Separation anxiety: Why children cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents have to deal with it. A child crying for seemingly no reason at all. This is a common situation that parents find themselves in. Most parents punish their children as a means of dealing with children crying seemingly out of nowhere. However, the fact of the matter is that children usually need YOU and YOU only as a reassurance for separation anxiety.

Tending to the cries of separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents perform good works for their child, with children resting in the good works of parents, with good works being defined as doing good things for your child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Most parents experience their children crying out of nowhere. This is a common reason for parents punishing their children. However, all crying in children has a reason for it. The most common reason for crying is separation anxiety. 

Children growing up in the Early Church cried whenever they wanted mom to stay within their line of sight. Children then who were under age 6 morbidly feared mothers "going away and never coming back". Children cried a screeching, deathly cry when they wanted attachment with mom. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need.

Children growing up in the Early Church, when under age 6, needed constant reassurance that mom wasn't going anywhere. Children cried loud and deathly cries whenever they needed bonding time with mom. This is when mothers cooed at the children, with cooing being a primal vocalization that put children at ease.

Children in biblical times, unlike children today, were able to experience the full range of emotions, including cries due to separation anxiety. Children today are not allowed to experience their full range of emotions. Thus, children suppress their separation anxiety, with the crying fits being the tip of the emotional iceberg that is a child today.

Children under age 6 need constant reassurance that mom isn't going anywhere. It is recommended that mothers stay home for the first 6 years of childhood. This is what was done in the Early Church, and this was because children otherwise were faced with their worst fear - mom seemingly "going away and never coming back". Maybe a woman is capable of work like a man is, but at what cost to the child? It should be safe for mothers to return to work once the children attain the age of 6, and cease the cries for attachment.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your child

Many parents feel the need to be punitive with their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want to avoid being seen as pampering their child. However, the fact of the matter is that parents are obligated to pamper and baby their children, especially during the first 6 years of childhood. 

Righteous pampering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossian 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with the child resting securely in the good works of parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament. punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their child were charged with kidnapping - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking. and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not refer to any old pampering, but instead pampering and babying children in a certain specific way, using the context as a guidepost. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting the child's need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period  Whatever children needed, they got it. Whenever mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her young child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their parents. with this co-sleeping sustaining warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth, with children experiencing skin-on-skin contact merely when picked up.

After children attained the age of 6, children were allowed to play freely outside, naked. Older children who played outside engaged in wet and messy play. Children past age 6 explored the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, playing in the mud. However, children had to check in with mom first, to tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called by name - one by one - and were treated to a nice warm meal, after being cleaned up by mom with a handrag.

Children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltered way. This was because the child could not appreciate the environmental hazards found outside, namely venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. However, even today, children under age 6 had dangers to face while being outside, namely oncoming traffic and would-be kidnappers. Children under age 6 usually want mom and mom only during the first 6 years of childhood, and so it all worked out.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent. for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to children honoring them. This is a common want on the part of American parents. Most American parents insist on honor from their children. However, honoring parents refers ultimately to taking care of aging parents. 

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment does not mean that parents have the right to insist on respect from children. Instead, the Fifth Commandment simply means caring for your aging parents. However, that care for aging parents is earned, with parents getting care from their children as a reward for giving them a memorable childhood. When children were abused at all, they had the right to shun their parents.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Fifth Commandment, when understood in context, does not mean that parents have the right to insist on respect or honor. Instead, parents took good care of their children. In return, children took care of their parents as they aged. However, even then, children had the right to disown and shun their parents if the parents were abusive. 

Honoring parents ultimately refers to giving back to parents after they gave to you when you were a child. I myself was abused by my mother, but I sure give back to her anyway. as she apologized for abusing me. A genuine apology is the only reason an adult child is obligated to forgive their abusive parents. I give back to my mother by paying for dinner at the restaurant. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment. suffering God's Wrath day and night forever\and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Attention-seeking behavior: Why attention is a core need for children

Many parents have to deal with it. A child is simply begging for attention from parents. This is a common aspect of parenting. Most American parents punish their child when they act out to get attention. However, proper Christian parenting is attachment based, with attention being a core need for a child.

Attention is indeed a core need for children in relation to parents, and is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works onto children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brough their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Sometimes, children's behaviors just beg for attention. In most cases, children cried out loud in order to self-advocate for vulnerable needs. A core need of children is attention, meaning children need attention as an attachment need. Children in most cases cry out loud because they need something, with attention being a core need of children.

Children growing up in the Early Church were allowed to cry freely. From there, the mother diagnosed the needs before meeting them. Many times, all the child needed was tender loving attention. So, mothers simply held the child next to her bosom, in mammary closeness. From there, milk-dependent children were nursed to health by way of being allowed to suckle the teat of mothers. 

