"Benign deprivation": Why telling children "no" frequent and often is child abuse

Many parents buy into the doctrine of "benign" deprivation. What this means ultimately is that parents are to say "no" to children "frequent and often". Most American parents think that frequent use of the word "no" is necessary for children to hear. However, frequent use of the word "no" can be perceived as child abuse.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in a child. However, hurt feelings in children is inevitable in parenting, hence the need for parents to be willing to apologize whenever they hurt their child's feelings. One thing that hurts a child's feelings is the word "no". In most cases, children have meltdowns when they cannot accept the word "no". The idea is to give a meaningful apology whenever your child cannot accept the word "no". Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent. However, if you ever set a limit out of anger or haste, you should definitely give a formal apology whenever you lose your cool with your child as a parent, then committing to never lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your children alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Once you master apologizing to children, you should avoid hurting your child's feelings by only saying "no" when absolutely necessary, meaning almost never. Even then, there is usually a nicer way to put it. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandment, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan parenting customs, which were punitive in nature. Paul, contrary to popular legend, opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

As a general rule, even the word "no" was banned in the Early Church in parenting, under customary law. The only exceptions to this rule is if the petitioned request from the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever children cried or had a meltdown due to the word "no", they were met by an apology, usually in the form of a reassurance of good intent. But, if the limit was set out of anger or haste, a full apology was in order.

However, Christian parents in the Early Church rarely gave children a flat-out "no". In most cases, parents used nicer-sounding words with their children, such as "that isn't possible", "that can't happen", or "that won't work". Even in cases of fornication, parents simply reassured boys in particular that they will get a chance some other time with the woman of his dreams, and that all good things wait.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why to apologize to your child when they talk back

Many parents think that children talk back in order to "undermine parental authority". Back talk is a common motive behind punishment in many cases. However, the fact of the matter is that back talk instead happens when a child cannot accept a set limit. Refusal to apologize to a defiant child is child abuse.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. In order to not abuse your child, you need to avoid offense in children. However, since hurting children's feelings is inevitable in parenting, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. One expression of hurt feelings in children when their feelings are hurt is back talk. Back talk comes from a child that is unable to accept a set limit. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents. However, if you ever set a limit out of anger or haste, you definitely need to apologize for losing your cool as a parent, and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool when setting limits alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, and is translated roughly to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishing children. Paul, contrary to popular legend was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Many times, children's feelings are hurt when they hear the word "no". Most children talk back when they cannot accept a set limit, especially the word "no". Setting unnecessary limits was unlawful in biblical times, with limits only being allowed in the case of a child behaving in an unsafe and/or immoral manner. The word "no" was banned in the Early Church except when the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral in nature. Even then, parents usually found a nicer way of declining a request than the word "no", such as "that isn't possible", "that can't happen", or "that won't work".

Any parenting motivated by anger in the Early Church was seen as akin to a viper lashing out at its prey. Most parenting then was not done out of anger, but was instead done out of worry or concern. Most Christian parents in the Early Church worried a lot about their children, meaning they never got angry with their children at all. Mother Mary was very much worried about her son Jesus, and most mothers then worried like that. Most Jewish mothers today worry a lot, meaning it is a myth that a Jewish mother is a nag.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Biblical spanking": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents think that they have the right - maybe even the duty - to spank or punish a child. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents use the phrase "spare the rod, spoil the child" to support punitive parenting. This phrase, in and of itself, sums up 6 verses that mention the rod. However, most people do not know what these verses actually mean.

One notable rod verse is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew root word translated "son" is ben and refers to a mature adult son. The Hebrew root word translated "rod" is shebet and refers to a switch in the context of the book of Proverbs. This verse refers to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered to the bare back, as a sentence for a crime. Striking another Jew outside of a courtroom setting was considered unlawful, with striking a minor child being completely unlawful then. King Solomon instead recommended attachment parenting for minor children in his secular writings. The reason for this commandment because, otherwise, fathers would refuse to whip his son. 

All 6 verses of the book of Proverbs that mention the rod are repealed verses. Christ did away with the harsh punishments of the Old Testament by way of His Work on the cross. One of these punishments done away with by Christ was the 40 minus 1 lashes.

