How to impart good Judeo-Christian family values - without punishment or harshness in parenting

Many conservative parents think that the anti-spanking movement opposes their values, and that the only way to pass down conservative Christian family values is to spank or punish children in some way. This is a common mistake parents make. Most American parents do not have leftist values, yet most Americans can impart Christian family values without punishing or being controlling with their child.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-references the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers, officially speaking, to wanting things from others, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, the word refers to the slightest of unattainable want. Children are watching, and so it is good to work on your entitlement issues, both as a parent and as a person in general. This includes entitlement issues towards your children, or parental entitlement. Ask, and you shall receive from your child, when they are developmentally ready. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment. It is also good not to think of yourself as a good person, particularly in parenting. The more you think of yourself as a good person, the more you demand from others, and demanding is a form of imposition, and when you impose a want like that, you are entitled. This attitude of Christian humility should be modeled to children.

On the other hand, Christian discipline is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that admits its depraved and entitled sin nature, leading to feeling entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Children are not going to follow this example right way, as they are immature and impulsive, and can't be expected to have the same self-control as an adult. But, if YOU have self-control, and they like you, they will strive for it.

An example is useless if you don't back it up with something. We as a society have tried punitive measures, and it hasn't worked. Children have to want to follow the example of parents, and that means children have to look up to parents for an example to work. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This usually meant rest in the bosom of mothers, or in the embrace of mothers. Mothers, in particular, in biblical times, provided nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The Ancient Jews, including the Early Christians, used a special type of attachment parenting that deified children. Rest meant, ultimately, rest on a throne, being fanned and pampered by parents. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, and the Early Church, mandated attachment parenting as customary law, with the commandment for attachment parenting being included in the church ordinance of the Early Christian church communities. This attachment parenting mandate in the biblical context is lifted up by this commandment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Paul was lifting up the Law primarily for a few Greek Christian parents who were bringing their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Spanking and punishment of children does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures who beat and whipped their children. The seven rod verses in the book of Proverbs are repealed verses, as they only are written only to the legal context that it was written to. Such verses do not even have to do with parenting, but instead refer to a form of judicial corporal punishment imposed on adults, with the father appointed by the court to issue 40 minus 1 lashes to an ADULT child. MINOR children were not whipped or punished at all, due to youthful inexperience.

The key to backing up your Christian example is a secure parent-child bond. It was practiced in biblical times by mothers especially, but also fathers to a certain degree. Children went naked everywhere they went. Mothers also went naked in the family home traditionally, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children with nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness (especially during co-sleeping). Children, by day, ranged next to mothers, sometimes clinging to them, feeding off their teat if they were aged 3 or younger. By night, children slept next to mothers, in co-sleeping fashion, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy.

Children were heavily deified in Ancient Israel and adjoining churches. Children were seen as extensions of God on earth, and their every cry and demand, meaning their every vulnerable need, was seen by biblical parents as a lawful and binding order, meaning a summonses from God as to what He needed from Christian parents to meet their child's every need. Children were a lawful authority in the family home, and called the shots, getting most of what they wanted. Children were pampered and doted upon by parents.

All of this warmth and love is what motivates children to follow the Christian example of parents. Every example needs to be backed up by something, and that something is attachment parenting. Attachment parenting makes the child want to follow your example, and makes them want to look up to you. The more a child likes an adult role model, the more they will take after that role model. When children can order a parent around, they naturally want to follow the example of such a generous parent. Children naturally absorb what is in their environment, including, especially, the behavior of their parents. If the values in their environment are Judeo-Christian family values, they will absorb them. They may not be able to heed to them easily right away, especially in the first few years, but by young adulthood, they should be able to follow your example.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: Why ALL adults are guilty merely for existing

