Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (meaning not more)

Some parents have to deal with it. A child being oppositional and defiant in how they relate to parents. Most parents think that such a child needs firmer limits. However, the fact of the matter is that parents of a child with ODD should be setting less limits, meaning not more.

Proper dealing with ODD in children involves the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting a child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking- child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Most parents think that a child with ODD needs more limits, usually meaning more punishment in order to control a child. However, there is no way to control a child. Christian parents in the Early Church did not use controlling measures in parenting. The ancients knew better than parents today that whenever you try to control an individual, they seek to control back. This is called the counterwill. The idea is to give up the fight with your child, and give in to their demands. 

Some children were difficult to manage even in the Early Church. Some children did not want the standard warmth and sustenance from mothers. These children were known as stand-beside-me children. The main limit given to a stand-beside-me child was to stand beside mothers, even if most stand-beside-me children disregarded that limit. A stand-beside-me child was a willful child, and yet they were the most prized of all children. Punishing even a stand-beside-me child - meaning especially a stand-beside-me child - was seen as unlawful under any circumstance. The ancients even then knew that some children cannot be controlled, and so the more willful the child, the more freedom the child had. Most children were constantly attached at the hip when younger than age 6, but stand-beside-me children had to be instructed to stand next to mom at all times, except when playing freely outside, with stand-beside-me children leaving the side of mom sooner than most children, thus playing freely when most children were afraid to leave the side of mothers until age 6. Stand-beside-me children were given freedom to roam from an early age, even when most children wanted closeness and snuggling with mom.  

ODD is a common disorder, and usually is secondary to another disorder such as autism, bipolar disorder, and/or ADHD. Usually, all that is needed is a change in medication. Until then, the parents of a child simply have to keep their children safe. Sometimes, the autism itself is the co-morbid disorder, in which case the parent simply has to accept their child, flaws and all, stroking the child's ego, as there is no medication for autism as a standalone primary diagnosis. 

I myself was never diagnosed with ODD. However, I fit the diagnostic criteria to a T. The only reason that my doctor didn't give the label was to avoid the stigma attached to the diagnosis. ODD means a child is completely uncontrollable in their behaviors. Most children have a counterwill, but a child with ODD has a counterwill through the roof, to the point where you can't stop them even as their parent. But, adults sure tried to be controlling with me, and punished me at home and at school when they couldn't manage my behaviors. I myself have trauma as a result of a battle of wills between adults and me as a child. I had teachers who listened to me, and I hardly gave them any trouble. Even when medicated, I still was afraid of parents, meaning I distrusted parents with their children, meaning my anger turned into anxiety. I ultimately had to put my trust in a God that would avenge the abuse that I suffered. I myself now have a trauma from entitled parents, thanks to adults who sought to control someone that could not be controlled. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that they need to use the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents tell their children "no" all of the time. However, the fact of the matter is that children need to hear the word "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Instead, children should hear your "yes" far more often than your "no". 

Saying "yes" to children frequently is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works are defined here as doing good things for children, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolute nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refer here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of s child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The word "no", when used frequently, constitutes child abuse under the biblical definition. Whenever a child hears the word "no", it offends them. When parents defended their choice to say "no" to a child all of the time, they were deemed parent entitled as parents. The only way to righteously offend your child is to reassure children of your good intentions, in a gentle parenting voice, like only a gentle parent could do. 

Under the customary law of the time, the word "no" was used seldom by parents, meaning almost never. Christian parents in the Early Church were only allowed to say "no" to a child under the strictest of circumstances, namely when the petitioned request from a child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually used nicer sounding language than a flat out "no", with phrases such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen".

The depraved and entitled parents who punished their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child throwing a kicking and screaming temper tantrum. Most parents punish their children when they throw temper tantrums. However, crying in and of itself is a normal phase of child development. Temper tantrums happen when your child doesn't feel heard.

Tending to crying children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for your children, meeting the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents , who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church/ Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Temper tantrums are a leading motive for child punishments nationwide these days. However, there was a day when children didn't regularly throw themselves onto the floor in the form of a temper tantrum. Instead, Christian parents in the Early Church tended to the every cry of their child. Children growing up in the Early Church almost never kicked and screamed on the ground in a temper tantrum, and that was because mothers tended to the cries of children, not ignoring any cry coming from children.

Crying is a normal phase of child development. Temper tantrums only happen when children are punished for crying. A normal reason for a child crying is separation anxiety. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church felt detached from mom, they cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. That crying would not stop until all of the child's needs were fully met. Usually, but not always, children cried out of fear that mothers would "go away and never come back". Once that need was ruled out, mom kept diagnosing until all of the child's vulnerable needs were met, through trial and error. 

Temper tantrums happen when children are punished merely for crying. When that happens, children learn to hide their emotions, until the child blows their top because they can't hold it in any longer. Christian parents in the Early Church avoided this by tending to the every cry of children, from day one. Children cried intensely for mom during the first 6 years of childhood, not stopping the cries until all of the child's needs are met. Whenever a child is kicking and screaming on the ground, they are not being listened to. 

Lawful trauma can be understood as a battle of wills. Whenever you seek to control a child, they seek to control back. The way to attachment parenting is to give up the fight with your child, and give into the cries for vulnerable needs. You may find that your child isn't asking for much. In most cases, all they need is YOU as their mother. I myself was a willful child growing up, and when adults battled me, I battled back. I only got along with teachers who didn't battle me. Whenever you punish a child like I was punished, they fight back, and keep fighting until the parents give up the fight. In the Early Church, children were given warmth from day one, and thus did not throw temper tantrums at all. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent. for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why children need a secure attachment in order to be cooperative

Many parents think that back talk is bad behavior, meaning worthy of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents do not allow for their child to talk back. However, the fact of the matter is that children cooperate best when given a secure attachment with mom. 

