The attachment parenting traditions of the Bible

Many parents support punishment and controlling demeanor towards children as a "tradition". This is a common excuse for punitive parenting. Most parents use the Bible as an excuse for abusing their children through punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting is a biblical tradition.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as is denoted in the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) in the New Testament. This word refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children being able to feel safe confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Children, in this loving or affirming environment, start to take after parents, wanting to be like parents, then following the example of parents. Children should not be expected to follow their parents' example right away, as children are immature emotionally and cognitively, and thus cannot reason like adults can. They engage in childish behavior that is understandable given their age and development.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law against punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Christian parents of Greek origin were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits even in the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was warning parents in the Colossian church that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature - a list of wise sayings - and not a parenting manual. The rod verses in Proverbs - all seven of them - have nothing to do with parenting when understood in context, and only apply to the context they were given to. The verses instead refer to an ancient, archaic legal practice within Judaism where a father was subpoenaed to issue 40 minus 1 lashes to his ADULT child as a last warning before putting the errant ADULT child to death. MINOR children could never be whipped, as that would require a criminal trial, and children could not stand trial for moral crimes that they committed, and thus could not be held culpable for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed.

Mothers and fathers held different roles in raising children in an attached way. Mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. Mothers provided nourishment and sustenance to children, meaning breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness respectively. Children went naked everywhere they went, and women were traditionally naked as well, in order to serve their husbands and children, separately. Children snuggled up next to mothers, soaking up the rays in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with children. When out and about, mothers wore their children on them (babywearing), with children being held close to mothers in swaddling blankets and/or a papoose bag. Fathers also nurtured, but from afar. Fathers spoke on formal terms with children, until children "broke the ice" and allowed for casual conversation, and this was to deal with a parent attraction to children...All of this can be applied today, for the most part. The mother's domain is children and should nurture closely, with the father nurturing from afar.

Children were clearly deified by both fathers and mothers, but especially fathers in the case of daughters, with fathers showing parent attraction by putting children on a pedestal when attracted to them. Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Christians, was child worshipping society, meaning children were deified and seen as signs of God. Deification was seen as a form of idealizing the child, in a fearful and reverent way, that prevented the parent from turning on their child, sexually or otherwise...It is good, even today, to show children the same reverent respect you would God. 

Childhood in biblical times, unlike childhood today, was very isolated, with children not leaving the line of sight of parents or other adults. Children were not sent to public school in both the Old and New Testament, but instead were homeschooled. Children were sheltered by parents from the harshness of the outside world, and were protected. Unlike some other ancient cultures, Jewish and Christian parents supervised their children at all times...This context is somewhat dated, but can be applied today, with some tweaking. Children should be closely supervised, but in a loving and not restricting way.

America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian family values, and those values forbit the punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. We as a nation have long been discovering what our values are. The greatest of social justice advocates respected the Judeo-Christian values of this nation, and saw the inclusion of different groups of people into society. Children's rights, as an aim, is including children into society. Children in biblical times were isolated, but they had immense lobbying power over adults, and ruled adults from beneath. That is how it should be in the United States, given that contextual evidence from the Bible.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why the Bible recommends skin-to-skin closeness

Many parents think that the key to being a good parent is punishment and other controlling demeanor. This is a common mistake parents make when raising their children. The fact of the matter, however, is that the key to being a good parent is forming a secure parent-child bond. That requires skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, and this method is not limited to infants - all children need to feel the softness of mother's skin every now and then, especially as reassurance.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding to parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. In this loving and affirming environment, children take after their parents, want to be like their parents, and then follow the example of parents. Children cannot be expected to follow the example of parents right away, as they are immature in terms of development, and should be expected to engage in childish and immature behaviors that may annoy parents (but likely not the child or anyone else).