The teaching of original sin is the most misunderstood, and also the most misused of Christian teachings. Yet, it is the backbone of Christianity - without original sin, we wouldn't need a Savior to give His earthly life for our sins. Original sin is a valid teaching, but doesn't mean children are deserving of punishment. We adults are the ones deserving of punishment for how we treat children.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers here to parental entitlement. Parental entitlement, officially speaking, is the wanting of things from or of children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement refers to any wanting of things from children. Want, in and of itself, is the core of our depraved and entitled nature, including wanting things from children. It is not good to want anything in life, but we all do. It is not good to want anything from a child, period, yet we all do as the entitled adults that we are. Ask, and you shall receive from children, if they are ready developmentally. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as an adult last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting in the good works of parents, without a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This usually means rest in the bosom of mothers, or else in the embrace of mothers. Parents toil in good works for their children, and children rest in the good works of parents. Children were seen as next to God, meaning His extension, and parents were seen as servants of God. Mothers in particular provided nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged next to mothers, sometimes clinging to her in skin-to-skin fashion. By night, children slept next to mothers. Children went naked everywhere they went. Women also went naked in the family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by snuggling in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, with children soaking up the rays from contact to mother's bare skin. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish society, including Early Christian society, with such parenting being mandated by customary law in the Old Testament, and also church ordinance in the New Testament. This commandment lifts up that attachment parenting custom for timeless relevance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch and speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. Paul was lifting up the Law to rebuke a group of Greek Christian parents who defended their pagan custom of spanking children. Paul explained the big picture to them, utilizing the Jewish commandment of "love your neighbor, and do not provoke your neighbor to anger", and applied it to a Christian parenting context, asserting that children are the neighbor of parents, and are to be loved as a neighbor. The rod verses in Proverbs do not refer to raising children, but instead are repealed verses, as they were only written to the legal context in which it was given. The verses, in context, refer to a dated, archaic form of judicial corporal punishment for ADULT children - 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction after being convicted of a capital offense, as one last chance at life before being executed.

Every single adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children. All adults are capable of child abuse under the right/wrong conditions, with those conditions being different for each adult. Adults, as an individual collective, have abused children since time immemorial, from peacekeeping to colonialism.

I myself am a depraved and decadent adult who struggles with adult sexual self-interest, and am a pedophile. I am grateful for all the trust and respect I receive from children, as I deserve none of it for being the wicked wretch that I am. I am entitled to nothing from a child, and grateful for all that they give me, not expecting or demanding any more.

Do children have a sin nature? Children want like a sinful adult wants, so they do, technically legally, have a sin nature, but that is for them to work on, not for us to beat out of them. What we can do as adults is encourage them in their religious studies, and answer all their religious questions, being well-read on the faith yourself. Children are flawed, in a way that deserves excusing, as children don't know God's Law, and if you aren't of the age of majority, you can't be expected to heed the Law like an adult believer does. It is okay for a child to want things, and for parents to give, and parents giving leads to children liking parents, and thus wanting to follow the disciplined example of parents. Sin in a child is never an excuse to punish a child. Sin simply means imperfection, and children are imperfect people. Some imperfection is worth overlooking, at least until later, trusting that your child will work on the sin nature on their own, in your footsteps. Be sure to work on all of your entitlement issues yourself, as children are watching. A good place to start is parental entitlement, as parental entitlement is the root of all the other forms of entitlement. Wants to control a child from above or beneath should be stifled, with parents doing the opposite of that want. Children will eventually catch up, and work on their entitlement right beside you, wanting you to be proud of them - so encourage the chastening of the Lord taken up by your child, as this is pleasing to the Lord (see Eph. 6:4).

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Co-sleeping: Why this is crucial to a secure parent-child bond

Many parents refuse to sleep next to their child at night. On the other hand, young children often have trouble getting to sleep, especially in the earlier years. Could just letting them sleep next to you as a parent be the answer? There are more upsides to co-sleeping than there are downsides.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting in the good works of parents, without a worry in the world, resting in place of God. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of children. This usually means rest in the bosom of mothers, especially for young children, but also for children of any age intermittently or by night. Children were naked in biblical times, everywhere they went. Women also were naked when in the confines of the family home, in order to serve her husband and her children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). Sustenance included co-sleeping, which is the most important part of fostering a secure parent-child bond with your child. It also protects your child from predators (see further below). In Ancient Jewish society, children were seen as lawful extensions of God, and were honored and venerated as such, with the child's every need being a lawful summonses from God. This form of attachment parenting was mandated under customary law in Ancient Israel, and also was mandated under church ordinance in the Early Church. It was a special type of attachment parenting that focused on children being worshipped and venerated in place of God, and parents being an extension of Christ serving that Godhead, meaning everything the child needed. When you think divine rest, think rest on a throne, while being pampered and doted on by parents. That was how parenting was then.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all punitive parenting, including all punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, with Greek Christian parents using the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits. Spanking does not come from the Bible, but was a Greco-Roman custom for purifying young children and teenage girls. The Roman Catholic Church absorbed these customs, and pandered to European pagans that beat or whipped their children as a form of punishment. The rod verses - all seven of them - do not refer to raising children, and are repealed verses, as they refer to a dated, archaic form of judicial corporal punishment where the father of the offender was appointed by the court to whip the lawless ADULT son by issuing 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, intended as a last warning before putting the errant son to death. MINOR children were sacrosanct from prosecution, as they were not seen then as subject to the Law, but instead were simply learning the Law.

