Black Friday: How to deal with crying and misbehavior in public

Today is Black Friday. Today, the profit margins of businesses nationwide can be expected to go into the black, with Christmas spending on gifts and other assortments stimulating the economy. Black Friday is a hectic day for everyone, and that includes children. Most parents punish their children for crying or engaging in misbehavior in public. Children are expected, from a young age, to be peaceable and orderly, when they can't possibly be due to their age and developmental level.

Punishing a child for misbehaving in public is a moral crime in and of itself, and comes from entitlement, namely parental entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement refers to wanting things from children, period. Wanting to control your child's behavior and demeanor in public is controlling demeanor, thus entitlement on your part as a parent. Children are going to cry, and they are going to do things considered improper under our norms, and you are just going to have to deal with it, and not be so entitled about wanting your children to behave a certain way. Deadly parental entitlement is when want is imposed upon a child, and when that imposition leads to an offense perceived by the child, it constitutes child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in context, as a moral context prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage, merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Many parents get angry when their child throws a fit in public, or maybe spills toys all over the aisle. This sort of behavior is normal in children. Most crying and misbehavior in children is developmentally appropriate behavior. The only exception to this rule is when a child has a developmental disorder such as autism or ADD/ADHD. Otherwise, the child is acting in a manner normal given their age and development, and so "annoying" behavior should be let go, and you as a parent work on that anger to the point where it is non-existent.

A child is clinically entitled, meaning it isn't that they are choosing to be entitled to undermine you. A child wants what they want when they want it, and can't control their wants that well. Children get better with their entitlement automatically as they get older. Children generally don't embrace entitlement, but struggle in it, striving at the lowest level to behave, failing sometimes, getting back up other times and striving to center their entitlement. They always center their entitlement in the way that their parents have their entitlement centered. When children have a secure attachment to their parents, they want to be like their parents, and want to be non-entitled and disciplined like their parents. So, they work at it, and eventually get there. There is no need for punishment or controlling demeanors to "make" children behave. Children are going to want everything in sight in public, and maybe, Christmas might have to come early if they demand hard enough, meaning you'll need to get them what they want right off the shelf. 

When a child cries in public, DO NOT scold or punish them. Simply listen to them and say empathetic things to them, understanding how upset the child must feel. Mothers can simply hold the child to their bosom. Mothers should wear low necklines, not for the men, but so that their crying and upset child can have skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with mothers. Skin-on-skin comforting strategies can also be applied by taking the child to the ladies' room and snuggling with them in a stall in skin-on-skin format. Fathers should simply stand by and empathize with the child, if the child is left alone with them, but usually, the child wants mom, not dad. 

How can a parent not get angry with a child? Be convicted of the knowledge that you are a depraved and decadent sinner/parent who is deserving of absolutely nothing from your child, or anyone else for that matter, with the sinner/parent being grateful for everything that their children bring them. When you take an undeserving attitude towards your child such as this, you don't get angry with your child at all.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why not to threaten children with Santa

Many parents believe in Santa Claus, and many parents teach this myth to their children. Some parents here in the children's rights movement do not believe in Santa Claus at all, meaning Santa doesn't come to many of our houses here in this community. I personally shun Santa Claus because he is a replicate of the Norse god Odin. Santa Claus is used as a behavioral modification tool to "get" children to behave. Christmas is for all children, not just the "good" children.

What is the meaning of Christmas? Jesus Christ was born, and Christmas day is the day we commemorate it. Christ was actually born on September 11, 1 A.D. Since nobody wants to celebrate Christ's birthday on that somber day, we continue to celebrate Christmas on December 25. It is simply a belated birthday party for our Lord Jesus Christ. Christ was valued as God on earth, in child format. Most children were valued and worshipped similarly to Christ, namely as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to convict adults of their charitable role, and report to God the progress in that endeavor. It must have been very eerie for Mary to actually give birth to God Himself, or more aptly, the Son of God.

Threatening a child, for any reason, is the moral crime of parental entitlement, including in the guise of Santa Claus. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement refers to wanting things from children, period. Wanting things from children include wanting control over them, and all attempts to impose your want to control them onto them, and that can include using Santa to threaten children who are not behaving the way you want them to. Deadly parental entitlement is when want is imposed on children, and when this leads to offense, that is child abuse in God's eyes. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding children hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan customs of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children do not misbehave on purpose. Children are people who are still developing into adults, and will not become mature adults until they are a certain age, when they are completely independent and can take of themselves. All children need to behave once they are adults is a good Christian example of discipline and non-entitlement, backed up by attachment parenting, with this setup known as Christian attachment parenting. Threatening children with Santa is useless, because the child just acts up anyway, doesn't he/she? It may be an empty threat, but it may cause fear in the child, and that kind of fear is unnecessary and abuse. Just give the child space to grow up on his/her own. Children develop on their own, not with the help of parents. 