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law against punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Christian parents of Greek origin were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits even in the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was warning parents in the Colossian church that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature - a list of wise sayings - and not a parenting manual. The rod verses in Proverbs - all seven of them - do not have to do with raising children, but instead refer to an ancient, archaic legal practice within Judaism where a father was court ordered to issue 40 minus 1 lashes as a final warning before putting a lawbreaking ADULT child to death. These harsh punishments were rare in Ancient Israel, and shunned in the Early Church - anyone who participated in capital or corporal punishment was excommunicated from the Early Christian churches. Punishment of a child was unheard of in Hebrew circles, and in the Early Church, was only a problem among Greco-Roman newcomers. In Greco-Roman society, harsh punishment of children was expected, as was the case with many European pagan societies, and the Roman Catholic Church pandered to this superstition, which was that corporal punishment purified children of impurities that they were thought to have.

Children went naked wherever they went, with women traditionally going naked in the family home, in order to serve her husband and her children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children snuggled with their parents in the nude, with children soaking up the rays from their mother's skin, resting safely and securely in the loving arms of mothers.

Skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy is not something limited to infants in terms of application. Children of all ages, but especially younger children, can benefit from some exposure time with mom. One way to do this is to snuggle with children as soon as you get out of the shower. Another way is to co-sleep while both of you are naked. If you co-sleep, be sure to place infants and young children on top of you and hold onto them in your arms, not beside you, so not to suffocate them. Older children should be placed beside the mother, but expect them to climb up all over you anyway at night. Some children do have hypersexual traits due to a mood disorder, in which case none of these methods are morally acceptable, particularly in the case of son-mother attractions.

If you are the mother of a child who is crying and/or ramping up, it is good to hold your child to your bosom, head first. A lot of women wear plunging necklines to serve their child first, and then maybe their husband. The idea is to expose that area and hold your child's head and body to that area to stop a crying fit within minutes, in a way that is reassuring for children. The bosom of a mother are not there for men to objectify, but there for her to nurture her children. This tactic can be used with mood disorders such as bipolar disorder that involve hypersexuality in the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why temper tantrums aren't bad behavior in children

Many parents believe crying and temper tantrums are bad behavior in children. This is a common mistake made by parents of young children especially. Most of us in society can handle a baby crying, but any older, and they are "too old" to cry. No child is too old to cry. No child is too old to unleash a tantrum. Temper tantrums are only an entitlement problem in adults. In children, they are normal.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but restful trust in parents, with children confiding anything and everything into parents, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return for telling parents what is on their mind. In this loving and affirming environment, children take after parents, want to be like a parent, then follow their example. Children cannot be expected to follow your example right away, as they are immature and should be expected to engage in childish behaviors, due to poor emotional regulation due to immature development.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. To disprove parental entitlement in court when a child cries when denied an item, the parent must apologize by reassuring the child of their presence and that they are loved, while saying "no" nonetheless. Only say "no" when you have to. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law against punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Christian parents of Greek origin were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits, which existed as far back as the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was warning parents in the Colossian church that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature - a list of wise sayings - and not a parenting manual. The rod verses - all seven of them - do not refer to raising children when understood in context, but to a father whipping his son 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction after being subpoenaed to do so by the Sanhedrin, or Jewish criminal court. The punishment was intended as a final warning that if the offender re-offended, they would be put to death. The Bible was mistranslated from its original language to Latin by the Roman Catholic Church to sound more authoritarian, and this was to pander to the interests of European pagans who whipped and beat their children in order to discipline them.

Crying was dealt with very differently in biblical times. Crying was seen as a child petitioning for a need, and usually, parents surrendered to that need. Children went naked wherever they went, and women were traditionally naked in the home to serve her husband and her children, separately. When children cried or threw a tantrum in biblical times, mothers picked them up and held them to her bosom, and then the child calmed down within minutes.

As a mother, using your bosom to reassure your child is a key trick to de-escalating a ramping up child. Some women wear shirts with plunging necklines not because of wanting to please men, but in order to please their child, meaning children are to be held, by the head, to the exposed skin, and given skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Within a few minutes, your child should be de-escalated and ready to talk. This is a time-in, as it was done in biblical times. 