Why is co-sleeping so crucial to a secure parent-child bond? Usually, co-sleeping comes with some level of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children rest in the bosom of mothers at night, recharging for the next day. Co-sleeping is the most time-honored tradition in terms of bonding with children, with mothers, for ions, sleeping next to their children. Co-sleeping is also an American tradition, as it implied in the Bible as optimum biblical parenting. Co-sleeping was done in the nude in biblical times, as it should be done today.

Children under age 6 refuse to go to bed for a specific reason that is a primal part of their nature. Children often say that they are afraid of monsters eating them up. That is because, in the ancient world, predators existed, to the point that the existence of predators is hardwired in the child's brain at that age, to the point that children cannot possibly get over that fear. The practical reason for tending to that fear is that child predators could well be lurking in your home. Child predators usually ambush children when they are isolated in a room. When the child is sleeping next to mother, there is limited access. This causes abusive fathers to go insane, in an explosive way that involves teeth gritting and maybe some cursing. It is the whole fake propriety speech about co-sleeping, but louder and more hysterical. Children do have something to be afraid of when they say "monsters might eat me", because monsters can be anywhere, and can be anyone.

Sleep dependence is something brought up by pediatricians and doctors serving children, and it is a hypothesis based on scant research that shows that certain populations of children will become dependent on co-sleeping, namely those with autism. I myself, as someone with autism, slept next to my mother at night, and did until I started sleeping on my own - at my own initiative. This was around age 15-16, which is normal for a child with autism.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Independence: Why this was the goal of biblical parents (not obedience)

Many parents believe that the goal of parenting is to get children to obey, and this goal is achieved through punishment and controlling demeanor, as well as other forms of punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that, in the Bible, the goal of parents was independence. Independence was achieved through a secure parent-child bond, where children were given their every vulnerable need, and allowed to shake parents off whenever they felt ready.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, which is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), which refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting in the good works of parents, not having a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This rest usually meant rest in the bosom of mothers, and/or in the embrace of mothers. Mothers in particular, in biblical times, provided nourishment and sustenance to children, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children up until age 6 never left the side of parents. The Ancient Jews, including the Early Christians, used a special type of attachment parenting that deified children, with children being worshipped and venerated as extensions of God on earth. Parents served children with the same respect and love that they would God, for children were the "least of these", and thus, whatever they needed, God needed of parents as well. Children were likened to God by parents, and the every demand of children was seen as a sign of God, meaning a lawful and binding order. Attachment parenting of the deifying sort was mandated under customary law in the Old Testament, and also mandated by way of church ordinance in the Early Church. This commandment lifts up those attachment parenting customs for timeless relevance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including punishment or controlling demeanor. Paul was lifting up the Law for Greek Christian parents that were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan custom of spanking children that they brought into the church Spanking and punishment does not come from the Bible, but instead from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the parenting biases of European pagan cultures who beat and whipped their children as punishment. The rod verses - all seven of them - are repealed verses, as they only apply to the context of the time. The rod verses do not refer to spanking, nor do they refer to raising children. They refer to a form of judicial corporal punishment where the father was court-appointed to issue 40 minus 1 lashes to his ADULT son for committing a capital offense, warning the errant son that he would be put to death on the spot, beyond that point, for his misdeeds. MINOR children, under the Law and under Christian law, could not be charged with a crime, as children were seen as learning the Law, and were not subject to it.

