The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" rarely (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that children do not have a need to hear the word "no". Children need to hear the word "yes" far more often than the word "no".

Hearing the word "yes" far more than the word "no" is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context. as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen ase holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating their child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend  was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children need to hear the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. In the Early Church, under customary law, parents were forbidden from saying the word "no" to their children, by default. The only exceptions to this rule was if the petitioned demands from children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral.

Children growing up in the Early Church heard the word "yes" far more frequently than the word 
"no". Whenever children were given the word "yes", that helped gel the bond between parent and child. Children do have needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment. The word "no" is nowhere found as a childhood need in biblical times. However. the word "yes" counts as an attachment need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which was the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christmas Day: Why to not make children clear their plate

It is a common power struggle come Christmas Day at dinner. This is a common time for children to refuse to eat past a certain point. However, the fact of the matter is that children refuse to eat because they are full, and can't eat any more.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. One reason why parents lose their cool was when they don't get the praise they feel deserving of in the form of a clean plate. In fact, any parent anger towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in the Early Church, including calling children out on "sin". When this entitlement on the part of parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Early Christian context, there never was a recorded instance of parents making demands for children to eat everything on their plate. However, if this happened, it would have been seen as offenses or damages, thus child abuse. Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children cannot be expected to clear their plates. Any time a parent loses their cool when their child isn't eating enough, they are entitled. Whenever the child perceived the demands as offensive, it was seen as child abuse. 

The usual setup at Christmas dinner is when an adult says "you can't leave the table before you finish your food". Usually, the adult was angry, and felt that they deserved appreciation and praise in the form of children eating everything that is on their plate. Parents are to expect absolutely nothing from children in return for cooking a good meal. In most cases, children are grateful, but have a smaller appetite.

Whenever you make your child clear their plate, you set them up for being overweight or obese later in life. Most obesity in this country is due to children being forced to overeat as a child. This is a nasty habit to get your child into.

If you want your child to eat everything on their plate, the idea is to give children smaller portion sizes. Children should not be eating adult-sized plates of food. Children usually don't eat everything on their plate because they are full, and literally can't eat anymore.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which was the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Santa the rapist: Alternatives to sexually abusing a child this Christmas Eve

Many adults see the Christmas season as harmless and even magical. However, many children literally have a reason to dread Christmas. The fact of the matter is that Christmas Eve is a common time for fathers in particular to "give" to their children a rape or sexual assault as a "gift". They clearly don't like the fact that they are sexually entitled, but there are alternatives to raping your daughter this Christmas Eve.

I myself am a pedophile, and so I can see clearly how a sexual abuser of children could develop low-level sexual entitlement. Most child sexual abuse comes in the form of a repressed sexual desire for children, usually secondary in nature. Most pedophiles are already aware of their sex drive for children, and center it where it can harm nobody. Most sexual abusers of children instead have a secondary sexual attraction to children, usually towards teenagers or preteens. All adults ever tested had a sex drive for children somewhere down their spine.

What is the alternative to sexually abusing your child? The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo). This word does not refer to any old sexual desire towards a child, but instead sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and then maybe think the think later. However, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. "Doing the deed" refers to any flirting or propositioning children, or else touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. If you feel your feet moving when you are around a sexually attractive child, that is a sign that you are a rapist. Most of the time, the approach to be avoided is one of sneaking into a child's bedroom in the middle of the night. A common time for child rape is Christmas Eve. This may make you feel bad for abusers, but they made the choice as per their lifestyle choices.

In Israel, there exists a custom where it is known on the surface if an adult is a sexual threat. There is one phrase to say confidently, looking for a good laugh - "pedophile going". An abuser will be able to say "pedophile going", but in a skittish, sheepish way. The age of consent in Israel is 17, with child sexual abuse being rare in Israel.

I myself am a former sexual abuser of children. If I was allowed to by the girl's parents, I would have snuggled with her Christmas Eve. However, my main entitlement involved not knowing the boundaries in relation to children. My crushes came in the form of train cars, with everyone around me hoping for the caboose. I would have never raped a child even during my days as an abuser, as I hated rape even then. I think it is cruel to rape a child on a night that should be wonderful and magical in nature. That affects the way a child will grow up to view Christmastime. The most I would do would have been snuggling with a child come nightfall, based off of a want for romantic closeness. 

Most survivors think that some cases of child sexual abuse are excusable, namely when the abuser has a severe mental disability. However, I support locking up even the most severe of sexual abusers with autism, as little things are capable of big things. I myself have autism, and I know myself when I have crossed a boundary - I get called a "creep". Whenever a child uses that word in her self-defense, I am scared. 

