Why pedophiles are NOT the one's raping children (rapists are)

Many people say pedophiles abuse children, oftentimes minimizing the damage to a few slight touches that somehow scar a child forever. Rapists are seen as control freaks towards women, and pedophiles inappropriate "flirts" towards children. Most child sexual abuse does not go that way. 

A pedophile is a "flirt" towards a child, usually in an alternate fantasy world of theirs that has nothing to the real world. Pedophilia is daydreams about sex and romance with a child that can never be realized as a fact, due to the sensory preferences of children in terms of perception of sexual arousal that instinctively makes adults threatening no matter what.

Who are the rapists of children? The same scum that rape adults. Most child rape occurs against preteen and teen girls, starting at puberty and possibly lasting into adulthood, whereas a pedophile is drawn to prepubescent children and children under age 14. With most children, it is the same adult males that are raping women. Marital rape is the most common form of rape, with even that being prohibited by the Bible (1 Cor. 7:1-5), with the man submitting to the woman's needs in the biblical context, and then maybe accommodating that of man as a reward. Marital rape is when it is assumed that the wife wants sex without any contractual consent that is informed in nature (i.e. not while drunk or high). Many times, he's raping his teenage daughter as well, as is the case with about 80% of child sexual abuse cases...They're parents, and they're rapists. 

Most child rapes are singular in nature, even if multiple in count. Usually, they happen in authoritarian homes where the parent has an attraction to the child, which they use to dissociate from the pain and harm they cause their child to feel from corporal punishment, and then try to "make up" with them by way of rape, which only makes things worse. Ordinary trauma bonding such as "lovingly explaining afterwards" serve the same function, are the same level of abuse to me.

Repetitive child rape that perhaps happens every night is from a preferential offender, and perhaps a pedophile, usually those attracted to incest. Pedophilic abuse is linked to autistic parents who are permissive and negligent in nature, and cannot relate and bond with their children any other way. However, only 1 out of 4 pedophiles in North America today rape or sexually assault/harass children, and 90% of sex offenders are not pedophiles by the clinical understanding. A pedophile is a specific case of arrested sexual development linked to developmental disabilities such as autism, where hormones cause age-oriented sexual preferences to be arrested, usually at puberty. My peak age is 11-12, and that's when I stopped being attracted to adults as a child, whereabouts, with puberty switching things up.

Most sexual assaults and rapes of children are due to attraction, but not preferential attraction. We're talking secondary attraction that builds, and builds, where the perpetrator is grossly irresponsible with the attraction, refusing to find an alternate outlet other than the child herself, using false religious doctrine as an excuse. It then explodes in the child's face, exposing a narcissist. If they just left the room where it happened, and took care of business elsewhere, the abuse wouldn't have happened. That's what I'd do if I had a lovely and attractive daughter - leave the room when she's getting changed, and have someone else give her a bath, or even co-sleep when in the wrong mood. They didn't do that, so they are solely responsible for the abuse they committed. The days of blaming whole institutions should be over. Blame the individual, and yes, get rid of those statute of limitation laws.

Anyone with any level of attraction needs to be non-entitled in the "admit" fashion. The pressure to "hide" such a fact about you is the most dangerous thing for anyone with an attraction to children. It is being able to admit it as a self-interest, at least to yourself, and working on it so it doesn't come out the other end against a real child, I myself, under my Christian faith, believe a child owes me nothing, and that I am to be grateful for everything good and favorable towards a child, and nothing good or nice towards them. You get to the point where it only "comes out" when you want it to, and even then, usually towards oneself.

Pedophiles like me want to distance ourselves from the main sexual abusers of children. Every single adult has abused a child at some point in their lives, and is capable of such under the correct set of conditions. I am a pedophile, and I choose not to abuse children, even if you don't by way of lawful abuse such as spanking and corporal punishment. I'm stressed too, and I'd love to tune the world out by being your daughter's best friend, and then start flirting with her. But, I choose not to "flirt" with or sexually harass children...Yes, it all comes from the same entitled place, parental entitlement - meaning the excuse of "stress" and venting on your child due to such. Pedophiles do present a risk to children, but no more than any other adult towards children, and maybe even less than most adults.