Christmas shopping meltdowns: How to deal with in-store meltdowns this Christmas season

Many parents think that children throwing fits in the store is bad behavior. This is a common view on children amongst American parents. Most parents punish their children just for throwing a temper tantrum in the store. However, the fact of the matter is that a child does not need that sort of response from parents. A crying or upset child of any age needs what an infant needs when they are crying - love!

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents, with parents expecting absolutely nothing in return. Children are to rest securely in the presence of parents, following mothers especially around like a gosling to a mother goose. This word refers not to listening out of fear of punishment, but listening coming from a secure attachment to parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children often melt down in the store when parents are shopping for gifts for family members. These temper tantrums happen for various reasons. Sometimes, the child is tired. Sometimes, the child is hungry. Sometimes, the child wants something that just is too expensive. Most of the time, they just need attention, and so you give them loving attention. No matter what age the child is, treat the child crying as a baby crying, and if you are the mother, hold your child to your bosom to provide comfort and sustenance to them. Children age 6 and under should be wrapped to the bosom of mothers with swaddling blankets, with mothers preferably wearing a shirt, blouse, or dress with a low neckline in order to provide optimum skin-on-skin comfort. This reduces tantrums, and shortens the length of tantrums...This was roughly how it was done in the days of old, with some tweaking involved.

Also, avoid shopping for Christmas gifts when a younger child isn't around. Very young children up until age 6 are actually averse to surprises, meaning it startles them, but love to anticipate a known future event that will bring them joy. So, show them the gifts you are buying for them, as they are being bought, and even let them select to a certain degree. But, tell them that they can only have their gifts come Christmas morning. With school age children and teenagers, surprises shouldn't be a problem, unless they have a developmental disorder such as autism.

Christmas gifts should not be used as a token for behavioral modification. Most things our society considered "naughty" behavior is actually developmentally appropriate behavior given the stage of development that they are at. Children go through a phase where they cry and demand a lot. Then, they whine, which is developmentally more mature than crying, meaning if your children whine, they are becoming more mature. The idea is to allow these behaviors, but don't engage in any of them yourself. Children are clinically entitled, but, alongside a secure attachment, a good Christian example should ship-shape a child's entitled nature, with the child absorbing good Christian values and discipline at their own pace.

Children rarely want to undermine your position as a parent, and if they do, they have a serious mental illness that punishment is even more counterproductive and harmful. Children are clinically entitled, but it is a struggling form of entitlement. They are doing the work, naturally, to be just like YOU. Punishing a child makes them not want to be like you, and then they grow older and idolize some movie star. Children should instead idolize their parents, and do hard work to be disciplined and non-entitled like their parents. 

The Ancient Israelites, and the Early Christians, saw children as wrathful, but in a way where you kept the fire at bay by pleasing and appeasing children. Children were seen as extensions of God, meaning they were sacrosanct and could do no wrong, even when they clearly did do wrong. Parents were struck with reverent fear and terror by their children's upsets, prompting parents to submit to their children's every cry and whim, more or less bowing down to and venerating the deity of the child in the process. Adults didn't get angry when a child cried. They simply were concerned, and swift to their feet in correcting the problem being reported by the children. Parents were informed by the religious authorities that children were reporting to God on the every move of parents, and that one iota of needs neglected could land the parents in Hell...This context applies today just as it did in the days of old - this is how a child should be dealt with.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend in to the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Gratitude: How to be grateful for your child this Christmas season

It is the Christmas season once more. This season is all about gratitude, meaning being glad and happy for receiving something you don't deserve. Most parents think they are grateful for their child. However, very few parents are truly grateful for their child. Children were valued in biblical times, but today, they are taken for granted and are the butt of complaints and abuse from adults. Most parents in America hate their children, and most adults who aren't parents hate children, period.