"Time-in" is simply a modern term for the most time-honored method of dealing with a ramping up child. Time-in, practiced properly, involves using the mother's bosom as a safe place for children to rest their heads and cry their eyes out, venting everything into their mother's body. That part of a woman's anatomy is not for men to sexually objectify, but instead is there to nurture children.

No child is "too old to cry". Some teenagers cry and tantrum because they have a developmental disability such as autism, or a mood disorder such as bipolar disorder. Crying is communication, usually that they need attention. Children usually need attention when they are scared, and think you can reassure them. Crying is how typically developing children communicate up until age 6, or sometimes even older. Crying is a fight-or-flight response that children are scared, and the word "no" is enough to scare most children. Some children become physically violent when startled like that, whereas most children simply cry and maybe throw things. The idea is to reassure the child that the parent is there, and that they are loved and cared for. Also, do take care to give children whatever they want, when it can be given, even if the task is burdensome, because they are only children once, and then when they grow up, you missed out because you were too busy complaining and saying "no" all of the time. Benign deprivation does NOT work. It is abuse. Give them everything they need, knowing that everything they want points to a need of some sort.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Inside the mind of a child predator: Why all adults are capable of harm

My name is Maxwell, and I am an adult who struggles with adult sexual self-interest. Formerly, I struggled with adult sexual entitlement. I am a self-diagnosed pedophile attracted to children aged 6-18, and also women that look young, perhaps due to pedophilic sexual predisposition (someone with a similar struggle).

I am in a better place right now. I am a Virtuous Pedophiles (VirPed) supporter, but I myself am not virtuous at all. Think flashing lights on the ceiling. Think stretcher and ambulance. Think medical equipment. Think electronic voice on the TV news. That is how I accept pedophilia as my mental health self-diagnosis. I prefer it to be seen not as disgusting or as something to celebrate, but simply a dark struggle. It is a self-interest in relation to children, and though mere self-interests are not entitlement, they can lead to entitlement, so they need to be kept in check. Pedophilia will never be a good thing. It just shouldn't be a shame to be mentally ill, and being a pedophile is the exact same thing as being mentally ill. Pedophilia is no sin; mental illness is no sin. 

I realized that I was a pedophile at age 16, when I had a crush on a 12-year-old girl, which wasn't completely pedophilia given my age and the age difference (I go by the strict DSM-5 criteria). I went to the VirPed website, and could relate to the bio of one of the founding admins, "Ethan Edwards". I grew up in a fairly sexually open environment - my parents were progressive Christians who were open about sexual issues. I then told my mother that I was a pedophile. I was still allowed contact with the 12-year-old girl, but with supervision, and I left her alone. She was the one that was spared.

I really did it wrong at the local swimming area (being vague to protect the innocent). I saw a girl whom I thought was 12, with me being 16, and I thought that the small age difference that I perceived would lead me to a nice sexual relationship. Back then, I was a nihilistic atheist who believed all sex that was consensual was allowed, under my personal moral beliefs. I was completely oblivious to the fact that a) she was really 9 and b) even if she was 12, the minimum age of consent is 13 in Pennsylvania. I was oblivious to how I looked asking her for her number. She declined to give it, saying "that's confidential". We played a game, and then I was hooked. I was in love, and my body told me as much. My hands were shaking, and my breath was taken away by her presence. She was so nurturing, and she treated me on my developmental level, meaning she was actually a bit more mature than I was then. I parentified her in my fantasies, and in my view of her. I would follow her around the pool deck like a sick puppy.

As years went, I got more and more used to approaching young girls at the pool, usually in a remote way by waving to them in a flirtatious way. What was happening is what is called imprinting, meaning I became acclimated to contacting children inappropriately at the this local pool. 

I finally saw the light and changed when a girl I knew said "What do you want from me?" in a shaky voice when I was looking at her. I pinpointed the statute, and expected a disorderly conduct fine, and I was prepared for the worst - I went towards the fence of the pool and waited for the police to come. I was completely shocked and scared straight by her reaction. From there, I did not abuse again.

