Why to catch children being good (as opposed to catching them being bad)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common wish that parents have for their child. However, most parents think this means catching a child being bad, and punish them for an infraction. The fact of the matter is that children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad.

Catching children being good is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise. That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children were caught being good in biblical times, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with parents leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement from fathers, with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to point out the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - past age 6 - start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as they get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers would coo at children before picking them up, and from there diagnose the child's vulnerable need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 went out and about with mothers, they were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping happening every single night, until the child reached the onset of puberty and wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth between mother and child.

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers kept their distance, with their role in parenting was to step in and catch children being good. Fathers kept their distance from their children due to a sexual attachment to their children. However, even in biblical times, fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake". Fathers instead masturbated to sexual thoughts of their child, in the form of righteous masturbation. The most fathers could hope for was daughters being completely naked in order to please her father, not minding being naked for him because they were otherwise well taken care of.  Sexual correction from fathers was something that existed in other ancient cultures. In the Early Church, raping your child was considered fornication, even if the child was willing. It is a myth that the Hebraic context of the Bible allows for child rape. Fathers who sexually abused children in the Early Church were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. The man of the house was there mainly to nurture his wife, with fathers stepping in on occasion when children were caught being good by his observation. Fatherly nurturing was educational in nature, with the righteous masturbation allowing for a father-child bond, with fathers imprinting on children using righteous masturbation.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous respect: Why respect is to be earned by Christian parents

Many parents feel entitled to respect from their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents, and especially Christian parents. Most American parents demand respect from their children, but do nothing to earn it. The fact of the matter is that respect is earned in life, including in parenting.

Righteous respect is what parents get when they follow the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with parents having the burden of proof in a mutual submission relationship with their children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined as under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a real thing in biblical times. However, respect then came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mothers went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were held constantly by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between the ages of 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then diagnosing the need from there. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, they were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin closeness happening every single night, until the onset of puberty in a child, which was when they wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also being naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth between mothers and children.

Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from their children. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Respect from children does not come on a silver platter, but instead is earned though the hard work of parents. Parents have the burden of proof in a mutual submission relationship with their children, and thus have the duty to win over their children, not beat the devil out of them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Why the Early Christians were attachment parents

Many parents believe that that attachment parenting is the unbiblical way to deal with children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that punitive parenting is commanded in the Bible. However, the fact of the matter is that the Early Christians were attachment parents.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the Early Christian context. The Early Christians were attachment parents. The Bible, therefore, is an attachment parenting document. The Bible is a founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. The Bible, and its context, tells us how we should live as a society founded on Judeo-Christian morals. Nowhere in those Judeo-Christian morals does it legitimately say to punish a child.

Christian attachment parenting is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your children as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, and girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development. Young children - around age 6 - start out with simplistic beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be your choice of religion, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mothers went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, from there diagnosing the need behind the cry. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, and from there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasting every night, until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also being naked within the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity setup facilitating constant skin-on-skin sustaining warmth between mother and child.

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers were simply there to instruct children in the Lord. Fathers kept their distance due to a sexual attachment between them and their children, with daughters getting the bulk of the attraction. But, even in biblical times, fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake". Fathers instead were instructed by church ordinance to masturbate to sexual thoughts of their children, with this being a form of righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation is masturbation in order to stay out of trouble, thereby purging the system of unrequited lusts. The most fathers could hope for was daughters enjoying being naked for their father, as they were otherwise well taken care of. Most ancient contexts allow for the man of the house to sexually correct children for crying too much. The Early Christian context, however, prohibits sexually correcting children, deeming it fornication.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents think that they are entitled to being honored by their children. However, few parents do anything to earn being honored by their children. Most American parents want to be honored by their parents. Honor, however, is something earned by parents, not something handed out on a patter for free. 

The Fifth Commandment reads in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

Honoring parents, at minimum, means don't dishonor parents. You can use your parents pretty much any way you'd like, with you owing parents nothing in return. However, parents do have some rights. Don't strike or attack them (see also Exod. 21:15), don't gaslight parents to send them places (see also Lev. 20:9), and don't blame your parents for moral crimes that you commit (see also Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from that, parents need to do their part to earn being honored.

