Why co-regulation is a biblical concept (pro-social pedophilia, pro-social siphon)

 Many parents demand respect from their children, feeling entitled to respect and even honor from their children. This is what parental entitlement is at the core - wanting things from children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, by their perception and their own perception alone.

There are two principles of co-regulation - pro-social pedophilia, pro-social siphon. Pro-social pedophilia does not refer at all to any sexual connotations. One would have to be a pedophile to naturally understand the concept. It is turning the child's exuberant energy inwards as you turn your anger inwards away from the child, chastening oneself up in the Lord, with children becoming friends with you. A pedophile befriends an abused child by directing their attention away from distant, punitive parents. What attachment parenting does is reverses that so that the safe person for a child is right at home.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning parents chastening themselves up and disciplining themselves in the Lord, turning aggressive instincts inward, in a way that allows for a child to confide into you, with parents being there to listen to a child's every feeling, thought, and upset, calmly as the child is in the middle of a tantrum. A warm, caring kind of calm that listens and doesn't dismiss the child's emotions. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning setting boundaries, either through encouragement or through the word "no" or its various variants, with favor towards encouragement, especially in the case of fathers. This involves positive encouragement to children to perhaps study Scripture, do their best in school, or treat others with respect. This is weighed by the Greek root word παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and referring to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the slightest of momentary offense at the very least from adult attitudes and behavior, stemming from parental entitlement in the adult. This refers to the offenses system imposed by the Eighth Commandment, which included assault and battery torts which extended their protection to children, with these laws summed up, taken further, and simplified by Christ's death and resurrection. Punishing a child for any reason in ancient Israel or adjoining churches was a violation of the Law, as children live under the grace of parents, and were seen as too young for punishment - they needed to be taught. Punishment was when someone knew better, was literate in the Law, and offended God or another person anyway. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest where children can show their true selves to parents and not fear punishment, saying what they want, not matter how harsh, with this security leading to parents hearing the voice of their parents, understanding what parents want based on developmental maturity, and then heeding instruction while following the warm, gentle, reassuring voice of parents, out of voice imprint and not fear of punishment or controlling behavior.

In ancient Israel and adjoining churches, the accepted norm in terms of parenting was attachment parenting, meaning mothers swaddled their children next to them until age 3, and after that, parents treated childhood tantrums as cries from an infant, meaning diagnosing what is upsetting or overstimulating the child, and listening to and reassuring their children, by way of calm, reflective listening to model self-control to children. Children center themselves in the warmth and grace of parents. Society pressured parents, including with legal pressure, to turn their aggressive instincts inward by knowing their place in relation to child, and that children come first. Children first, parents last...Children in the Early Church especially were seen as extensions of God, extended by Him for their care, safety, and protection (Matt. 25:31-46).

Children then and now are to be listened to entirely. This means not saying "ask nicely", and instead assuming that perhaps your child can't ask nicely due to lack of emotional regulation, so they hop up and down. They may revert to immature ways of dealing with their emotions in your presence even when they are older and maybe even adults, but not with the boss, the police officer, or teachers. The idea is that the child trusts you over everyone else in their life, with any topic that may concern them, including topics that may be taboo and/or misunderstood to others.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!