The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, when using the context as a guidepost, children need to hear the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Children instead need to hear your "yes" far more than your "no".

Saying "yes" all of the time is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, namely meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1 Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time, The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Parents today say "no" for every little thing that children ask for. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that customary law in the Early Church prohibited the word "no" in almost every case. The only valid reason to say "no" to a child then was if the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When Christian parents in the Early Church had to turn down a petitioned request, they were required, by way of customary law, to give reassurance and an explanation. 

Christian parents in the Early Church, in most cases, found other ways to decline a petitioned request from children. This involved nicer sounding language, with statements such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". Usually, this nice-sounding language was all that was needed to put a child at ease about a declined petitioned request. 

Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that benign wants are a need. Under customary law, children were understood as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Benign wants count as needs according to the customary law of the Early Church. A benign want was seen then as an attachment need, and thus a prioritized need. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children sometimes cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents punish their children crying for seemingly no reason at all. This is a common and normal situation for parents to be in with their children. However, the fact of the matter is that crying always has a reason behind it. The most common reason for children to cry is separation anxiety. 

Providing children with a secure attachment is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for a child, meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1 Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating the child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writing. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Many times, children seem to cry out of nowhere. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than today's parents that all crying has a reason behind it. The most common reason for children to cry is separation anxiety. Most children under age 6 experience separation anxiety, and this is a normal stage of childhood development. When this separation anxiety lasts past age 6, it then becomes separation anxiety disorder. 

Children growing up in the Early Church were deathly afraid of mom "going away and never coming back". When separated from mom, children cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. Christian mothers tended to the cries of children by cooing at children before picking them up. From there, mothers were pressured by the cry to meet the child's vulnerable need, scrambling to figure out why that child won't stop crying. The child only stopped crying when their every vulnerable need was met. 

Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that the main reason for children crying was separation anxiety. Christian parents in the Early Church knew then that children had five main categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! When children cried seemingly out of nowhere, the first place Christian mothers looked in terms of needs is attachment. Separation anxiety was usually the need that needed to be met, with children under age 6 crying out loud when mom as little as left the room.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that children cry in order to "undermine parental authority". Most parents punish their children simply for crying. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that a crying child needs nothing more than love from mom.

Tending to the cries of children is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, namely meeting the child's every vulnerable need. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

Most parents believe that crying is a means to "undermine parental authority". This is a common attitude towards children by parents. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew that children cry as a means to communicate a need. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. 

Children growing up in the Early Church cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore when children needed something. This crying was designed by God to break down mothers, and keep breaking them down, until they had no choice but to figure out what the child needed, and meet that need. Children have five main categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Usually, when children cried, they needed time in with mom. 

Crying in biblical times was always met with a coo from mothers. Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers, intended to put children at ease. Children continued to cry until their cries were met with a coo, which is when the cries of children were pacified. When children had words to use, they actually used their words to advocate a need when mom cooed at them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Cooperation in children: Why children need a secure attachment in order to cooperate with parents properly

Many parents want a cooperative child. This is a common thing that parents insist of in their children. Most parents feel entitled to a cooperative child. However, the fact of the matter is that cooperation in children is an entitlement for parents.

Cooperation in children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your child to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting your child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children don't need punishment in order to cooperate with parents. The fact of the matter is that children naturally come cooperative to parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning wherever mom went, so did her child. Children that young followed parents - especially mothers - around like goslings to a mother goose.

Older children played freely outside, naked. However, they always came right back to home base when they were tired, with home base being skin-on-skin warmth with mom. Childhood cooperation with parents comes in the form of "make their day" cooperation. Look for older children to do things around the house, just to make you happy. 

Children need a home base to fall apart in, whenever they need help dealing with big emotions. Children growing up in the Early Church alternated between closeness to parents and free play outside, with closeness to parents being home base for children. 

Older children whined to parents when they needed something. When children growing up in the Early Church whined, they mostly whined in order to petition for a need. The reason children whine for wants as opposed to needs today is that the first whine was ignored. Whenever you ignore a crying or upset child, they find other ways to get your attention. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible doesn't have any answers on the concept of child abuse. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents support the modern legal definitions of child abuse. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible clearly does have answers as to what is child abuse. The Bible teaches that child abuse is defined as whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. The Bible is a good legal model to follow in terms of defining child abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger on the part of parents, directed towards children, was considered parental entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement on the part of parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma in this case. The ancients had a concept of trauma. If a child grew up to be atheist, that non-belief was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply an adult rebelling against God. 