In the mean time, until becoming a responsible adult, they may cry or pout, but such is normal behavior for children to engage in, and behavior they will grow out of in due time. Almost everything we find to be misbehavior in children is actually developmentally appropriate behavior (and when it isn't, think a developmental disorder of some sort), and should be let go or else gently redirected. If the child does not respond to the redirection, they most likely did not understand your words, and won't until a later date - when they become more developmentally mature. Children are clinically entitled, meaning they want what they want when they want it, and can't control their wants. A child's ability to control their wants differs from child to child, and by what age they are. Some children have a developmental disorder such as autism that further hampers development of self-control. Children are not going to be able to be self-controlled and disciplined all the time. At least not until they become adults. They need a Christ to get behind in that regard, until they can behave themselves on their own - and that Christ to get behind is YOU.

How should Christian attachment parenting be done? Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve her husband and her children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with mother and child fast asleep next to each other in the nude, with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin contact. Children went naked for a specific reason in biblical times - so mothers could cuddle them up and snuggle them up when they were crying or upset. Show warmth and love to your crying or tantrumming child, and reassure them through their big feelings. Also, do not say "no" unless you absolutely have to. Children do not have to hear the word "no" uttered all the time. Only when their demands are unreasonable or immoral. There is no need for any threats from Santa of coal, or worse, a "whip that cracks". 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to teach your child thanksgiving - without spanking or punishment

Thanksgiving is just a day away. Thanksgiving is more than just getting full on turkey and stuffing. It is about giving thanks to the Lord for everything we have, for we deserve absolutely none of it. Thanksgiving is named after one of our founding Judeo-Christian family values - thanksgiving. This word is still used in fundamentalist circles, with me being a Christian fundamentalist in admitted format.

Teaching children thanksgiving requires a specific, thankful example for children. Thanksgiving and gratitude do not come in a vacuum. True thanksgiving for the good things in life comes from Christian love. The Greek root word denoting Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing your neighbor first, and yourself last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to your neighbor, expecting absolutely nothing in return. True Love does not come from pride or desire, but from a place of fearful conviction, where you are convicted that you are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing in life. This leads to the sinner paying due penance for their sinful nature by serving their neighbor. Children were also considered your neighbor in biblical times. The phrase "expecting absolutely nothing in return" implies not expecting anything, period. When you take an undeserving attitude, and expect nothing from anyone, you become grateful and thankful for everything. As depraved human beings, we are deserving of absolutely nothing, and so we should be thankful for absolutely everything, because God can take away anything and everything that we own, as well as the world that we live in - He has that power. Children are watching our every move, so if you want them to be thankful this Thanksgiving, give thanks yourself around them. Perhaps invite them to pray for thanks to the Lord for everything.

Every child needs a good example in terms of thanksgiving. However, any thankful example needs to be backed up by something. Punitive measures such as spanking and punishment don't work - they create resentment, and ultimately drives children away from the good values that this country was founded on. Attachment parenting is the only way. Attachment parenting creates a safe place for children to absorb the Judeo-Christian values of thanksgiving in their environment, at their own pace. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ Sacrificed for His children, with children being a Godhead for parents to serve, and with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, following them like goslings follow their mother goose.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children in biblical times were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Women only wore clothing outside of the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping, where mother and child are fast asleep next to each other, with the child soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin contact, in total bliss! Children went naked for a specific reason - so that mothers could cuddle them up and snuggle them up whenever they were crying or upset, and for easy skin-to-skin contact come nighttime. This secure bond translated onto the father automatically. This sort of parenting led to a secure parent-child bond that lasted for a lifetime...The context contained herein is applicable today just as it was in the days of old, albeit with some tweaking. 

Fathers usually developed a parent attraction towards children of the opposite sex, meaning usually daughters. This attraction should be dealt with by following the sexual thoughts about your child to the end using masturbation (pro-social fantasy). In the Early Church, most adult men were pedophiles towards their own children, usually of the abstinent sort that instead masturbated to sexual thoughts of their child. This improved the relationship between father and child...The context contained herein is applicable today just as it was in the days of old.