The commandment to honor parents can be understood in terms of the commandment not to strike or physically attack parents. You can use your parents for pretty much anything that you need or want, with your every wish being the parent's command. But, you can't express your needs by striking or attacking them. When children strike out at parents, parents should use the strategy of righteous wailing, or crying out loud when children strike out at you. You may find that your child simply wants to be heard, and doesn't want to take advantage of your vulnerable tears.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a real concept in biblical times. However, respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag if her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged besides mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before rushing in to pick them up, and from there diagnose the need that the child had. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Children under age 6, when out and about with mothers, were wrapped up next to mom in swaddling blankets, with swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin closeness happening every night, until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted a place of their own to sleep.

Honor is something parents earn, not something handed out on a silver platter. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children. Not even honor. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Parenting should be a thankless job, meaning parenting should be a selfless endeavor, with children being able to use their parents like a sponge, even when children are independent adults. Parents should be the safety net for children to fall on.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common want amongst American parents. Most American parents want their children to have discipline. However, most parents equate punishment with discipline. However, child discipline is best done without punishment or force.

Proper child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when fathers caught them being good, whereas girls got a kiss to the forehead when fathers caught them being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based on what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - past age 6 - start out by developing religious beliefs that are simplistic and non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as they grow older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion of your choice, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out their father's instruction? Why not start out with a secure attachment between mother and child. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not letting mom out of their sight, fearing that mom will "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child, then picking up the child, and from there, diagnosing the need of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Children under age 6, when out and about, were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets, and the child with them, were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format every single night, with this co-sleeping setup lasting until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep.

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers only stepped in occasionally, in order to praise and encourage good behavior in children, and otherwise, kept their distance and nurtured the woman of the house. Fathers were distant from children because they had a sexual attachment to their children. But, even then, fathers in the Early Christian context were not allowed their "icing on the cake". Instead, fathers masturbated righteously to thoughts of their children, especially their daughters. This righteous masturbation allowed for fathers to feel comfortable around their daughters, and give them proper religious instruction. It was a distant bond, but a bond nonetheless. The most fathers could hope for was their daughter enjoying being naked for their father, knowing that she was otherwise well taken care of. The sin line was at the approach, meaning fathers were not allowed to approach their children with intent to go further. A father could look the look, and then think the think later. Fathers could not approach the approach or do the deed. "Do the deed" means, at minimum, flirt with or proposition a child, or else touch a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. It is one thing to think the think about your daughter, but it is a whole other thing if you do the deed with her. Sexual contact with a child is the ultimate moral crime, not having a sexual fantasy about a child. In the Bible, the Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to mere sexual desire but, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. This approach was easily avoided in biblical times by masturbating righteously to sexual thoughts of children. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that children need a time-out, alongside the occasional disciplinary spanking. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American adults support punitive parenting practices. However, God wants parents to do a time-in, not a time-out. There is only one biblical way to do a time-in, and that method is mammary closeness. 

Time-in is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other forms of controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Time-in is a necessary method in attachment parenting. However, there is only one biblical way to do time-in - mammary closeness. Mammary closeness happened when children cried. Whenever a child cried, they were cooed at before being picked up. Once picked up, children were held next to the bosom of mothers, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. From there, mothers diagnosed the every need of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Either way, mom was there in order to be used, like a sponge or a milking cow.

During the course of mammary closeness, children latched onto the nipple, and were nursed using the mother's teat. Mothers breastfed wherever, mean anywhere and everywhere where they were summoned to by their child, including in public. Children who were done with breastfeeding refused the nipple, and from there, they could move onto solid foods. Most children in biblical times refused the nipple around age 2, but some children weren't ready for solid foods until age 6 or even older. Children up until age 2 were constantly held by mothers, and were nursed whenever they cried. Sometimes, the child had to be unloaded from a papoose bag when the mother's hands were full.

Mammary closeness was practiced even in public by Christian mothers. When out and about in public, children were held close to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, in constant skin-on-skin mammary closeness. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. The swaddling blankets ensured constant skin-on-skin protection and sustaining warmth. When children cried, they were held closer to the bosom of mothers, with milk-dependent children being breastfed to sleep. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Mothers also practiced mammary closeness in private. Children went naked wherever they wanted, and mothers also went naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated skin-on-skin optimal sustaining warmth. Whenever a child was picked up after crying, they were treated to skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy, as both parties were in the nude. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents punish their children. The main excuse for punishing children is the Bible according to the parents. The Bible is a common excuse for punishing or abusing children. However, nowhere in the Bible does it say legitimately to strike or punish a child. One common passage used to justify punishing children is Heb. 12:5-8.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? If ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

This passage, when interpreted correctly, gives me comfort. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning in the original Greek. Ultimately, Paul was making a figurative example of the 40 minus 1 lashes. Paul was comforting the Hebrew Christians in their persecution by Rome. This sort of language was known as rod language. When you got home from a long day at work in biblical times, you said "God whipped me hard today". Ultimately, this passage refers to enduring all odds, not a literal whipping or spanking. 