The wheels of justice rolled in the Early Church in the form of pro-social rumor. Whenever an adult child disowned their parents, and became atheist, word spread far and wide that an abuser made it into the church. Eventually, word of an interloper reached the council, where a panel of 3 judges who would decide the final fate of the parents. If parents were found guilty, the child was given the opportunity to go either with parents or with pedophiles. When children refused to go with a pedophile, the pedophile came under scrutiny for scaring away a vulnerable child.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by Jews. No Jew worth mentioning has ever endorsed punishing a child. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones. The rod of correction was a switch that was used in judicial corporal punishment, with the only place where striking another adult was lawful was in a courtroom, as a final 40 minus 1 lashes meted out before the adult was put to death, after committing one last offense. Most all of the biblical writers endorsed attachment parenting in their secular writings. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants you to sleep next to your children at night

Many parents downright oppose the mere concept of co-sleeping. Most parents in America do not co-sleep with their children. However, not only can parents gel a bond with their children through co-sleeping, but co-sleeping also can prevent child sexual abuse from happening in the first place.

Righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good for a child, namely by meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

It is a common struggle. Children refuse to go to bed. Bedtime refusal is a common motive for parents to punish their children. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are not ready for sleeping while isolated in a bedroom. Most young children, when isolated in a room alone, have primal fears of being devoured by predators. You might think that no predators exist today. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse comes in the form of a bedtime ritual, with the sexually entitled father sneaking into his child's bedroom. This all was avoided in the context of co-sleeping in the Early Church, as mom was right there, perhaps using herself as a human shield to protect her children from the sexual wrath of fathers.

The most common excuse for not co-sleeping next to children is fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with scary terms such as "sleep dependence". However, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. However, even in the case of extended co-sleeping, co-sleeping always has an end to it. It may even last until the late teens or even beyond, but children need closeness with their parent. Denying your child co-sleeping warmth is a form of emotional neglect, and that is how it was seen in biblical times.

Most co-sleeping in biblical times happened in skin-on-skin comfort, meaning mother and child were in constant closeness with each other. In fact, the family bed was a concept then, with the family bed being in the nude. Fathers hung up his robe, and mothers hung up her dress. Children went naked wherever they went, leading to close warmth in the family home between mother and child especially. 

I myself have trauma from being punished at bedtime. When I was a child, I sneaked into my parents' bed. I had bipolar mania, and thus I could not get to sleep without mom right by my side. My father would literally put me in a chokehold. He felt entitled to sleeping next to his wife, meaning my mother. He also believed hype from a developmental pediatrician that co-sleeping would lead to dependence on sleep next to mom. I stopped co-sleeping on my own, at age 16, in order to prove my independence.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think all child sexual abuse comes from pedophiles, and that pedophiles are public enemy number one. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, most child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, meaning not a career offense. The fact of the matter is that every single adult is capable of the moral crime of child sexual abuse.

Children are perfectly capable of discerning harm in an adult. When your child refuses to go with an adult, the adult in question can be presumed to be dangerous. Whenever children want to go with an adult that they don't know, think pedophile but the right kind. This is not a fool-proof way to determine an adult as safe, as I was a zig-zag groomer, and actually would have invited myself to a young girl's house if she answered my questions. My method was to get a child alone, and proposition her that way, hoping she'd tell me where she lived. I was a dating abuser, and those usually don't show up on a child's radar. However, a zig-zag groomer can easily be stopped by the child not disclosing personal information to strangers. Usually, zig-zag groomers like me are simply obsessed with a specific child, with crushes being understood as like train cars, meaning one after the other. 

The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to any old sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is one thing to look the look, and maybe think the think later, but there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. Doing the deed involved flirting or propositioning children at minimum, or else touching any part of a child's body with sexual intent. Sexual intent refers here to anything for purpose of sexual arousal, or else romantic passions. If you find yourself doing the deed, then you shouldn't have even approached her.