Attachment parenting is the way towards winning your children over to your values. You don't beat good values into children. You win them over to your values by forming a secure attachment with your children. That gives them a safe place for them to absorb good Judeo-Christian family values, including the value of thanksgiving, at their own pace. Attachment parenting makes children want to be like you, and so when you value being thankful as a family value, and practice it yourself, so will your child. Children see every choice you make, and observe every attitude you come to, and so behave when around children, and take a thankful attitude. Then, attachment parenting should win over your children to those good values that you model.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to parent your pedophilic child

Many parents just know when their child is becoming a pedophile. It is a very low-level observation, usually by tracking which attraction figures children look at. Most parents know where their children are looking, and know at some level that their child is a pedophile. Most parents who find out their child is a pedophile punish and are controlling with their child, and this is where parents get it entirely wrong. Pedophile parenting is not supposed to be harsh and punitive. It is to be listening and loving. 

What is pedophilia? Most pedophiles do not sit on a narcissist. Instead, most pedophiles simply have a form of autism where their age-oriented sexual preferences correspond with their immature developmental level, due to arrested emotional development. Usually, pedophiles have an autistic specialty towards children, where they specialize in knowledge surrounding child care and children's rights. Usually, pedophiles relate to children better than they do other adults, usually only having a social drive for children as friends, and otherwise, they don't want friends. Most individuals with autism are, at best, impatient with children. So, if someone with autism has infinite patience for children, and maybe defends them from being scolded and reprimanded, think pedophile. It is a myth that all pedophiles are religious. Pedophiles are either ultra-religious or else very anti-religious, but usually, they are anti-religious due to being burned by abusive religious parents.

The core of the hatred of pedophiles does not come from children's rights. It is a form of religious child abuse connected to a form of religious bigotry against pedophiles that dates back to Constantine taking over the Christian Church. The hatred and hysteria come from abusive religious parents who sexually shame and abuse their children for having pedophilic sexual fantasies, as well as their sexually shaming "Christian" teachings. Sexually abusive parents of pedophiles stomped all over the sexual fantasies of pedophiles, even using lurching techniques to sexually shame and abuse their children with pedophilia. A common Bible passage misused to shame pedophilic children is Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery already with her in his heart. 

The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, including sexual desire towards children. This refers to sexual desire, to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child. Masturbation was acceptable in biblical times, and was actually required for those without access to a spouse, as a plausible alternative to sex outside of marriage. God has no problem with a pedophile masturbating to thoughts of children, and, in fact, He wants that to happen because sitting on sexual desire leads to entitlement. Therefore, any mention of "evil thoughts" in the Bible, in context, refer to wants and entitlement, meaning want, to the point of imposition.

Pedophilic children are generally highly sensitive, to the point where never cease to be aware of trauma. Most children will sit on a trauma from punitive parenting. A pedophile will run riot and try to overthrow their parents, usually taking a rebellious attitude towards their parents to the extreme. All forms of punitive parenting are prohibited explicitly in the Bible. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments and controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children then were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

All a pedophilic child needs regarding their pedophilia is someone to talk to, and a parent to listen to their crushes on children. It is a form of talking about the issue known as clinical celebratory discussion of pedophilia. This is not an interrogational way of dealing with pedophilia, but casual, friendly discussion about sexual thoughts about children, including crushes on children. It doesn't come out like a bomb, but instead is like disclosing any low-level mental health disorder. There is likely to be a lot of giggling or laughing gas expressions of attractions to children. Usually, the discussion goes dormant after it is allowed for a while, and that is because they don't need to talk past that point - they can deal with their condition on their own. Until then, they need to know that they can talk to you about anything and everything under the sun, and that, even if they are a pedophile, you will still love them.

The depraved and decadent parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why abuser registries benefit pedophiles (and why we need to register them ALL)

Many people hold abuse registries as an anti-pedophile opinion. I am opposed to limiting registries to sex offenders, and want to see any adult who abuses a child put on that registry, and then have child abuse definitions expanded. There is a reason why I support registries as a pedophile, and it has nothing to do with anything I did wrong. Pedophiles are at high risk for child sexual abuse as children - and that is where the actual hysteria came from.

Where does the hysterical prejudice against pedophiles come from? Many think it comes from the movement where I sit. It does not. We just created a misnomer, knowing enough about the issue of child sexual abuse to know that most pedophiles were victims of child sexual abuse. In the 1970s, when our movement started, many people on the opposing end were calling themselves pedophiles when they didn't fit the diagnostic criteria for pedophilia. 

