Separation anxiety: Why separation anxiety is normal for young children

Many parents think that children who cry out of nowhere deserve punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children merely for crying. However, children who cry out of nowhere might be crying for attachment. Separation anxiety is a normal stage in childhood development. 

Dealing with separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: paideia) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Separation anxiety can be solved by way of mothers being there for their children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged beside mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing her out of her sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Children were kept close to mothers because they had separation anxiety. 

The proper way to deal with separation anxiety as a mother is to quit your job as soon as you become pregnant, and then stay at home with your child for the first 6 years of childhood. This was done in biblical times in the form of birth nudity, where mother and child were both in the family home, naked. This birth nudity setup was intended to provide optimal skin-on-skin closeness with mothers. When mothers and children went out and about in public, mothers wrapped up their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, with the child being in constant skin-on-skin closeness while tucked underneath the mother's loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty in children, which was when they wanted their own place to sleep. When you go back to work right after giving birth, you are making reality of the child's worst fear - that you will "go away and never come back". It is the man's job to bring home the bread, and the woman's job to stay at home and tend to her children. Children need a good mom to be there for them constantly.

Children cry out of nowhere when they have attachment needs to be met. Children always cry for a reason, and the most common reason for a child crying is attachment needs, meaning they need YOU when they cry out of nowhere. What a crying child needs is mom's loving attention. Yes, they are begging for attention, and that is because attention is a core attachment need for children. The best way to be there for your child as a mother is to quit your job, as being a mother is a woman's highest calling.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!