Most "Santa rapes", as they are called by sexual abuse professionals, involve a man who is trapped in a rut that he can't get out of, while doing everything to repress something that is dangerous to repress. They had a choice, as that urge is what your hand is for. You can tell that "Santa" rapists are desperate to get repressed desires out, but they should have simply masturbated righteously. That one teaching against masturbation is what ultimately condemns its adherents to their fates. 

There is a reason why Christmastime might be a difficult time for many trauma survivors. A common time for child rapes to occur is Christmas Eve. No child wants that sort of "gift" on Christmas Eve, especially if the abuser is cowardly enough to hide behind a Santa suit. Even as a pedophile, I abhor such abusers, as it is a choice to rape or sexually assault a child. 

Most adults are at-risk for sexually abusing a children. All they have to do is masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of their child attraction figures, and then the rest is history. Most adults usually insist that they only fantasize about "over 18 fantasies" and even "I have a pedophile that I ignore". However, the idea behind any problematic sexual attraction is to admit to it openly, and face the troubling thoughts head on using righteous masturbation. Whenever a non-pedophilic survivor says "that's what your hand is for", they speak wise words. Even women usually have a risk of sexually abusing a child, namely the survivor-type woman who "swings low". 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and/or sexually assault children on Christmas Eve will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Santa Claus: Why Santa should not have a "naughty" list

'Tis Christmas Eve. Many parents want Santa to be part of their children's lives. This is a common want for parents. However, most parents use Santa as a form of behavioral modification. Legend has it that Santa Claus has two lists, a "naughty" or a "nice" list. The goal is for children to be on the "nice" list. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible commands that the "naughty" list be abolished, as it is threatening your child.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. One form of losing your cool is threatening to "call Santa" when children don't give adults the good behavior that they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children. Any adult anger directed towards children was seen in biblical times as parental entitlement, including even when the anger was intended to call out "sin" in a child. When this entitlement was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your children hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Christmas legend holds that Santa has two lists - the "nice" list and the "naughty" list. However, putting children in fear of being on the "naughty" list and getting nothing for Christmas is a form of child abuse by the biblical standard, meaning perceived offense on the part of the child. Whenever you threaten a child with no Christmas presents, they take offense at some level. Any time you give a child emotional pain, it is deemed an offense, thus child abuse. Most children feel awful when they are threatened with no Christmas, and that awful feeling constitutes an offense, thus child abuse. 

Children should not have to avoid crying or pouting, and shouldn't have to "watch out". Children should get whatever their heart's content for Christmas. Young children under age 6 lack the self-control necessary to stay on Santa's "nice" list. Children are going to pout and cry, and that is developmentally appropriate behavior for a young child. Children don't develop self-control until age 6.

I myself was threatened with "coal for Christmas" when I was a child. It was a vain threat, but I was a willful child when I was young. I had every reason to believe that I was on Santa's "naughty" list. However, I did get around that by way of asking for coal for Christmas (I was a strange child).

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Early Christian Christmas: Understanding how the Early Christians treated children come Christmas

Many people look to Europe for Christmas inspiration. This usually means a gift-giver who only delivered to "nice" children. For most of Christian history, Santa Claus was depicted as handing over a whip to parents in order to scourge a child for their disobedience to parents. However, the Early Christians kept things simple - no Santa, meaning only family members exchanged presents. Children were central to the Christmas holiday then, but in a more respectful way.

The Greek root word for Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to, in the context of parenting, full and dutiful submission to children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Part of this submission is giving to children without receiving anything in return. That means that parents did not expect anything in return from children, not even a "thank-you". Children usually said "thank-you" to parents for their gifts, but when they didn't, it was seen as simply the child getting the wrong gift. 

Threatening children with Santa Claus was not a concept in the Early Church. Even threatening a child with nothing for Christmas was seen as coming from parental entitlement. The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when children don't give them what the feel deserving of from children. Not giving children their presents was seen as a form of a parent losing their cool with their children. When children cried on Christmas, due to perceiving offenses or damages, the parents were put under church investigation for child abuse. Child abuse was defined as whatever the child perceived as offensive or damaging. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. Some Greek Christian parents in the Early Church were charged with child abuse after withholding Christmas gifts from children as punishment. The Apostle Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Early Christian Christmas experience consisted of a church service, with the church service being followed with families gathering at home, exchanging gifts. Children were not obligated to be grateful, and instead gratitude being shown anyway most of the time. When children did not like the gift, they could return their gift to parents.

