ATTN: To those who sexualize my work

Please note that there is a difference between nudity and sexuality. Child nudity, in the biblical context, meant immature vulnerability, as only mature adults wore clothing, and women only when she left the house.

Do not sexualize my work, or you will be banned from my Facebook page. You know who you are.

Apparently the last sentence got me kicked off of Facebook? I do not like my work sexualized, as intending any work that way is against my Christian beliefs. Apparently Mark Zuckerberg banned ME because he is a sexually entitled adult, and is jealous of me in some way.

Made a trainwreck of my room - and myself.

Autism parenting: Why policing attachment isn't just for autism families

Many autism parents believe that they are the only ones that need to sacrifice. Parenting a child or young adult with autism can be a challenge. We call them the first attachment parents here at Opposing Parental Entitlement, meaning the first to be convicted.

Autism parenting is based on the concept that, due to the developmental disability that is autism, you must "pick and choose your battles" because they are too immature to understand, at a young age, that certain behaviors are unacceptable. Peaceful, attached parenting adds on another layer of understanding - children in general can't be expected to know better until they are an adult, meaning when they are older, and should be taught, not punished. Many liberal pro-spanking parents exempt children with autism like I was, while treating typically-developing children in a punitive way. Autism, in children, is simply a different way of expressing needs. Usually, the central feature is that the tear ducts are shut, and perhaps also some sensory issues, so they hit, kick, or bite. In more punitive homes, they hit others, because that's what they see or saw at home, at least until their parents woke up and saw that their child has autism. Those raised in a more gentle parenting home will turn the aggression on themselves, as the hallmark of gentle parenting is turning parental aggression (physical/verbal, sexual/pedophilic) inward, with parents modeling this attitude as an example. Most with autism only cry in life-threatening situations, or life-ending situations such as getting arrested for abusing others. Tears can be a sign of guilt in an adult with autism, or a sign of defiance in a child with autism. I would cry as a child when I didn't feel listened to, and learned to be demonstrative with my emotions to prove trauma. Pro-social demonstration is still a part of my acronym train, including pro-social pitiful situation, meaning expressing gutteral, vulnerable frustration, and most people then care, and if they don't, I confidently know how evil and heartless they are...Most children cry all the time, for everything, and so adults just ignore them. 

The biblical teaching of mutual respect is Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, coming from sacrifice for one's children, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children; taking up the cross for one's child, in the spirit that Christ took up the cross for His children; martyring oneself in everything as a parent, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents, emulating their example as a token of gratitude and thanksgiving for said sacrifice of parents. Policing attachment is a form of secure attachment found in children with autism and/or pedophilia as a diagnosis/self-diagnosis, meaning the child is very direct about their needs, meaning like barking orders. The child polices the parent as to their needs, and the parent caves, finding a way to make it work, avoiding the constant use of the word "no". This was the default parenting style of parents in biblical times, as this word lifts up. Children as old as age 3 were treated as infants, and were swaddled next to mother. Child nudity was legal under the Law, and that was because children of all ages under the age of majority snuggled next to mothers, as a form of skin-to-skin contact, in order to earn trust from children, whereas parents were seen as the enemy of their children, with children being the "least of these" extended by God to order parents around as to their needs. Mothers especially co-slept with their children and laid next to them in affectionate tense in order to gel a good parent-child bond with them.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, as in the Jewish adage "stirring the pot" in terms of your child's emotional well-being. This commandment was intended as a prohibition on any kind of punishment towards a child from God through the Apostle Paul. This means the model of entitlement leading to theft/abuse, with theft meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child stemming from parental entitlement, which is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things from children, or wanting them to do things, to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, with such wants being often related to believing the same values or doing what parents want them to do. Punishment of any kind is prohibited under this moral statute due to its imposing and controlling nature, which always offends children at some level. The Apostle Paul handed out attachment parenting manuals accompanying the delivery of the Epistle to the Colossians to the church gate. Paul was writing to Greco-Roman parents who punished their children as Hellenistic custom. Paul would have none of it in the Christian Churches of God, and since this letter was marked as divine literature, it applied to all Christians everywhere. This command lifted up all child abuse offenses under the Law of Moses, which actually put to death pro-spanking parents for kidnapping. In the Early Christian churches, spanking or punishing a child was seen as a moral crime worthy of death, even though Christ abolished such on the cross, meaning the parent would then be threatened with the second death, meaning Hell, during interrogation.

