Temper tantrums: Why not to use punitive measures on children when they tantrum

Many parents have been there. A child throwing a massive temper tantrum. This is a common and normal behavior in children. Most parents either ignore a crying child, or else punish them for it. Temper tantrums are a common reason for children being punished or ignored. 

The Bible prohibits all punitive measures in parenting, including ignoring or punishing temper tantrums. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child. stemming from entitlement. The key here is to avoid offense in children. It is one thing to stop spanking your child for temper for temper tantrums. However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing them altogether for that matter.  You need to avoid offense in a crying child. If you ignore a crying child, you hurt their feelings, and offend them by omission. Whenever you lose your cool with your child, including while setting limits, you definitely need to apologize for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church.This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patirias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting causing offenses in children as perceived by a child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Offense by omission is whenever you offend a child by way of refusing to care for their needs, including by way of having them "cry it out". Any time you refuse to meet the needs of a ward as a caregiver, you offend them by omission. 

Temper tantrums were not seen by Christian parents in the Early Church as bad behavior. Instead, childhood temper tantrums were tended to with tender loving care. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in close proximity to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did her child. Whenever a child cried, mothers swooped in to troubleshoot as to what the issue is. Usually, all the child needed was mom, including possibly her milk as well. 

The purpose of a child crying is not to undermine you. Instead, the goal is to break you down, and break you down some more, until you find out why the child is crying about. It is their only way of petitioning for their needs before the age of 6. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger by way of punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend  into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!