The Early Christians had no concept of Santa Claus, meaning that there was no gift-giver to threaten children with. Instead, children received toys, goodies, and sweets from parents. Usually, children were grateful for their gifts, but sometimes, they weren't. When they weren't grateful, the gifts were given back to parents. 

Gratitude on the giving end of a gift exchange is not expecting anything in return from the gift receiver. Usually, children were grateful for their gifts. However, sometimes, the child rejected the gifts bestowed onto them. When that happened, parents apologized immediately for the gift, and took it back if the child wanted the item taken back. Parents who were angered by the ingratitude of children were seen as abusive. Whenever something coming from parents was rejected by the child, it was seen as a sign of coldness in a parent, unless the parent apologized right away.

Santa Claus is a means of behavioral modification in children. Up until about the 1950s, Santa was depicted as carrying a whip for the "naughty" children, and handing it over to parents as "one united front". The Early Christians did not even have a concept of Santa Claus, or any gift-giver. Instead, children got everything that they wanted from parents, with all children receiving gifts - no matter how they behaved in the previous year. 

Children usually saw an item on the market shelf, and decided that such was what they wanted for Christmas. Most of the time, the actual gift exchange happened right in the market square. Some gifts cost more money - such as a pet sheep - mothers had their children wait until Christmas Day to get the item, as most Christians in the Early Christian churches were dirt poor.

Children should not have to fear not getting Christmas gifts from parents. Children should instead get everything that they want for Christmas. Children were usually thrilled opening gifts after Christmas church services. However, children were not obligated to be grateful for the gifts that they received, no matter how much entitlement that they showed when given the wrong gifts. Children usually have that one gift that they don't want, and today, the child is punished for being ungrateful. However, in the Early Church, the focus on charity was not gratitude on the receiving end, but instead the focus of gratitude was on the giving end. Punishing a child for not accepting gifts

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for preventing child sexual abuse

Many adults today, when thinking about preventing child sexual abuse, think in terms of collective responsibility. Collective responsibility is how an organization apologizes for leaving in a sexually entitled adult. This, to me, holds adults to a much lower standard. All adults are guilty in relation to children for the sexual abuse of children, as any old adult can commit a sexual offense against a child under the right/wrong conditions. 

Any old adult is capable of child sexual abuse under the right/wrong conditions. That does not mean every adult has a date with their demise, but that child sexual abuse usually comes in the form of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. The main risk factor for an adult going rogue and becoming a predator is not masturbating to sexual thoughts of children under age 18. If you swear up and down "no under 18 fantasies", you are merely showing your risk towards children.

In Israel, there exists a simple phrase that shows your innocence right away - "pedophile going". In that case, the pedophile going is a father's sexual thoughts about his children. The ideal disclosure comes in what we call a "joke pedophile", meaning it should come out as a laughable joke. If you instead are skittish around the concept of sexual attraction to children, you might be a threat. The Christian version of this concept is righteous masturbation, where parents and other adults masturbate in order to stay out of trouble, with a clinical celebratory disclosure sometimes being necessary in order for adults to vent about burdensome desires.

The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and then think the think later, but if you find yourself doing the deed with a child, you shouldn't have even approached her. "Doing the deed" includes all flirting with or propositioning minor children, or else touching any part of a child's body with sexual intent. Even if the child is right there to whistle at, the whistle carries and counts as an approach. The only way to avoid approaching children is to righteously masturbate to sexual thoughts of children.

The sexual dynamic of the family home comes in the form of an uneven criss-cross. Fathers and daughters usually have a mutually unrequited sexual dynamic, with sons instead have a dead end attraction - towards mom. Most mothers can see this sexual dynamic clearly, and know to protect her children from the sexual entitlement of fathers. Even in Lev. 18:17, daughters were mentioned as next to mothers to remind fathers of where daughters should be until adulthood - next to mom. Even in the story of Lot, Lot was the one slew by God, and thus whenever the father doesn't say "no" to his daughter's sexual advances, he is responsible for not saying "no" beforehand.

There is no reason to fear the biblical context, as the legal context of the Bible clearly is pro-child and anti-sexual abuse. Even in the case of biblical pedophiles, the pedophile was the center of the parenting community, and gave parenting advice to parents. When a parent became abusive, the pedophile took in the child, once the child chose to go with pedophiles instead of parents. This pedophile and child relationship was one of Christian love and charity, meaning expecting absolutely nothing in return from children. The barter setup was a myth in the Ancient Jewish culture. The closest the pedophile got to a child was to lactate when the child was milk-hungry. Most sexual abusers of children rely on just one biblical fact, and use that one fact to justify their sexual abuse of children.