A few years later, after exploring my sexuality on the Virtuous Pedophiles forums, I decided to become religious, and accept the Holy Spirit into my life, meaning I became a Christian upon hearing about one of my favorite Bible verses, Romans 13:1-7. The law was always a personal religion for me, even if I didn't regard it as such - this meant the actual statutory law, as it is written. I regard the written law itself, including all traffic signs and signals, as commandments instated by God for our own good. I was aware of the commandment to not provoke a child to anger as well. 

I then got tired of having anxiety over world injustices. I started testing conservative arguments by comparing them to Scripture. No sex outside of marriage for me, I found, and that one teaching reformed me completely, once completely enforced by God on me. Conservatism, to me, is about accepting what I can't do, and then focusing on what I can do. I myself have an anti-spanking trauma, and got flashbacks just seeing children being mistreated and abused in public. I would just forget about it eventually, and focus on attraction.

My conservative Christian faith benefits me most in the realm of sexual purity teachings. If I ever head towards a child with sexual motives, all I have to do is stop myself with images of Hell and being seen as filthy and unclean to God, and then I am good, and I then know to take it elsewhere - to sexual fantasy. Under my Christian beliefs, if I take the first steps to approach a child, I have already committed the crime already, but at the same time, if I stop right away, and turn away from temptation, I have not sinned, as the sin is defending your actions in that sort of situation and/or abusing the child sexually. Merely having desires is simply self-interest to me, and can be channeled in a healthy way using solo masturbation.

Every single adult has a story to tell regarding their abuse towards children, and I recommend all adults identify as remorseful abusers of children as a child advocate. Every single adult is guilty in relation to children, merely for having the capacity to abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions, just as I did. I, as an entitled adult, have no right to exist in relation to a child, as a child can send me away from their periphery of perception right away, and if they don't perceive me anymore, I don't exist to them. I am deserving of said non-existence, yet am grateful for the forgiveness that children have given me, as I am not deserving of such forgiveness.

We all are abusers to children as adults, as we all have abused children in some way, in some form. We all don't deserve anything from children, and are entitled to nothing from them. Adults should be grateful for the child that they have, instead of wanting to grow that child up into a new child. I myself am a reformed child predator. If I can admit to being an abuser towards children, so can you. After all, the first step to solving a problem is admitting it, to yourself, and to others when relevant.

Child sexuality: Why biblical parents were open about sexuality (in a sex-critical way)

Many parents think the Bible is a sex-negative contact. A few pedophiles not worth mentioning want the biblical context to be sex-positive. The fact of the matter is that the Bible, as a whole, is a sex-critical document, and scrutinizes the sexualities of adult men most. Child sexuality wasn't scrutinized much in biblical times.

The centerpiece of a Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or nothing, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for children does not come from fearful compliance, but instead restful trust in parents, with children being able to talk to parents about anything, including sexual matters, and expect absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return for opening up. Children had proper sexual norms modeled to them, through the atmosphere. Sexuality is a low-level topic, meaning your child will likely have your values about sexuality, and if your values are mine - no sex outside of marriage - they will not depart from those values. Talk to your children about sex, but don't do so in an encroaching way. Children are still young, and may feel uncomfortable around sexual issues, especially as it relates to their body image.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Christian parents of Greek origin were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits even in the 1st Century, when this passage was written. The rod verses - all seven of them - do not have anything to do with raising children, but instead refer to an ancient, archaic legal practice within Judaism where a father was subpoenaed by the court to whip his errant ADULT son 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction as a form of legal correction warning that execution was imminent. 

Children played freely in biblical times, but with supervision from parents - and children never left the line of sight of parents. Many of the games played by children then were high-risk, in a sexualized way. The most high-stakes game was "marriage". Christian marriage, in the biblical context, was a legal contract with its basis in sexual intercourse as a signature on the dotted line. Most children embraced when the pretend-play wedding got to that point. Every once and a while, a boy tried to penetrate a girl, in which case both were separated - the sternest consequence in Hebrew or Christian homes then. Fathers reassured their sons that they would get a chance to have sex with a female someday.

