Why parents must show good Christian manners to their children

Many parents demand respect from their children, and usually back it up with punishment. One of the things children are punished for in this country is not using manners, and just taking things. This is learned behavior, depending on age. Little kids do this a lot, and just don't know the boundaries yet. A parent should instead choose to show manners to children.

Demanding anything from a child is entitlement. It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and doesn't merely refer to wanting things from children, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. This is cross-reference in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude in a parent of "I am a good, loving parent, and so I deserve respect and hands folded" leading to punishing, controlling, or making demands on children merely because parents want children to use manners.

Wanting anything from a child to the point of demand, meaning a begging hand, is abuse. Instead, ask, and you shall receive. Remember to say "please" to your children when asking them something, then "thank you" when they do a favor for you, knowing they have enough freedom to simply laugh at you, and you must take it as a sign that you failed as a parent, somehow, in some form, and that you must do introspection and soul searching. Saying "please" and "thank you" when asking children to do something shows non-entitlement to children, and to God, with children as His extension, being the "least of these" (Matt. 25:31-46).

I don't want anything from a child in particular, meaning I don't demand things from children. If I wanted a child to do something for me, I'd ask them "would you please..." and if they asked "why?" I'd explain why in a way they would understand, on their level, as their friend explaining why I need something from them.

This is how children learn manners, by being treated with that respect by adults. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection of parent, being able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun, showing your true self to parents like you would to nobody else, owing nothing in relation to parents, but listening nonetheless due to this warm trust in parents, not fearing them in any way. This is due to Christian love from parents, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), meaning sacrificing for the every need of children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, asking nothing in return. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and is one of the Greek words that refer to the offenses in the Law, meaning the torts and damages under Jewish law linked to the Eighth Commandment, which included assault and battery, and battery against a child was included as a tort under that Law. This is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child herself. This can include any demands that lead to a power struggle, when you could easily form the trust to ask and rely on your child to listen to you, because they are securely attached to you and thus attached to you at the hip. 

Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining cultures, such as the Early Church. Children remained close to their parents, with parents being servants instead of authority figures, except in rare situations where an adult child ended up being charged with a capital offense, where they were appointed by the court the right to scourge their son 40 minus 1 lashes in the Old Testament. Children under the age of majority never were punished for anything, and punishing them constituted a personal slight under the Law. Children surrendered to parents by way of pro-social rebellion, meaning being able to speak out against a parental decision as harshly as they wanted to, and parents just took it and listened to what their children need.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will be tormented forever in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Love parents": Why children do not need to love their parents

What is love? Too burdensome for a child to carry. Most parents in the United States affirm the false biblical teaching that they have the right to demand love from their child, when they really aren't deserving of anything from their child. God commands the reverse - love children.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV:

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up; Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, Rejoiceth not in inequity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but wherever they be prophecies, they shall fail, whether they be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

The Greek root word translated "charity" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to Christian love and refers to submission to your neighbor, and your child is your neighbor. Children do not need to love their parents in return, as the Christian definition of love is more than affection for parents, but serving them like a parent even though you are their child. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, feeling free to say anything to parents, or even righteously rebel against them, owing nothing in return to parents, but listening to them nonetheless because you trust parents and surrender to them out of trust and not out of fear or reverence. This is promoted by Christian love for a child in the form of providing custody. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and is one of the Greek words referring back to the offenses, as a "pull up" word, summed up as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, coming from willful or negligent intent to control, demand, manipulate, or punish.

Parenting was attachment-based in ancient Israel, with children being close to their parents, and rarely, if ever, leaving their side until adulthood, oftentimes being strapped to the back of parents. Punishment was illegal under the Law except as a sentence for crime handed down to an adult.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN! Let them SUFFER! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to treat a victim traumatic pedophile

 Many people here do not understand, in an honest way, how to deal with my pedophilic disorder. This plan will be short, but detailed with pointers.

1. "A man is the king of his abode" - and a woman too! Page owners carry indemnity under Christian law in any bans of my page or blog. It is my responsibility to ask for the reason for the ban.
   
2. "At-will employment" children's rights is a trade, meaning the movement can fire me for any reason they see fit, or none at all besides "I don't like you", as can individual pages (see rule 1)
3. "Rules of engagement" When the pedophile is confronted by the plaintiff, he must answer to the court honestly, or else be guilty of perjury, and if the plaintiff is wrong, he/she should apologize, with the apology seen as the resolution to the problem. Same vice versa. "Abuse" is a stopping word, not a word that provokes defense, as I am pro-"abuse".
4. "Be grateful" for concessions from survivors on these rules, as I am to earn my keep, and if if I cause problems, every single survivor can charge me, and remove me from the community at any time.

