Why parents must show good Christian manners to their children

Many parents demand respect from their children, and usually back it up with punishment. One of the things children are punished for in this country is not using manners, and just taking things. This is learned behavior, depending on age. Little kids do this a lot, and just don't know the boundaries yet. A parent should instead choose to show manners to children.

Demanding anything from a child is entitlement. It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and doesn't merely refer to wanting things from children, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. This is cross-reference in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude in a parent of "I am a good, loving parent, and so I deserve respect and hands folded" leading to punishing, controlling, or making demands on children merely because parents want children to use manners.

Wanting anything from a child to the point of demand, meaning a begging hand, is abuse. Instead, ask, and you shall receive. Remember to say "please" to your children when asking them something, then "thank you" when they do a favor for you, knowing they have enough freedom to simply laugh at you, and you must take it as a sign that you failed as a parent, somehow, in some form, and that you must do introspection and soul searching. Saying "please" and "thank you" when asking children to do something shows non-entitlement to children, and to God, with children as His extension, being the "least of these" (Matt. 25:31-46).

I don't want anything from a child in particular, meaning I don't demand things from children. If I wanted a child to do something for me, I'd ask them "would you please..." and if they asked "why?" I'd explain why in a way they would understand, on their level, as their friend explaining why I need something from them.

This is how children learn manners, by being treated with that respect by adults. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection of parent, being able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun, showing your true self to parents like you would to nobody else, owing nothing in relation to parents, but listening nonetheless due to this warm trust in parents, not fearing them in any way. This is due to Christian love from parents, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), meaning sacrificing for the every need of children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, asking nothing in return. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and is one of the Greek words that refer to the offenses in the Law, meaning the torts and damages under Jewish law linked to the Eighth Commandment, which included assault and battery, and battery against a child was included as a tort under that Law. This is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child herself. This can include any demands that lead to a power struggle, when you could easily form the trust to ask and rely on your child to listen to you, because they are securely attached to you and thus attached to you at the hip. 

Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining cultures, such as the Early Church. Children remained close to their parents, with parents being servants instead of authority figures, except in rare situations where an adult child ended up being charged with a capital offense, where they were appointed by the court the right to scourge their son 40 minus 1 lashes in the Old Testament. Children under the age of majority never were punished for anything, and punishing them constituted a personal slight under the Law. Children surrendered to parents by way of pro-social rebellion, meaning being able to speak out against a parental decision as harshly as they wanted to, and parents just took it and listened to what their children need.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will be tormented forever in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!