Swaddling blankets: How to pacify a crying child in public

Many parents want to know how to stop a child from crying out loud in public. This is a common wish on the part of parents. However, there is a way to stifle crying in a young child that is informed as to attachment needs. This method involves swaddling blankets.

The use of swaddling blankets is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents, owing nothing in return to parents. Good works here means doing good things for your child, meeting your child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt/ 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen/in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating the child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, the children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. These swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them -  were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Whenever children cried, they were held even closer to the bosom of mothers. The swaddling blankets then were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

The cries of a child were pacified when they were held close to mom's bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets served to pacify the child, meaning quiet tears. Whenever in the market with mom, children who were wrapped up in swaddling blankets simply pointed to what they wanted on the shelf, and the mother bought the item for the child. Older children - past age 6 - were given their own spending money, and then the child quickly learned the value of money.

Most childhood crying took place during the first 6 years of life. When that happened, mothers were always there, holding their child close, in mammary closeness. Most of the time, children cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ignore. However, when children were swaddled in public, they simply teared up quietly, usually because they wanted something from jthe shelf, which all parents then were willing to provide. 

Children, in most cases, did not mind being wrapped up in swaddling blankets. They were instead at peace next to their mothers. They also enjoyed the view from mom's bosom. There is no need to kneel before your child. Just pick them up if you want to reassure the child. The best way to hold your child in public is in swaddling blankets. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Attention-seeking behavior in children: Why attention is a core need for children

Many parents have been there. A child is just begging for attention from their parents. Most parents punish their children when they engage in attention-seeking behavior. However, the fact of the matter is that attention is a core need for children.

Giving your child well needed attention is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents, owing nothing in return to parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for children, meeting the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children's behaviors sometimes just beg for attention. There is a reason for this - they need attention. Children growing up in the Early Church were given tender loving care every time they cried. All a child back then needed to do to get the attention of mom and dad was to cry, and the mother then cooed at the child before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need.

Children today do things to get attention, and they usually do so by crying out loud in a way that begs for attention. Most parents are given the advice to give an ignoring message. However, whenever a child cries for attention, that is what they need. 

Children who were older than age 6 also demanded attention by way of whining. Christian parents in the Early Church tended to the whining of children as well as the cries, and they always were able to diagnose a need. Usually, all the child needed was mom, and mom only. 

The idea is to give up the fight, and give into the demands for attention coming from a crying or whining child. You may find that the child isn't asking for much. Whining is a sign of maturity in a child, meaning one step up from crying.

Attention is a core need of any child. There are five basic categories of childhood needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and/or attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! The core attachment need of them all is attention. Infants aren't the only ones needing love when they are upset. Even older children need tender loving care from parents. 

Most of the time, attention-seeking behavior in young children - under age 6 - comes from separation anxiety. Children growing up in the Early Church who needed attention from a parent cried a deathly, screeching cry that breaks down the parents until they give in to the child's vulnerable needs. Most parents interpret this as a child "undermining" parents and "asking for attention". However, the fact of the matter is that they need attention, and so that is what they should get. Children under age 6 usually cry out of fear that mom would "go away and never come back". 

Attention-seeking behavior in a school setting can happen many ways that are disruptive to a learning environment. However, the children who are disruptive the most need the teacher's attention the most. I have come to oppose the existence of school due to how they treat chronically disruptive students. But, since school is here to stay, and not everyone can homeschool, schools should ideally have an IEP for every student, and with children not being suspended simply for being disruptive. Teachers should note that a warm embrace from a teacher is not against the law. Sometimes, a child needs a warm embrace from a teacher when they are acting out to get attention. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why the word "no" should be used rarely (meaning almost never)

Many parents think the word "no" should be used frequently and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents use the word "no" all of the time. However, the fact of the matter is that children need to hear the word "no" rarely, meaning almost never. Children instead need to hear "yes" more than "no"

The frequent use of the word "yes" is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents, owing nothing in return. Good works are defined here as doing good things for your child, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement.  This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children..In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents were punished their children were charged with kidnapping,  with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he surely loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Many times, childhood upset comes from hearing the word "no". Most American parents use the word "no" frequent and often. This frequent use of the word "no" often leads to temper tantrums in younger children. However, Christian parents in the Early Church used the word "no" sparingly, meaning almost never. Whenever children cried, mothers swooped in and cooed at her child before picking the child up, and from there, she diagnosed the need of the child before meeting it.

Children growing up in the Early Church got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Whenever children petitioned for what they wanted, they got what they wanted in most cases. Whenever the child was offended by the word "no", the parent had to reassure the child of their good intent. If the parent got defensive at all when confronted for saying "no", including by children, it was deemed parental entitlement, with any offense stemming from parental entitlement being child abuse. If the parent was entitled at all, they needed to give a full-blown apology to their children later, or else be excommunicated from the church. 

Even in the case of the word "no" being necessary, most Christian parents in the Early Church used nicer sounding ways to decline needs. These statements include things such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen", with a reassurance and an explanation given to the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why back talk is not bad behavior

Many parents punish their children when they talk back. In many American homes, talking back is the only reason that a child was ever punished. Growing up with a parent abuser, back talk was the number one cause of punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that back talk is not bad behavior, and should not be punished as such. 