God whips His children, like only He can. However, God only whips His children when it isn't harmful, sending trials and tribulations the way of His children. However, earthly parents only whip their children when it it harms their children. Because of the flawed nature of earthly parents, earthly parents should parent as comes naturally, meaning attachment parenting. Hebrews 12:5-8 isn't about parenting. However, there are passages that have to deal with parenting. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and thy mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children showed good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when fathers caught them being good, whereas girls got a kiss to the forehead when fathers caught them being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based on what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - past age 6 - start out their religious development by forming simplistic beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as they get older, they grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be your choice of religion, but at least they have values. 

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers were quick to coo at their children, then picking them up, and from there diagnosing the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were taken out and about, mothers wrapped up their young child in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping sustaining warmth lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers going naked within the confines of the family home, only wearing a dress when out and about to honor her husband. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth - all mom had to do was pick up a child, and the child received rays of skin-on-skin sustenance.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. Fathers nurtured in a teaching way, stepping in when children were caught being good. Fathers were distant in their nurturing due to a sexual attachment to their children, especially daughters. Daughters also had an attraction to their fathers, with the sexual dynamics between father and daughter being mutually unrequited. Fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake" even then, with fathers instead masturbating to sexual thoughts of his daughter. From there, girls were happy to go naked for their father, greeting him in the nude when he got home, not minding being naked because they were otherwise well taken care of. Righteous masturbation, in the context of parenting, is masturbating to sexual thoughts of your child to stay out of trouble. The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement, with "sexual entitlement" being defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach - if you approach a child with intent to go further, it is as if you already have done the deed. Doing the deed involves any propositioning or flirting, or else touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper your children

Many parents think that pampering children is the irresponsible choice on the part of a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents don't pamper their children, but instead punish their children. Righteous pampering refers to a distinct way of pampering children.

Righteous pampering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offensive stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating their children as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering refers to a specific form of pampering of children, meaning as was done in the Early Christian context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were held constantly by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers stepped in by cooing at children before picking them up, and from there, diagnosed the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mother and child - under age 6 - were out and about in public, mothers wrapped up their children next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the mother's loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping ending in most cases at the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, and mothers were naked within the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity setup facilitating skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. 

When children attained the age of 6, they were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Children explored the neighborhood, venturing farther and farther from home, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". But, first, they had to check in with mom and tell mom how far they wanted to explore. Come nightfall, mothers called their children, one by one, by name, knowing where to find their children. From there, children were given a nice, warm dinner on a porcelain plate. After that, children were treated to skin-on-skin co-sleeping, so that they have the energy the next day to venture even farther from children.

Children under age 6 were not allowed to play outside because there could be environmental hazards such as venomous snakes and scorpions. Children were very much sheltered and protected for those first 6 years. For the latter years of childhood, children were allowed to play, as long as they tell their mother where they are going. Today, the hazards are different, but the same nonetheless - namely busy streets and oncoming traffic. With children with autism, bodies of water are an additional hazard, as they might drown. Young children under age 6 were too young to appreciate the dangers of being outside.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" depravation: Why children need all of what they need

Many parents buy into the idea of "benign" deprivation. This is where some of children's needs are turned down to make room for what a child "really" needs. Most parents in America use "benign" deprivation as an excuse for abusing a child. The fact of the matter is that children need all of what they need, and also should get most of what they want as well.

"Benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

"Benign" deprivation is all about denying children their needs, meaning not meeting some of the child's needs in order to deal with what the child "really" needs. However, mothers in biblical times met the EVERY need of a child. This meant providing birth nudity to children under age 6, where mothers were in constant closeness to their children in the nude, with this birth nudity facilitating easy skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. All the mother had to do was pick up a crying child, and the child then was in skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance with children. 

