Righteous ordering: Why to heel to the commands of children

Many parents think that children need to heed to their command. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents feel entitled to children listening to them. However, the Bible teaches in context that parents are to heel to the command of children. Children give the orders, and parents heel to the command of the child.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children.one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous ordering involves heeling to the command of your child, following almost all of the child's orders. In the Early Church, parents were expected to heel to the command of the child, in almost every case. The only time parents were not to heel to the commands of their children was when the child's commands were completely unworkable, unsafe, and/or immoral. When children were given the word "no", and cried as a result of the word "no", they were reassured and comforted by mom cooing before picking the child up. Even then, mothers then sought to compromise with their child, as opposed to giving a flat out "no".

For the first 6 years of childhood, children cried for things that they needed or wanted. Children in biblical times got almost everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. A cry then was seen as a lawful summonses from your child, meaning they needed something. Mothers were quick to meet the need of their children, and heel to the command of their child.

A common scenario for the word "no" these days is the supermarket. Mothers in the Early Church didn't care - they got for their child whatever they wanted for the most part. In the market, they sold lambs to be sacrificed in Christian households, and even then, mothers got their child a pet lamb if the children grew attached to the lamb in market. Children under age 6 were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, and thus their cries came in the form of silent tears. Children under age 6 pointed to what they wanted, and mothers did not hesitate to splurge for their children.

Righteous ordering is like ordering in a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. If the item you want isn't on the menu, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parents in biblical times were there to be used by their children, like a sponge or a milking-cow. Children in the Early Church got most all of what they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Strictness in parenting: Why children should be encouraged to be strict with themselves (as opposed to strict treatment of children)

Many parents want strict attitudes in their children. This is a common wish on the part of parents. However, most American parents try to get their children to be strict with themselves by being strict with their children as parents. The fact of the matter is that children can come to strict attitudes almost entirely on their own.

Strict attitudes in children are NOT gained by parents imposing strictness onto children. Children grow up almost entirely on their own, and form strict attitudes almost entirely on their own. All parents need to do is praise and encourage strict attitudes once children show such attitudes, in order to speed up the process.

Strictness in parenting is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing strict attitudes - such as self-discipline and self-control - they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught by fathers showing strict attitudes, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught by fathers showing strict attitudes. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible by fathers, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, with religion being a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - starting around age 6 - start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as they get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion that you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and met the need petitioned by children. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whenever children were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with skin-on-skin friction happening every time the mother picked up the child.

Strictness in parenting does not come from parents being strict with their children. Instead, strictness in parenting comes from spotting strict attitudes in children, and then praising and encouraging those strict attitudes in children. Children naturally want to follow your strict example, so when you see that strictness in your children, you should give them lavish praise and encouragement for them to keep doing the good work. Praise and encouragement, when regularly applied, should speed up the discipline process in a child, and make children want to continue showing strict attitudes in order to please you. Children naturally want to please you, but may not know what pleases you, until you catch them showing strict attitudes, and then you praise and encourage them to keep up the good work.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why to catch children being good (as opposed to catching them being bad)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. However, most American parents think that discipline is punishment, meaning that children need to be punished in order to be properly disciplined. However, the fact of the matter is that children don't need punishment in order to be properly disciplined. They instead need to be caught being good, and be praised and encouraged for their good traits.

Catching children being good is spelled out in the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40/

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started by fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a need for children and adults alike. Children start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as children get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the type of religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. During the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need of the child and met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, then tucking the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that mothers wore that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their mothers in skin-on-skin format, with skin-on-skin co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was then they wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children receiving skin-on-skin contact every time they were picked up by mom.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Why the Early Christians were attachment parents (meaning not punitive parents)

Many parents oppose attachment parenting in this country. Most American parents get their advice from religious sources. This is a common way for American parents to obtain their parenting advice. However, many of these so-called "Christian" sources of parenting advice are wrong on parenting. Attachment parenting is the only way to go as a parent if you want to follow the Bible.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the Early Christian context. America, as a nation, was founded on Judeo-Christian family values. We as a society glean from both the Bible and its context. The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to punish a child. Most parents in the Early Church were attachment parents.