Biblical parents were some of the least shaming parents concerning sexuality. Children in biblical times were not seen as asexual, and were not shielded from the sexual realities of life. Children did often witness parents having sex, and often were sleeping in the same room that it happened. Children themselves wore no clothing until adulthood. Children masturbated, and that behavior was not shamed in children. Children were encouraged to masturbate instead of have sex with each other. 

Children in biblical times were completely naked, everywhere they went. The attitude behind the nudity was a sort of pro-social tease to bring out child predators. Parents in biblical times did not cover up their children to ward off predators. Children then naturally wanted to look attractive - usually towards the parent of the opposite sex - and that was the core of their sexuality apart from masturbation, and so parents allowed girls in particular to look pretty by going naked, and didn't care if any pervert had a problem with that. Just like today, child predators usually were the type to take religion too far, and repress their sex drive towards children, which most men did not. Most men appreciated the sight of children next to women (and women didn't wear much in public either!)...This context can be applied partially today, with public child nudity obviously being discouraged. Inviting children to undress, perhaps completely, will actually help with the parent-child bond.

Children just knew that having early sex was wrong. Society encouraged abstinence through the atmosphere, and parents encouraged children to be abstinent from other-person drives, instead engaging in solo masturbation to blow off steam, which was allowed by parents as a welcome alternative to having early sex. Parents then did talk to children about sex starting at age 6. Abstinence was a life skill in terms of sexuality in that culture, and was taught in an encouraging, fun way, where children were allowed to laugh and have fun while being lectured in a sensitive way about how to be abstinent from all sexual relations with others. Children in biblical times had an active sex drive as young as age 6, usually towards the parent of the opposite sex, and then peers upon hitting puberty. 

Children should be lectured on abstinence, meaning abstinence is the only safe way to wear one's sexuality. The idea is that it, from early on, should be made a game as to who is strongest. Abstinence should be explained gently to children as a strong trait, particularly with boys, but also with girls. Virginity is a valued concept in the Bible, and can be explained as something private to save for a man that the girl, as a woman, loves enough to marry, and this can be explained in playful terms. With girls, you want to depict abstinence as a wait that is worthwhile - delayed gratification. Boys should be taught that the more they abstain from sex, the stronger they grow. Give them a failsafe by allowing masturbation, as the Greek root word for lust is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) which refers to desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach someone other than one's spouse sexually. Abstinence should be encouraged as a religious vocation. Shaming children for their sexuality only creates the attitude in them of "the grass is greener on the other side", leading to children losing their values - all because an otherwise good lesson was improperly taught.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Abortion: Why the Bible forbids abortion in context

Many progressive Christians hold pro-choice views, often citing the biblical context as a pro-choice context. It is true that in the Old Testament, that abortion was legal and acceptable. Women have long been using herbal remedies to terminate a pregnancy, usually behind a man's back. However, these herbal remedies were banned in the Early Church, not for the woman, but for the man who prompted a woman to get an abortion.

The Seventh Commandment states in Exodus 20:13 KJV:

Thou shalt not kill.

This commandment is repeated many times in the New Testament. When repeated, the Greek root word is φονος (Latin: phonos) occurs in the commandment. A word like this is colored by the New Testament context, namely that of the Early Church. Christ, when He died and Rose, took the commandment of not murdering even further, expanding the biblical definition of murder to any taking of a life outside of the narrow context of self-defense and defense of others, even in war. The pro-life policies of the Early Church applied to abortion as well.

Abortion, as a moral statute and form of murder, was seen as a form of triangulation where the mother was pitted against her child. The triangulating abuser, usually a man, was the one punished for setting up a situation, and was excommunicated. Usually, this was a man who got a woman pregnant in a way that she could not take care of the child. 

The woman was never blamed, due to the dependent nature of womanhood in biblical times. Instead, the man was blamed for putting her in the position where she had to choose. If a man raped a woman, and the child died of abortion, he was charged with both fornication and murder.