Children went naked wherever they went, and women went naked in the family home in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. By day, children ranged by mothers, occasionally also clinging to her. By night, they slept next to parents, in co-sleeping fashion, with children soaking up the rays that is skin-to-skin closeness.

Children under age 6 never left the side of mothers, being swaddled next to her with swaddling clothing, or else being held close to her with a papoose bag. Children, at varying ages, decided to sleep on their own, and this was the first step to proving independence. Come age 13, children in Christian homes shook off the closeness and affection of their children completely, and aimed to prove their independence to their parents. Young men left the house in order to prove their independence some time in their early adulthood years (some young men stayed with their parents for a little while). Young women could also be independent if they wanted to, but they had to remain unmarried. Most young women that had a career worked as a deacon or an elder in the church.

The goal of parents in biblical times was not obedience, but instead independence. In order for a child to be fully independent, at the earliest age possible, they need a home base, and that home base is their parents, namely the sustenance of mothers. This home base gives children a break from being independent. As children grow older, they will naturally need parents less and less, on their own accord. Some children may not be motivated readily to be independent, such as more seriously affected children with autism - an autistic child usually wants to assert their independence starting at age 16, going into early adulthood. The first step to independence in a child is sleeping in their own bed, which they will do on their own accord, when they are ready to shake off the closeness between mother and child. The final act of independence in the Early Church was choosing to get baptized, which was a way of proving to the church community that you now know the Law, and submit to it. 

Children weren't expected to obey parents blindly, but instead parents earned the cooperation of their children. A good biblical parent could have their child fully taking after their example and cooperating with them just by giving proper nourishment and sustenance to their child. Children were not seen as attached to a parent, but a separate individual in the care of a parent. Children were valued for their individuality, and independent children were especially valued. Children, until the age of majority, were closely supervised by parents, but children, in other ways, were left to be themselves and play freely, with adults rarely intervening. Children were merely encouraged to do things on their own, with fathers being the distant encouragers, and mothers being the close nurturers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why children in the Bible were worshipped by their parents

Many parents think biblical times were difficult times for children. False context prevails in this country, meaning a context that depicts children as enslaved by their parents, forced to do hard labor, then whipped along the way. None of this happened in the biblical context, however. Children were worshipped and venerated as like God on earth.

Jesus Christ said in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

This refers to the concept of pro-social child worship. The view is that children are extended by God to us to submit to and serve. If you disrespect or abuse a child, you do so to God as well. The list of groups that were among the "least of these" was not an exclusive list. Christ was simply pointing out the groups that His Jewish society was missing, and neglecting to serve. Children were implied by that commandment, as children in Christ's Jewish society were well off and well taken care of. Think a parent fanning a child while the child sits on their throne, and the child issuing divine decrees that declared their needs to parents, with parents providing. That was how children were worshipped in biblical times.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expected absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, without a worry in the world, with children being in place of God. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This rest usually involved rest in the nourishment and sustenance of mothers, or else in the supervision of parents as children got older. Children rested in the bosom of mothers, and felt safe there until they shook their mother's sustenance off, asserting their independence. Attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance in the Early Church, and by way of customary law in the Old Testament. This commandment lifts up that church ordinance, giving the attachment parenting in the biblical context timeless relevance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, as it is written, was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all punitive parenting of children, meaning any punishment or controlling demeanor. Paul was lifting up the Law in order to rebuke Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Spanking and punitive parenting does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures that beat and whipped their children. All seven rod verses are repealed verses, meaning they refer to a legal punishment within Judaism that doesn't apply today. The book of Proverbs ultimately refers to judicial corporal punishment in the form of 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, issued by their fathers onto an ADULT child. MINOR children could not be whipped, as a whipping required a court order, and no judge would issue a court order to a MINOR child. Children were not seen by the Law as subjects, but young people learning the Law.

Children were heavily deified in biblical times, with children being worshipped and venerated as extensions of God. The every demand and order for needs/wants was provided for by parents. Children were a lawful and binding authority in the Bible, and had the right to issue lawful and binding orders on their parents. They had the right to police their parents for what they needed. Children were valued and idealized as "gods" and "goddesses", with parents pampering and doting on their child.