Most pedophiles are the last people to sexually abuse a child. Most of us pedophiles who do have a sin list in relation to children never internalized the boundaries between children and adults. I myself approached young girls by following them around in public places, with the approach becoming a sexual offense proper when the sexual entitlement hit the child. Most child sexual abuse comes in the form of an opportunistic crime, not a career offense. An abuser pedophile instead struggles with social skills in a way that leads to the sexual abuse of a child. When you hear of an offender following a child like a sick puppy, out in the open, perhaps hiding his face, think pedophile of the wrong kind. I was that pedophile once, and I have a sin list in relation to children that is a mile long. 

Most pedophiles who turn abuser commit their abuse as I did - as a child as an adult. A pedophile simply has an autistic specialty in children, with their age-oriented sexual preferences corresponding with their specialty in children. A pedophile is one with children, with the whole world of a pedophile surrounding children. Most people only think of the children some of the time, with a pedophile being an adult who thinks of the children all the time. A pedophile is a survivor to the core, even if they don't think of themselves as a survivor, because pedophiles don't have anything to distract themselves from their trauma - not even adult anger towards children. Most people in America have trauma to admit to, but instead, they focus on their parent anger towards children. A pedophile usually has that adult anger ventricle missing, meaning they have a form of autism where they only feel angry in relation to children when protecting them from actual threats that clearly exist.

I myself am under investigation, and so I follow police advice and open my life up to the public. I was falsely accused of committing rape against my cousin. That incident did nor happen, but there is always a coin of truth to a false allegation. I committed sexual harassment against my cousin, meaning flirting in an antisocial fashion. My cousin clearly said that my approach was not welcome. Sexual harassment is a summary offense here in Pennsylvania, meaning a simple traffic stop. They could have interrogated me at my doorstep, but the police wanted a rape for their own sexual desires. Those police are now long gone, with the new police counting me as a victim of a false allegation. I stick up for my little cousin, and know like hell that she was not raped by anyone in the family except her father. He made me sign a contract promising not to misuse his daughter's name. Any father that virtue-signals like that has got to have something to hide. Most parents are flawed in the reverse of that - they don't believe the child. 

Ultimately, children are the barometers of threat in adults. When an adult in question is a sexual threat to children, children refuse to go with the adult. Most of us who are pedophiles get objectifying attention from children, meaning they see me as a human ragdoll to drag around and play games with. That is how I know that perhaps I have earned my keep in relation to children, but I don't say for sure. Most threatening adults are scary in the eyes of children. Most children are attracted to me because they know that nothing is ever going to happen. All they want is for me to play a board game with them, which can only happen if they come to me first. If a child in fact does want sex with me, I have the moral obligation to turn them down.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, meaning the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Why Santa should not bring coal for Christmas

'Tis Christmastime, with Christmas Eve fast approaching. Most parents want children to have Santa Claus in their lives. However, many parents use Santa as a means to threaten their children, using Santa as a behavioral modification. However, threatening children with anything is the moral crime of provoking their children to anger.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. One form of this deserving attitude is parents threatening to "call Santa" when they don't get the good behavior that they feel that they deserve from children. Any adult anger towards children, in biblical times, was deemed parental entitlement, even in the case of a parent or other adult calling out "sin" in a child. Whenever this entitlement was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it became child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Usually, parents threaten "coal for Christmas" as a means to scare children into behaving. Usually, the threat was meant as a vain threat, meaning parents usually don't carry out that threat. However, a child does not understand that the threat is, in fact, vain. Whenever you cause nervousness in a child like that, it is perceived by the child as offensive. 

I myself was given that vain threat as a child, and I thought it was real. I had every reason to believe that I was on the "naughty" list and would get nothing for Christmas, as I was a willful child that wanted what he wanted when he wanted it. My mouth would get me into trouble as a child, hence why I practice speech avoidance today.

Children shouldn't have to be "nice" in order to get presents. Most children under age 6 lack the self-control necessary to be "nice" all of the time. Most childhood behaviors are developmentally appropriate. First, children learn how to cry to get what they need, and then, come age 6, they start to whine. Therefore, whining is a sign of maturity in a child, and it is designed by God to get the needs of parents or caregivers, hence why most parents are annoyed by whining.

