Total acceptance coming from total submission - The biblical order of the family

Most parents abuse their children, with 94% of children being punished physically or forcibly by parents as a form of domestic violence, with 1/3 of the cases possibly violating the law. My parents followed the law in terms of abusing me, and I still didn't turn out okay. The answer is totally accepting your child, meaning being attached to them as your friend.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, being able to be oneself in relation to children, confiding into parents about everything, owing absolutely nothing in relation to children, yet nonetheless showing your gratitude towards parents by hearing the voice of parents, understanding based on their developmental capacity, and heeding instructions by way of listening to the reassuring voice from mothers especially that the child imprints on. Voice imprinting was used to get children to listen in ancient Israel, and the goal was to provide, not punish or control. All this comes from Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to giving without receiving. It is being convicted of one's depraved sin nature in relation to children, struck by reverent fear (GRK: ψοβός) convicting them to submit to God through one's child, by way of bondservice and indentured servitude, paying due penance for one's existence in relation to child, sacrificing for them just as Christ sacrificed for His children, rendering oneself beneath a child, devaluing oneself as a caregiver and servant towards one's child, with the child extended from God to be cared for and protected, and expecting absolutely nothing in return. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses under biblical law, namely the assault and battery laws that also serve and protect children. The slightest of offense taken by entitled parent/adult behavior is abuse, and is sin.

The key to understanding total submission and acceptance of children is at the lowest level, you feel smaller than your child, and your child perceives you as smaller than them, meaning children feel the ability to order you around as to their needs, including attachment needs such as benign wants. Servitude to children in ancient Israelite culture and adjoining churches was seen as from beneath the child's stature, not above her. The idea was to give to one's child in a humble manner, meaning not demanding or controlling, but providing in terms of custody.

Parents did not reject their children in biblical times. Children were securely attached to parents, and were guided by the reassuring voice of mothers especially. Children demanded things from parents, and parents were to supply for such demands. Children felt safe making demands, especially to mothers. Fathers did not punish, but encouraged their sons especially to read Scripture, but also their daughters in many cases in the New Testament (Gal. 3:28). The lesser party was deemed greater in a relationship, meaning women over men, and also children over adults (Matt. 25:31-46).

The depraved and entitled punitive and permissive parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them burn and rot in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!