to look for in order to locate an abuser pedophile. Most pedophiles are not abusers at all, but I am.

Pedophiles require a certain level of sensitivity. The cardinal rule of pedophile sensitivity is to not use the word "pedophile" as a pejorative insult to a rapist or sexual assailant of child. A pedophile is more likely to be a victim of child sexual abuse than a perpetrator of child sexual abuse. Most pedophiles were sexually shamed as children just for being a pedophile, meaning oftentimes corrective rape against a pedophilic child. A pedophilic child cannot help but have their condition, as pedophilia is a genetic disorder along the lines of autism and other developmental disorders.

What can a parent do in order to keep their child from sexually offending against much younger children, or in order to sexually abuse a child at all once they are an adult? The idea is to allow your child to vent to you in a clinical way or in a clinical celebratory way. Clinical celebratory disclosures are intended to vent about problematic sexual desires in order to avoid actually acting on them. All a pedophile needs from their parents is to get the burden off their chest, like unloading baggage that is burdensome.

Most child sexual abuse is committed by non-pedophilic adults, not pedophilic adults. Most rapists or sexual assailants of children are in denial of the sexual attraction to children that most adults have. Most child sexual abuse happens in a sexually repressed environment, where the repressed adult attraction to children comes out sideways onto the child, like a ton of bricks. A pedophile, in rare cases, can repress their pedophilia entirely, and that comes from a sexually shaming environment as a child. However, most abuser pedophiles have a moderate-severe mental disability such as autism. Most pedophilic offenders don't understand the gravity of their actions towards children, but they sure deserve prison just for incurring onto a child in that way.

Most pedophiles have a severe religious trauma. Most pedophiles are not the most religious fellows on the block. Instead, most pedophiles are either atheist or agnostic. They prayed to God to take away their pedophilia, but God did not. My understanding of my pedophilia ultimately is that it is God's Will, meaning it is a spiritual condition that God, for some reason, will never take away. It is a sin nature that I will have for the rest of my life. I am a flawed adult in that respect, and am deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. Most pedophiles were also sexually shamed as children, and so they had to lose their religion in order to cope with being a pedophile. Praying away the pedophile never cured a pedophile. I see pedophilia ultimately as a flaw to use for good, as my whole life involves children, despite me not having much to do with children. I just have to be careful that I don't become an abuser to children like I once was. I ultimately am a regret parent towards children, in parallel format. I have a mental disorder called pedophilia because I acted on it in the form of sexual harassment of children.

A pedophile can make a good child advocate, as most pedophiles are aware of their trauma. However, pedophilia should remain a mental disorder because a pedophile cannot possibly have the sexual relationship with children that they desire, and that will never change. I myself have a parental rights trauma of the legal sort, meaning I hate the idea of disciplinary rights that are enshrined in our nation's laws in all 50 states. I am aware of my trauma, and always was, because I am a pedophile, and a pedophile is usually conflated with a traumatic form of autism. Anyone with autism who identifies strongly by trauma is likely a pedophile. It is a myth that pedophiles are incapable of trauma. My parents used spanking and false imprisonment tactics to control my behavior, and I turned out resentful of my parents due to that treatment. I gave my parents hell until they could not deny their abusive treatment of me any longer, and then I ended up with gentle parents. Pedophiles have a passion for children that can be put to good use. They just need to know the boundaries around children, which can be taught by parents.

Most pedophilic offenders are sexually curious about the bodies of children, and want to see the sexual or intimate parts of children. Certain body books geared towards children entering puberty are also suitable for pedophilic children. A pedophilic child will then know what children's bodies look like, and not need to check for themselves and possibly run afoul of the law. My parents never bought me those books, but I sure leaned on them for questions involving children's sexual development.

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame their pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

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