The book of Proverbs does not refer to any "biblical spanking". However, God does weigh in on the spanking issue, and expands upon it. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid offense in children. However, hurting a child's feelings is inevitable in parenting, and thus you should be willing to give a meaningful apology to children whenever you hurt their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you should definitely give a formal apology whenever you lose your cool with your child, and then commit to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement even then. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, and is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The most common form of child punishment in Ancient Greece was an open-handed spanking to a bare bottom. Spanking was a pagan tradition then, and the Apostle Paul would have none of it in the churches that he oversaw as deacon. However, Paul used the word ερεθιζο as a root word for provoking a child to anger, meaning offending a child at all in the Christian tense of offending a child. When Rome took over, the pagan custom of spanking children was absorbed into the Western Church.

Any anger in parenting was banned in the Early Church. Anger at a child was seen as akin to a viper lashing out at its prey. Parenting then was not motivated by anger, but instead was motivated by worry and concern. Most Christian parents then did not get angry with their children ever, and when they did everyone took the side of the child, mobbing the parents for their entitlement whenever it spilled over into public.  

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws against child abuse

Many parents believe that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own understanding of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse is such.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was seen then as entitlement. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in a parent, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing a child is to avoid offense in children. However, hurt feelings in children are inevitable in parenting, and so parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they hurt their children's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents. However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child, and then commit to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was deemed entitlement even in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other form of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages in children, namely childhood trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. When a child lost heart, and became an atheist, it was seen as a sign of child abuse, not a sign of a "lost soul" to be "won over". 

The ancients even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers in this context to any sexual interaction between an adult and a child. Any time a child growing up in the Early Church perceived sexual advances from a child, it was deemed child sexual abuse, even if the child liked it. These norms exist today, but in all 50 states, there are legal ways to have sex with a child, usually involving a low age of consent. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing the punishment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones in his secular writings. The rod of correction in the book of Proverbs instead referred to the 40 minus 1 lashes, which was unlawful to do to a minor child. 

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. The Bible is a founding document of this nation, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society look to the Bible and its context for guidance as to how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes have roots in Judeo-Christian family values. It just so happens that the Bible was mistranslated, partially on purpose to keep a tradition of punitive parenting going. However, the commandment not to provoke a child to anger is obvious, once exegeted, meaning it is not a nonsense verse by far. The Bible here says not to offend a child ever. Indeed, you should avoid offense in everyone, but the Apostle Paul made it extra clear that you should avoid offense in children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage does not endorse spanking

Many parents think the Bible is pro-spanking. This notion comes from the belief that a few verses in Proverbs, as well as one passage in Hebrews, allows for a parent to punish a child. However, the key passage in Hebrews is where the pro-spanking case falls apart. Heb. 12:5-6 does not even have to do with earthly parenting, but instead enduring hardship.

God's Word on enduring hardship is Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

This passage, when interpreted correctly, gives me comfort. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it. God does not literally whip His children. However, God punishes His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the believer. When you got home from a long day at work, you instead said "God whipped me hard today". This passage was meant as comfort to the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome.

God never intended for His Parenting example to be used by earthly parents. God indeed does punish His children, but that works because God only because He only punishes His children when it does not harm the child. However, earthly parents only punish their children when they in fact do harm the child. Heb. 12:5-6 does not have to do with an earthly spanking. However, God does weigh in on the spanking issue, and expands on it. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid offense in children. However, hurt feelings are inevitable in parenting, and thus parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they hurt their child's feelings. Usually, a reassurance of good intent is all that is necessary. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you should definitely apologize for losing your cool with your child, and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with the writers of all 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - being Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing the punitive parenting of children. Even Jesus Himself, wrote a parenting manual, and right there opposed punitive parenting of children in earthly parenting.

Christian parents in the Early Church were not motivated by anger directed towards a child. A Christian mother, namely in the Early Church, instead worried a lot. Parenting in biblical times was motivated not primarily by anger, but by worry or concern. The only parent anger allowed then was to protect a child from an interloper. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Positive reinforcement: Understanding the Judeo-Christian tradition of positive reinforcement

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, most American parents think that discipline equates to punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that God's Law prescribes a specific form of discipline, known as positive reinforcement.