The Apostle Paul, in the verse annotated above, was speaking of children in his parenting manuals as akin to mirrors, reflecting back to parents their every flaw, showing parents their every demon. Children with autism aren't the only children to show you your bad side. They are just the most succinct and demonstrative at that mirroring presentation. Pro-social mirror is the way to understand respect for parents in the Bible. As parents show respect to children, it should be mirrored with respect back, especially as children get older. Autism itself, as a disorder, is a progressive disorder, meaning it gets better with time. Childhood, in and of itself, is also progressive. However, all children are developmentally immature, by medical definition, meaning just like a child with autism won't "get it" with a lot of things until they are older, all children are in the same boat. Children, as they get older and more mature, should respond to the love and grace of their parents with love and grace back, not because you are forced to by your parents, but because it is the right thing to do, and that's the only motivation in relation to peaceful, attached parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger, through punishment or permissiveness, will not inherit the God, regardless of label! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Policing attachment: The type of secure attachment found in the Bible

Many parents think that children should be policed, meaning that a parent is the equivalent of a police officer in the home. These parents often cite the Bible for proof that their parenting style is acceptable. The reality is that it wasn't.

The parenting commandment of mutual respect is denoted in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, coming from sacrifice for one's child, in the spirit of how Christ sacrificed for His children; martyring oneself in all things, and expecting absolutely nothing in return...and then children rest in the love and grace of parents, demanding their rights and needs. The setup then was "child orders, parent heeds", meaning the child demanded what they wanted/needed, and the parent either provided or diagnosed a different need based on the nature of the child's want. A child that is crying out of nowhere might just want to go for a walk through the neighborhood, and have some loving attention from their parents. The Greek root word υπακουο ultimately uplifts a Hebraic parenting context that is attachment-based in nature. Children went in the nude all the time then, and it was legal, and the reason for that was that mothers were intimate with their children to the level of nudity, meaning skin-to-skin contact, swaddling infants up to age 3 to their bosom or back, breastfeeding children aged up to age 3 or even older in some instances just as an infant would be treated in today's society, with breastfeeding being allowed everywhere in public, and men giving women space and privacy in that regard.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, referencing the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" regarding your child's emotional well-being, referring to the slightest of personal offenses perceived by a child, which is child abuse when conflated with entitlement, with entitlement perceived by the child in reverse coloration format. Unless you listen to and validate your child's tears and upset, it is abuse, since the validating gesture counts as a formal apology disproving entitled intent under the law, thus any abuse that might otherwise be perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul gave the command against provocation to anger as a clear anti-spanking and anti-punishment command in parenting, with children being portrayed in accompanying attachment parenting manuals as like mirrors of your own flaws and demons as parents, and also acknowledging the policing authority of children as extensions of God, meaning children were expected and allowed to demand needs and protest for a redress of grievances in parents, and parents must provide accordingly or similarly, with parents being bondservants to their children. The Greco-Roman culture was very much in favor of spanking and corporal punishment, and that spilled into church communities. But, Paul would have none of it within the boundaries of the churches he oversaw. Paul was the deacon, meaning the shadowy guy that, when he visited your church community, you were in trouble. Paul was, however, opposed to punishing children at all, as was the Jewish tradition then, carried over into Christianity, to dote on children more than other cultures, by way of secure attachment. 