Most child sexual abuse does not come from pedophilia, but instead comes from a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape or sexually assault a child. Most adults repress sexual desire for children, with the sexual desire coming out sideways onto the next child, like a ton of bricks. The only way out of this rut is in, meaning righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation is masturbation in order to stay out of trouble, including avoiding pornography. If you use pornography at all, that is unrighteous masturbation. 

There were sexual dynamics in the family home in biblical times. This sexual dynamic in prepubescent children came in the form of a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters had a mutually unrequited attraction to each other, with boys usually having a dead end attraction to mothers. Most of the time, children found masturbation around age 3. When boys got frisky with their mothers, she sent him to the masturbation basket. When fathers had a sexual affair with daughters, they were excommunicated from the Early Church. Any sexual relations outside of marriage were deemed sexually amoral, and that included child rape. The only acceptable sexual relations then was with your spouse, in the form of sexual duties towards each other. When fathers wanted their daughters sexually, the mother stepped in and offered ageplay to the father. 

Pedophiles are not the problem. In fact, pedophiles are the safest adults to be around children. Pedophilia involves arrested sexual development, usually accompanied by autism involving child smarts. Every individual with autism grows up into some of passion, and many times, their sexual attractions fit right in with their special interests. A pedophile is someone with autism who has a passion for standing up for children. Most autistic pedophiles fit the "rule boy" profile of autism, but with the rules not applying to children. Most pedophiles have a squeaky clean record. When looking for a pedophilic abuser, think the shady guy following young girls home from school, or else when flirting with a child in public. Your average pedophilic abuser is an obvious abuser, making their advances obvious. 1 out of 4 pedophiles have sexually offended against a child, usually in the form of sexual harassment. Some pedophiles do commit opportunistic offenses, but those cases are rare. I was an obvious abuser, meaning I actually approached young girls in order to communicate to them that they were sexually attractive to me. I even groomed children in the form of a zig-zag, meaning I propositioned a young girl by phishing for her name and phone number. She declined, but if she would have given me the information, I would have invited myself to her house. I did touch a child for sexual reasons, namely my cousin, in the form of antisocial "rough-play". However, any touch with sexual intent is considered doing the deed according to my Christian faith, unless I say "I do" before a clergyman in the form of a lawfully-ordained wedding with a same-age peer. Most pedophiles might sexually fantasize about children, but that is where it ends, whereas I was impulsive as a pedophile due to a history of bipolar mania, with bipolar mania being rare for a pedophile. Most pedophiles have a secondary diagnosis of major depression, meaning they are only a danger to themselves, with this danger becoming reality once found out.

The hardest time for most pedophiles is when they are children themselves, meaning teenagers. Most of the time, pedophilia involves a simple curiosity about the sexual form of a child. Parents can educate their pedophilic child with sex education materials, including books informing children about all the different body parts of a child. Most children who read such books go "eww", but a pedophilic child might well like the book, in a way that the body curiosity is quenched. This is the righteous misuse of a children's book for an older child attracted to much younger children. I myself had an extensive talk about sex with my mother, who is now my accountability partner. My mother went through denying that I was a pedophile, to acknowledging that I was sexually attracted to children. She is an easy person to talk to about the struggles of being a pedophile. Treating pedophiles is a lot like helping them unload baggage, with pedophilia being a burden on the part of the pedophile. The proper environment for a pedophile disclosure is trauma-informed therapy. I myself see a trauma-informed therapist for my pedophilia, and she is the type of therapist to learn from her clients, meaning the right kind for a pedophile. 

The most serious threat to children today is adults. Child sexual abuse is just one way that adults oppress children, among many others. Most adults do not sexually abuse children, but most all adults have done something to wrong or abuse a child. All adults are capable of sexually abusing a child, under the right/wrong conditions. Even women are capable of sexually abusing teenagers, or even younger children in some cases. I blame all adults who identify by the glorified title of being an adult. The most common excuse for child sexual abuse is "I am the adult here". Most adults have a poor track record for protecting children, with most adults not believing a child who discloses that they are experiencing sexual abuse. Anyone who accuses a child of lying without evidence is the liar. The only way to tell is by the entitled reaction of the adult in question. A non-guilty adult can easily answer to the court, whereas an entitled adult defends themselves in open court. If you truly are innocent, act natural and don't call yourself the adult. Children rarely lie about abuse, yet most adults are perjurors in that they take the side of the adult raping the child. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault a child will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the Hell of fire and torrents which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!