Understanding religious child abuse of pedophiles - Why fantasy is not a sin

 Many pedophiles misunderstand the children's rights stand about fantasy. It is based on the word and concept of "curtain". Fantasize about whatever you want, whatever serves your fancy, and it should not cross a line, meaning a locational boundary outside of the curtain. This is very different from how much of society feels about sexual fantasy.

It is a frequent behavior among many "Christian" parents to punish children for masturbation. The legend is that children were told "you could go blind", and then everybody laughs. However, this is an actual form of abuse that is committed against pedophiles today by parent perpetrators.

Pedophilia is considered by many to be a spiritual disease. I consider only one ailment to be a spiritual disease, and we all have it - entitlement. Entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting something from a child to the point of seeking to impose said want on a child, such as through demanding and begging, such as demanding and begging a child to stop doing something with their own body, due to what the adult perceives is being masturbated over.

Many in our community of gentle parents fail to understand what it means to have a pedophilic child? Train cars. Fixation. Yes, that's how a pedophile views their child crushes, and how a parent would if their child was open with them about their condition. Parents tend to find the topic to be annoying when brought up all the time, and tend to be in denial before it's totally out of the bag, and you can't deny it as a parent.

What to do about fantasy? Nothing, meaning do NOT try to stop it, or that would be abuse. My mother just doesn't want to hear about it, at all. She listens, then out the other ear, and sends me on my way, in a stern but listening way that discourages further discussion of fantasy. At the same time, she encourages religious belief systems that focuses on the relevance of clinical celebratory speech, which is in very few places, if anywhere, in my life currently, so leave mom go and don't pester her on that issue. Medical issues related to society? Yes. Not what I fantasize about. Yes, I can point out a young girl, but she doesn't exactly encourage it, but begrudgingly listens.

The rules at home are similar to those set by the movement. "Not everyone wants to hear about that, and some people experienced that type of abuse", and it is those words from my mom that motivate me not to fantasize on screen. It's just not in me to do so, since I see the community from a further distance on this issue, and admittedly sometimes feel smothered by the "help" and "concern" of some people here. My mother isn't one to smother this condition. She's very distant and remote in her attitudes on the issue, and I want to see that here. That's why I say "count words, if you have to do something". Smother the condition too much and I get angry.

Yep, I'm here though. This community does understand. The disorder consists today of connotational attraction to a child, meaning looking at her and thinking "she looks hot" and then moving on with my day. But, in the grand scheme of things, it is a string of fixations on children, of a single-minded, autistic nature - and that's what makes it abusive, as they tended to be active fixations to "get her into my arms" when she was just a kid...Catch pedophilia early, and listen to the condition in your child, and you set them up for an offense-free life where they'll never abuse a child. Most all non-offending pedophiles are driven to treatment, and driven to carry out treatment. Why? It's a parent, of the sexualized variety. Very few tend to speak in children's rights communities, and I seem to be the first one to figure out the obvious - just talk to survivors. Don't mess around with the gaslighting.