How were children valued in biblical times? Children were not seen as sweet and innocent in biblical times. They were either seen as convicting figures due to their vulnerable place in society, or else were seen as forbidden attraction figures (by adult men mostly). Children were seen in biblical times as extensions of God, meaning convicting deities of their own, with children being referred to in endearing format as "my little god" or "my little goddess". Fathers, of course, took "goddess" another way, but even then, that was only in masturbatory fantasy. That fantasy simply made father and daughter best companions. Children's cries and upsets convicted 1st Century Christian parents, striking reverent fear and terror into parents, prompting them to submit to the cries of their children and provide nourishment and sustenance. Ancient Israel and the Early Church were child worshipping societies, not child sacrificing societies, in the ancient world.

Gratitude does not come in a vacuum. Gratitude is a fruit of Christian love, with Christian love being denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to, in the context of parenting, prioritizing children first, and yourself last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, valuing children as extensions of God. True Love does not come from pride or desire, but from fearful conviction, where parents heed the warning that they are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. This prompts the sinner/parent to pay due penance by serving their children's every vulnerable need.

"Expecting absolutely nothing in return" implies expecting nothing, period, which is what leads to gratitude. This includes gratitude towards children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children, and are undeserving of their child him/herself, as a parent is a depraved and decadent sinner who is get down on their knees and thank God for all the joy that their child brings them - because God could just roll it all back at any time, and he surely does for some parents. Sadly, only then are most parents grateful for their children - when they lose a child, due to premature death or kidnapping. 

When you take the attitude that you are deserving of absolutely nothing from your child, and are undeserving of even having a child, you start to count your blessings and be grateful for everything your child brings you, expecting absolutely nothing in return for serving your child's every vulnerable need. Thus, it is good to take an undeserving attitude towards your child, because then, you don't ask too much of your child.

I myself am a depraved and decadent sinner/adult who is deserving of absolutely nothing from children, and is undeserving of a child in my life. I am a sinful wretch who is deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing as an adult in relation to children. I am grateful for the trust and forgiveness that I receive from children in relation to my existence as an adult, as I deserve absolutely none of it. I deserve absolutely nothing, period, and deserve everything that is coming to me, as I am a depraved and decadent adult abuser of children. We all have abused children, as depraved and decadent adults, in some way, in some form, and thus we deserve everything coming to us for our entitlement in relation to children.

The parent entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Policing attachment: Why parents must submit to being policed by their children

Many parents believe in policing children. More modern parents don't use the exact word "policing" to describe their parenting, but that is how most parents are in America. Most parents are "keep down" abusers in this country. The fact of the matter is that children in the Bible were demanding, and parents reverently feared them, allowing children to police them.

Policing attachment was the type of secure attachment most common in biblical times. This was part of a mutual submission relationship between parent and child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest in the presence of parents, following mothers especially around like a gosling to a mother goose. This word refers not to listening out of fear of punishment, but listening due to a secure attachment with parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including punishments and controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children were seen very differently among the Early Christians. Children were seen as mighty and powerful, like God's Holy Fire. Punishing or harshly reprimanding a child was seen as poking at that Fire with a wooden stick. Children were seen as wrathful in this way, and in order to deal with children's wrath appropriately, parents were to taper down the fire that was their children, selflessly keeping the fire at bay by providing for children's every vulnerable need.

Children in biblical times were very demanding. Children made righteous demands on parents. This was seen as the wrath of children. In order to keep the wrath of children at bay, parents pleased and appeased children. Children bossed around their parents, issuing lawful and binding orders and decrees to their parents, with parents being forced to meet their children's every need and benign want. Parenting manuals from Early Church leadership spelled out what children would need, in list format, and at the end of the list, the manual threatened that even one iota of needs neglected by the parent could land the parent in Hell for eternity. Children were valued to that degree in biblical times.