Children in ancient Jewish culture were the police over their parents regarding what they needed, and what they wanted as well, with wants with children often signaling a need. Mothers especially, but also fathers, engaged in fawning behavior, meaning fell limp out of fearful conviction of their child's needs, being devoted parents beholden to their child's needs. The child decided what they needed, and any tears or aggression were seen as a means to communicate by Hebrew parents. Policing attachment is where the child, as they grow older, is very blunt and direct about voicing needs, ordering a parent around like a slave, with the parent surrendering to such orders like a servant, being a caregiver instead of a lawgiver. Parents are easily "pushed over", but do set limits when absolutely necessary, usually for safety reasons. A child was seen as a guide as to what they need. In ancient Greek culture, the parents walked before the children, whereas in ancient Hebrew culture, the parents walked behind the children, who were usually running to show parents something, or drag parents like a limp ragdoll to what they needed, at least in the figurative sense. Younger children cried and hit for what they needed, whereas older children with language skills ordered parents around, and the reaction for a parent then wasn't anger, but reverent fear, meaning revering the vulnerability of the child to the point of self-belittlement, often fawning for children, showing selflessness in a way that turned the other cheek concerning childhood demands on parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger and silence their child's voice will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Two-way window: Understanding how Opposing Parental Entitlement is written

Written directly to the abusive parents of children, with all children, current and former, sitting underneath securely, watching me take on their abuser and shove in the face of their abuser a list of facts as to why God hates their abuser, and hates them in their present state.

Proverbs was also a two way window, written to fathers, with young men - meaning young ADULTS and NOT children - underneath.

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why your child is an extension of God

Many parents think they love their child, but do they really? Love is not a form of affection. Love is not an emotion. Many parents think they are extensions of God, with children being extensions of Christ, when it is the reverse. Parents are giving extensions of Christ. 

Parents are to worship their child, as to God, as ancient Jewish culture, including 1st Century Christian culture, were child worshipping cultures. It was how children were viewed, meaning with a booming, convicting voice of "don't forget about us". It says in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not unto the least of these, ye did it not unto me. And these shall go away into everlasting fire: but the righteous into life eternal.

Christ here was speaking as God, not merely Christ. Christ is the giving part of God, not the needy and demanding part. Think of the needy voices and cries of children as convicting parents by striking reverent fear and terror into the heart of the sinner, meaning every parent and adult, as denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos). Parents and adults are to be shamefaced and afraid of the needs of a child, enough to surrender to God through one's child, being the enemy of children, seeking to be their friend.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, as in the Lord, coming from sacrifice for one's child, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children; taking up the cross for one's child, in the spirit that Christ took up the cross for His children; martyring oneself in everything, while expecting nothing in return for turning oneself into one's child, giving to children without receiving...and then children rest in the sacrifice and martyrdom of parents, with children showing gratitude and thanksgiving towards children by emulating the example of parents to thank them for being kind and charitable towards them, with children owing nothing in return to parents. Children were seen as next to God, with the Hebraic understanding of God as appearing as the most humble of individuals, in a convicting way that strikes terror into any evildoer that could hurt them. Children are the highest in the Kingdom of Heaven, for being the lowest in the eyes of the world (Matt. 19:14). The Greek root word translates υπακουο ultimately uplifts the traditional parenting in ancient Hebrew culture, including 1st Century Christian culture, which was attachment-based in nature. Children went in the nude all the time in the biblical context, and it was legal and accepted as a way for mothers to earn trust in their children, and later respect, with mother-child intimacy to the level of nudity, including co-sleeping and breastfeeding. Children were seen as next to God in this regard as many adult decisions in that culture revolved around the needs of children. For a Hebrew mother or father, a child demanding their needs struck your heart with reverent terror, with the parent following the child while leading at the same time, providing for needs while being dragged to their child's needs like a ragdoll.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) is translated literally to "stirring up" upset and resentment in one's child, referencing the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" in relation to your child's emotional well-being. This was a direct command from the Apostle Paul to ban all corporal punishment in the Christian Churches of God, meaning spanking and other forms of physical and mental punishment were seen as the moral count of provocation of one's neighbor, meaning the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, stemming from entitlement. The Apostle Paul here was making an attachment parenting statement in the negative. Striking or verbally berating your neighbor at all was illegal under Jewish law, as reflected in this command for children, with children being too young to stand trial. Paul handed out attachment parenting manuals, as the Greco-Roman faction of the Christian Church at Colossae used corporal punishment to punish their children, whereas Paul was saying not to punish your child at all. The main idea of the manuals was that children listen to parents like a mirror of your own flaws and sin nature, so be a good example and role model to them, and don't use violence or force to control them, lest they grow up to be controlling people, as denoted by the Greek root word αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damage from spanking and punishment, including discouraging a child from the Christian faith.

