Many parents think that when a child is crying, that a child is trying to "undermine parental authority". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children just for crying. However, the fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior, but instead is a primal way for children to communicate vulnerable needs
Tending to children crying is a commandment from God. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:
Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The context tells us how to form a secure attachment with your children. One way the Early Christians formed a bond with their children was by tending to the every vulnerable need of the child, responding to the every cry of their children.
Most parents today punish, or else ignore, a crying child. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than today's parents that children who cry need something. Under customary law in the Early Church, children were understood as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Never ignore a crying child.
Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.
Crying in children is an expression in children that is designed by God to get mothers to get them what they need, and get it right. The cries of children were designed by God to break down mothers, and keep breaking her down, until the petitioned need is found and met, through trial and error. Most children growing up in the Early Church cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore, and the crying did not stop until the child's needs were completely met.
The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for crying will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment prepared as the second death for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!
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