Back talk is a common behavior in older children and teenagers. The solution to this problem is the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here to doing good things for your child, meeting their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the child, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children today are punished all of the time, including for talking back. Most American parents insist on respect from children, and are sorely disappointed when they don't get the respect that they feel that they deserve. However, Christian parents in the Early Church never punished their children for anything, including back talk. 

Whenever a child growing up in the Early Church talked back, mothers in particular diagnosed the vulnerable need behind the defiance. The idea then was to give up the fight with the children, and give into the child's petitioned wants. You may find that they aren't asking for much. Most of the time, all a child needs is time in with mom.

Healthy rebellion in teenagers is not rolling eyeballs or open defiance, but instead involves a push to do things independently. Think things such as your child making you dinner, or doing other chores around the house. There is no need to insist on chores - it happens naturally.

Children who are raised in a secure attachment rarely ever disobey their parents. Such children are usually cooperative, but in an affectionate way. Most children growing up in the Early Church listened to their parents, not due to fear of punishment, but because they trusted in parents. A child then could also cry easily when they needed something from parents, with mothers diagnosing the need before meeting that need. Parents get a break from constant crying once the child turned age 6. Children past age 6 were cooperative, but in an affectionate way.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous submission: How to properly love your child

Many parents think that they love their children, and at the same time, punish their children and call it "love". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that love is submission, and submission is love. Parents are to submit to their children, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

Christian love for your child is spelled out in Matthew 22:35-40 KJV:

Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and all thy soul, and all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all of the law and the prophets.

The Greek root word translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers, in the context of parenting, performing good works for children. Good works are defined as doing good things for your neighbor, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Children in biblical times were loved by parents just as one would love a neighbor. See also 1 Cor. 13:4-8.

The concept of righteous submission is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refer to doing good things for your child, meeting the child's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Punishment is not a proper form of love for anyone, especially a child. Love is instead defined as submission to your neighbor, including doing good things for your child. Nowhere in the biblical context is there room at the inn for punishing a child and calling it "love". Child punishment is not love, but rather is a form of hatred towards a child. 

Christian parents in the Early Church did not insist on children loving them, but instead loved their children, with this love coming in the form of good works on the part of parents. "Love parents" is a man-made teaching, as parents in biblical times loved their children first. The most a parent can look forward to while their children are still children is their children being affectionate with them as a parent. Affection is not Christian love, and thus children should not be expected to love their parents - love is a verb, and a strong verb at that.

If you avoid punishing your child in all instances, the rewards involve your child taking care of you when you are aging as a parent. If you submit to your child when they are little, the hard work pays off later, with children caring for their parents as they age. However, if your parents expected you to submit, or otherwise abused you by your perceptions, you can shun them. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the law of the land is enough to define child abuse. Most parents think that the Bible has no answers as to what child abuse is defined as. However, the Bible has a definition of child abuse, namely whatever the child perceives as abuse.

The Greek root denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. All parent anger towards children was seen as parental entitlement then. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived by children as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to a child losing heart. Ultimately, this highlighted word refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a basic understanding of trauma. Whenever a child lost faith in God, and became atheist, the parents were put to shame, and were blamed for a non-believing child leaving the faith.

Child abuse was seen under Christian law was defined in biblical times as any abuse perceived by the child as such. Most cases in biblical times were largely self-reported. Whenever a child came forward about child abuse that they were experiencing, the parent was rebuked. The evidence gathered by the rebuke was then turned over to the council, and from there, both parents were put before a council of 3 elders. Christian law then came in the form of an inquisitorial system of jurisprudence, where the council guided the investigation into the parents.

The writers of all 88 books of the Bible were written with an anti-spanking bias. This is because all of the writers were Jews, and Jews never endorsed punitive parenting of any sort. Even King Solomon endorsed attachment parenting in his secular writing, with the rod verses referring to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes in the case of an adult being convicted of a criminal offense. The book of Proverbs is poetry, and is not to be taken literally.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that temper tantrums should not be allowed to happen in a family home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children when they throw a temper tantrums. However, the fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are not bad behavior, but instead evidence of a bad relationship with your child. 

Tending to temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting in the good works of parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for your child, such as meeting the child's every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Temper tantrums do happen a lot today. However, most children growing up in the Early Church did not kick and scream in full tantrum mode. Instead, they cried a deathly, screeching cry that no loving mother could ever ignore. The mother then picked up the child after cooing at the child, holding the child in mammary closeness, and from there, she diagnosed the child's need before meeting that need. In most cases, all the child needed was warmth and affection with mothers.

Children only throw tantrums as a spill-over of suppressed emotion. Children today are not allowed to even feel their emotions. It all starts when children are punished for crying, which only teaches children how to hide their emotions better. Children growing up in the Early Church instead were allowed their full range of emotions, which was burdensome for the mother during the first 6 years, but paid off with a cooperative, affectionate child later. 

Most cries coming from a child under age 6 are due to separation anxiety. Most children growing up in the Early Church morbidly feared that mom would "go away and never come back". This stage in development mostly happened under age 6. When children don't cry all the time, that's when you should worry - think autism. Most children want their mom from day one, even when she is nowhere to be found. A baby who sleeps through the night from day one is surely autistic.

Whining also happened in biblical times, during the latter years of childhood. Children whine in order to\get your attention, and it sure does get a parent's attention. Children naturally whine when they are petitioning for a vulnerable need. If it happens elsewhere, such as in the case of a want, maybe all the child needs is attachment.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!