Proper Christian attachment parenting is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents whop punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children then following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, and showing self-control - they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss on the forehead from fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction in the Early Church started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with phrases such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - in most cases starting at age 6 - start to form simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, now allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then from there, mom diagnosed the need in the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, they were wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping closeness happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with even picking up children causing skin-on-skin friction between mother and child.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. Mothers nurtured through skin-on-skin contact, especially during the early years of parenting. Fathers nurtured in a teaching way, from a distance. Fathers kept their distance, especially during the early years, because they had a sexual attachment to their children. However, even in biblical times, fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake". Instead, fathers righteously masturbated to sexual thoughts of his children, especially his daughters. The most he could hope for was for his daughter to enjoy being naked around him, as she was otherwise well taken care of. The sin line in that setup was the father approaching his daughter with sex on the brain, in which case that was defined as sexual entitlement. Any flirting or propositioning was included as a sexual act, as was touching the child on any part of their body for sexually motivated purposes. Most ancient contexts do allow for sexual correction of children, but not the Early Christian context. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children don't "need" to hear the word "no" often

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" to their children a lot, even when it isn't warranted. Most of the time, there is something else you can do besides say "no" all of the time as a parent. Children need to instead hear your "yes" more often than your "no". 

Frequent use of the word "yes" is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The word "no" was used by parents in the Early Church seldom, meaning almost never. Instead, parents were expected to heel to the commands of children. In most cases, parents in the Early Church were required to heel to the command of their children. The only reason to disobey the commands of your child then was when the command from the child was completely unworkable and/or immoral. Even then, there was usually room for compromise.

The word "no" should be used rarely, meaning almost never. Children need to hear the word "yes" far more often than the word "no". For example, when a child wants that expensive bicycle at Wal-Mart, you can simply say "wait until payday". Even then, the child may throw a temper tantrum because payday is far away for most children. That is when parents should reassure their children.

The word "no" sometimes needs to be used, but only rarely. When mothers in the Early Church had to say "no" to the child, they picked up the crying and tantrumming child, holding the upset child in her arms, and reassured the child with skin-on-skin closeness. Children who were milk-dependent were breastfed to sleep when they couldn't accept the word "no". Older children were cradled by their mothers next to her bosom. Young children under age 6 were wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to the bosom of mothers, and when they wanted something they couldn't have, they cried silently. Most of the time, children were not allowed expensive jewelry because it made an immodest fashion statement. But, parents said "no" reassuringly, not forcefully. 

Children who heard the word "yes" a lot in biblical times had a strong bond with their parents. Most parents in biblical times said "yes" to most everything that their child asked for. Even when they wanted a pet lamb from the market they got the pet lamb, without the lamb being slaughtered later. The word "yes" should be heard often by children, far more often than the word "no", because the word "yes" being used often strengthens the secure attachment between parent and child. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Preventing public meltdowns: How to deal with public meltdowns

Many parents have been there. A child throws a massive temper tantrum in public. This is a common occurrence in American society. Most American parents punish children for throwing temper tantrums. In young children, however, full blown temper tantrums can be prevented. In the Early Church, young children were wrapped up in swaddling blankets. 

The use of swaddling blankets is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Mothers in biblical times, when out and about in public, wrapped up their young children - under age 6 - next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children were swaddled to their mother's bosom, they only cried silently, for only the mother to hear and diagnose from there. When children cried silently, they were held close to the mother's bosom, and offered a teat to suckle on. If children refused the mother's teat, they were ready for solid foods. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which grew all throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Children, when out and about in a public market with mom, got most everything that they wanted off the shelf, and everything that they needed. When children wanted something, they usually cried silently when wrapped up next to mothers in swaddling blankets. If the child wanted something off of the shelf, they pointed to what they wanted, and then they got what they wanted. The market carried live lambs, and sometimes, the child wanted to take the lamb home as a pet, in which case mothers obliged, without slaughtering the lamb later. 

Children in biblical times got most everything that they wanted, even at market. Children also got absolutely everything that they needed. Children advocated for a want or need by crying, and usually, mothers got them what they wanted. When children were swaddled to their mother's bosom, they cried silently for what they needed or wanted. Kicking and screaming fits in public were unheard of then, and that is because children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, with children crying silently for what they needed or wanted. This swaddling of a child lasted until age 6, which was when the last of the children rejected the teat of mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to co-sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice as a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents isolate their children in cribs and beds from day one. However, children in biblical times co-slept next to mothers. Not only did it help form a bond with children, but it helped protect them from child sexual abuse.