Older children - past age 6 - whined in order to self-advocate a need. Whining is a mature way of a child self-advocating a need, meaning a step up from crying in terms of maturity. Children growing up in the Early Church only whined when they were self-advocating a need. This whining came in the form of direct self-advocacy for need because children were allowed to feel all of their feelings. Today, children are not allowed to have their own feelings, and thus the actual need is buried in adversarial discourse with a child. 

The key is to give up the fight with your child, and give in to their demands. You may find that your child isn't asking for much. Most of the time, children run straight back to mom for refuge when given the first taste of autonomy. In the Early Church, respect for parents came in the form of warm closeness, usually with children being affectionate with mom. In most cases, that's all a child needs - loving attention from mom. 

Children should not be making messes and wreaking havoc just to get some attention with mom. When raised naturally, they simply cry when they need attention, or else whine if they are older. But, when you ignore your child's attention needs, they will do anything just to get your attention, and that oftentimes means mischief of some sort. Christian parents in the Early Church responded to the every cry of a child, from day one. Children cried often during the first 6 years of childhood, but then switched to whining after turning age 6. Whining only happened rarely, when the child actually needed something. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend\into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to help your daughter in body positivity

Many daughters have had to deal with it. A young girl who doesn't accept the natural form of her body. This is a common issue facing young girls. However, there is room for body positivity in the context of a Christian home. That involves a sexual dynamic known as the "electra" complex.

It says in Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery. But I  say unto you, That whosoever looketh upon a woman to lust after her hath already committed adultery with her in his heart.

The Greek root word translated "lust" is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is good for a man to look the look towards his daughter, and even think the think later. However. there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. "Doing the deed" involves flirting or propositioning a child, as well as touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. Any romance was strictly forbidden, meaning any romantic passions were to be avoided at all costs. The idea is to base a marriage on friendship, not romance. If you find yourself doing the deed, you should not have even approached her. A father's approach towards his daughter is a sign of sexual entitlement, especially if his eyes are wide-open and staring at the sexual target. 

Young girls need a positive male influence as to their body appearance. Whenever a young girl catches the sexual gaze of her father, she learns to love her body. Biology does not discriminate on the basis of looks, meaning even if the daughter is overweight, she catches the eye of her father,

The sexual dynamic of a proper Christian household comes in the form of a criss-cross. The father-daughter dynamic was mutually unrequited. With boys, the attraction was to mothers, in dead end format. The reason for this dynamic is for parents to supervise, as a sexual attraction to children entails the ability to notice every child in sight. 

A big part of body positivity in young girls is knowing they are their father's favorite sexual fantasy. Most of the time, young girls don't mind the fantasy. This is especially true when the child is a little on the chubby side. If the young girl perceives a threat, she will avoid her father, and that will show in his daughters.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! A healthy way to avoid this rut is to masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of children. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous submission: How to love your child (the right way)

Many parents think that they love their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents/ Most American parents insist that their punishment of their child is love. However, love can only mean one thing in relation to children - parent submission.

God's Law states in Matthew 22:35-40 KJV:

Then one of them, which was a lawyer, tempting him, and saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him. Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and all thy soul, and all thy mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all of the law and the prophets.

The Greek root word translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers in the context of parentimg to parent submission. This parent submission comes in the form of good works. Good works here is defined as doing good things for your neighbor, including your child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Love does not insist on praise or recognition. See also 1 Cor. 13:4-8.

The role of children in biblical times was to rest in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in said good works from parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Good works for your child, in the Early Church, meant doing good things for your child. This can include meeting any and every need of a child's vulnerable needs. There are five basic categories of needs in a child; food, water, shelter, transportation, and/or attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment!

Parenting was intended by God to be a servile profession, meaning parenting is a thankless job. A parent was not seen in biblical times as an authority figure, and was instead seen as a selfless caregiver, tending to his/her children, waiting on their children hand over foot, with mothers diagnosing the need before meeting the need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents believe that punishing or being controlling with children is commanded in the Bible. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However. the fact of the matter is that the ancients who wrote the Bible has a concept of child abuse - whatever the child perceived as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement involves parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any anger towards a child from parents was seen as parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child aa a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children inro the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, with these damages including trauma. The ancients had a concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child turned atheist, they were seen as a trauma victim, not a blasphemer. Atheism was seen then as a sign of trauma, not simply a choice to get back ar parents, with the parents being shamed for imposing religious trauma,

Child abuse was a concept in biblical times, with notable cases going before a council of 3 elders that presided over the case. If the parents were convicted by the council, the child was given a choice - go with the parents, or go with pedophiles. Pedophiles even then were not allowed to have sexual relations with the children that they took in. All a pedophile could do then was masturbate to sexual thoughts of the children in their care.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever!