The word "no": Why frequent usage of the word "no" can be child abuse

Many parents think children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents need an attitude adjustment on this front. The fact of the matter is that if you say "no" to your child enough times, and defend it in open court, you are abusing your child.

God's Law on child abuse is stated in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing your children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. One way to offend a child is to say "no" all of the time. Sometimes, saying "no" is necessary. However, if you defend your so-called "right" to say "no" all of the time, you are entitled as a parent, with any offense stemming from frequent use of the word "no" constituting child abuse when the offense stems from entitlement. Any time you cause a child to be upset, you are offending them. The idea is instead to apologize whenever a child is upset by the word "no", and try to avoid saying "no", or otherwise declining a request, whenever possible. This apology should usually come in the form of an informal apology, such as "I'm sorry, but I have to set X limit for Y reasons". However, you should never even use the word "no" if you are angry with your child, as losing your cool with your child alone is a form of entitlement. If you lose your cool with your child, a formal apology is necessary, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you", with you then committing to not losing your cool with your children again. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church the pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power of the parent to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The word "no" in parenting is to be used rarely, meaning almost never. Under customary law in the Early Church, the word "no" was banned except in the narrowest of circumstances. The word "no" was reserved for when the petitioned request of the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever you use the word "no" all of the time, you sever the secure attachment between parent and child.

Even in the case of declining a petitioned request, parents rarely gave a firm "no". Instead, parents used nicer-sounding words when declining a request coming from a child. These phrases include statements such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that's not possible". If the child cannot accept the limit, apologize to your child to cushion the blow of a declined request. 

The idea of anger being a motivator for parents to say "no" is alien to the biblical context. Any anger at a child then was seen as akin to a viper lashing out at a child. Instead, parents in the Early Church worried about their children, and set limits out of pure concern for the child. Mothers especially, in the Early Church, were prone to worrying all the time about their children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents hate the idea of pampering children. Most American parents want their children to learn hard lessons. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, endorses attachment parenting. God wants parents to pamper and baby their children, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

The Bible commands a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and more aptly translates to "trust", as in "trust your parents in all things". Children were ultimately allowed to rest in the love and submission of parents, while parents worked hard so that their children could rest in closeness to parents. Ultimately, this passage refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home, with parents pampering and babying children in the biblical context. The context of this passage spells out how to form a secure attachment with your children.

The biblical context here does not refer to any old pampering or babying of children, but instead refers to a certain specific form of pampering children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly attached to her hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever mothers and children were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. Thus birth nudity setup helps to facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth merely even when they were merely picked up.

When children reached the age of 6, they were allowed to play freely outside with neighborhood children, naked. Children aged 6 and up ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, engaging in wet and messy play. However, children had to check in with mom, telling her where they were going. Come evening, children were called by name - one by one - in order to be served a homecooked meal made by mom. But first, mothers cleaned the dirt off of the child with a wet handrag.

Children in biblical times were very much protected by parents, in a sheltered sort of way. Children younger than age 6 are too young to appreciate the environmental hazards that exist outside. Then, children had to face venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. These days, children have to face different hazards, such as oncoming traffic and would-be kidnappers. Until children gained that awareness, they were held next to mothers in complete closeness and bliss!

The depraved and entitled parents who defended unloving attitudes towards children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Proverbs 13:24: Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed passages

Many parents cite the Bible for an excuse for punishing a child. The most common verse cited is Proverbs 13:24. However, neither this passage, nor any rod passage in Proverbs for that matter, refers to raising minor children. The Bible was clearly mistranslated in order to keep a tradition going.

God's Word is spelled out in Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers to a mature son. This passage does not refer to spanking or punishing minor children, but instead refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered in a courtroom setting, using a switch administered to the bare back. This whipping was administered by a father who was deputized by the Sanhedrin. Minor children could not be whipped, as children that young were not seen under the Law as legal subjects. King Solomon instead recommended attachment parenting in his secular writings towards parents. This passage does not refer to earthly parenting at all, and instead is simply a reminder for fathers to whip his adult son when his son was convicted of a crime - without this reminder, fathers would refuse to punish their adult sons when they were convicted of a crime.

Christ fulfilled the Law by keeping it perfectly, and then He repealed all of the harsh punishments of the Old Testament, including the 40 minus 1 lashes. The Early Christians did not partake in Roman executions or floggings, and opposed all capital or corporal punishment. 

The Bible does weigh in on actually spanking an actual minor child. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting, and thus parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they offend their children. Any time you upset your child in any way, shape, or form - including in the case of set limits - you have offended your child, and thus you need to apologize. Usually, a reassurance of good intent is all that is necessary, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you lose your cool with your child, a formal apology is necessary, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you", with you then committing to never losing your cool again with your child. A provocation to anger is a specific form of offense stemming from entitlement. This entitlement can include refusing to apologize to a child that you upset. The main understanding of child abuse in the Bible was entitlement leading to offense, and that defines a provocation to anger as stated in this passage. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase that roughly translates to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Bible was grossly mistranslated at the Latinate level. There exists two main translations of the Bible - the Latinate Bible and the Byzantine Bible. All of the English translations of the Bible ultimately stem from the Latinate Bible, and thus all English translations of the Bible are flawed at best. The Bible is God's infallible Word, but only in the case of the original Hebrew and Greek, as understood in context. The translations themselves were designed to keep a tradition going.

The Early Christian church leadership prohibited all forms of physical or verbal battery. Under the laws and ordinances of the Early Church, striking anyone was banned, in all settings, including in parenting. Even in the Old Testament, striking a fellow Jew outside of a courtroom setting was deemed physical battery. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many adults think that we as a society have the duty to collective responsibility in relation to children in the case of child sexual abuse. The concept of collective responsibility holds that when a member of an organization sexually abuses a child, that the organization should take responsibility for the actions of that one member. However, the fact of the matter is that the child rapist is solely responsible for acts of sexual abuse of children perpetrated by said adult. All adults must take individual responsibility for their risk towards children.

It says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers not to mere pedophilic attractions, but to child sexual abuse. All sexual relations outside of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman is fornication. One form of fornication is adult fornication towards children, meaning any sexual interaction between an adult and a child. Any sexual advances perceived by a child is fornication. 

Most fornication against children comes from lust, namely the Greek root word έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to a sexual narcissist. What happens is that adult men form a sexual narcissist consisting of attractions to children, with this repressed desire coming out sideways onto the child like a ton of bricks. Righteous avoidance here involves righteous masturbation in order to purge unrequited lusts towards children.

All adults are individually responsible for the sexual abuse epidemic faced by children in America. Any old adult could commit the moral crime of child sexual abuse under the right/wrong conditions. Usually, rape and sexual assault of children happens in the case of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape a child.

Most pedophiles actually do not rape or sexually assault children. 3 out of 4 pedophiles have never sexually abused a child. However, most child rapists who are pedophiles have a low IQ of under 70, in which case the court would invoke the insanity defense. Most sexual incidents coming from pedophiles do not stem from intent to harm.

I myself am a pedophile, and I myself have a sexual offense under my belt. I am currently being investigated for an incident of sexual harassment of a cousin in my grandparents' attic. I myself, as an abuser, operate using infatuation grooming. I had romantic passions for young girls, and directed those passions towards the child. Most pedophiles usually offend sexually in the form of romantic passions towards children.

A pedophile is not an anger packet. A pedophile is a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophiles have a co-morbid form of autism that is child-centered in nature. Autism is a specialized state of the mind, with pedophiles, in most cases, having a form of autism that specializes in children in terms of knowledge and social skills. Most pedophiles are ambiverts, meaning they like to either be alone or be with children - children are what make a pedophile come out of their autistic shell. 

Pedophiles are the last of adults to rape or sexually assault a child, with most career offenders committing many rapes of women, with a few notable cases in their string of victims being teenagers. Our abuser as survivors is generally not a pedophile, as he is simply a narcissist who thinks that he owns the world as a grandiose delusion - you need to go by all of the criteria, or else none of them. I personally did not have "our abuser", but instead had a lawful abuser that was enabled by an unjust law protecting abusers of children. I have a legal trauma from the pro-spanking legal defense in my home state of Pennsylvania, namely Section 509 of the Pennsylvania Crimes Code.

Sexually abusing a child is a choice made by a defiled sexual offender, usually with this choice being a lifestyle choice. The main cause of child sexual abuse is a refusal of a man to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children, without pornography of any kind. The whole reason for anti-masturbation church teachings is that most men refuse to masturbate without pornography. However, I masturbate to sexual thoughts of children, and don't need pornography to pick me up. I have no pornography even on my possession. Men are capable of masturbating without pornography, more than they give themselves credit for. Righteous masturbation is the way out of lust for a child, as that purges the sexual narcissist almost immediately.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws protecting children from abuse

Many parents think that the biblical context has no concept of child abuse. Most American parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement, and was condemned as such. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing your children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting, in which case parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they offend their child. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, such as statements such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, when you lose your cool with your child, you need to give a formal apology such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you", and then commit to not losing your cool again with your child. A provocation to anger is a specific form of offense, with this sort of offense stemming from entitlement. However, even refusing to apologize to a child that you upset is a form of entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long term damages, namely trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic understanding of trauma. If a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma. Atheism in an adult child was seen as a shame on the parents in question, as opposed to the atheist simply being seen as a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was defined under the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers in this context to any sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child liked it. Any sexual interaction between an adult and a child is child sexual abuse. Sexual relations with children will never be acceptable, and wasn't even acceptable in the biblical context. All sexual relations outside of a marriage between one adult man and one adult woman was deemed sexually amoral then.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever defending punitive treatment of children. Each of the biblical writers recommended attachment parenting in their secular writings, citing Jewish customary law. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones in his secular writings. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live as a country and get along with each other. It just so happens that the Bible was grossly mistranslated concerning parenting at the Latinate level. Nowhere in the Bible is punitive parenting ever recommended, with the rod verses referring to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes. Whipping minor children was banned in all cases, even under King Solomon's rule.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to respect and honor from children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents feel deserving to respect and honor from children. However, the fact of the matter is that honoring parents does not preclude children from speaking against parents.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment, in context, does not prohibit speaking against parents. Instead, all this commandment means is to care for your parents as they age. The idea is for parents to first form a secure attachment to children. When this happens, children are usually quick to honor their parents. You should ideally care for your aging parents with the love and kindness that they showed you.

The Fifth Commandment is oftentimes misused by parents to demand respect from their children, including in the form of punitive measures imposed upon children. However, the Fifth Commandment is not an excuse to deal with children punitively. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing your children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting, in which case parents must be willing to give a meaningful apology when they offend their children. Most of the time, all that is needed is a reassurance of good intent, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you lose your cool with your child, that alone is entitlement, and thus requires a formal apology, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you" and then commit to never lose your cool again. Even defending your choice not to apologize to your child in and of itself is a form of entitlement. A provocation to anger is a specific form of offense stemming from entitlement in the offending party, with this entitlement including any parent anger towards a child. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent". including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, including spankings or other punishments. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punitive measures towards children in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Some parents in the biblical context were not worth honoring. In both the Old and the New Testaments, parents could be shunned for merely being entitled as parents. Whenever a child growing up in the Early Church was being abused, they usually confided in a clergyman or clergywoman, who gently walked the children through the steps to defeat their abuser through reverse gaslighting methods. See also 1Cor. 5:11.

The reason for the Fifth Commandment was there was a lot of elder abuse and neglect of parents in the Old Testament context. In Ancient Israel, there existed an epidemic of elder abuse. Thus, God gave context-specific commandments to not strike your parents and not curse them with airborne gaslighting. See also Lev. 20:9; Exod. 21:15. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: Why children need discipline (but not punishment)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common goal of parents. However, most American parents believe discipline is synonymous with punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that children DO NOT need punishment, but they surely need discipline.

God's Law states in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: bur bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The first stanza clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke....to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing your children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting, and thus parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they offend a child. A provocation to wrath is a specific type of offense stemming from entitlement, with all parent anger being a form of entitlement. However, even refusing to apologize to a child that you upset is a provocation to anger. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, with statements such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you lose your cool with your child, a formal apology is necessary, with statements such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you" and then striving never to make that mistake again. This stanza of the commandment in Eph. 6:4 rules out anything harsh or punitive, while nonetheless clarifying the meaning of stanza 2 of this commandment. This stanza of the commandment in Eph. 6:4 cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", incluiding the power to impose punitive measures on children, including spanking and other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The second stanza of the verse in Eph. 6:4 spells out proper child discipline, with the first stanza ruling out punitive or harsh measures as an option for discipline. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in context, to a specific type of nurturing, namely of the teaching type. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep up the good work. Christian parents in the Early Church looked for behaviors in their children that they wanted to see in their children. When they saw these behaviors, parents lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. Christian parents then imparted a good example for their children, and backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. Children also needed a religious education, with religion being a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to the Christian warning of fathers. Starting at age 6, a Bible was left out for children for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, fathers praised and encouraged the child's religious development lavishly, with fathers then saying "let me help you make sense of that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being curious about Scripture, and fathers giving pointers as to the context. The pointers as to the context was all that consisted of a Christian father's warning then. 

It is a myth that fathers in the Bible sexually corrected their crying children. In neighboring cultures, fathers raped their children when they cried too much for their mother's patience, as a form of "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting. However, in the biblical context, mothers had to reassure their children no matter what. The role of the father was to nurture from afar, by way of catching children being good. Fathers usually had a sexual attraction to their daughters, but they were required to purge their unrequited desires through righteous masturbation.

Spanking was a common form of discipline in the Greco-Roman world. In Ancient Greece, the Hellenistic means of disciplining children consisted of a spanking when a child's behavior was "egregious". However, the Early Christians shunned these methods of parenting, and instead practiced attachment parenting. Anyone caught punishing a child was swiftly excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God, and was treated as a church infiltrator. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect for parents is earned

Many parents feel entitled to respect these days. Most American parents insist on respect from children, while doing nothing to earn it. However, the Bible is clear that respect for parents is earned by the parent. Parenting in the Bible consists of a mutual submission relationship between parent and child, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the parent.

The Bible, as understood in the original Greek, commands for parents and children a secure attachment. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and is better translated as "trust", as in "trust your parents in everything". Ultimately, in context, this trust refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The context of the Bible clarifies what is meant by a secure attachment, with secure attachment being the normative parenting setup in the Bible. 

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times, but that came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly attached at the hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at their children, before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever children were out and about in public with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact between parent and child, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth merely when picked up.

A secure attachment is what is meant in both Col. 3:20 and Eph. 6:1  Most children raised in a securely attached environment were cooperative with parents, in a way where the child wants to please parents and make their day Children growing up in the Early Church were docile and cooperative - especially after age 6 - but out of affection towards parents as opposed to fear of punishment from parents. 

Refusing to meet a child's every vulnerable need is not saved behavior. The commandments in Col. 3:20 and Eph  6:1 are written to the parents of the child. This is because children were not subject to the Law while they were still children. Maybe children had to atone for purity offenses, but that only came later, in retrospect when the child grew up to be an adult. The Greek root word translated "obey" in parenting matters is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo)  and implies that children be loved as a neighbor. Any unloving treatment against a child defended in open court alone is entitlement. This love is denoted by the Greek word αγαπαο, meaning parents are to do good works for their child, or be charged with entitlement if they outright refuse to show Christian love towards their children. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 1Cor, 13:4-8. 

The depraved and entitled parents who were disrespectful towards their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents support their so-called "right" to spank and punish children. Most American parents use the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. The whole pro-spanking theological argument hinges on one passage - Heb. 12:5-6. However, the fact of the matter is that Hebrews 12:5-6 has nothing to do with earthly parenting.

God's Word reads in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to. When this passage is understood correctly, it is a comforting verse for me. God doesn't literally reach down from the heavens and scourge His children. But, God does punish His children, sending trials and tribulations the way of those who He loves the most. However, God only punishes His children when they aren't harmed, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does harm them. Ultimately, this passage was written in order to reassure the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome. This sort of metaphor is called rod language, and was in use in Ancient Greek. Instead of saying "I had a long day at work", you would instead say "God whipped me hard today".

Heb. 12:5-6 does not speak of earthly parenting, as God never intended for earthly parents to copy His parenting example. However, God does weigh in on the spanking debate elsewhere in the Bible, as well as what is proper parenting of children. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting. Thus, the only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons" and then maybe "I hope you understand". However, if you lose your cool with your child, that is entitlement in and of itself, and thus a formal apology is necessary, namely statements such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". Even refusing to apologize to a child that you upset is a form of entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase that roughly translates to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions towards children, including spanking and other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment towards a child. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Spanking is an ancient pagan custom that seeped itself into the church tradition in the Western Church. In 312, Roman Emperor Constantine converted to Christianity. However, everything set up by Constantine came with a pro-spanking bias. Even the Bible was mistranslated on the Latinate level with this bias. However, the language in Col. 3:21 is clear - a provocation to anger is synonymous with an offense coming from entitlement. Even defending your so-called "rights" as a parent to be angry with your child is a form of entitlement, and when your entitled anger towards a child offends a child, it is child abuse. The only way around guilt in Col. 3:21 is to be willing to apologize to your child.

The Early Christians did not take kindly to children being treated punitively. Occasionally, the odd pro-spanking parent made their way into the church. Whenever that happened, they were tried before the council, and if they were found guilty, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

It is a myth that fathers in biblical times did "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting as a form of sexual abuse of a child. The role of mothers was to comfort and soothe the child's upset. Fathers instead looked for behaviors that they liked, and then praised and encouraged children for more behavior of the same. In other ancient cultures, fathers did use trauma bonding methods in order to sexually correct the child. However, in the biblical context, child sexual abuse was rare, meaning almost non-existent. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why the Bible calls for stricter child abuse definitions

Many parents believe that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the present-day child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, parental entitlement consists of a parent getting sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement then, with this form of entitlement being seen as a moral crime in and of itself then. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to ideally avoid even the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, you are bound to offend your child at least some of the time as a parent, including by way of set limits. The only way around guilt under this commandment is to be willing to meaningfully apologize to your children whenever you offend them. Whenever your child is upset by how you deal with them, you have offended them, and thus you need to apologize. Usually, all that is required is a reassurance of good intent along the lines of "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits because of Y reasons". However, when you lose your cool with your child, you need to give a formal apology along the lines of "I apologize for losing your cool with you". Even refusing to apologize to a child you upset is a form of entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to mete out punitive sanctions towards children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment towards a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. If a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a shame on the parents for being too hard on the child. An atheist was seen as having childhood trauma, as opposed to simply being a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse is defined under God's Law by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers not to any old sexual attraction to children, but instead refers to any sexual interaction between an adult and a child, even if the child likes it. Any sexual advances even perceived by a child, even if the child liked it, was deemed fornication by way of child sexual abuse then, and resulted in swift excommunication from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of the council. The child victim, in most cases, confided into a church elder or other clergyperson about the abuse from their parents. From there, the parents were brought before the council, and if they defended their course of conduct towards their child in any way, they were swiftly excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with all 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever defending the punitive treatment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones in his secular writings.

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live and get along with each other. It just so happens that the rod verses in Proverbs were egregiously mistranslated at the Latinate level, in order to keep a pagan custom of spanking children going. The Bible, in all of the rod verses, refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, with the mention being a metaphor for trials and tribulations in Heb. 12:5-6. Most European pagans spanked their young children, and whipped their older children, with Western society absorbing the pagan methods of punitive parenting from the European pagans. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to accommodate your pedophilic child

Many parents are afraid of their children falling prey to a pedophile. This is a common and normal fear on the part of parents. However, most parents never bank on having a pedophile as their own child. Most pedophiles are survivors of law-abiding parents, meaning parents react rather than respond to their cries for help. Most pedophiles become aware of their mental health disorder around age 16, with many showing signs even younger than 16. 

A pedophile is not an anger packet. A pedophile is a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference to children under age 14. Most pedophiles have a child-centered form of autism which is moderate-severe in terms of severity. A pedophile usually has a form of autism that is rule-oriented, but at the same time excusing children from the rules. If your autistic teenager gets along well with much younger children, think pedophile, as most individuals with autism find young children to be annoying. 

Pedophilia usually does not come in the form of irresistible urges or drives, but instead comes in the form of sexual curiosity surrounding children's bodies. I myself am a pedophile, and I am curious about the bodies of young girls. This sort of curiosity can easily be dealt with by giving pedophilic children a book that shows all the different body parts of children, aimed at children as a form of sex education. 

Pedophilic children need to masturbate to sexual thoughts of much younger children. However, this masturbation should not include any pornography of any sort. When a pedophilic child's sexual needs are met, they don't rape much younger children. Most pedophilic rapes are committed by an individual with severe autism where the perpetrator didn't know how to masturbate. The idea is to allow your pedophilic child to masturbate, and if they don't how, tell them how in their own vocabulary.

Most serial sexual abusers of children are not pedophiles, but instead are rapists who swung low in some of their most egregious exploits. Most serial child rapists have adult victims as well as child victims. Apart from that, most of the sexual abusers of children are opportunists. I myself have a history of sexually offending children in the form of "infatuation" grooming. I was an infatuation addict, and I had to char and tar all possibilities with images of Hell. Most pedophilic sexual abuse is well-meaning in nature, but nonetheless, it was wrong. 

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers not to pedophilia itself, but, in this context, any sexual advances directed towards a child, even if the child liked it. Any sexual interaction between an adult and a child is child sexual abuse. Even if the child is a willing participant, it is still wrong to have sexual relations with a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their pedophilic child just because the child is a pedophile will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Positive reinforcement: The biblical application of positive reinforcement

Many parents believe in punishing children, with the norm being time-outs alongside the occasional spanking done "out of love". However, more parents are turning to positive reinforcement, but they usually do it wrong. The biblical model of positive reinforcement involves spontaneous positive reinforcement. 

God's Law states in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt, but nonetheless, children need discipline. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, any offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The first stanza here says that you need to avoid punishment or harshness in parenting, which qualifies for the second stanza as to what discipline is accepted as the "nurture and admonition of the Lord". However, it isn't enough to avoid spanking or punishing children to impart discipline - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. Whenever your discipline hurts a child, it counts as a perceived offense from a child. When you offend your child, you need to apologize. Most of the time, an informal apology works, but when you lose your cool with your child, you need to give a full apology along the lines of "I apologize for losing my cool with you". This segment of the commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power of parents to impose punitive sanctions towards a child, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The second stanza of this commandment simply explains what discipline is acceptable, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in context, to a specific type of nurturing, namely the teaching sort. Whenever children were caught being good, they were lavishly praised and encouraged children to keep up the good work. The idea is to look for behaviors that you want to encourage in your child, and when you see that behavior, reel the behavior out of your child through praise and encouragement. Parents imparted a good Christian example to their children, but backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punitive measures. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here, in context, to the Christian warning of fathers. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement, alongside offers of "let me help you read that book". From there, religious instruction in a Christian household came in the form of question and answer format, with children being eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers as to the context. The pointers on the context was what was seen as the Christian warning from fathers. 

There are good ways and bad ways to impart positive reinforcement onto children. Any time a child needs to earn tokens or points is by default a form of child abuse, once the child is offended by not earning any tokens or points. Most of the time, children lose points for things such as crying or whining. Any time you deprive a child of a rewards in a rewards system, you offend the child, with any offense of children being child abuse once defended in open court.

Children are bound to get into conflict with each other. The idea is to wait until they solve their tiff themselves. Whenever children got along, they were given lavish praise and encouragement for more good behavior of the same. This praise and encouragement reeled out the good behavior such as siblings or classmates getting along.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Oppositional-defiant disorder in children: Why such children do NOT need strictness from parents

Many parents think that children with oppositional-defiant disorder need more limits. This is a common belief amongst American parents  Most American parents think that a child with ODD need punishment to learn hard lessons. However, children with ODD cannot help their defiance.

Children with ODD literally cannot handle the word "no". This is a common theme in the clinical presentation of ODD. The idea is to set limits rarely, and back them up with a meaningful apology. Most children need this setup, but children with ODD need this pro-social permissiveness even more. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your ODD child - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. Offending any child is inevitable in parenting, but especially children with ODD. Thus, the only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Most of the time, a reassurance of good intent is all that is needed. However, if you lose your cool with your child, you need to give them a full apology, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". Even refusing to apologize to a child you upset constitutes entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, including spanking and other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was prohibited under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Children with ODD especially need an apology when their feelings are hurt by the word "no". The idea is to say something along the lines of "I'm sorry for saying 'no', but I had to set X limit for Y reasons" and then maybe "I hope you understand". Children with ODD especially need some gentle cushioning when they can't accept the word "no". Children with ODD are bound to get offended by pretty much any set limits, and thus the only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to apologize whenever you offend and upset your child.

ODD involves an inability of children to accept the word "no", in the most explosive of ways. This is because the word "no" is perceived by an ODD child alone as a form of control. Any time you try to be controlling with someone, they fight back. Under the customary law in the Early Church, children could only be told "no" under the most strictest of circumstances, namely when the child petitioned parents for things that were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever children were declined a petitioned request, and could not accept the limit, they were given an apology in the form of reassurance of good intent. Christian parents in the Early Church rarely ever lost their cool with children, and when they did, they immediately gave a full apology for their anger, and meant it in their heart of hearts.

Apart from the rare word "no", children with ODD need what is called reverse policing. The idea is to give up the fight with your ODD child, and give into their demands. You may find that they aren't asking for much. Even when Christian parents in the Early Church had to decline a request, they usually put it nicely, with phrases such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". Usually, when you state your limit politely with a child, they are more likely to accept it. Children growing up in the Early Church could take offense for anything that they perceived as offensive, with parents not being able to perceive meaningful offense while their children were dependent on them. 

ODD is usually a secondary disorder to conditions such as autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. Usually, medication is all that is needed to ward off the oppositional and defiant traits of children. However, sometimes children have an oppositional form of autism, in which case the acronym of righteous parent abuse applies - they strike and beat their parents. Whenever your child lashes out at you, cry with them, and incur their parent abuse onto you. This crying is called righteous wailing, and helps children stop their aggressive behavior in its tracks. Whenever you cry when attacked by your child, it gets their attention, and then they try to refrain from beating parents up. However, some children are incapable of learning their lesson, which in and of itself is a sign of ODD in a child. Either way, crying in parents is an off-switch, as an ODD child does not want to see their parents cry - they just want what they petition for.  

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why children talk back to parents (and how to treat the situation)

Many parents think that children talking back is deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children merely for talking back. However, the fact of the matter is that children are going to talk back, and thus parents should apologize accordingly.

God's Law states in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offense in children is inevitable in parenting. Offense coming from a child comes as upset in its many forms. Back talk coming from a set limit is a common form of a child perceiving offense from their parents. Most parents elicit a back talk reaction from children when they set a limit that the child cannot accept. In this case, parents are to give a meaningful apology, usually coming in the form of reassurance of good intent, with parents saying things such as "I am sorry for X limit, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". Sometimes, parents lose their cool, in which case a full apology is in order, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". Refusing to apologize in some way to a child that you upset in and of itself is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and oppsed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

Back talk is just one way that children show offense to set limits. However, it is necessary sometimes to give a limit. Most of the time, children do listen to parents when they have a secure attachment with their children. The degree of secure attachment determines how cooperative your child will be towards set limits. However, some children can't handle the word "no" easily, with most all children getting angry at set limits at some point in childhood. 

When a child is offended by your limits, it is good to give a meaningful apology. When your child reacts to you losing your cool, you need to give a full apology such as "I apologize for getting angry with you". Maybe the child won't understand the words that come out of your mouth, but they will most certainly respond well to your reassuring tone of voice.

In the family home, children were allowed to take offense to any sense of entitlement in a parent. However, parents were not allowed to take offense to their child, and only could take offense on behalf of a child in the case of a family and/or church interloper. Christian parents in the Early Church were not allowed to set limits or otherwise react out of anger in parenting. All limits were instead set out of trust, in the context of a secure attachment.

Most children who are cooperative grow up in attachment parenting homes, where secure attachment is the main goal in parenting. Children start by crying out loud for a vulnerable need, with that need usually involving attachment. Most all crying is due to an unmet need that was obvious in children then, but not with children with today's conditioning. Children were only given direct limits in the case of children behaving in an unsafe and/or immoral manner. Parents could say "no", but only in the case of a petitioned request being unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Usually, children listen to you if you form a secure bond with them. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws on the books protecting children

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the present definitions of child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent feeling sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times, and was prohibited as such. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting, and thus parents should apologize meaningfully whenever they offend their children. Usually, a reassurance of good intent should suffice. However, when you lose your cool as a parent, you should give your child a full apology, saying things such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". Refusing to apologize to a child that you upset alone is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase that roughly translated to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of children in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients in the Early Church had a concept of trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it came as a shame to the child's parents. Atheism was seen then as an expression of trauma, not simply an individual being a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was a rare form of child abuse in biblical times, and was defined by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to, at minimum, any sexual advances perceived by a child, even if they like it. Child sexual abuse was rare in both the Old and New Testaments, and when it did happen, there was mass outrage in the streets and in the churches. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis and Revelation - were written by Jews, and no Jew worth mentioning ever defending punitive parenting. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones in his secular writings, with the rod in Proverbs ultimately referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered in a courtroom, with these harsh punishments being repealed by Christ's Work on the cross. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context in order to know how to live and treat each other with respect. It just so happens that the Bible was mistranslated at the Latinate level, in order to keep a pagan tradition going. The Bible is only the infallible Word of God in the original Greek and Hebrew, as understood in context. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist on respect from their children, claiming that the Fifth Commandment states that it is a sin to speak against parents. However, the Bible nowhere states, when understood in context, that children have the obligation to not speak against their parent.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

The Hebrew word translated "honour" is kabad and does not prohibit speaking against parents, but instead commands Christians to care for their parents, especially as they age. At first, parents are to care for and pamper their children. Then, parents get rewarded later with loving, kind care when they are no longer able to care for themselves. See also Col. 3:20.

Perhaps the most common motive for punitive treatment of children is parents feeling deserving of children honoring them, with parents citing the Fifth Commandment as an excuse for punitive parenting. However, the Bible commands that parents not give children punitive treatment under any circumstance. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in the course of parenting, and thus parents need to apologize whenever they offend their child. Usually, all that is needed is reassurance of good intent. However, if you lose your cool with your child at all, your children need a full apology such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". Any anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and even defending your choice not to apologize to your child is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive measures on children such as spanking and other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of children in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The Fifth Commandment does not give parents license to punish their children, while feeling entitled to good things coming their way from children. However, most parents do misuse this commandment as a justification for punishing children for things such as "disrespect". The Bible, as exegeted in the previous paragraph, prohibits all punitive parenting of a child, meaning avoiding the offense perceived by a child..The Early Christians were largely hated for being "too soft" on their children.

The whole point of the Fifth Commandment is to take care of your parents as they age, rewarding them with the same care that they gave you when you were little. However, some parents are downright dishonorable, and abusive as well, and then, children were allowed to disown their parents, and they usually did in the case of child abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Individual responsibility for adult attraction to children

Many people buy into the concept of collective responsibility. The idea behind collective responsibility is to take out the trash, and stop predators from attacking children. However, most child sexual abuse does not come from pedophilia, but from a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape a child. 

Every single adult is individually responsible for the righteous avoidance of children in terms of sexual attractions. Any old adult could sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. Thus, an adult who rapes a child, or might rape a child, is individually responsible for the rapes in question. 

The Greek root word denoting fornication, including adult fornication of children, is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers, in this context, to any sexual advances towards a child, even if the child was a willing participant. Most child sexual abuse of this kind involves lust, meaning an adult harboring a sexual narcissist. A sexual narcissist can easily be discharged any time by an adult at-risk for sexually abusing a child. 

Righteous masturbation is a common and normal way to purge unrequited desires towards children. This form of masturbation was righteous as long as there was no pornography involved. Whenever you fail to masturbate, you ultimately grow a sexual narcissist. When lust is mentioned as a problem in the Bible, count masturbation as the way out of lust. It is a myth that masturbation leads to lust. I myself, as a pedophile, know to stay out of lust by way of righteous masturbation.

Child sexual abuse is a choice that an adult makes, and ultimately is a lifestyle issue where the lifestyle of the child rapist is opposed to righteous masturbation. All an adult has to do to avoid sexually abusing a child is masturbate to child fantasies. Most men in particular refuse. I masturbate much of the time, and it never led me down the wrong path. My fantasy policy is anything under age 18, because that is where I would go first otherwise. 

A pedophile is not an anger packet, but instead a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. Pedophilia is a developmental disorder, with pedophilia ultimately coming from arrested sexual development. Most pedophiles have an immature form of autism that is child-centered in nature. A pedophile is someone with autism who has child smarts. Whenever you see someone with autism get along with children, think pedophile, because most adults with autism are annoyed by children. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault a child will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, which is prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Separation anxiety: Why children seemingly cry out of nowhere

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child crying seemingly out of nowhere. This is a common struggle amongst American parents. However, most American parents think that crying out of nowhere is a means to "undermine parental authority". However, the truth behind your child's random cries will likely break your heart - they need YOU. 

Tending to your children's cries is a part of the Christian commandment of secure attachment in the family home. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The key to forming a secure attachment is to tend to the every cry of your child, as was done in the biblical context. Christian parents then knew more than parents today that most cries from a young child are due to separation anxiety. The Early Christians were attachment parents, and thus the context tells us how to be an attachment parent, and how to deal with the cries of separation anxiety.

Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that children need their every need tended to, especially attachment needs, and that crying out of nowhere was due to separation anxiety. Children under age 6 were usually morbidly afraid of mothers "going away and never coming back". The key behind tending to this sort of anxiety is to reassure children of your presence, telling children "I'm here, and I'm going nowhere". 

Children who have an attachment need usually cry a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. This cry was designed by God to break down mothers, and continue to break them down, until they met the every vulnerable need of children. In most cases, all the child needs is YOU. 

It is recommended that mothers quit their job in order to care for their children in the child's formative years. For the first 6 years of childhood, children growing up in the Early Church were morbidly afraid of mom "going away and never coming back". Whenever you leave the house without your child, you realize their worst fears. Children are afraid of you leaving them unattended, so tend to their every cry. They are only little once!

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for crying will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let then descend into the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent!

Child discipline: How to properly discipline your child (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common goal for parents. However, most parents equate discipline with punishment. However, the Bible prohibits all punitive treatment of children, without exception. Discipline in the biblical context came in the form of catching children being good, and then showering them with praise and encouragement.

Proper child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that discipline should not offend a child, meaning discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing your children - you need to ideally avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. However, offending children is inevitable in parenting, which is when you apologize to your child. Usually, reassurance of good intent should suffice. However, if you lose your cool with your child, a full length apology is needed, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". Any anger towards a child is entitlement in and of itself, as is refusing to apologize to a child who you upset. The Bible states here that your discipline should not hurt, but nonetheless, children need discipline. This commandment here cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", meaning the power of parents to use punitive treatment, including spanking and other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Paul here was ruling out the idea of punishing children, while stating in the next stanza that children need discipline - of the nurturant sort. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific form of discipline, namely of the teaching type. Whenever children were caught being good, such as showing patience or self-control, they were given praise and encouragement by fathers for more of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church imparted a good example for children to follow, with this example being backed up by praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. This form of positive reinforcement is an old Jewish tradition that here made the Bible, in the form of catching children being good. Children need religion, as religion is a basic human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. As soon as children turned age 6, fathers left out a copy of the Bible for children to discover and explore. When fathers caught their child studying the Bible, they praised the child, then saying "let me help you out with that book". Children were curious about Scripture, with fathers giving his warning by giving pointers on the context. 

Catching children being good is an old Jewish tradition, with Christianity being an offshoot of Judaism. Children were expected to have behaviors such as crying, whining, or pouting. These behaviors were excused by parents, but when children showed good traits, such as self-control or self-discipline, they were praised and encouraged for more good behavior of the same. Some children do act up egregiously, and that is because they are copying the entitlement of their parents.

Mothers nurtured up close, whereas fathers nurtured from afar. Fathers stayed away from their children during the first 6 years of childhood. For the second half of childhood, fathers praised and encouraged children when they were caught being good. However, punishment and other punitive treatment of children is prohibited in the Bible. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents want to avoid the mere appearance of pampering children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want to be seen as firm and strict. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible, when understood in context, calls for parents to pamper and baby their children.

Righteous pampering is a part of a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is a well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The context, when understood as a guidepost, tells us how to provide a secure attachment for children. One way to do this is to pamper and baby your child, especially for the first 6 years of childhood, with parents never punishing their child.

The Bible, as understood in context, doesn't refer to any old pampering, but a certain specific type of pampering of children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly attached at the hip with mom, following mom from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up the child in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - then being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. Children then went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth whenever children were merely picked up. 

After children growing up in the Early Church turned age 6, they played freely in the neighborhood, naked. Children then engaged in wet and messy play, exploring the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, engaging in mud battles along the way. Older children - past age 6 - alternated between closeness to parents and time spent away from parents. This alternation happened until the child wanted free from their parents entirely. 

Children growing up in the Early Church were very much protected, in a sheltered sort of way. Children under age 6 were kept indoors, as they were unable to appreciate the dangers that existed outside, such as venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. Even today, there exist hazards when a child walks out of the door - namely oncoming traffic and would-be kidnappers.

The depraved and entitled parents who are punitive with their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment prepared for Satan and his accomplices!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that when a child is crying, that a child is trying to "undermine parental authority". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children just for crying. However, the fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior, but instead is a primal way for children to communicate vulnerable needs

Tending to children crying is a commandment from God. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The context tells us how to form a secure attachment with your children. One way the Early Christians formed a bond with their children was by tending to the every vulnerable need of the child, responding to the every cry of their children.

Most parents today punish, or else ignore, a crying child. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than today's parents that children who cry need something. Under customary law in the Early Church, children were understood as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Never ignore a crying child. 

Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Crying in children is an expression in children that is designed by God to get mothers to get them what they need, and get it right. The cries of children were designed by God to break down mothers, and keep breaking her down, until the petitioned need is found and met, through trial and error. Most children growing up in the Early Church cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore, and the crying did not stop until the child's needs were completely met. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for crying will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment prepared as the second death for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents believe that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most parents support the current child abuse definitions in place under the law of the land. However, the  Bible has a concept of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed in their children when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child, ideally speaking. Offending children is inevitable in parenting, and thus parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they offend a child. Whenever a child is upset when dealt with a certain way, including concerning set limits, they are offended by your conduct as a parent, and thus you need to apologize, especially if you lose your cool with your child. Refusing to apologize to a child you offended is entitlement in and of itself. Usually, all that is needed is reassurance of a parent's good intent. However, if you lose your cool with your child, you should give a full length apology such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought with them into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase translating roughly to "power to the parent", including the power to use punitive measures in parenting such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was against Roman law, but the Early Christians obeyed God over men, and did attachment parenting anyway.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, including trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a concept of trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was a shame onto their abusive religious parents, not a shame onto the atheist him/herself. 

Child sexual abuse was a rare form of child abuse in biblical times, and was prohibited by the use of the word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and was defined then as the slightest of sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child liked it. Child sexual abuse was seen as a purity offense, meaning blasphemy. Even if the child was a willing participant, it offended God, and thus was dealt swiftly by the council in the Early Church.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth referencing ever endorsing punitive treatment of a child. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones in his secular writings, with the rod in Proverbs referencing the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a sentence for a crime. If King Solomon didn't impart that wisdom, fathers would just refuse to whip their adult children. Even then, minor children were not whipped. These harsh punishments under the Law were repealed by Christ's Work on the cross.

The Bible is a founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live and get along with each other. It just so happens that the Bible was mistranslated at the Latinate level, with all English-language versions of the Bible being flawed in terms of translation. Most of the framers of this country were unaware of the biblical context concerning punitive treatment of children. But, anti-spanking values are Judeo-Christian values, and all of the Jewish framers were anti-spanking. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why the frequent use of the word "no" is child abuse

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" a lot, including oftentimes out of anger. The fact of the matter is that defending your right to say "no" to a child is child abuse, and comes from entitlement. 

The word "no" might offend a child, especially if stated forcefully. Defending the word "no" in and of itself comes from entitlement, and is child abuse if such entitlement offends the child. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. A good place to start is the word "no". Most parents use the word without thinking about it. Whenever you are angry with your child, you should never say "no".  Whenever your child is offended by the word "no", parents should apologize to their children. This apology usually should come in the form of reassuring children of good intent. But, when parents are angry or frustrated with their children when saying the word "no", a full length apology is necessary, with statements such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you". This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which roughly translates to "power to the parent", with this including the power of the parent to impose sanctions on children, which came then in the form of spanking. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians obeyed God over men, and were attachment parents to their children anyway.

The word "no" was not used frequently or often in the Early Church with children. Christian parents in the Early Church instead used the word "no" rarely, meaning almost never. Under customary law, children could only be told "no" if the child's petitioned requests were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever parents said "no", they apologized by reassuring children of their good intent. Even then, most parents avoided the chaos altogether by finding nicer-sounding ways to decline a request, such as "that can't happen", "that isn't possible", or "that isn't possible". 

A firm "no" was reserved for if a child committed a purity offense such as fornication. In the context of attachment parenting, children form sexual attachments to their parents, meaning prepubescent children are usually sexually attracted to their parents, usually the parent of the opposite sex. When children freshened up their parents, children were given a firm "no", then redirecting the child to righteous masturbation without pornography. Whenever children even accessed pornography, the lascivious depictions were collected by the parents and trashed, with children having to repent for their sin when baptized as an adult. Children who abused alcohol or drugs were also told a firm "no". No punishment was allowed in the case of a child committing a purity offense, but parents were allowed to give a firm "no" in a way that got their children's attention.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punutive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!