This is basically holding a pedophile to the same moral legal standard as any other adult here. I am on my own, because we don't coddle victims here, do we? Pedophiles included.

How child abuse should be reported: Weighing children's rights with pedophile rights

 Many parents abuse their children here in the United States, meaning most all parents abuse at least some of the time. Mandatory reporting laws exist in all 50 states, and did, in fact, come from this movement. I am not opposed to mandated reporting in the modern context especially, but support reform for mandatory reporting laws.

In most states, the standard for reporting any form of child abuse is "reasonable suspicion", except in Pennsylvania, where the standard is "admission by any client over age 14". Pennsylvania's laws are balancing child and pedophile rights, but in other states, it isn't, and it is a deterrent for pedophiles for seeking mental health services in their communities.

What we need is self-reporting as the standard to go by, with children being empowered to figure out if they are in an abusive situation, and then report their parents on their own by dialing 9-1-1, either by perhaps locking themselves in their room, going next door, or to the corner with their cell phone.

Our laws should reflect the book that gave us our norms and customs, the Bible. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses under the Law, summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights imposed on a child, guided by entitlement. Entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things from the child to the point of imposing said want onto a child. Thus, anything that the child perceives as offensive or abusive objectively is.

Most children in my experience don't hate pedophiles, meaning the individuals, but hate the disorder they have in relation to their person, meaning children hate pedophilia at a level lower than any adult, meaning the instinctual level. They don't need to know that word. Just teach them to trust their gut, and you're good. If you are saying "that kid framed me", nope, you did it, and you're going to jail.

Many pedophiles have been abused by therapists by way of alienation abuse. This can include something as little as sending the pedophile on his way without a referral, or worse, reporting him to the authorities if he had any contact with children at all in the course of his life. We should care because when pedophiles get the mental health services they need, they can easily choose not to abuse children. It's just commonsense. 

We should set up society so that children are empowered to call immediately if they are struck or even yelled at by a parent or similarly charged adult. Then, we won't need mandated reporting laws. 

Religious child abuse of pedophiles: Experiencing sexual shaming

Religious child abuse is one of the most common forms of child abuse in the country, even today. Most childhood trauma in individuals has some religious element to it. I wasn't raised in a religion, but was exposed to it from a distance from extended family, and I have fully recovered from a trauma from the "rod verses". Pedophilia is a mental disorder associated with autism, namely the emotional immaturity associated with it. A child can be a pedophile, either in future-tense or present-tense. Your child could be a pedophile, and you wouldn't even know it unless you knew what to look for. The sexual shaming of a pedophile is a violation of my gentle parenting Christian beliefs.

This is a form of child abuse few people care about - being punished by parents as a pedophile for having sexual fantasies about children. I am grateful that my parents never punished me for anything related to sexuality, or due to any religious belief I held or explored. Many other pedophiles cannot even face my parents like I can so comfortably do because they were abused by their parents directly or indirectly for it. Religious sexual entitlement against pedophiles is the cause for it, and is a violation of Divine Codified Ordinance for any parent.

Entitlement is a violation of the Tenth Commandment, which is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting children not to have sexual thoughts about children, to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. In such an exchange, the pedophile isn't sexually entitled for defending their bodily autonomy rights, but instead the parent using grooming strategies to shame their child's sexuality is sexually entitled, and are predestined for Hell, with God foreknowing from the very beginning. 

The moral legal remedy for this form of prejudicial parent is in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the slightest of personal slights. This can include feeling slighted for not being able to take care of your own sexual needs yourself, even if that involves sexual fantasies about a child.

A pedophile can be a child. It starts in childhood, with the arrest of sexual development in regards to age. These are children that are very vulnerable to abuse, namely sexual abuse. However, the classic form of parental abuse of pedophiles involves antisocial "hover". Think the old days, with black and white pictures, kids being told "you'll go blind". It is like that with pedophilic children, but is actually much more sinister. Usually, this involves the "we'll let you" treatment, meaning parents walk in, promise to leave, then come back, offering "help" for "stopping yourself from self-stimulating/spilling seed/etc". For many pedophiles, this treatment alone as a child is why they are atheist.

It is especially hard on a pedophile because they usually are exclusive, and have nowhere else to go but their own afterthoughts. Most people can "fill in space" by getting a partner. They can't, because they aren't attracted to adults. ALL adults are sexually threatening to them when they are interested in the pedophile, especially because you are a pedophile. Otherwise, women for me are distant people, with children being closer to me, yet distant. 