Pedophilia is a mental disorder, not merely a sexual orientation, and not a choice. The key to solving the issue of mental health stigma is to admit to pedophilia as a mental illness, and so I do. The main problem for actual pedophiles is that no therapist knows how to treat them. Most therapists do not know what, or rather who, a pedophile is. 

Where does this mental health stigma of pedophiles come from? Most pedophiles endure severe religious child abuse as a child, usually involving lurching behavior intended to stomp all over fantasies. Most pedophilic children are punished as children for their fantasies, many times through corrective rape. A large amount of pedophiles suffered child sexual abuse themselves, and they suffered it because they were a pedophile, and because a pedophile is an easy target for such abuse.

Pedophile victims of child abuse deserve justice. I support scrapping the old registry, and creating a new one for ALL abusers of children, and we can call it the parent registry, since most adults who abuse children wear the glorified title of parent. Most pedophile survivors of child abuse hate their parents with a vengeance, and carry around a "parent" trauma. Most pedophiles that I have dealt with at the Virtuous Pedophiles forum were anti-religious, and many hated me because I was a Christian. Many parent detectives are pedophiles, and they don't hide it. 

A pedophile never forgets abuse from parents. Parents are the offenders that need to be registered. We don't need to register people for things such as open lewdness or indecent exposure. Let's keep the registry to offenders who have actually abused someone, and expand it to every single parent and adult who has abused a child, and then change the law so that children can perceive their own abuse. The core of all survivors of parental abuse are pedophiles, as pedophiles remember their whole childhoods, enough to, many times, be very confrontational about their trauma. Pedophile trauma is very jaded. You hate adults in particular, because adults hate children, and you love children and never will stop loving children.

Maybe most sexual offenses against children are situational offenses, but why should we care about someone who made the wrong choice due to being irresponsible with their sexual health? All they had to do was whip it out and masturbate to the child crush, and then they would be cured. Most actual pedophiles know this, and do the right thing. An actual pedophile does not sexually abuse a child, and if they do, they don't deserve that label as a medical excuse for abuse. As an ordinary citizen with pedophilia myself, I don't care about a sex offender who groomed a child and made their life a living horror. I love children, and honor God's Law, and so I don't behave that way around children anymore (I did in the past). It makes me very angry to know that such an adult abused a child that way, and I only wish them well if they seek to reform their sexual hatred of children.

I myself am a sex offender, albeit an unregistered one. I bring up this topic a lot in order to warn people of my risk, and to be honest in a pro-social manner. In one location, I followed around young girls until they became annoyed and uncomfortable, thus a sexual offense under my Christian purity and cleanliness standards. I was obsessive and delusional about the child targets that I victimized, thinking I could actually go somewhere with an attraction to a child. I would have deserved to be registered for my crimes, if that was available, and in some countries (ex. United Kingdom, Iceland). I am a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else, and am to be grateful for all the clemency that was shown to me.

What is pedophilia? Most pedophiles are not narcissists. Most pedophiles simply have a form of autism where their age-oriented sexual preferences correspond with the developmental level of the individual with autism, due to arrested emotional development. Most pedophiles simply have an autistic specialty in children, meaning they can relate to children more so than fellow adults, and may only want to be friends with children, isolating themselves from adults. Usually, pedophiles live on the fringes of communities, peaceably existing alongside their neighbors, while not talking to them and keeping to themselves. A pedophile has a gift with children, when they are non-abusive, and are born nurturers. I myself am very good with children, and don't find them annoying one bit. I love being around children in public venues, especially the attractive young girls! When someone with autism has infinite patience with children, think pedophile.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sex offenders who prey on children and commit fornications against them will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in torrents of everlasting Hell-fire! Repent!

The attachment parenting traditions of the Bible: Why attachment parenting is in our traditions

Many parents think that they have to punish their children, because it is in our traditions to punish children. This is a common sentiment amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children or else are controlling with them. These parents often see child punishment as a Christian tradition. I myself am a Christian dominionist. God cast a dominion on my worldview, and I must believe just as God does, and not as the world panders me to believe. I also am anti-spanking, and my Christian tradition calls for Christian attachment parenting, just as it was practiced in the Early Church.

We, as a society, are a Christian nation. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context, in order to gain wisdom and guidance as to how our society should be set up. The Bible is codified law handed down by God Himself to cast a dominion on all of mankind, knowing only a few will heed the warning. We as a nation were founded on Christian family values, and those values should be enacted into law. Most people don't understand is that such values include attachment parenting, and that fact is proven time and time again in the context. 