Children had the legal right to issue a lawful and binding order on their parents, and shake them up in terms of moral laws, in order to get what they wanted. Parents had no legal authority over their dependent children, and could only ask nicely and politely what they wanted of children, and if children didn't listen, it was assumed that children were too immature to understand what was being asked of them. Parents then kept the misunderstanding child safe by way of logical consequences, or else allowed a natural consequence to occur.

How did the deification of children pan out? Mothers were charged with providing nourishment and sustenance for children, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children did not leave the side of mothers until age 6, and even then, children slept next to mothers until they shook off the comfort of their parents. Children went naked wherever they went, and women went naked in the family home in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by using skin-to-skin contact to reassure their children, all by holding the crying child to the bosom head first. By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her, or else playing within her line of sight. By night, children of all ages co-slept with their mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

How to toughen up children - without punishment or controlling demeanor

Anti-spanking parenting, known better as attachment parenting, is stereotyped for "softening up" and "sissifying" children. I am anti-spanking, but I am no sissy. I only melt when children are around (I coo when a baby is around, for example). I, otherwise, am a stand up, resilient, tough man with a legal personality, and I credit my conservative Christian family values for my resilience. Children can become just as tough as I am. But, most people don't know that children need to become tough and resilient on their own accord, with adults encouraging their vocation. Punishment doesn't toughen them up - it weakens them.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-references the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want from others, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, it refers to any want that cannot be attained. Whenever you throw a temper tantrum because you can't get what you want, you are entitled. So, when you want something, would you throw a temper tantrum, meaning get sorely disappointed, if you were told "no"? If so, don't even ask, and go without what you want, until you can learn to accept the word "no". A child is not ready to readily accept the word "no", so we have to model that attitude to them. Children are watching our every move as adults, so it is best that we work on our entitlement issues, and impart a good, non-entitled example for children. That means, also, treating children with the same non-entitlement that you treat adults with, as parents should fight against parental entitlement, which is, officially speaking, wanting anything from or of children, to the point of imposition, or unofficially, and want from a child. Ask, and you shall receive from a child, if they are developmentally ready. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment.

On the other hand, the Greek root word denoting discipline in the Bible is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that starts with an admission of a depraved and entitled sin nature in a parent, leading to an attitude of feeling entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, with all this, in turn, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow in parents. One should not expect them to follow it right away, as children are immature and impulsive, and should be expected to be more demanding and less disciplined due to this immaturity. But, once they are young adults, they should be able to recite the example of parents without any hassle. But, example alone doesn't mean much.

A good example needs to be backed up by something. Punishment does not make a child want to follow the good example of Christian parents, but instead drives them far from the way they should go. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as the parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, not having a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Ultimately, this commandment refers to a secure parent-child bond, and namely to policing attachment. Children in biblical times were allowed to police their parents for what they wanted/needed from parents. Children demanded, and parents worked to meet the demands of their child. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture. Attachment parenting was commanded of Christian parents under the church ordinance of the Early Church.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was understood, in its original context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including all punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul here was rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children, as a few Greek Christians were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits, even then. Spanking and other forms of punishment do not come from the Bible, but instead were pagan rituals of the Ancient Greco-Romans that were absorbed into the teachings of the Roman Catholic Church. From there, punitive parenting spread across the globe by way of colonial influence.

Children were treated, in biblical times, with a special type of attachment parenting that deified children, with children being worshipped and venerated as lawful extensions of God, summoning parents to their every vulnerable need using cries and upset as lawful and binding orders. Whatever the child needed was Divine Law. This meant that mothers served children, and gave them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children went naked all the time, wherever they went, and that brought the levels of attachment down to full equality. Children under age 6 did not leave the side of mothers, with older children being allowed to leave the mother's side, but not the line of sight of parents. Free play was allowed, but only within the supervision of parents. There was much war and violence in ancient times, and mothers especially protected their children in a way that sheltered them from violence, meaning they did not beat fake toughness into children.