The key part of the false doctrine of "benign" deprivation is the frequent use of the word "no". Children should hear the word "no" rarely, meaning almost never. Children in biblical times got most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed. When children heard the word "no" and couldn't accept that word, they were reassured and validated by mothers. Parents in biblical times were only allowed to say "no" when the child was petitioning something unworkable and/or immoral. 

A child has 5 main categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with attachment being the greatest of these categories of needs! Your child is counting on YOU to meet all of those needs. Sleep falls under attachment needs, as a child should take a nap or go to sleep next to their mother.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever!

Separation anxiety: Why separation anxiety is normal for young children

Many parents think that children who cry out of nowhere deserve punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children merely for crying. However, children who cry out of nowhere might be crying for attachment. Separation anxiety is a normal stage in childhood development. 

Dealing with separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: paideia) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Separation anxiety can be solved by way of mothers being there for their children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged beside mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing her out of her sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Children were kept close to mothers because they had separation anxiety. 

The proper way to deal with separation anxiety as a mother is to quit your job as soon as you become pregnant, and then stay at home with your child for the first 6 years of childhood. This was done in biblical times in the form of birth nudity, where mother and child were both in the family home, naked. This birth nudity setup was intended to provide optimal skin-on-skin closeness with mothers. When mothers and children went out and about in public, mothers wrapped up their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, with the child being in constant skin-on-skin closeness while tucked underneath the mother's loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty in children, which was when they wanted their own place to sleep. When you go back to work right after giving birth, you are making reality of the child's worst fear - that you will "go away and never come back". It is the man's job to bring home the bread, and the woman's job to stay at home and tend to her children. Children need a good mom to be there for them constantly.

Children cry out of nowhere when they have attachment needs to be met. Children always cry for a reason, and the most common reason for a child crying is attachment needs, meaning they need YOU when they cry out of nowhere. What a crying child needs is mom's loving attention. Yes, they are begging for attention, and that is because attention is a core attachment need for children. The best way to be there for your child as a mother is to quit your job, as being a mother is a woman's highest calling.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to pass down the Christian faith to children (without punishment or force)

Many parents want to pass down the Christian faith to their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents choose to pass down the faith by way of breaking the will of the child. This is a common use of force in Christian parenting. However, the best way to pass down the Christian faith to a child is to model it to them, and encourage it in them.

Passing down the faith is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See also Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in relation to their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started by leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you".  From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, based off of children's curiosity about the biblical text. Children were eager about the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. 

Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Younger children - past age 6 - develop religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as they get older, they begin to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would have in mind, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of fathers? Why not start with secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to their mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the needs of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When out and about in public, children under age 6 were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty in a child, when children wanted their own place to sleep.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why children call the shots in Christian homes

Many parents think that children are to listen to them, and feel entitled to children listening to them. Most parents want their children to listen to them. However, the fact of the matter is that children should be allowed to call the shots in the family home.

Allowing children to call the shots is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children growing up in the Early Church called the shots. That means that children gave the orders, and parents obeyed. Children ordered parents around in biblical times. The only way that parents could righteously disobey children was when the orders issued were unworkable and/or immoral. Even when parents had to say "no", they had to reassure their child as a token of apology for offending their child.

Children, when under age 6, in most cases cried for what they needed, and then mothers responded to the every cry of their child. Children older than age 6, in most cases, ordered parents around with "I want" statements. Children in biblical times got most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed.

Letting children call the shots is like going to a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. When the item is not on the menu, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parenting should be as selfless and servile as being a waitress. A parent should be selfless enough to be used like a sponge, or like a milking-cow if the child is still milk-dependent.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel entitled to respect from their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents feel that their children should respect them and fear them. However, the fact of the matter is that respect is earned in life - even in parenting. 

The doctrine of mutual submission is how you understand respect in parenting, with the burden of proof being on the parent. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was very real in biblical times. But, respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking the child up, and from there, diagnosed the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When out and about in public, mothers wrapped up their children, who were under age 6, next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping closeness lasting until puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked inside the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity facilitating easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth.

Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. The every respect from a child is to be earned, not handed out on a silver platter. You can earn your respect from your child by submitting to their every vulnerable need, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Father's Day: Understanding the biblical duties of fathers

It is Father's Day here in America. This Father's Day, we should focus not only for gifts for dad, but what dads have to do for their children. The Early Christian context was an attachment parenting context, but with there being clear roles between mothers and fathers. Think more like separate pews for men and women. Fathers were mainly in charge of nurturing their wives, but they did also nurture their children to some degree.

The duties of fathers are spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were given lavish praise and encouragement by fathers with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss on the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. This religious instruction started out by a father leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught by fathers reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers giving pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for adults and children alike. In young children - past age 6 - children developed simplistic beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children got older, they started to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you want for them, but at least they have values. If you want to narrow their options to Christian options, only leave out a Christian Bible.

Fathers do nurture, but from afar. Fathers nurture their children in a teaching way that praises or encourages good behavior, stepping in rarely, and leaving the close nurturing of children to mothers. Fathers kept their distance because they had a sexual attachment to their children. That sexual attachment was especially felt for daughters, with the attraction between fathers and daughters being mutually unrequited. However, even then, fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake", and instead followed their parent attraction to the end using righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation is solo masturbation without pornography, in order to stay out of trouble. The Greek root word denoting sexual entitlement is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. If your intent in approaching your daughter is to do the deed with her, including flirtation or propositioning, don't approach her, and keep your two feet flat on the ground. You can look the look, and think the think later, but you cannot approach the approach or do the deed. Whenever you flirt or proposition a child, or touch them anywhere on their body with sexual intent, you are doing the deed. But, the moment you approach your daughter, meaning take the first steps to do the deed, it is the same as doing the deed in and of itself. The only way out is to masturbate to sexual thoughts of your child, in order to stay out of trouble. When you masturbate to sexual thoughts of your child, you become more comfortable around them, and are warmer and gentler as a father.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The age of consent/marriage: Why the Bible has answers

Many people think that the age of consent/marriage in biblical times allowed for older men to date younger girls. This is a common myth about the biblical context. Most adults, however, believe these myths about the Bible. The fact of the matter is that sexual relations with children was always wrong to begin with, and always will be wrong.

The most common form of child sexual abuse is father-daughter incest. One verse that prohibits such wickedness is Leviticus 18:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, neither shalt thou take her son's daughter, or her daughter's daughter, to uncover their nakedness; for they are her near kinswomen: it is wickedness.

This passage, in its context, was understood by the courts as prohibiting all father-daughter incest, not just incest when the mother was around. Most father-daughter incest was initiated then by the daughters, usually with alcohol being administered by the daughters. Even then, however, the father was prosecuted by the court merely for allowing sexual relations with daughters. Law in the Old Testament was applied flexibly, not narrowly. The Greek root word cross-referencing this commandment is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to any sexual behavior outside of proper channels, as understood in the context. 

The cardinal rule of the context is to only have sexual relations within a marriage, with that marriage being an equal marriage. In the Early Church, marriages had to be between same-age peers, with the father having the right to stop an unequal marriage. Marriage customs in the Early Church were similar to today. The couple usually agreed to get married when they were fast friends, and the wedding involved the exchanging of vows. Women vowed to submit to their husband, and husbands vowed to love their wives. 

Marriages, even then, had to be equal in nature. When the marriage was not equal in nature, the father of the bride would interject his objections at the wedding, when the question was asked "if there are any objections to this marriage, voice them now or forever hold your peace". Fathers in the Early Church were protective in most cases, and didn't want his daughter to marry a "loser" older than his daughter. 

Most lies about the context come from Pro-Spank, who invented the Revised context to hide the Hebraic context, while accusing the Hebraic context falsely of endorsing child sexual abuse. This lie was intended to keep parents away from the anti-spanking Hebraic context. The Hebraic context, however, is tame, with the Revised context being the rough and rowdy context.

It is a myth that brides were acquired by grooming in the Early Church. In fact, virgins went naked out in the open, and attracted young men that way. When a woman was naked, she was communicating that she was unmarried. She met young men that way, and took them home for her father to inspect. The father then gave his blessing if he approved of the marriage. Sometimes, the marriage went on without the father's blessing. But, if the marriage was unequal in nature, the father could voice his objection at the wedding. The Hebraic context endorses courtship, not grooming for a bride. If the young man didn't get the bride he was courting, and she turned him down, he had to atone for approaching a woman falsely, with that approach counting as sexual entitlement.