God's Law on child discipline is stated in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid offense in children. However, it is inevitable that children's feelings are hurt in the course of parenting, in which case parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology when they hurt their children's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you should definitely apologize to your child, and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losingj your cool alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement even in the Early Church. The first stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought with them into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating as "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking and other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

This second stanza clarifies what discipline is acceptable, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a certain specific form of nurturing, namely of the teaching sort. Children growing up in the Early Church were left to form their own discipline, and when they were caught in the act of showings discipline, they were praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children to follow, with this example being instead backed up by praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. Children also need religious instruction from fathers, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. Whenever the child was caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were praised and encouraged to keep up the Bible study, with fathers saying to children "you can ask me anything you want about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. These two stanzas work together to instruct parents in the Hebraic tradition of positive reinforcement, with this Judeo-Christian tradition dating centuries before even the coming of Christ. 

Positive reinforcement should not include rewards systems. Rewards systems count as punishment when the child does not get their desired prize. Instead, positive reinforcement should be spontaneous in nature. Whenever you see discipline in a child, praise and reward them for it. From there, the praised behavior then shows more and more, with children being eager to impress fathers in particular.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign deprivation" : Why saying "no" to children "frequent and often" is child abuse

Many parents think children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude on the part of parents. Most American parents say "no" to children "frequent and often" as a means of teaching a child that the word "no" is a part of life. However, the fact of the matter is that the word "no" should be used seldom, meaning almost never. The frequent use of the word "no" can be seen as child abuse, if perceived as such by a child. This attitude on the part of parents is known as "benign" deprivation.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you need to avoid offense in children. But, hurt feelings are inevitable in parenting, and thus you should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. One common way to hurt a child's feelings is the word "no" said to a child. Whenever you upset a child with the word "no", it is a good time to apologize to your child for hurt feelings, lest it be officially an offense. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents. However, if you ever say "no" as a parent out of anger or haste, you definitely need to apologize to your child, and then commit to never to lose your cool alone with your child, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan customs of parenting, which were punitive in nature. Paul, contrary to popular legend, opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under\Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The word "no", in the Early Church, as a general rule, was banned under customary law. The only exception to that rule was when the child's petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Usually, when the child could not accept the word "no", they were given a meaningful apology by way of reassuring the child of good intent. But, when parents lost their cool with their child, they gave a formal apology, then committing to never losing your cool with your child ever again. Even then, parents usually found a nicer-sounding way to say "no" to their children, such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible".

Parent anger was nearly absent in the Early Church. Most parenting in the Early Church was not motivated by anger, and instead was motivated by worry or concern. A Christian mother then simply was the type to worry a lot about her children. She never had the entitled backbone necessary to ever be angry with her child. Fathers also nurtured, but from a distance, in a teaching manner.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adults attracted to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many organizations go by the concept of collective responsibility. This basically means that organizations should stop potential sex offenders from infiltrating them. However, we all are individually responsible for their sexual behavior. The fact of the matter is that all adults are capable of child sexual abuse under the right/wrong conditions.

Most child sexual abuse occurs in a sexually repressed environment. Usually, they complain of a heartache for a specific child target, and then find an excuse to sexually punish that target. A heartache involves repressed sexual lusts to the point of bodily pain. It is like a monkey on their back, meaning one that deserves "correction". They could have simply masturbated to that heartache, and then it be deemed acceptable, but no, they had to do it that way.

The Greek root word translated "lust" is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here to sexual lusts that the adult harbors as a sexual narcissist. Usually, all they needed to do was discharge the fantasy through masturbation. But no, they had to rape a child in order to get their jollies out on a poor, vulnerable child.

Pedophilia, in and of itself, is not a moral crime. Most pedophiles are indeed the last people to, abuse a child in any way. Most child sexual abuse committed by pedophiles comes in the form of sexual harassment. Most pedophiles experience their sexual attractions on one level - the child level. Most adults feel sexual attraction at the narcissist level in relation to children, meaning the driven level. I myself avoid that trap by sexually fantasizing about children as often as possible - and now sexual attraction to me happens when a young girl stands out in her beauty.