The most oppressed of pedophiles can wear the identity "child" as well as "pedophile" to clarify their struggle. Pedophilia is the most stigmatized of all mental disorders, but with the information we have now, we can label children with the disorder - except they would be exploited, most likely, if pediatricians openly tracked children for signs of developing pedophilia. Most pediatricians are not honest about such suspicions to parents. A child has the right to mental health services for their pedophilic disorder, and the earlier it is caught, the better. 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Sexually shaming parents will BURN! They will DESCEND into Hell! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Turning the other cheek: What to do about defiance

Much of the punishment I received as a child was due to defiance. That was the number one reason parents and family physically punished me. Otherwise, the main punishment I received was false imprisonment or false detention of some sort. The problem with society is that we take some of what children say too personally. Christ gave the command to turn the other cheek, and this is what forms discipline in a parent. Discipline is for parents, not children.

Christ says in Matthew 5:38-39 KJV:

Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth, But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but that whosoever smite thee on the thy right cheek, turn the other also. And if any man sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.

This refers to the offenses under biblical law. Most all of Matthew 5 has to do with how court will be set up after His death and resurrection, meaning these are legal statements, not merely moral ones, being stated on the Sermon on the Mount. The Mosaic legal system then had a definition of a peacekeeper, and that was a vexatious litigant, meaning the type of person who is in and out of court all the time, sue happy against everyone, over the most petty of insults and slights. Some slights are better than others at fighting all the time, meaning someone suing somebody over "using my name in a graven context". This also applies to parenting, as taking offense over everything is a very bad habit as a parent. With any child living under your roof, simply avoiding most offenses isn't enough. If you want them under your roof, you must not get offended at all by what they say or do.

It is choosing not to respond to everything a child says or does that gets under your skin. Some cases of turning the other cheek have to do with not responding and having a stiff upper lip, whereas with children, you must allow them to extend out from you secure attachment by not reacting to ANYTHING they say or do, and not taking offense to your child's behaviors at all. Victim entitlement here is claiming victimhood from your child because they called you a four-letter word. Give me a break, and get a grip. Stop being such a snowflake because your child's defiance hurts your feelings and gets under your skin like the crybaby that you are. Babies and young children should take offense, because they need to survive, so God exempted them from the Law. You are an adult, so get it together.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to tell parents anything or share anything with them, owing nothing in return to parents, but listening to them nonetheless as they earned your trust. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally directly translates to "stir up" and refers to the offenses, meaning damages, summed up after Christ, in the Early Christian ordinance, as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, stemming from entitlement by way of willful intent to control, punish, and/or sexually use a child.

The Apostle Paul here is chastising, in a divine command, fathers of Greco-Roman descent who used physical punishment on their children, meaning scourging their sons and spanking their "unchaste" daughters. The church at Colossae was a network of Christian households spread throughout the Hellenistic city, and Paul, in his letter to that church, laid down the law, like he had to do with the Ephesian church, that corporal punishment was not acceptable under the Law. According to Christian law. What he was referring to was mirroring, meaning children mirror their parents' anger towards the child, becoming angry in return towards the parents. Rebellion in children, therefore, is a bad sign, but on the part of the parent modeling that anger through punishment and control of said child. The idea is instead respond instead of react to defiance, meaning ask kind questions that attend to the behavior, asking "Why are you treating me this way? What is going on?", biting your tongue with anything judgmental that you may be thinking. Just take the heat from your child, listen to it as a valid need, which it is no matter what. Parenting then was very different than it is today in conventional terms.

Traditional Hebrew parenting was attachment-based, meaning surrender to parents was a type that allowed for pro-social rebellion, meaning children being able to cry and scream at their parents, with parents being attendant to such childhood expressions as cries for needs to be met, even in older children. Rebellion in ancient Jewish culture was seen not as something to punish, but something to soothe and nurture. Children were allowed to "talk back" and even scream at their parents, and the parents simply saw it as unmet needs. This is the model that parents should use today - allow rebellion, and direct the rebellious anger from children to parents, in order for parents to listen to and validate like a sounding board. This is called pro-social pedophilia, which doesn't refer to the disorder at all, but the specific grooming associated with clinical pedophiles, who, when they abuse, place their autistic social avoidance on their children. Pro-social pedophilia is a non-coercive siphon, meaning the children are invited to the warmth of parents, until that ends up being the first place they go to. It is a form of surrender to parents where you can be as emotional as you want to or need to be with them, including by questioning them, or be calm when you feel safe in their presence. This is how I submit to my mother, and it is not a feeling of fear, but of safety and security.