Christian attachment parenting is best understood by the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ, sacrificing for the children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children being a Godhead for parents to serve, and with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are depraved and decadent sinners who are deserving of absolutely nothing from their children, and have to pay due penance for their sin nature by being a bondservant to their children. Children rested securely in the presence of their parents, just as goslings rest securely with their mother goose.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages of offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children in biblical times were not seen just as "pure" or "innocent". Children in the Early Church, as well as their Jewish predecessors, were seen as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to convict parents of their charitable role towards children, and report to God what kind of service they received from their parents. Parents then were merely hired bondservants, serving children as they would God, fearing and revering their children, as children could turn them into the Lord for the smallest iota of needs not provided for. Parents had to please God by pleasing their child, keeping their child happy.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting in the 1st Century was skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with mother and child fast asleep in the nude, and with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin contact. By day, children ranged next to mothers, following them around like goslings follow a mother goose. Children went naked for a specific reason in biblical times - so that mothers could cuddle them up and snuggle them up when children were crying or upset. For the first six years of childhood, time with children was to be spent together. For the last six years of childhood, time with children was to be spent apart, with fathers encouraging bold feats of independence. 

The mere presence of fathers in biblical times during the child's formative years created a father-child bond that would last forever. For fathers, however, attachment parenting triggers a parent attraction in fathers, which should be dealt with by way of pro-social fantasy, meaning engaging in masturbatory fantasy in order to purge unrequited lusts towards children. Purging unrequited lusts of any kind through masturbation was actually a Christian requirement in the Early Church. Adult sexual entitlement is the main entitlement that fathers struggle with, and they should struggle against approaching their children sexually by re-channeling their desires for their children by way of solo masturbation.

The depraved and decadent sinners who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Provoke not your children to anger": What this means in practice

Many parents believe that it is okay to punish or be controlling with children. This is a common sentiment amongst American parents. Most American parents punish or are controlling with their children. This is a sad fact, but a true one nonetheless. The fact of the matter is that God has issued a great commandment to all parents everywhere. "Provoke not your children to anger". 

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this refers to wanting things from children, period. It is not good to want anything in life, including from children. But, since we all want something from children, it is good to ask politely and appropriately, accepting when children can't or won't give us what we want from them. Deadly parental entitlement is when want is imposed on a child, in which case, once that leads to offense by the child, it becomes child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time (see also Exod. 21:16). Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context for a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

What does it mean not to provoke a child to anger? In the Early Christian context that this commandment was given to, damages and offenses towards a child was understood, at the bare minimum, as the slightest of tears. With that said, tears in parenting are inevitable, so in order to prove your non-entitlement as a parent, you have to constantly attend to and listen to your child's tears. In biblical times, a crying child that was unattended was immediately seen as in danger of child abuse. The ancients had their standard of child abuse, and when a child was crying without support or comfort, usually coming in skin-on-skin fashion, that was seen as a provocation to anger towards the child, and thus an offense or damage. Other forms of damages were marks and bruises on the child (no matter how temporary), and loss of virginity (in the case of child sexual abuse).

The parenting manuals clearly spelled out how a child was to be treated. Children were not simply forced into a role of purity and innocence, otherwise expected to be seen and not heard. Children were seen as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to convict parents of their charitable role, reporting to God about how charitable their parents really were. Children were constantly judging parents as to how they were treated, according to the parenting manual excavated by archeologists. The cardinal rule in parenting was not to provoke your child to anger, meaning offend them or damage them in any way. Parenting advice in ancient times was not intended as parent-to-parent comfort, but as fearful conviction straight from the church leadership. Alongside the Epistle to the Colossians, such parenting manuals were attached to the letter as an addendum. Children were to be feared in ancient societies, and in Early Christian society, children were to be feared reverently, with parents struck with reverent fear and terror. Mothers were put in a pro-social paranoid state where they knew that if they failed to provide one bit for their child, they were that careless for God.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing when outside the home, otherwise going in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Mothers were required by law then to comfort their crying child, lest they appear as a child abuser. Mothers usually comforted and reassured children then by way of skin-on-skin comforting strategies. Mothers went in the nude at home, and children went naked so that mothers could easily cuddle them up and snuggle them up when they were crying or upset, co-snuggling and co-sleeping next to children, with mothers soothing their children with sustaining comfort and affection. Refusing to do any of this, as per the parenting manuals handed to church parishioners in the Early Church, equated to a provocation to anger against children under the Law. Mothers then were reverently afraid of "getting it wrong", which drove them to excel at motherhood in terms of offering nourishment and sustenance. Offending a child then, due to their vulnerable status, was the same as offending God.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke not your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!