What is pedophilia?

We hear about pedophiles in the news, namely those who have hundreds or thousands of victims - and they don't exist. Only the victims exist. Only the pain exists. Only the abuser exists. Pedophiles nor pedophilia do not exist in this conversation, but instead in a separate medical conversation. Many people misunderstand what a pedophile is.

Pedophilia is simply a sexual attraction to children under age 14, leading to sexual fantasies, urges, or behavior, that can lead to adult sexual entitlement if endorsed as a parental and/or religious "right" to abuse a child sexually. It can be characterized in the brain as a developmental delay associated with autism and related disorders.

Who is your quintessential pedophile? Think ignores all adults. Think prefers company of children instead. Technical type individual. County seal or state coat of arms, perhaps (on behalf of children). Rule-oriented on child welfare issue, in an autistic-type way. It is relating to a child on her level, with a shield keeping evil and danger out, at the same time teaching her to hold the shield herself as she grows up, seeing her as autonomous and not chattel or property.

What makes a pedophile tick? Lack of personal responsibility. Pedophiles like to be the friend of children, as the Greek understanding of the label suggests. Many make excuses of "I was at the wrong place at the wrong", in which case, why were you even there in the first place? It is like the pedophile keeps walking in, invading privacy. Why are you even on that level? Just go downstairs, or don't hang out with young friends when you think you would lash out sexually at them. It's that easy - just leave, and have the guts to do so.

What happens is I become friends with a young girl, and then I just want to visit her house, and so I end up either there or some middle ground where I behave in a sexually entitled, attentive, or begging way that was prurient in terms of motives. I wanted to go to her house, meaning be invited, meaning invite myself. There's one teenage girl. now 14 (misrepresenting her age for her own safety) who lives on Oak Lane in Stony Creek Mills, Pennsylvania, that I'd like to meet again. I've decided a neutral location, because she wants me in an inappropriate way, which could lead to sexual abuse and fornication.

The solution afterwards? Too late. Leave them to their own demise. Beforehand? Funding for more mental health services for ALL at-risk adults, including pedophiles, is warranted. A self-diagnosed clinical pedophile is a gentle parent, most likely, if he or she supports banning spanking or at lease eliminating it. We have earned out keep, keeping ourselves from abusing children, now where are OUR mental health/trauma rights? The first step to banning spanking is widespread educational campaign stating how pedophiles can choose not to abuse, alongside other at-risk parents. Once society gets to a level where it can clinically accept pedophiles, meaning the individual, it is more likely to support banning spanking.