This is what attachment parenting actually is. Not forced closeness at all, as that is not allowed in fact. It is forming a secure attachment and bond with your child that lasts a lifetime, meaning being their best friend by invitation by way of avoiding all punishment, control, or harsh treatment. This means, yes, turn the other cheek when they are yelling at you, saying "I hate you", because that indicates something you need to figure out, and then make amends with your child, because children hate their parents when they feel hated. I may get angry with my mother as a dependent adult child, but I never say "I hate you". I simply question her with "do you realize" statements.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer in the lake of burning sulfur, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Only gentle parenting is the proper way to parent, as it was in the Early Christian churches, and all other parenting paradigms are false, with attachment parenting being the final stage of growth in a gentle parent. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The organization of my religious beliefs/expression

 Many people believe here at children's rights believe things about my religious beliefs that aren't true. Others have been told I speak in levels about my Christian convictions here, whereas I do not. I use "honesty" gaslighting, meaning what you see here is what you get, and for good reason - when you confuse others about your beliefs like that, and you are a pedophile, people tend to think you are lying about everything.

There are two commands to my Christian faith applicable today, love God and love your neighbor, and if you have mastered those two commandments, you have mastered all of them, by my assumption, and are saved. If you are an atheist, loving your neighbor will be counted as loving God by me as a judge.

I express religious views based on how I feel they are relevant, meaning I am simply honest about what beliefs I do have, and the ones I don't share aren't relevant.

Many are afraid of being shunned, and so I now show you the biblical verse in 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV that tells me what parents I shun:

But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

In real life, I am very quiet about my judgments. The most important of these counts is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things from others to the point of seeking to impose said want onto an individual, as perceived by the victim as theft/abuse. All the other counts here stem from entitlement and/or are a different variation of entitlement.

If you do not see yourself on this list when presenting to me directly, as confessor testimony, you have nothing to worry about. I judge fornicators, but I have different priorities, meaning if you post to me a post bragging about a sex party you went to, goodbye, you've lost a friend, as I know too much about you. Generally, I use this command to both keep my own safety and sanity by "disconnecting with love" by giving tough love to a once trusted person, by not enabling them, using pro-social alienation. This means I've shut the door on you. You can burden someone with your trauma, and you can't even catch a breath of fresh air because they breathe for you, down your neck. Thankfully these are only a few people here.

Instead of viewing religion in levels, there are two views of a network of views, meaning jaded lines that work together in unison to create a legal system, and legal understanding of such. The jaded lines expand towards the perpetrator, with the tick tick being the many ways questions I ask them, with them getting defensive, showing their true colors, and then you pitch them into the trash at then. It is open interrogation, where they know they are being trailed, have every chance to take ownership of their misdeeds or else answer to the court that I've got the wrong guy, and you are given every time to be honest instead of fighting me, but at the end, you are convicted and slapped with charges as Divine Prosecution of your evil and entitled ways. 

Unless you know my beliefs, you can't assume what they are. I go by the whole Bible, solely in its Hebraic context. I am a Christian nihilist. I hearken only to God and His Laws, with all false authority contradicting His Divine Jurisprudence non-existent, such as the "reasonable chastisement" defense. That means I only go by the Bible for moral guidance, as written to its context. Fundamentalism simply is another name for Christian nihilism, meaning fundamentalism is very nihilistic. But, since the child is His extension, as an advocate I am beholden to the representation of children, with nobody else mattering but them as an advocate, with the rest of the world hating them, and me standing by them as an advocate, in affinity and alliance format.

Asking questions about my religious beliefs is always okay, if you are unsure. Note however that I won't answer if you seem to be taking me down a gaslighting train of abusive deconstruction tactics, with "abusive" meaning that you are barking up the wrong tree.

Hiding a religious narcissist is a sin to me, depending on why you hide it. If it is to escape persecution, so be it, but don't flash it to gaslight people. I simply have an anger pocket in my brain that I can pull out or leave as is - it is a peacekeeping anger at pro-spanking parents that I usually don't express to their face, but behind their back.

I hate pro-spanking Christians as well, but for a different reason - they don't even follow the Bible as it says in context, whereas most conservative Christians do care about the biblical context about topics other than parenting or children's issues. Thus, once they show their true colors to me, I shun them from my church, after presuming innocence beyond a reasonable doubt.