This type of attachment-based upbringing was what motivated children to follow the tough, disciplined example of Christian parents. Children started out emotionally labile, crying whenever they needed something, but children wanted to be like parents, and found the stoicism of parents to be cool. So, they tried, then failed, then got back up and tried again, until they ended up following the disciplined example of parents. Christian discipline, in exemplary format, is known as the Living Example of Christ, and is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) which ultimately refers to Christ's example while on earth, meaning an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything. That is the goal a Christian parents should aim for personally speaking - because children are watching your every mood, and for even more incentive for self-improvement, children usually pick up the bad traits and habits of parents first. If your child swears like a trucker, maybe you do as well, in which case you should curb that foul and obscene mouth. 

Children, however, never want to listen to a parent that is punitive in nature, and punishes and controls children. Punishment alienates children from good, Judeo-Christian values. Attachment parenting brings children closer to those values, when those values are the ones modeled to children. Judeo-Christian values are the founding values of this country, as we are a Christian society with traditionally Christian norms. We just haven't figured out that punitive parenting is not part of our norms. We think, as a society, that it is, when it really isn't. Judeo-Christian values, when fully internalized, makes one as tough as nails. But, when you punish a child, they don't internalize the values, and are more likely to be disobedient behind the pastor's back. This goes especially for young people. Young people in biblical times did not rebel against their parents, but instead shook them off and proved their independence to their parents. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Letting children call the shots: Why children rule adults from beneath

Most American parents think that they call the shots. This is a common mistake among American parents, and it is all backed up by false and abusive religious doctrine. The fact of the matter is that children call the shots, as children called the shots back in biblical times. Children were in charge of having their needs provided for. Children demand, and parents provide.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. By rest, this word means rest on a throne, meaning children are pampered and doted upon. This form of surrender to parents is not a constraining one, but one that allows children to be their true selves in the love and grace of parents, and then they demand things, and then parents provide. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Christian culture, with such parenting being mandated by church ordinance in the Early Church. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was understood, in its original context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including all punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Some Greek Christian parents, even in the 1st Century, justified their pagan punishment customs using the book of Proverbs. Spanking does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures who beat and whipped their children into submission. The rod verses themselves - all seven of them - are repealed verses, as they do not refer to parenting in the modern day, but to a form of judicial corporal punishment where fathers were appointed by the court to issue 40 minus 1 lashes upon an ADULT son. MINOR children could not be charged with a criminal act or civil wrong, as they were not seen as subject to the Law, but simply learning the Law. Thus, MINOR children could not be punished or whipped for anything. The Early Christian churches prohibited any participation in Roman floggings or executions.

Children were heavily deified in biblical times, meaning they were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God to be obeyed and submitted to. Children demanded their wants/needs. The every want/need demanded or petitioned by the child was seen as a lawful and binding order, meaning a summonses from God. Children cried, and parents provided. Children were lawful authorities in the family home, with parents serving children just as Christ serves adult believers, with children being a Godhead demanding and ordering parents around, with children being a force to be feared and revered by all adults everywhere.

Children had much lobbying power from beneath in biblical times, and they used it. Children had the right to issue lawful and binding orders on their parents, and parents could not issue lawful and binding orders to their children, no matter what the child did to offend them. With dependent adult children who dishonored parents through elder abuse, parents had to call in a third party to judge on their behalf.

How did this setup pan out? Children went naked wherever they went, and women were naked in the confines of the family home, in order to serve their husbands and children, separately. Mothers served their children with nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness respectively. Children were seen by parents in this context in an angelic, thundering way that deified them. Mothers especially, but also fathers, obeyed the deity that was their child, and did so by responding to needs such as nourishment and sustenance.

Children were more inclined then to follow the Christian example of parents, known as the Living Example of Christ. They were more inclined to follow in the footsteps of their parents because Christian parents then were very generous to their children. It is the concept of righteous barter - parents gave to their children and tended to them from day one, and children respected their parents later on in life, giving thanks for having attached parents. Children did not come to follow the example of parents until young adulthood, when they were mature enough to control and discipline themselves. A minor child is simply learning how to control themselves, and will make many mistakes along the way, and those mistakes need to be forgiven. Most behaviors punished by American parents are for developmentally appropriate behaviors. Children will grow out of those phases that annoy you (but not the child or anyone else). 

The depraved and entitled adults who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!