The Supreme Court of the United States is, in all likelihood, going to overturn Roe v. Wade. I support that, but only cautiously. Republican politicians need to start supporting a safety net to welcome the new children into the world. I myself am conservative, but not a Republican conservative. I support social safety nets for family values reasons - it benefits the family greatly when they have access to services and supports from a safety net. Protecting life does not stop at banning abortion. If all the supports of a safety net ate banned as well, the politicians behind it might as well be pro-birth. So, I was prompted to write this piece. 

I don't blame women for abortion. Abortion is a way for men to not take responsibility for raising a child, or a way for men to wish away the ramifications of raping women. It is about time men raise their children instead of talk women into killing them. Then, we can start having taxpayer-funded healthcare and daycare to support families. Enough is enough. Ban abortion, now.

How to give instructions to children the proper way (righteous instruction, righteous test)

Many parents believe in setting limits. It is good to set limits some of the time, but many parents set limits all of the time, and back it up with punishment when children don't listen. This is a common mistake among parents. Children need to be given instructions in terms of a righteous test, meaning children often cannot follow instructions due to brain incapacity.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to a specific standard of giving instructions to children. In biblical times, parents gave instructions to children only occasionally, and otherwise allowed children to develop freely. When children didn't listen to instructions, it was assumed that the child did not understand the instructions, with this due to the child not having proper emotional and cognitive development. The Ancient Jews were quite sensitive about child development. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This was intended, by the Apostle Paul, to prohibit all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, which was justified by the rod verses in Proverbs. Paul was explaining to the Ephesian church that the rod verses had nothing to do with raising children, but instead referred to an ancient, archaic legal practice within Judaism where the father of an ADULT child was subpoenaed to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction as a means of warning the offender that the next time they re-offended, they would be put to death on the spot. These harsh punishments were rare in the Old Testament, and never happened in the Early Church. Apart from mutual accountability between spouses, corporal punishment did not happen in the Early Church. 

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children and others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. Parents work to win over their children, and children rest in the good works of parents, as denoted by the Greek root word translated "obey", which is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo). This rest is an active rest, where children can vent into parents without worry, with this loving and affirming environment leading to children eventually following the example of parents.

Instructions in biblical times came as a form of righteous test, meaning instructions were given to test to see if a child was really able to follow instructions. Children in biblical times were not punished for not following directions, but kept safe using logical consequences at the most. A logical consequence could mean things such as removing a child from an unsafe situation, separating siblings or children that were experimenting with sex, and so forth. Children were heavily supervised to begin with, meaning children never left the line of sight of parents. Apart from that, no forceful measures could be used in parenting, as it was unlawful.

The procedure in biblical times on setting limits was to give an instruction, and if the child didn't listen the first time, it would be assumed that the child would not listen to instructions until later, when they were ready cognitively and emotionally. Sometimes, however, the situation was urgent, meaning the child was endangering themselves and/or others, in which case they were removed from the situation, and then reassured with statements such as "You scared me, acting like that" in a reassuring tone of voice. Removing children from unsafe situations is a logical consequence.

Most behaviors that children are punished for in this country are developmentally appropriate behaviors. Most problematic behaviors are phases, and if allowed to just be, the behaviors will go away quickly in most cases. Part of the fact that most behaviors are phases is that you need to give very little instruction to a child, apart from redirecting them from unsafe behavior. Most behaviors are to be left alone, meaning no instructions given to correct behaviors that simply bother parents, and not the child or anyone else Just because a behavior bothers you doesn't mean it should be extinguished. It will extinguish itself on its own, and if it doesn't, that is a sign of mental illness in a child. 

With unsafe behaviors, maybe you need to remove the child from the situation, if the child is hyperfocused on the situation, perhaps due to autism. Usually, with most children, you can easily distract them by creating another activity that is safe and fun for them, perhaps kneeling down and playing on their level. It is okay to pick up a child from the street, but that is where use of force stops. It is not okay to spank or otherwise punish a child to deter the child from running into the street. They, cognitively and emotionally, cannot understand why the street is unsafe, or else they would have a natural fear of moving cars. Be sure to reassure them after you pick them up that you were worried about them. Same when separating your child from their sexual partner in the case of sexual intercourse or activity with peers. But, that can ultimately be prevented by supervision from the get go.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!