Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think all child sexual abuse comes from pedophiles, and that pedophiles are public enemy number one. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, most child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, meaning not a career offense. The fact of the matter is that every single adult is capable of the moral crime of child sexual abuse.

Children are perfectly capable of discerning harm in an adult. When your child refuses to go with an adult, the adult in question can be presumed to be dangerous. Whenever children want to go with an adult that they don't know, think pedophile but the right kind. This is not a fool-proof way to determine an adult as safe, as I was a zig-zag groomer, and actually would have invited myself to a young girl's house if she answered my questions. My method was to get a child alone, and proposition her that way, hoping she'd tell me where she lived. I was a dating abuser, and those usually don't show up on a child's radar. However, a zig-zag groomer can easily be stopped by the child not disclosing personal information to strangers. Usually, zig-zag groomers like me are simply obsessed with a specific child, with crushes being understood as like train cars, meaning one after the other. 

The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to any old sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is one thing to look the look, and maybe think the think later, but there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. Doing the deed involved flirting or propositioning children at minimum, or else touching any part of a child's body with sexual intent. Sexual intent refers here to anything for purpose of sexual arousal, or else romantic passions. If you find yourself doing the deed, then you shouldn't have even approached her.

Most child sexual abuse does not come from pedophilia, but instead comes from a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape or sexually assault a child. Most adults repress sexual desire for children, with the sexual desire coming out sideways onto the next child, like a ton of bricks. The only way out of this rut is in, meaning righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation is masturbation in order to stay out of trouble, including avoiding pornography. If you use pornography at all, that is unrighteous masturbation. 

There were sexual dynamics in the family home in biblical times. This sexual dynamic in prepubescent children came in the form of a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters had a mutually unrequited attraction to each other, with boys usually having a dead end attraction to mothers. Most of the time, children found masturbation around age 3. When boys got frisky with their mothers, she sent him to the masturbation basket. When fathers had a sexual affair with daughters, they were excommunicated from the Early Church. Any sexual relations outside of marriage were deemed sexually amoral, and that included child rape. The only acceptable sexual relations then was with your spouse, in the form of sexual duties towards each other. When fathers wanted their daughters sexually, the mother stepped in and offered ageplay to the father. 

Pedophiles are not the problem. In fact, pedophiles are the safest adults to be around children. Pedophilia involves arrested sexual development, usually accompanied by autism involving child smarts. Every individual with autism grows up into some of passion, and many times, their sexual attractions fit right in with their special interests. A pedophile is someone with autism who has a passion for standing up for children. Most autistic pedophiles fit the "rule boy" profile of autism, but with the rules not applying to children. Most pedophiles have a squeaky clean record. When looking for a pedophilic abuser, think the shady guy following young girls home from school, or else when flirting with a child in public. Your average pedophilic abuser is an obvious abuser, making their advances obvious. 1 out of 4 pedophiles have sexually offended against a child, usually in the form of sexual harassment. Some pedophiles do commit opportunistic offenses, but those cases are rare. I was an obvious abuser, meaning I actually approached young girls in order to communicate to them that they were sexually attractive to me. I even groomed children in the form of a zig-zag, meaning I propositioned a young girl by phishing for her name and phone number. She declined, but if she would have given me the information, I would have invited myself to her house. I did touch a child for sexual reasons, namely my cousin, in the form of antisocial "rough-play". However, any touch with sexual intent is considered doing the deed according to my Christian faith, unless I say "I do" before a clergyman in the form of a lawfully-ordained wedding with a same-age peer. Most pedophiles might sexually fantasize about children, but that is where it ends, whereas I was impulsive as a pedophile due to a history of bipolar mania, with bipolar mania being rare for a pedophile. Most pedophiles have a secondary diagnosis of major depression, meaning they are only a danger to themselves, with this danger becoming reality once found out.

The hardest time for most pedophiles is when they are children themselves, meaning teenagers. Most of the time, pedophilia involves a simple curiosity about the sexual form of a child. Parents can educate their pedophilic child with sex education materials, including books informing children about all the different body parts of a child. Most children who read such books go "eww", but a pedophilic child might well like the book, in a way that the body curiosity is quenched. This is the righteous misuse of a children's book for an older child attracted to much younger children. I myself had an extensive talk about sex with my mother, who is now my accountability partner. My mother went through denying that I was a pedophile, to acknowledging that I was sexually attracted to children. She is an easy person to talk to about the struggles of being a pedophile. Treating pedophiles is a lot like helping them unload baggage, with pedophilia being a burden on the part of the pedophile. The proper environment for a pedophile disclosure is trauma-informed therapy. I myself see a trauma-informed therapist for my pedophilia, and she is the type of therapist to learn from her clients, meaning the right kind for a pedophile. 

The most serious threat to children today is adults. Child sexual abuse is just one way that adults oppress children, among many others. Most adults do not sexually abuse children, but most all adults have done something to wrong or abuse a child. All adults are capable of sexually abusing a child, under the right/wrong conditions. Even women are capable of sexually abusing teenagers, or even younger children in some cases. I blame all adults who identify by the glorified title of being an adult. The most common excuse for child sexual abuse is "I am the adult here". Most adults have a poor track record for protecting children, with most adults not believing a child who discloses that they are experiencing sexual abuse. Anyone who accuses a child of lying without evidence is the liar. The only way to tell is by the entitled reaction of the adult in question. A non-guilty adult can easily answer to the court, whereas an entitled adult defends themselves in open court. If you truly are innocent, act natural and don't call yourself the adult. Children rarely lie about abuse, yet most adults are perjurors in that they take the side of the adult raping the child. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault a child will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the Hell of fire and torrents which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!