Children are deserving of whatever they want for Christmas. Humor them with whatever they want for Christmas, however the child asks, in whatever tone they ask in. However, just don't make them sit on Santa's lap if they refuse to - Santa avoidance is a sign of a predator in Santa. If children can't wait until Christmas to open up their presents, let them open up their gifts early. Children should call the shots this Christmas season, so heel to their command this season.

I myself avoid the Santa aspect of the Christmas season, and strive to keep Christ in Christmas. Santa is the likeness of the Norse god Odin, with Odin being a gift giver for children in the Norse Pagan religion. Thus, Santa himself is too close for comfort to Odin. Maybe it would work if I was Catholic and venerated Saint Nicholas as a gift-giver. I'll stick with my two Nativity scenes that I have at home. I see Christmas as a time for giving in general. However, it doesn't have to come from Santa to be a gift, and I would accept a gift from "Santa". I just can't give under that name.

During the time of the Holy Roman Empire, the main gift-giver was Santa Claus. However, Krampus was also said to come around with a whip for the "naughty" children. For much of history, Santa Claus was used as a behavioral modification tool for children. Up until the 1950s, Santa traditionally handed parents a whip to scourge their children to "make" them behave. 

The Early Christians had no concept of Santa Claus, and instead celebrated Christ's birthday as a single-day observance. All gifts were from friends and family, with no gift-giver used for behavioral modification. The mainstay of Early Christian Christmas was the Nativity scene, not the Christmas tree.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why God wants broader child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible has no answers when it comes to preventing and treating child abuse. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible has a child abuse definition of its own. The fact of the matter is that the biblical definition of child abuse, in sum, is whatever the child victim perceives as offensive or abusive. The Bible is a good guide as to how to define child abuse under the secular laws, as America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian values.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Most parents feel deserving of good behavior from children, and are sorely disappointed when they aren't given that deservance from children. Any adult anger imposed upon a child was seen as parental entitlement in biblical times, even when parents were calling out "sin" in children. Whenever this entitlement was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was considered child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Sweden was the first society in modern times to ban all punitive parenting, with the ban being passed into law in 1979. However, Swedish children's rights advocates used the Hebraic context of the Bible to point out proper parenting. Many ancient societies were attachment parenting societies, to varying degrees. Some contexts allowed for "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting, but the Ancient Hebrew fathers instead masturbated to sexual thoughts of their child.

Modern Israel also passed a ban on punitive parenting in 2000, after the Israeli Supreme Court gave the secular courts the unilateral authority to hear child abuse cases. Before that court ruling, child abuse cases were heard by family courts, which were sectarian in terms of orientation. However, Jewish courts dissolved abusive families long before 2000, with there never being a legal defense for "reasonable" assault and battery of a child. Even today, when a Jew abuses a child in Israel, it makes national news. Child abuse is rare in the Holy Land, meaning almost non-existent. Most Jews oppose punishing children, whereas many Christian denominations allow it or even mandate it.

Child abuse can be understood as whatever the child perceives as abuse. There are many ways that a child can show offense. Usually, children cry when they are offended by the treatment that they get from parents. But, the slightest of offense counts, meaning even if the child simply flinched from being given entitled demands, it was seen as child abuse. However, even parental entitlement, in and of itself, was seen as unlawful. When you lose that last level of entitlement, the rest goes along with it.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why not to threaten children with Santa

'Tis Christmastime. Many parents want to introduce Santa into their children's lives. Most American parents are Christians who seek to observe the birthday of our Risen Lord Jesus Christ. However, many parents turn Santa Claus into a behavioral modification tool. Legend has it that Santa has a nice list and a naughty list.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. One way that parents lose their cool through entitlement is by threatening to "call Santa" when parents don't get the good behavior that they feel that they deserve rom children. Any adult anger directed towards a child was seen in biblical times as parental entitlement, including anger to call out "sin" in a child - children were seen then as immune to sin guilt, at least while they were still children. When this entitlement was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it became child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Santa, according to legend, have a "nice" list and a "naughty" list. The "nice" children are promised a whole toy land underneath the Christmas tree. The "naughty" children are instead threatened with punishment such as "coal for Christmas" or else a similar punishment. Usually, it is a vain threat, but children can't see that nuance, and likely are afraid of getting nothing for Christmas. This threat is thus an offense perceived by a child. 

I myself was threatened with "coal for Christmas". I was a willful child growing up. There were Christmas Eves where I lay awake, bracing for getting nothing for Christmas. I never did get coal for Christmas except when I asked for it (I was indeed a strange child).