Instead of me having a heartache for children, I get heartthrobs in relation to children. I myself have a sexual harassment problem in relation to children, meaning my pedophilic attractions came in the form of train cars, one after the other, with everyone around me hoping for the caboose. I was an obvious abuser, meaning that I made public my admiration for young girls.

A pedophile is not an anger packet directed towards a child. A pedophile is a human being with a sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophiles have a rule-oriented form of immature autism, but with the rules not applying to a child. How do you spot a pedophile? Look for a man with autism who is a natural as nurturing a child. Most adults with autism don't get along with children. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent!

"Spare the rod, spoil the child": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents think that the Bible teaches to spank your child, or else punish them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that the Bible is a pro-spanking document. However, the Bible is an anti-spanking document.

Christ's Work on the cross repeals the rod verses in Proverbs. One verse to mention is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes. 

The Hebrew root word translated "son" is ben and refers to a mature adult son. The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers, in context, to a switch. However, this passage here refers to judicial corporal punishment, meaning not domestic corporal punishment, with it being unlawful then to strike a minor for any reasons. Striking a fellow Jew was only allowed in a courtroom setting. This passage ultimately refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered to the bare back, within the context of a courtroom. This verse was necessary because, otherwise, the father would refuse to whip his son. Fathers alone had no right to mete out punishment, with fathers instead being deputized by the state to punish his child, regardless as to how much they excused their child's misconduct.

Christ's Work on the cross repealed the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. These punishments included the 40 minus 1 lashes. The curse of the Law was the fact the no Jew could keep the Law perfectly. Christ kept the Law perfectly, and thus the curse of the Law was lifted. 

The Bible does not weigh in on spanking in Proverbs, proper. The Bible, on the issue of corporal punishment, refers to a judicial punishment that does not exist today. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid offense in children. However, hurt feelings in children are inevitable in parenting. Thus, you should be willing to meaningfully apologize to children for hurting their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent in parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you should definitely apologize to your child, and then commit to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as this is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement even in biblical times. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly refers to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on child, such as spanking and other forms of punishment of a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

It is a myth that the biblical context condones child sexual abuse. In many ancient cultures, fathers sexually corrected their children when they cried too much for the mother's patience. However, in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, mothers were there all of the time, with children staying right next to mom through the first 6 years of childhood. Fathers were never allowed to sexually correct a child, with fathers instead masturbating to their parent attraction to their children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. However, any parent anger directed towards children was seen as parental entitlement then. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. However, hurt feelings in children are inevitable in parenting, and so you should be willing to meaningfully apologize whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents. But, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you should definitely apologize for losing your cool with your child, then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement even in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The Early Christians had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. This word refers literally to a child losing heart, and succumbing to religious trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, they were seen as having trauma, not merely "lost souls" needing to be "won over". 

The ancients even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to anything considered sexually amoral then. Any sexual interaction between an adult and a child was seen as fornication then. Whenever a child perceived sexual attention, it was child sexual abuse, even if the child liked it. A man in the Early Church was only allowed two outlets - sex with his wife, or else righteous masturbation without pornography. One egregious sexual offense then was a man raping his child. Also banned in the Early Church was pornography, including, but not limited to, pornography depicting children. I myself, as a man, find it immeasurably helpful to righteously masturbate to thoughts of children without pornography. Now, children simply light up when dressed in showy attire. Child sexual abuse was rare in biblical times, meaning next to non-existent.

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of internal investigation. In most cases, a child confided into the church elder or deacon. Whenever the child disclosed being the victim an abusive incident, the parents were called before the council of 3 elders. If the parents defended themselves at all, they were swiftly excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no good Jew ever endorsing punitive parenting of any kind. Even King Solomon  recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod of correction consisting of the 40 minus 1 lashes against an adult son in particular. 