Children are extensions of God, and parents are extensions of Christ. In the Greco-Roman culture, children were ideally to tag behind a parent, whereas in Judeo-Christian culture, children led their parents to what they needed, in some way, in some form, whether it be through lawful and binding orders, or taking parents on mini adventures, so to speak. Attachment needs were definitely counted in ancient Hebrew culture, meaning spending time together, with parents showing charity...and this led to charitable children. Parents are to listen to the child in regard to their every need/want, with benign wants being counted as needs when attainable, with parents being attendants to children and their every need. The word "no" should be rare in a Christian home, with compromise being the spirit of attached, gentle parenting in the name of Christ, in the example of Christ. Children are next to God to you, dear parent, and don't you forget it.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and rot in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let the parents descend downward in a spiral of flames and destruction, with God foreknowing their fate from the very beginning, angry at how parents and adults treat children! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Reverent rebellion: Why children should rule adults from beneath

Many parents punish their children through spanking and corporal punishment, and this is based on the false belief that children should obey their parents. The reality is that children have the right to reverently rebel against their parents from day one.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, being able to share anything and everything under the sun with parents, sacrificing for one's child, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children; taking up the cross for children, in the spirit that Christ took up the cross for His children; martyring yourself in everything while expecting nothing in return, in the spirit that Christ asked for no gifts on the Third Day...and then children rest, in a way that allows for rebellion, meaning children rest in an outspoken position, holding the powers of parent caregivers in check, with checks and balances in the family home. The Greek root word translated υπακουο ultimately uplifts the attachment parenting traditions of ancient Jewish culture, including 1st Century Christian culture, with children's energy and rambunctiousness channeled towards their parents, with parents being safe people to share everything with, and tell off when necessary to get a need met, including with tears and aggression with younger children. Hebrew parents never discouraged or stamped on aggression in young children, but were a human punching bag for any aggressive child, turning the other cheek with their children. This rebellion was intended to be until children calmed down and settled down, and then they were baptized. Children were in the nude all the time, until they became adults, with children snuggling and cuddling next to mothers, with mothers encouraging skin-to-skin contact through co-sleeping to create a parent-child bond. The parent-child bond in ancient Judeo-Christian culture was "we police each other", meaning the child polices the parent, and the parent is respectful enough to heed warnings, and even take parenting advice from their children, giving loving warnings in return when a child is at risk for death or serious bodily injury. A child in ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture, could get what they wanted, except when it was harmful, unsafe, or prohibited under the Law, and parents were direct in return about what was prohibited, in a calm but assertive way that did not mince words except for hurtful, abusive words.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, referring to the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" with your child's emotions. This was a direct command from the Apostle Paul to ban spanking and other forms of punishment in the Colossian church, and since it was deemed Holy Writing from the start, for all of God's adopted children, meaning God's Church. Corporal punishment was already banned under the Law in ancient Israel, meaning Paul was simply uplifting the Law with his divinely inspired pen. The Law of Moses only allowed for judicial corporal punishment of ADULTS, not children, who violated the Law in a habitual way that was documented, with most offenders being child abusers, not their victims. Children were exempt from the Law, and lived under the grace and mercy of their parents. All capital and corporal punishment was washed away with Christ's sacrifice on the cross, as the Early Christians prohibited the participation of its members in both. The Apostle Paul handed out more in-depth manuals detailing the fact that parenting in a Christian church must be attachment-based. Attachment parenting then was largely based on example, with the child policing as to their needs, with parents selflessly providing for children, teaching them by example to be charitable to others. Children were expected then to be outspoken about their needs. It was a sort of rule from beneath. Technically, the parent was the head of their child, but in practice, happy child, happy life, because otherwise children were empowered to get under the skin of parents, and storm into their life, in a way that convicted the parents to heed the child's every need, just as to God. Parenting itself was seen as a calling and a conviction to serve a child's needs, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