Righteous co-sleeping is the centerpiece of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 often refuse to go to bed on their own. This is a common reason for parents punishing their children. However, children refuse to go to bed on their own is that they are emotionally unready for being isolated in a room alone. Children under age 6 have a primal fear of being devoured by predators. There may be no snakes or scorpions like there was in biblical times, but predators still exist in modern times, usually in human format. Most cases of child sexual abuse involve a bedtime ritual, where children are raped by night while isolated in a bed on their own. Mothers in the Early Church solved that problem by co-sleeping next to their children. Then, sexual abuse couldn't happen because mom was right there, ready to use herself as a human shield if anything happened. She usually slept with the father on one side of her, and the children on the other.

Many pediatricians and mental health professionals dealing with children do not recommend co-sleeping, due to unfounded fears that it can cause "sleep dependence". The fact of the matter is all co-sleeping has an end to it. Most of the time, children co-slept next to mothers until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. If they still want to co-sleep next to you past that point, that is a sign of a developmental disorder such as autism spectrum disorder. Even then, they do grow out of co-sleeping, but usually not until later. I have autism, and I co-slept next to my mother until age 16, which is when I took the initiative to sleep on my own. In most every case, children eventually want to sleep on their own to prove their independence from their parents, usually come puberty.

Co-sleeping is the ultimate way to bond with your child. Most co-sleeping in biblical times was done in skin-on-skin format. Children aged 0-10, on average, co-slept next to mothers, with children past age 10 usually starting puberty and thus wanting their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, including when snuggling into bed with mom, with mothers also being naked within the confines of the family home. Fathers just had to get used to children sleeping naked next to them in bed, and masturbated to sexual thoughts of their naked child. The family bed, in the Early Christian context, was completely nude in terms of setup. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to properly discipline your child (without punishment or force)

Many parents think that children need discipline. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents know that children need discipline, but don't discipline children properly. Proper discipline of children comes without punishment or force in parenting. The fact of the matter is that instead of catching a child being bad and punishing them, you catch them being good and encourage the good behavior.

Proper discipline of a child is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught exploring the Bible, they were given praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for both children and adults alike. Young children - past age 6 - develop simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as they get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values. 

What motivates children to hear out the discipline of fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, mom diagnosed and met the vulnerable needs of children. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping happening every single night, until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth between mother and child, with there being skin-on-skin friction whenever a child was picked up. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. The most common belief amongst American parents is the belief that parents deserve honor no matter what. However, the fact of the matter is that respect and honor for parents is earned, apart from narrow exceptions to that rule. Parents do have rights, but their rights are limited.

The Fifth Commandment says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

The commandment to honor parents basically means don't dishonor parents, as specified elsewhere in the Law. That means simply don't strike or physically attack your parents (see also Exod. 21:15), don't curse your parents with airborne gaslighting (see also Lev. 20:9), and don't blame parents for moral crimes that you commit (see also Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from that, parents are to earn the honor that is bestowed upon them.

The best way to understand the commandment to honor parents in childhood is the commandment not to strike out at parents. You can use your parents for pretty much anything you want them to do for you, as parents are your hired servants. But, you can't get your way with parents by striking out at them. When your child does strike out at you, cry out loud in the form of righteous wailing. You may find that your child is not out to take advantage of you, but simply has a vulnerable need that needs being met. But, parents should not encourage children striking out at them. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as the moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times, but that respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then from there, mom diagnosed the need in the child, and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, they were wrapped up next to mom's bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping closeness happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children in most cases wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children getting skin-on-skin warmth every time they were picked up by their mothers, with friction happening between the skin of both mother and child. 

It is a myth that the commandment to honor parents means blind obedience to parents. In fact, parents in biblical times heeled to the commands of their child. This means that parents followed the orders of minor children in almost all cases, except when children's orders were completely unworkable and/or immoral. Even then, most parents sought to find compromise with their children as opposed to saying "no" completely, and there usually was room to compromise. 

Honoring parents merely means supporting and caring for aging parents. In biblical times, aging parents were cared for by their children. Even then, parents had to earn the care and protection of their children, as the Bible does allow for children to disown their entitled and abusive parents. Abusive parents have to earn their forgiveness by making amends with the children they harmed.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents still support punitive parenting for children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents defend their so-called "right" to punitively discipline their children by taking Bible verses out of context. One passage misused by punitive parents is Hebrews 12:5-8. This passage is the cornerstone of pro-spanking advocacy. However, it is gravely misused by most pro-spanking parents.