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context to know how to live and get along with each other. It just so happens that the Jewish scholarly writings on parenting were not translated into English from the Hebrew until around the 1960s. We now can learn a lot from our Jewish counterparts on parenting.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child without punishment or shaming

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common goal in parenting. However. most American parents equate discipline and punishment. The fact of the matter is that proper discipline in parenting involves catching children being good, as opposed to being caught being bad.

God's Law on child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including parent anger directed towards children. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your children - you need to avoid offense in children. However, hurting children's feelings is inevitable in parenting, and thus you need to be willing to meaningfully apologize to your child whenever you cause upset in that child. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent in parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you definitely need to give a meaningful apology whenever you lose your cool with your child, then committing to never losing your cool ever again, as losing your cool alone is entitlement, and was seen in the Early Church as entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

This second stanza specifies which discipline is acceptable, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with children. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a certain specific form of nurturing, namely of the teaching sort. Children were left to form their own discipline, and when they did form discipline, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for children to follow, but backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment or shaming. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is better translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. This word, when understood in context, refers to a specific form of instructing children. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. Whenever fathers caught their child in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep the faith, with fathers saying things along the lines of "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. This passage denotes the Judeo-Christian tradition of positive reinforcement, with this commandment referring to the Hebraic tradition of catching children being good. The Hebraic concept of child discipline refers to not offending your child, but instead praising and encouraging favored behaviors and beliefs. 

Sometimes, children need limits. However, them accepting limits is a whole other story. Whenever a child's feelings were hurt by set limits, parents should give a meaningful apology whenever they cause a child's feelings to be hurt. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent/ However, if you set a limit out of anger or haste, you should definitely give a formal apology, and then commit never to losing your cool ever again, as losing your cool, in and of itself, is entitlement.

Most ancient cultures had a ventricle for the father when children became unmanageable. The mother would hand over the child, with the father then "handing-me-down-the-slate" in terms of gaslighting. However, in the Early Church, this custom was absent. Mothers never handed over their child to any man for sexual correction. Fathers did discipline, but only by praise or encouragement.

The depraved and entitlement parent who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your child in the Lord without punishment or shaming

Many parents want their children to be instructed in religion. However, most American parents think that children need "the devil beaten out of them". This is a common attitude especially amongst fundamentalist parents. But, the fact of the matter is that passing down the faith can and should be done without punishment or shaming.

God's Law on religious instruction is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza clarifies for the second that religious instruction should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid offense in children. However, hurting your child's feelings is inevitable in parenting, and thus you should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you cause your child to be upset. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology, and then committing to never losing your cool ever again, as losing your cool with a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive standards on children, such as spanking or other punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Religion is not something you beat into children. Children have an inborn need for religion. The Greek root word translated "admonition" in the second stanza of this passage is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is better translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. This word, as understood in context, refers to a specific form of instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep up the good work, with fathers then saying "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This form of religious instruction was part of the Judeo-Christian tradition of positive reinforcement, meaning the Hebraic tradition of catching children being good.

Children develop religion at their own pace. There is no need to hasten the religious development of children. For example, grateful postures are not something to force on children. Children grow grateful postures as they develop, and are a quick way to check on the progress of religious development. I tie my hands behind my back whenever I am out and about, and that is a reminder to others that they are in the presence of the elect. Nobody taught me - I learned it all on my own.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: Why back talk is not deserving of punishment

Many parent have to deal with it. Most children talk back to their parents at some point during their childhood. This is normal childhood behavior in children. However, most parents believe that children should be punished for talking back. But, the fact of the matter is that back talk is that children talk back when they cannot accept a limit. Whenever you refuse to apologize for hurting your child's feelings in this regard, you are guilty of child abuse.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. The idea behind not abusing your child is to avoid offense in a child. However, it inevitable that children's feelings are going to be hurt in the course of parenting, and thus parents need to be willing to apologize meaningfully to children that they caused to be upset. Children oftentimes are upset when they cannot accept a limit. One way that children express displeasure due to set limits is by talking back. Whenever your child talks back to you, you owe them an apology. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent in parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you need to give a formal apology, and then committing never to losing your cool with your children ever again, as losing your cool as a parent is entitlement, with was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandment, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Back talk is a common motive for parents to spank or otherwise punish their children. However, the main reason why children talk back is that they cannot accept a set limit. The idea is to reassure children of your good intent whenever they talk back.