Reverent rebellion is a Christian tradition when directed towards parents, meaning children are at a higher place to God for being at a lower place in the eyes of the world. Children are perfectly allowed to tell off their parents, throw a fit for their parents, and even strike their parents, and then parents must see it as the young child communicating in their own way. Many children cry to communicate, or else play in a posttraumatic way, and some hit or kick to communicate a need. Children are technically submissive to parents, but in an outspoken way, meaning they secretly rule everything from beneath, keeping the parents and adults in their life in line. This is God's order, and parents shall be damned for refusing to obey God through their child. Parents are an extension of Christ, and a giving one at that, and need to know their place in relation to children, as children will always rebel, so deal with it, accepting and loving them for their rebellious traits.

The depraved and entitled punitive and permissive parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and rot in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and His accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Education about sexuality: Educating children in a purity-based environment without shame or punishment

Many people here in the children's rights community wonder if I would sexually shame a daughter. I am a pedophile, so the answer is "yes, maybe" depending on how long or hard I looked when she stepped out of the shower, which I am not ashamed of my gaze.

Should children even be having sex? No, but punishing it is sin as well, as punishment is for adults who know what they are doing, whereas children and teens are too impulsive to be held to any standard. The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting a child to be chaste (a good wish for any child), but to the point of seeking to impose chastity standards onto a child, instead of modeling them. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers, in a sex education context, to open discussion between parent and children that are developmentally appropriate, and not sexually hateful or objectifying to the child. Talking about sex with your child is not impurity, but making sexually hateful or objectifying remarks that shame their body or their sexual preferences is a form of sexual impurity and fornication. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to not punishing your child for mere sexual thoughts or even behaviors, including masturbation. The Apostle Paul meant the command to fathers in vs. 21 as a command against physical or other means of punishment or control.

The idea is to allow space for children to ask questions about perhaps their body changing, and the mechanics of sexuality. Usually, children only ask questions they are developmentally ready for. Sexual purity here means you actually don't want children having sex, so you inform them in a way that they won't want to, due to the risks involved. The sex-critical term for this is "risk-aware", meaning making children aware of the risks of sex, portraying it as something very special "between a husband and wife who love each other", but answer questions in a way they would understand, geared towards their developmental level.

When children do have sex? I would tell them how I felt, and leave it at that, and beyond that point, I'd accept defeat in my words to them, saying "I hate what your are doing with your life between the sheets, but I can't stop you", walking away with my head low. When I get an angry phone call about my son knocking up some girl, I'd say to him "I told you so, now buck up and own up to what you did, and pay the child support" because he could have easily just masturbated to thoughts of that girl. I believe in the teaching of the prodigal son for when teenagers have sex, meaning if you are a good example towards them, they won't want to go "all the way" with a classmate, and will have good boundaries in this regard. The Millennial generation is one of the most abstinent generations in history in terms of sexual behavior. Many sex-positive parents think they all are doing it, but they aren't. All they need is someone to talk about it with, namely a parent or other trusted adult, and they're fine. Sex can be channeled by choice just like any other drive, with the means usually being solitary. Just put the porn blocker on the computer when warranted, and you're good. The kids that have sex these days don't have a parent to talk to about how they feel about a boy or girl, so they just do it behind the scenes.

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame and objectify children with their visible attitudes will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and descend into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!