Secure attachment is a necessity for a stable childhood. Secure attachment is where a child trusts you in everything, with their every emotion, and with their every secret. Policing attachment is where the child feels so comfortable with parents that they order parents around, and demand their every need, not even asking politely. Today, this is most common with children with autism in relation to their parents. But, in biblical times, every child was treated to this type of attachment. Policing attachment is an adversarial form of secure attachment where parents regard themselves as the enemy of their children, seeking to win favor with them, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is to win favor with Him. How children relate to parents is generally how they will relate to teachers, peers, or the police. Children with policing attachment don't try to police the police, but simply tell the police everything they need to know.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, respectively. Children in biblical times could tell their parents, and parents listened and validated. Usually, children cried when confiding into parents vulnerable needs. Sometimes, all children needed was attention, and parents were sure to give children the attention that they needed. Children were listened to through skin-on-skin co-snuggling and co-mingling. When children were in the home, mothers snuggled and cuddled with children in the nude in order to reassure their needs and demands. When children were outside of the home with their mother, they were wrapped in swaddling blankets and held to the bosom of mothers with those blankets, namely younger children up until age 6, but sometimes children older than that. Children cried a lot during their formative years, and then started issuing demands in the later years of childhood.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Fear your child: Why to be reverently afraid of your child

Many parents believe that their children should fear them. This is a common American view of children. Even with Santa Claus this season, like every season, children are pigeon-holed into a role where they have to please their adults in order to win over their loving care, including Christmas presents. The fact of the matter is that children are to be feared. That was the Ancient Jewish view of children, including in the Early Church.

Love is submission, and submission is love. The Greek root word denoting Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to, in the context of parenting, prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, valuing children as extensions of God. True Love does not come from pride or desire, but instead comes from fearful conviction, where the parents are convicted out of fear of being the depraved and decadent sinner that they are, who is deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. This leads to the parent/sinner paying due penance for their sinful nature, serving their children as they would their nature. Children were seen in biblical times as your neighbor, in a way where children convicted parents and other adults with their vulnerability.

Parents are to submit to children as they would God, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, following mothers especially around like goslings to a mother goose. This word refers, in short, to secure attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children.

Reverent fear is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos). This word denotes righteous anxiety and terror, which applies, in the context of parenting, to how seriously parents should take their child's needs. Children in biblical times were seen as wrathful, with parents being their enemy from day one. In order to win over their children, they had to provide nourishment and sustenance, and treat their children with reverent respect, pampering and spoiling their children with love and attention. Parenting manuals were handed out to every new parent by Early Church leadership, and parents were given a list of instructions as to how to care for their children, and were told that if they neglected one iota of those instructions, they could face eternity in Hell. Parents were struck with reverent fear and terror for their child, seeing their child as a menace to please and appease, with parents seeking to both keep children happy and stay on the good side of their children. When children were angry at parents, parents cried, wondering what they were doing wrong. But, nonetheless, on another level, it was viewed that children could do no wrong, even if they literally did, meaning they were sacrosanct. Children, under the Law, could not be judged for anything. Anger in biblical times was only allowed in righteous judgment, and since children were sacrosanct in terms of righteous judgment, mere anger at children was seen as unlawful. Lashing out at children was seen as poking at a fire with a wooden stick.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve her husband and her children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, respectively. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting in the 1st Century was skin-on-skin co-sleeping, where mother and child slept next to each other in the nude, with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin contact. Children went in the nude for one specific reason - in order to snuggle up and cuddle up children when they were crying or upset, soothing them and reassuring them that all is well. Fathers stood by and guarded the mother and child, wielding a rod and staff to whip intruders (meaning NOT children) with. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to children, usually after witnessing children bond securely with mothers. Usually, however, that attachment was a sexual attachment, at the connotational level, and usually to daughters. Church leadership in the Early Church instructed fathers to follow the sexual thoughts about their children to the end through masturbatory fantasy. Daughters were also attracted to their fathers, creating a mutually unrequited sexual dynamic between father and daughter, which was a sign of sexual purity in a family home. Sexual abuse was rare in biblical times, but when it happened, it was seen as deserving of death.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why children were worshipped in biblical times

Many American parents believe that biblical times were hard on children. This is a common view amongst American parents. Most parents believe that children were whipped by their fathers, and put to work at a young age. However, these assumptions are a form of false context on the part of the parents who assume these things about the Bible. The fact of the matter is that children in the Bible were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God on earth, not treated as slaves or bondservants.