The Fifth Commandment says to honor your parents. This commandment was repeated many times in the New Testament, including in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Back talk happens when children are treated in an adversarial manner by parents. Most parents see parenting as a never-ending battle of wills between parent and child. The key to getting a child to listen to you is to give up the fight, and give into the cries of your child.

Whenever Christian mothers heard the cries of their child, mothers cooed before picking up their child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed something, they got it.

Whenever a cry was followed by a coo from mothers, it was deemed a secure attachment. Whenever a child is living in a securely attached home, they usually are more cooperative, but in a way that is affectionate in nature. In an attachment parenting home, children usually on their best behavior after age 6. 

Christian parents in the Early Church simply had to wait 6 years before getting cooperation from children. Children under age 6 constantly cried out for their mother, and would not stop until the need was fully met. When children past age 6 were out and about with parents, they were always there, trailing behind their mothers, like goslings to a mother goose. When children wanted something, they were given their own spending money. However, if children ran out of money, mom would always supplement. Children past age 6 may have engaged in wet and messy play, but otherwise were peaceable and orderly in their ways. Children did not have to work for money, with children instead receiving free money from parents. 

Children growing up in the Early Church, past age 6, were sometimes given requests from parents. When this happened, children instinctively cooperated with parents. Children were given room for rebellion, but usually, they surrendered to the loving arms of mothers, trusting parents in all things. But, first, parents need to get through the first 6 years of childhood, when children cry out loud, with these cries being for YOU as their mother. After age 6, you will usually have a child that trusting in your word enough to listen to your word. That trust was based off of the warmth and reassurance of Christian parents in the Early Church, meaning that all that work during the first 6 years of childhood pays off as a reward for being so kind and loving towards a crying child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents have to deal with it. A child crying seemingly out of nowhere. Most parents punish their children when they cry for seemingly no reason at all. However, children always cry for a reason. The main antecedent for crying in children under age 6 is separation anxiety. 

Tending to cries of separation anxiety is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good for children, meeting the child's every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived as a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Many times, children cry for seemingly no reason at all. However, there is a reason behind every cry coming from a child. The most common reason for children under age 6 to cry is separation anxiety. Separation anxiety happens when children are morbidly afraid of mom "going away and never coming back".

When children felt detached from mom, they cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ever ignore. Most mothers held their children close to their bosom in mammary closeness. The purpose of mothers engaging in mammary closeness was to reassure the child that mom was going nowhere. Children cried when mothers left the room, in which case the mother went right to the other room, reassuring their child that mom was going nowhere. Otherwise, children were simply attached at the hip with their mothers. 

Children also had other needs as well. When milk-dependent children cried, mothers first offered the child the teat of mothers, and then tried other forms of mammary closeness with children. Most of the time, all children needed was warmth with mom. When the child needed something else, they continued to cry until the mother gave in to their cries, and met the need. However, the main need to look for in a child is separation anxiety, when they were under age 6. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for broader child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the Bible calls for punitive measures towards children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents don't understand that the Bible prohibits all forms of child abuse, with child abuse being defined as whatever is perceived by the child victim as abusive. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Whenever parent anger was directed towards a child, it was seen as parental entitlement. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking.- child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a concept of trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, as opposed to simply an adult rebelling against God. 

Whenever parents punished their children in biblical times, the wheels of justice started with the children shunning their abusive parents. From there, word spread far and wide of a case of abusive parents, until word finally reached the council. The council of 3 elders then decided the fate of the abusive parents.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible were written by Jews, and the Jews never supported anything punitive towards a child, with the Jewish parenting command instead being to parent as comes naturally. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for younger children, with the rod mentioned in the Bible being the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a form of judicial corporal punishment that was only allowed in a courtroom. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that children need punishment. Most child abuse happens in America in the form of time-out, with the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". However, time-in is an alternative to time-out. Time-in can come in many forms, but with the biblical form of time-in being mammary closeness.

Time-in is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. These good works are defined as doing good \things for children, meeting the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking. and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Time-in comes in many forms, with some parents having their children go to a calming corner. However, there is only one biblical way of doing time-in, with that way being mammary closeness. Whenever children under age 6 cried, the mother cooed at the child before picking up the child, and from there, the child was held in mammary closeness. Afterwards, the mother diagnosed the need before meeting it. 

Mammary closeness and breastfeeding go hand in hand. In most cases, young children growing up in the Early Church were offered the teat of mothers to suckle, with this breastfeeding usually lasting until age 2. However, some children suckled the teat of mothers until age 6 or even beyond. Mothers then breastfed whenever called to by their children, including even in public.

Another common need for children then was reassurance that mom was not going anywhere. Separation anxiety is a common and normal reason for children to cry, with separation anxiety being a morbid fear in children that mothers would "go away and never come back". However, children were reassured by way of mammary closeness, and then maybe also breastfeeding if children were milk-dependent. 

The female breasts were designed by God not primarily for men to sexualize, but instead is there for mothers to nurture children. The cleavage is right there to cushion a blow when the child heard the word "no". The nipples are there for feeding a child. Most children feel comfort when being held by mom, and that is a design by God for optimal comfort when children are upset.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!