God's Word says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

This passage, when interpreted properly, is comforting to me. This passage was intended as comfort to the Hebrew Christians who were being persecuted by Rome. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó), with this word being able to be used in a figurative tense. This form of metaphor is called rod language, where the rod of correction used in the 40 minus 1 lashes is used as a metaphor for enduring hardship. The modern way to sum up Heb. 12:5-8 is the phrase "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". When you got home from a long day at work, you instead said in the Early Church "God whipped me hard today".

God whips His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the children He loves the most. But, God only whips His children when it doesn't harm them, whereas earthly parents only whip their children when it does harm them. Due to the flawed nature of earthly parents, earthly parents are to bring up their child as comes naturally, meaning attachment parenting.

Heb. 12:5-8 does not even refer to earthly parenting. However, there are passages that have to do with proper Christian parenting. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praise and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught exploring the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - past age 6 in most cases - form simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as they get older, they start to grow towards conforming to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between the ages of 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not letting mom outside of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom will "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, mom diagnosed the needs of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, and from there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping closeness happening every night, until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitates easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with even picking up a child leading to skin-on-skin contact between mother and child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper your children

Many parents in America don't want to be seen as pampering their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents don't want to be seen as pampering their children. However, there is a proper way to pamper a child that is spelled out in the biblical context. 

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering is not just pampering your child, but pampering and babying children in a specific fashion. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with their mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom around from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up a child, and from there, mom diagnosed the need in the child, providing for their every need. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping closeness happening every night until the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went in biblical times, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup allowed for easy skin-on-skin bonding time between mothers and children, with children getting skin-on-skin time every time the mother picked up a child.

After children turned age 6, they played freely outside with neighborhood friends, naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". However, children had to first report to mom and tell her where they are going. Come nightfall, children were called by name by their parents come dinnertime, when children were given a nice meal on a porcelain plate. Then, children co-slept next to mom in order to recharge for another day's play.

Children under age 6 were not allowed to play outside. Instead, young children were in constant closeness to mothers. The reason for this setup was to keep children away from environmental hazards, such as venomous snakes or scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. Even today, environmental hazards exist when children are allowed outdoors - busy streets and oncoming traffic. Young children under age 6 do not yet understand the dangers that exist outdoors, and can't understand the dangers even when told to by parents. Children in the Early Church were very much protected by their parents, in a sheltered way.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: How to bring up a child in the doctrine of original sin

The doctrine of original sin is the most misunderstood and misused of all Christian teachings. Yet, original sin is the backbone of Christianity. Without original sin, there would be no need for a Christ. However, Christ died and then Rose on the Third Day for our sins.

God hates all mankind. All mankind is deserving of nothing but non-existence. Only a few of us will be saved, with the rest of mankind being predestined to eternal Hell-fire. God hates us for our peacekeeping past, where children were oppressed by the sexual wrath of adult-kind. Aren't we all sinners in the hands of an angry God? God only loves a few of us, and hates the rest of mankind to the point of non-existence. See also Rom. 3:9-12.

Proper Christian parenting that passes down the doctrine of original sin is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with a promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus for bringing their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were given lavish praise and encouragement from fathers with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught exploring the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of the text that children saw. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for both children and adults alike. Young children - past age 6 in most cases - start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as they get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

Original sin is a topic that will naturally come up in the course of your child's religious development. Children who observe the Bible are bound to ask "why did they need to kill Christ?". The proper answer for that question is "we are all sinners as human beings, and so we needed a Christ to Sacrifice Himself so that we can be saved". Eventually, it should sink in with that very conversation that mankind is fallen and was born in sin. Most children do just fine in figuring that out. But, some more sensitive children will find their conclusions of original sin to be upsetting, in which case fathers are to sit down with their child and comfort the child in distress about the teaching of original sin. There is no reason to forcibly call a child a "sinner".

What motivates a child to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children, and then diagnosed the need of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping closeness lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitates easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth between mother and child, meaning that whenever the child was picked up, the child was in skin-on-skin contact with the mother. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why to heel to the commands of your child

Many parents think that children should listen to and obey them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents believe that they have the right to their children listening to and obeying them. However, the Bible, in context, teaches that parents should heel to the commands of their children.