It says in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go into eternal punishment: but the righteous into eternal life.

This passage, in the context of parenting, refers to pro-social child worship. Children in biblical times were not regarded as "to be seen and not heard". Children in biblical times were regarded as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to convict parents and other adults of their charitable role, then judging all adult-kind of how charitable they actually were. Parenting manuals warned parents, in a searing and convicting manner, that parents were to value children as extensions of God, and to know that children are reporting to God as to how good of a job parents are doing. Children are installments of God, called to be monitors of how charitable parents and other adults are to them. Parents were struck with reverent fear and terror, feeling convicted and compelled to serve their child's needs thoroughly, as the parenting manuals warned that neglecting even the slightest of needs of children could land a parent into Hell. Children in biblical times, in terms of righteous judgment, were sacrosanct, meaning children could do not wrong then, even if they did.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, following mothers especially around like goslings to a mother goose. The Greek root word for "obey" refers chiefly to secure attachment, not fear of punishment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times. The Early Christians, as well as their Jewish predecessors, practiced a specific, distinct form of attachment parenting that deified children. Children then were regarded as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to convict parents of their charitable role, and then monitor parents to see how charitable they actually are, reporting to God in everything regarding the charity of parents. The topic of children was a sobering, convicting topic among the Early Christians, and among the Ancient Jews preceding them. Children issued lawful and binding orders as a Godhead casting a dominion over parents. Children could even take their parents to court, in which case, the case was already decided - the church elders always ruled in favor of the children when in mediation sessions. Children in biblical times were seen as wrathful, in a way that you heeded to such wrath, pleasing and appeasing children, staying on their good side, keeping them happy. Parents were literally afraid of their children, meaning they didn't want to make them mad.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting in the 1st Century was skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with mother and child fast asleep in the nude, and with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin contact. Children went naked then for a specific reason - so that mothers could snuggle them up and cuddle them up in their arms, in order to reassure them when they are crying and upset, giving children time in, in skin-on-skin format. Fathers stood guard to protect the mother and child, wielding a rod and staff to whip intruders (meaning NOT children) who trespassed onto the premises. Fathers also developed a secure attachment to their children, after witnessing bonding between mother and child. Usually, secure attachment for fathers came in the form of a sexual attachment to children, usually the child of the opposite sex, meaning usually daughters. Church elders and deacons instructed fathers to follow those sexual thoughts to the end using masturbatory fantasy (pro-social fantasy). Daughters were also attracted to fathers, creating a mutually unrequited sexual dynamic between father and daughter, which was a sign of sexual purity in the home. Sexual abuse was rare in biblical times, but when it happened, it was seen as deserving of death.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why adult authority does not exist: Understanding the Bible on caring for children

Many parents think that they are an authority figure over their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents believe that adults have authority over children, and can order children to do whatever adults want them to do. The fact of the matter is that the Bible prescribes that adults be caregivers, not lawgivers or lawmakers.

The actual parent-child relationship in the Bible is based on the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling on the parent. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of their parents, following them around like goslings to a mother goose. The Greek root word for "obey" in the New Testament refers to secure attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethuzo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

I myself do not seek to be in charge of a child. I seek to, whenever the opportunity comes, care for a child. I want to be a good caregiver to a child, meaning one who pleases and appeases the every vulnerable need of a child. Parents in biblical times were not lawgivers or lawmakers, but instead were caregivers towards their children. Mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. Think a nursing mother and a father standing guard with a staff and rod. That was how it was in biblical times.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Mothers nursed their children to health, then giving them sustaining skin-on-skin warmth and love. Mothers were the primary caregivers of children, and did not exert any authority towards children, instead allowing children up until age 3 to suckle her teat, and children up until age 6 to never leave her side. Fathers stood guard, protecting the mother and child, wielding a rod and staff to whip intruders (meaning NOT children) with. Fathers, like mothers, also developed a secure attachment to children, after seeing mother and child in complete skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers, however, had a sexual attachment to children, usually daughters, and were instructed by the deacons and elders of the Early Church to follow the sexual thoughts to the end using masturbation. Daughters also were attracted to fathers, creating a mutually unrequited sexual dynamic in the home between father and daughter, which was a sign of sexual purity in the home then. Sexual abuse was rare in biblical times, but when it happened, it was seen as deserving of death.