It is good to set limits, but only when absolutely necessary. Christian parents in the Early Christian churches were only allowed to set direct limits when the child was behaving in an unsafe or immoral manner. Sometimes, children petitioned their parents for goodies, and they usually got what they wanted. However, if the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral, parents declined the request. However, children were rarely told "no" flat out, and instead were given nicer-sounding phrases, such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". When a child can't accept a limit, and talk back, it is good to apologize by way of reassuring good intent in parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents believe that the ancients in the Bible did not have a concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own child abuse definition - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent feeling sorely disappointed when their child does not give them what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards children was deemed entitlement in the Early Church. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The idea behind not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children, meaning that parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they hurt their children's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you definitely need to give your children a formal apology, then commit never to lose your cool with your child again, as losing your cool with your child, in and of itself, is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. However, even bumping into a child in public is child abuse if you are unwilling to apologize to the child for invading their personal space. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated as "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of child abuse.

The ancients even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word denoting fornication is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to, in relation to children, any sexual interaction between an adult and a child. Any time a child in the Early Church perceived sexual advances from an adult, it was seen as child sexual abuse, even if the child liked it. Intergenerational marriage was banned in the Early Church, as marriages had to be equitable in nature, meaning the marriage had to be same age or else with a bride at least 4 years older than the groom. Pedophilia in and of itself was not unlawful, but sexual relations with a child was considered child sexual abuse. The only sexual outlets acceptable for a man in the Early Church were with his wife, and/or righteous masturbation without pornography.

Child abuse was prosecuted by church authorities in the Early Church. In most cases, the investigation started when an abused child confided into a church elder or deacon. From there, the parents were called before the council. If the parents were defensive at all, the council handed down the guilty verdict, and from there, the child was relocated, usually to a member of extended family. If nobody stepped up to the plate, a child savior took in the child, with the "child savior" being a non-contact pedophile who was charged with the foster care of children.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing the punishment of a child. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod of correction referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes. 

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of Judeo-Christian values. It just so happens that the Bible was grossly mistranslated at the Latinate level. However, the Bible is clear on one thing - do not offend your child. The translation of the Bible is fallible, with the original Greek and Hebrew, as understood in context, being the Infallible Word of God. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents believe that the Bible commands spanking and other forms of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents cite a group of passages in Proverbs and one passage in Hebrews as their so-called "proof" that God is pro-spanking. However, the key passage for pro-spanking advocates is the passage in Hebrews 12:5-8 sits on shaky ground, and ultimately has nothing to do with earthly parenting.

God's Word on trials and tribulations is spelled out in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

 And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

When interpreted correctly, this passage is comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it. Ultimately, this word is a metaphor for trials and tribulations sent the way of the believer. This type of metaphor is considered rod language. Instead of saying then "I had a long day at work", you said "God whipped me hard today", God punishes His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the believer. However, God only punishes His children when it does not harm them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does harm them. This passage was intended by the Apostle Paul to reassure the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome.

God does not want His Parenting methods to be used by earthly parents, as earthly parents would get it wrong and cause harm to children. Heb. 12:5-6 does not talk about earthly parenting. However, God des weigh in on the spanking issue, as well as proper parenting in general. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid offense in a child. Hurt feelings in children are inevitable in parenting. The key to avoiding offense in children is to be willing to apologize whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from a parent. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child, and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool as a parent, in and of itself, is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

A common punishment in Ancient Greece for children was a spanking to the bare bottom. Spanking originated as a pagan form of behavioral modification in children. Paul would have none of it in the churches that he oversaw as a deacon. When Rome took over, those customs were absorbed into the Roman Catholic Church, and that's where we get the concept of spanking from.

Not only was spanking banned in the Early Church, but so was any parent anger directed towards a child. Parenting then was not motivated by anger, but instead was motivated by worry or concern. Any parent anger directed towards a child was seen then as akin to a viper lashing out at its prey. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let then be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!