Heeling to the command of a child is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

Children in biblical times called the shots, with the parents heeling to the command of the child. Righteous ordering is where children issue orders and decrees towards parents from their place of rest. In most cases, parents had to heel to the commands of their child. The only valid reason for parents saying the word "no" then was when the commands of the child were completely unworkable and/or immoral.

Children in the Early Church got pretty much everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. When young children under age 6 cried, mothers heeled to the cries of the child, cooing at their child before picking them up. From there, mothers met the every need of a child, including most of what they wanted. Most of the time, parents in the Early Church compromised with their children to avoid saying "no". 

Righteous ordering can be seen as going to a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. If the food you want isn't on the menu, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parents were seen in biblical times as like waitstaff, waiting on their child hand and food, allowing for children to use them up like a sponge or a milking-cow. 

It is a myth that parents should parent like God does, as God is a stern parent to His children (see also Heb. 12:5-8). A parent should instead consider themselves a bondservant to their children, taking orders from their child, working for a lump sum. That lump sum is not obedience, but instead the child being as independent as possible. The idea behind proper parenting is to allow your child to order you around in the mean time. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the way to do time-in

Many parents think that when their child cries, that the child deserves punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most children in America have to endure time-out, and then maybe the occasional disciplinary spanking when the child's cries are that "egregious". However, the right way to deal with a crying child is to do time-in. Time-in has a biblical application to it - mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in the biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they do wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Time-in is a necessary part of attachment parenting. However, there is a biblical way of doing time-in. Whenever children cried in the Early Church, mothers picked them up, and held them close to her bosom in mammary closeness. From there, mothers diagnosed the need, and then met the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. 

When children were milk-dependent, mothers breastfed their children with their teat. Mammary closeness initially involves children latching onto the teat of the mother. This setup is to continue until the child refuses the teat of the mother. Usually, children refused the teat of mothers at around age 2, but sometimes, children up until age 6 or even beyond were breastfed. Mothers breastfed whenever and wherever they were when called to by their child, including even in public. The child was breastfed until they went to sleep.

Mammary closeness was practiced even in public by mothers. When mothers were out and about in public, they wrapped up their young child - under age 6 - to her bosom in swaddling blankets. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that mothers wore in public that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cried while swaddled next to mothers, they cried silently. When that happened, mothers held the child closer to her bosom. Infants, toddlers, and very young children were offered the teat to latch onto, until they refused the teat of mothers. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which grew throughout the Ancient Middle East. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Why the Early Christians were attachment parents

Many parents think that the Bible allows for punitive parenting such as spanking or punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible commands attachment parenting as the way for earthly parents to bring up their children.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the parenting traditions of the Early Christian context. We as a nation are founded on Judeo-Christian values. The Bible is a founding document for this country, even above the Constitution itself. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to strike or punish a child.

Christian attachment parenting is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their child, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise by fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible, for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instructions came in question and answer format, based off of the text that the children come across. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development. Young children - past age 6 - develop simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as they get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect, thereby conforming to that religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates a child to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start with a secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between the ages of 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers responded to the child's upset by way of cooing at the child before picking them up, and from there, diagnosing the need of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, they were wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that mothers wore. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy every night, with this co-sleeping setup lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children getting skin-on-skin time with their mothers every time they were picked up. 

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. Fathers nurtured by stepping in and providing praise and encouragement when a child was caught being good. Fathers kept their distance - especially from young children under age 6, because of a sexual attachment to their children. But, even in the Early Church, fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake". Fathers instead masturbated righteously, meaning masturbated in order to stay out of trouble. This righteous masturbation helped fathers form a rapport with the children he was educating. All the father usually had to do was masturbate righteously for a couple of sessions before moving on and focusing on forming a rapport with the children he was educating. All he could hope for was his daughter wanting to go naked for him, because she was otherwise well taken care of. The sin line was when the father approached the daughter for sexual favors, or even just to flirt with his daughter. It is one thing to look the look at your daughter's naked body, or even think the think about her later, but if you want to do the deed - which includes flirting and propositioning a child - you shouldn't be approaching that child. The only way out of approaching a child is masturbating righteously. The father may also need to char and tar the approach with images of Hell.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!