The Bible is codified law in this country, above the law of the land in fact, and casts a dominion over all of America. Only a few of us - the elect - will heed the warning. God's Law is above the law of the land, and outlaws the concept of adult authority. Adults have no official, legalistic authority over children. Adults are to be caregivers of children, not authority figures, as the Bible prescribes. It is good to care for a child, and nurture them. A woman is to nurture up close, and a man from afar, but both genders are to nurture children, not be "in charge" of children and order them around like slaves.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!  

Co-sleeping: Why co-sleeping is beneficial for a secure parent-child bond

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible parenting choice. Most American parents are opposed to co-sleeping, with the most compelling arguments coming from medical professionals concerning "sleep dependence". The fact of the matter is that co-sleeping is necessary for a secure attachment, meaning a secure parent-child bond with children. The Bible commands that parents have a secure attachment with their children.

The Bible commands a secure attachment with children on the part of parents primarily. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest in the presence of parents, following them around like goslings to a mother goose. The word "obey", in the biblical Greek, refers to secure attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of a Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

It is common knowledge that children aged 2-6 refuse to go to bed at night, meaning refuse to go to their room to go to bed on their own. Many parents simply chalk it up to defiance, and punish their children for not going to bed on their own. The fact of the matter is that children are not ready to go to bed on their own at that age. Children have a primal fear, at that age, of being preyed upon by predators, and thus they crave the closeness of mothers to safely fall asleep. Most parents would argue that we don't live in ancient times, where predators could devour a child. However, predators exist even today that could devour a child - sexual predators. Co-sleeping does not encourage sexual predation against children because the mother is right there, and chances are the mother is not going to let it happen. Most child sexual abuse is committed by a father or father figure in the home, when the child is isolated in their own room at night. Biblical fathers in the Bible had a sex drive for their child, in which the good fathers masturbated to thoughts of the child. But also, the mother protected her children by sleeping next to them at night, so that fathers could not sexually attack them at night. 

Many parents, as well as medical professionals serving children, argue that co-sleeping leads to "sleep dependence", especially in the case of children with autism. This is a common argument against co-sleeping. However, psychohistory and evolutionary psychology say something very different about co-sleeping. In biblical times, children who slept next to their mothers shook off their parents at some point in their childhood, meaning asserted their independence and slept in their own area of the house. This was the first big milestone in a child's development. The goal of parenting in biblical times was independence, not obedience. Some children simply develop slower than others, but eventually, most everyone with autism will seek out sleeping on their own, on their own. 

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting in the 1st Century was skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with mother and child fast asleep next to each other, with the child soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children went naked for a specific reason - so mothers could snuggle them up and cuddle them up when they were crying or upset. Fathers also formed a secure attachment when they stood by and saw the mother-child bond form. However, the secure attachment between father and child - especially father-daughter attachment - was sexual in nature. Deacons and elders in the Early Church instructed fathers to follow their sexual thoughts about their children to the end through masturbatory fantasy. Usually, the fantasy subsided, but the father grew closer to the daughter. Sexual abuse occurred then rarely, and only when fathers neglected their personal responsibility towards their sexual attachment towards their child, and refused to masturbate to thoughts of their children. That is where mothers came in, and slept next to children to guard them from the sexual entitlement of their fathers. The ancients did have a concept of child sexual abuse, and saw it as any sexual relations with someone under the age of majority, and it was seen as deserving of death. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!