Children should be allowed to "cry" or "pout", and not have to "watch out". This is because a child's self-control starts to emerge around age 6. Before age 6, children are all over the place in terms of emotion, and can't help but act impulsively. Children growing up in the Early Church, before age 6, usually cried out to mom when they needed something, and also cried for things such as mom going in the other room. Children past age 6 usually are the ones pouting, and that is a sign of maturity.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents don't want to be seen as pampering their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents oppose the idea of pampering and babying children. However, the Bible states, in context, that children are to be pampered and babied by parents. 

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon

Righteous pampering, when using the context as a guidepost, does not refer to simply any old pampering, but instead pampering and babying children in a certain specific way. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to parents, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with this co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth, with children getting rays of skin-on-skin contact even when simply being picked up.

Past age 6, children played outside freely, naked. Children past age 6 ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". However, children needed to check in with mom first and tell her where they were going, before going anywhere. Come evening, children were called by name, one by one, and were treated to a nice, warm homecooked meal served on a porcelain plate. After dinner, children co-slept in the warmth of mothers, recharging for another's day of free play. 

Children under age 6 were kept next to mom at home due to the risks of playing outside. In the Early Christian context, there existed venomous snakes and scorpions, with children not being able to appreciate the dangers outside. Even today, there exist threats outside the context of the family home, namely busy streets and oncoming traffic. Birth nudity was intended then (and now) as a means of sheltering children from the harsh and dangerous world outside.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why to catch children being good (as opposed to catching them being bad)

Many parents think that child discipline is necessary. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, most parents equate discipline with punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that proper discipline involves catching children in the context of being good, as opposed to catching them being bad.

Catching children being good is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, meaning parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely  nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, gently melding the countenance of children, into the example of parents. In light of stanza 1 of Eph. 6:4, this can only mean one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children learned good behavior from the Christian example of parents. However, parents backed up their good example with lavish praise and encouragement, as opposed to harsh punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction, and the praise and encouragement coming with it, was ultimately what centered the countenance of children. Children today also have the Internet to help them understand religion, and the idea is to leave them explore as they wish. They may not pick your choice of religion, but at least they have values. Whenever you see them on a Christian website, praise and encourage their choice of religion. If they don't find values that you see as appropriate, ignore them.

What should parents do when their children act "naughty". The fact of the matter is that children in biblical times were never punished for "bad" behavior. Instead, behaviors we see today as "naughty" were seen as normal childhood behavior given the child's age and development. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, with the rest of childhood entailing children roaming freely in play. In most cases, children developed self-control at the age of 6, and that is when that they, in most cases, want to learn religion. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents think that children need discipline. This is a common belief amongst parents. It is true that children need discipline. However, punishment is not a valid form of discipline. Instead, children should be disciplined by being caught in the act of being good.

Child discipline is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to gently melding the countenance of children. In light of stanza 1 of Eph. 6:4, this melding of the countenance can only mean one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with phrases such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learn good behavior from the Christian example of parents. However, parents backed up their good example with praise and encouragement, and not punishment and harshness. Children also need religious instruction, as religion as a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, based off of the text. Fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction, alongside all praise and encouragement, was what ultimately what centered the countenance of children.

What should parents do when children are acting naughty instead of nice. Most childhood behaviors that adults call "naughty" are actually developmentally appropriate behavior. Children under age 6 lack the ability for self-control, and are all over the place in terms of emotions. Children don't gain the ability to control their own behaviors until age 6. Thus, there is no need for punishment or force anywhere in Christian parenting.

Fathers kept their distance from children during the first 6 years of childhood. This is because fathers had a sexual attachment to their children. However, it is a myth that fathers did "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting in biblical times. Instead, fathers masturbated righteously to sexual thoughts of their children. The Greek root word denoting "lust" is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead refers to sexual entitlement. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think later. However, if you find yourself doing the deed, then you shouldn't even approached her. Doing the deed was defined then as any flirting or propositioning at minimum, or else touching the child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. The only way out of sexually abusing a child is in - meaning through masturbation. Child sexual abuse was rare in the biblical context, and so when it happened, it was a huge shock. Sexually abusive fathers then were put to death by way of burning at the stake. In Leviticus 18:17, "mother and her daughter" refers to the old tradition of mothers keeping daughters next to them at all times, meaning even if the daughter was away from the mother, it counted as an offense. The Law then was applied broadly, not narrowly. Most of the time in the Old Testament, the mother was right there with her daughter until adulthood.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Santa Claus: Why Santa should not bring coal for Christmas