The age of consent/marriage should be at the age of majority, wherever it stands. The age of majority is at age 18 in most places around the world, and thus the age of consent/marriage should be at those ages. The age of 18 might be a bit young for my approval, as the brain isn't fully formed until age 25. In the Early Church, the age of consent/marriage was aligned with the age of majority, meaning you couldn't get married until you were legally an adult. Maybe the ages were younger then, but that was only because people didn't live that long, with many people dying by age 18. The age of majority is nowhere mentioned in the Bible, except one place. See Romans 13:1-4 KJV:

Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. For rulers aren't a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and have praise of the same. For he is a minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do what is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil. 

The law of the land, in all states except one, mark the age of majority at age 18. In Mississippi, the age of majority is 21. The age of majority should also serve as the age of consent/marriage, with all sexual relations outside of marriage being banned. In the Early Church, sexual relations was not seen as a right for all to have, but instead a privilege reserved for adults who were married. Children were expected to remain pure and chaste until marriage, meaning they were expected to wait until marriage. Marriages in the Early Church had to be licensed by Rome, just like marriages today are required to be licensed in order to be officiated. 

Marriage, in the Early Church, looked similar to marriages today. Marriage was not just about signing on a dotted line, meaning sexual relations in and of themselves were not a marriage. A Christian wedding involved getting a license from Rome, and then exchanging vows. Marriages had to be between one adult man and one adult woman in the same place in life. 

Today, "same place in life" means that children in the early years - before age 18 - are not marriageable. College-aged women and men are marriageable to same-age classmates. It is the latter years that allow some freedom, meaning you can marry anyone you want past the college years if you are a single adult not in college.

The biblical standard on sexual entitlement is not based off of simply avoiding looking at a woman or child. The Greek root word denoting sexual entitlement is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epthumeo) and is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. This means that a man cannot approach a woman except with the intent to marry her later, and cannot approach a child at all with the intent to flirt with or proposition a child. A man is to gauge his intent when walking around an attraction figure, and if he has the intent to do the deed outside of marriage, he should not be approaching her. Doing the deed outside of marriage includes flirting or propositioning with intent for extramarital sexual relations. There is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. Doing the deed at all with a child is the moral crime of fornication. Approaching the approach is the first steps leading up to doing the deed, meaning things such as walking up to the child with intent to flirt or proposition. However, the first step towards fornication counts as approaching the approach. You can look the look at any child dressed in a revealing manner, and even think the think about her later. You cannot go up to her to approach her if your intent is to do the deed. Doing the deed involves not only propositioning or flirting, but also touching a child or woman anywhere where a swimsuit normally covers up. The way around the approach is looking the look, and thinking the think later through righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation purges the body of all unrequited lusts, and was seen as akin to a purity ritual in biblical times. Some adults will need aversion imagery to avoid child targets fully, but many adults will find inner peace the moment they masturbate to sexual thoughts of a child/ 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descent into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper their children

Many parents think that pampering their children is the irresponsible choice in parenting. Most parents instead support harsh reprimands and even punishment of children. The fact of the matter is that the Bible teaches, in context, that parents should pamper and baby their children.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See also Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering means pampering your children in just the right way, as prescribed by the context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in their mother's loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing her out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, diagnosing the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When out and about in public, mothers wrapped up their young children - under age 6 - next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping closeness lasting until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, and mothers also went naked within the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity setup facilitating skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. The moment a child was picked up by mom, they received skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. 

After age 6, children were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". However, children had to tell mom where they were going. Come nightfall, children were called by name, one by one, and were treated to a nice, warm dinner. Then, children co-slept next to mothers in order to recharge, venturing even farther the next day from home. Children were only allowed free play past age 6 because there were hazards in the way, such as venomous snakes and scorpions. They didn't have antivenom then, and so the child died when they were bitten by venomous snakes or scorpions. Even today, hazards exist for children too young to appreciate them, such as busy streets and oncoming traffic. Children do not see hazards until they are around age 6. That is why they should be kept indoors for the first 6 years of life, not leaving the side of their mothers.

The common gentle parenting advice is to kneel down to a crying child, and reassure them that way. However, attachment parenting - as done in the Early Church - involved picking up children when they were upset. Both mothers and children were naked in the family home, and thus skin-on-skin reassurance happened the moment mom picked up her upset children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!