'Tis Christmastime. Many parents want to bring Santa into their children's lives. This is a common source of joy in children. Most children across America, are told that they have to earn gifts by being "good all year". A common threat amongst American parents is to "call Santa" and threaten that Santa would bring "a bucket of coal" for Christmas.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is when parents lose their cool when children don't give them what they feel they deserve from them. One form of losing your cool is threatening to "call Santa" when you don't get the good behavior that you feel you deserve from children. Any anger directed towards a child was seen in biblical times as parental entitlement, including calling out "sin" in a child. When this entitlement was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it became child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Whenever you threaten to "call Santa", you are acting entitled in a way that will surely offend a child. The Bible is clear - do not offend your children this Christmas season. Maybe the coal for Christmas is a vain threat, but a child doesn't know that it is a vain threat, and might be scared of getting nothing for Christmas. 

I myself was a willful child, and I remember going to bed Christmas Eve unsure if I would get presents under the tree. That unsurety is what I would perceive as offensive as a former child. I forgive my father for making those threats. but I will never forget being threatened with Santa. I, however, got my power back by asking for a lump of coal for Christmas.

Some versions of Santa are what we call "mean Santa". In some countries in Europe, Santa hands a whip that cracks to the parents, with children fearing the worst on Christmas morning. Nowadays, the main vain from parents is that Santa will bring "coal for Christmas".

Most all behaviors that parents see as "bad" or "naughty" are developmentally appropriate behavior given the age and development of the child. Up until age 6, children lack self-control, and this sort of behavior happening, in most cases, until age 6. Thus, children should not be threatened with Santa for behaviors that are normal given the age and development of a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents want their children to respect them. This is a common want on the part of parents. However, most parents punish "disrespect" while doing nothing to earn their respect. However, the fact of the matter is that respect in parenting should be mutual in nature.

Mutual respect is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, this respect came in the form of closeness with parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her children. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, the mother diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked in the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children feeling the rays of skin-on-skin contact even when simply being picked up.

Children in biblical times, past age 6, were more cooperative than children that age today. Children gain a significant amount of self-control after age 6. This was because children got their needs meant early in life. The warmer that you are as a mother, and the more attentive you are as a mother, is what sets the stage for a child's self-control, when this nurturing happened in the first 6 years of childhood. Even then, some children were more demanding than others, with some children calling the shots until adulthood.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the command of children

Many parents think that children need to know "who is boss". It is commonly believed amongst American parents that children should heed to the commands of children. However, the fact of the matter is that children call the shots, and parents are to heel to the commands of children.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

With few exceptions, parents were to heel to the commands of their children, with children giving orders from their place of rest. Under customary law in the Early Church, parents were, by default, not allowed to say "no" to a child. The only exceptions to this rule is when the commands coming from the child were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever children were given the word "no", they were given an explanation and reassurance. 

Righteous ordering can be understood as ordering from a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. When an item is unavailable, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parenting was seen in biblical times as a lot like being waitstaff at a restaurant, meaning children were served by their parents, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why Santa should not be used as a form of behavioral modification on children

Many parents want their children to know Santa Claus. This is a common desire amongst American parents. However, most parents depict Santa as having a "nice" and "naughty" list, with the "naughty" list coming with some sort of punishment.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult temper tantrum when children don't give parents the good behavior that they feel that they deserve. This includes threatening children with Santa when parents don't get the good behavior that they feel that they deserve from children. It usually is a vain threat, but is something that the child can't tell is a vain threat, thus putting children in fear of having nothing for Christmas. All of this coming from a want to corner misbehavior in children through punishing children. Any anger towards a child was seen as a form of parental entitlement in biblical times, including anger to call out "sin" in a child. When this entitlement was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it became child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including. but limited to the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to. any punishment, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their parents were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Santa Claus is depicted in Christmas folklore as having a "nice" list and a separate "naughty" list. Only "good "children are seen as deserving of gifts by American Santa. This is intended by most parents as a vain threat to motivate good behavior in children. However, any threat towards a child is something that would offend a child, meaning upset a child by provoking them to anger.

There is no reason for Santa to have a "naughty" list. Most all "bad" behavior in children is developmentally appropriate behavior. Most children lack the self-control to make the "nice" list, which is something that only comes online at age 6. Until then, children growing up in the Early Church cried a lot, usually while needing mom. Children are going to "cry" or "pout", and so they shouldn't need to "watch out". 

As a child, I remember at the lowest level struggling to be "good". However, I was made to fear not having any toys or goodies for Christmas. I couldn't help but behave in a disorderly and defiant way. I had textbook oppositional-defiant disorder, which went undiagnosed to avoid stigma.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous child worship: Why the Early Christians were a child worshipping culture

Many parents believe that the biblical context calls for child enslavement. This is common myth about the context. Most parents think that the biblical context calls for child enslavement. However, the fact of the matter is that the actual biblical context is child worshipping in nature. Children were seen as extensions of God by both the Ancient Jews as well as the Early Christians.

God's Word is stated in Matthew 25:45-56 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into eternal torment: but the righteous into life eternal.

The previous list made up of the "least of these" is not an exhaustive list of those considered the "least of these". Anyone who you perceive as more vulnerable was considered the "least of these". The only group that objectively is referred to in this passage is children. Most people saw children then as the "least of these" extended by God onto their doorstep for love and charity, hence why Christ did not specifically mention children as the "least of these". Children in biblical times were seen as like God to parents, with parents being in full and dutiful submission to children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

Love for children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment come from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children in biblical times were not punished for anything. Instead, children were referred to by parents as "like God to me". Children were seen as the salt and light of the world, sitting atop a mounted hilltop, differentiating between the sheep and the goats, casting high judgment upon all adults.

Children were seen in biblical times as extensions of God. This ultimately meant that children were seen as extended to the doorstep of parents by God for love and charity. This love and charity basically involved giving to children without receiving. Parents are to be in full and dutiful submission to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why Santa should not be used to threaten children

'Tis Christmastime. Most parents bring Santa into the lives of their children. However, Santa is commonly depicted as having a nice list or a naughty list. I was told as a child that if I didn't behave all year long, that I would get coal for Christmas. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult temper tantrum when you don't get what you feel that you deserve from children. This temper tantrum can come in many forms, including threatening to "call Santa" when parents lose their cool. Adults usually feel deserving of good behavior in children, with that leading to threatening children with "calling Santa" when they don't get the good behavior that they feel they deserve from children. Any anger towards a child was considered parental entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this entitlement was perceived by a child in biblical times as offensive or damaging, it was seen as child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited, including to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon,

Threatening to "call Santa", even as a vain threat, is a form of child abuse under biblical law. Any entitlement on the part of parents was considered child abuse. Surely, being made afraid to fear Santa bringing coal for Christmas offends a child, and thus is child abuse. 

Children should be allowed to "cry" or "pout", and not need to "watch out" considering their behavior. Santa should stop having a nice or a naughty list. There are no naughty children, meaning all children are nice to the degree that they try to be.

I was told as a child that if I didn't behave all year round, I would get a bucket of coal for Christmas. What did I ask for a few Christmases? A lump of coal, and part of the reason why was to rebel against parental authority, meaning I get coal for Christmas on my terms, thus taking my power back as a child. It turned out that my parents were making a feigned threat, but all I heard was "coal for Christmas" with me being a willful child. I had every reason to fear not getting anything for Christmas. 

I have given up on Santa. The legend of Santa Claus ultimately comes from the Norse god Odin. What else is a pagan tradition? Punitive parenting. The European pagan tradition - absorbed into the church - was Krampus whipping "naughty" children. In some countries in Europe, Santa brings a whip for the parents to scourge their children when they act up. However, I myself don't judge parents who bring Santa Claus into their lives. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to encourage Christian family values in children (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have values. Most parents these days want their children to have values, even if those values aren't shared. However, most parents seek to punish their children in order to "break their will".

Passing down the faith is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-49, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offensive touch or speech stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to gently melding the countenance of children. In light of the commandment to not offend a child (see also Eph. 6:4, stanza 1), this melding of a countenance could only mean one thing - lavish praise and encouragement of a child when caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught in the act of good behavior, they were given lavish praise and encouragement such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good behavior from the Christian example of parents. However, the good example of parents was backed up by praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in the question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction, as well as all praise and encouragement, is what centered the countenance of children. 

Children are born with a need for religion. Religion is a deep seated need for both children and adults alike. Religious development starts at age 6 in most cases, with children starting their religious journey by picking up a Bible and devouring the text. Children's religious beliefs start out simplistic and non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be your choice in terms of beliefs, but at least they have values.

What motivates a child to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness next to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her children. For the latter half of childhood, children played freely, venturing farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when most children want their own place to sleep. When everyone is in the family bed, that opens up for children to follow the Christian example of parents, as opposed to following the example of the latest pop star, actor, or actress.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!