Why to catch your child being good (as opposed to catching them being bad)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. However, this means to most parents that children should be caught in the act while being bad. But, parents in biblical times instead caught their children being good, as opposed to being bad.

Catching children being good is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parent. See also Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with a promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children then following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Younger children - past age 6 - start out with religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to grow towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be your choice of religion, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child, before picking him/her up and holding the child close to her bosom, and from there, she diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin contact with mothers, with children receiving skin-on-skin friction with mothers every time they were even picked up.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why our Judeo-Christian values call for broadening child abuse definitions

Many parents think that they have the right to punish a child. Most American parents cite the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. However, we as a nation are founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Those founding values call for lawmakers to make punitive parenting unlawful under the secular law.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. "Imposition" here refers to any parent anger or adult anger towards a child. Whenever this temper tantrum on the part of parents or adults is perceived as offensive by the child, it becomes child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have not gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The first country in modern times to ban all punitive parenting was Sweden in 1979. But, even before Sweden's landmark punitive parenting ban, many ancient societies prohibited striking or punishing a child. One of those societies was the Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Christian society. 

Modern Israel has banned all punitive parenting since 2000. But, even before then, Israel never had a legal defense for punitive measures being used on children. The problem was that family courts were sectarian in terms of orientation, with the Christian courts especially siding with the parents of an abused child. The Supreme Court of Israel ruled that the police could unilaterally dissolve the family, meaning arrest the parents and collect their children, with the secular courts being able to dissolve the family without the permission of the sectarian courts.

Currently, Israeli authorities invoke a criminal statute prohibiting all domestic violence, including domestic violence against children. When children are struck or punished in Israel, the parents are immediately and swiftly arrested on charges of domestic violence. The children then were collected by necessity, because the child would otherwise be homeless and without parents. 

In America, there is no law prohibiting any sort of punitive parenting under the secular law. However, America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian values, with the Bible being a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. Nowhere in those values does it legitimately say to strike or punish a child. Even in the 7 rod verses in Proverbs, what is being referenced is the 40 minus 1 lashes, with this passages being repealed passages - Christ did away with the harsh punishments of the Law with His work on the cross. The commandment against provoking children to anger means don't offend them with your anger. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. The word "no" is used frequently by most American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible and its context prescribes that the word "no" be used seldom by parents, meaning almost never. Children need to hear the word "yes" far more often than the word "no".

The word "yes", used often, is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few children during his time as a deacon.

It is a myth that children need to hear the word "no" from parents "frequent and often". The fact of the matter is that children growing up in the Early Church got most everything that they wanted, and absolutely everything that they needed. Christian parents in the Early Church heeled themselves to the command of a child, saying "yes" most all of the time that children petitioned them for something. When parents had to avoid saying "yes", they usually came to a compromise with their children instead of saying a flat out "no".

The word "no", by default, was banned by way of customary law in the Early Church. Parents were required by customary law to say "yes" frequent and often to the command of the child, and "no" rarely. The only time a parent could say "no" was when the command of the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When the word "no" was handed down by parents, the child's parents were required to gel the situation by offering an explanation as well as reassurance. 

When out and about with mothers, children often wanted to buy something. Children under age 6 were wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to mothers, and they often pointed to an item that they wanted, usually sweets or candy of some sort, and mothers bought them what they wanted in most cases. Children older than age 6 were given their own spending money by mothers, not from doing chores, but as charity from parents, with parents giving their children money while receiving absolutely nothing in return.

The every vulnerable plea of a child for what they wanted was seen as a command for the parents to heel to. The every wish of a child was the command of parents, with few exceptions. The main reason for parents to say "no" to children was to deter sexually amoral choices such as child-on-child sexual interactions. Even then, the child was reassured with statements such as "you'll get your chance once you're married". Parents said "no" warmly and reassuringly, meaning with a token of apology for offending the child with the word "no".

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to bring up a pedophilic child

Many parents worry about their child being sexually abused. This is a normal fear on the part of parents. However, most parents don't plan on having a child with pedophilia. However, a child can be diagnosed with pedophilia as young as age 16, and can be identified earlier. Pedophilic children are the most oppressed of all children, as they have two strikes against them - being a child and being a pedophile.

Most people think that a pedophile is an anger packet imposed on a child. However, the fact of the matter is that a pedophile has a child-centered form of autism. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children in terms of knowledge and social skills, with their sexual preferences reflecting their specialty in children and children's issue. If a man with autism is a natural at nurturing children, think pedophile, as most individuals with autism find children annoying.

Most pedophiles are not sexual abusers of children. According to research, only 1 in 4 pedophiles have sexually abused a child. That means 3 out of 4 pedophiles have done nothing wrong in relation to children. An adult pedophile is the safest of all adults around children. Most pedophiles have not committed a sexual offense even as a child.

Most pedophiles do not disclose in the form of a "bomb going off". Most pedophile disclosures are tear-filled and vulnerable, as most pedophiles want their desires to go away. However, the fact of the matter is that the desires aren't going away, and so the pedophile needs to feel comfortable in their own skin. The only way out of that fog is masturbation to sexual thoughts of children.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay for a pedophile to look the look, and think the think later. However, if a pedophile does the deed with a child, they should not have approached the child. "Doing the deed" refers to flirting or propositioning a child, or else touching a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. The only way out of the approach is to righteously masturbate to sexual thoughts of children.

The way to tell if your pedophilic child is going to become an offender is the nature of the disclosure. An abuser pedophile is usually an obvious abuser, meaning they frequently disclose about crushes that they have to a child. An abuser disclosure of pedophilia is a tone-deaf one, meaning the abuser pedophile in question discloses their pedophilia without understanding the gravity of the term. Most pedophiles instead disclose in tears, wanting the desires to go away. I myself was an obvious abuser, meaning I disclosed in the form of a joke pedophile. Most pedophiles don't see the issue as a joke, but as a painful life problem. I disclose my abusership in order to point out to the casual reader what to look for in order to locate an abuser pedophile. Most pedophiles are not abusers at all, but I am. 

Pedophiles require a certain level of sensitivity. The cardinal rule of pedophile sensitivity is to not use the word "pedophile" as a pejorative insult to a rapist or sexual assailant of child. A pedophile is more likely to be a victim of child sexual abuse than a perpetrator of child sexual abuse. Most pedophiles were sexually shamed as children just for being a pedophile, meaning oftentimes corrective rape against a pedophilic child. A pedophilic child cannot help but have their condition, as pedophilia is a genetic disorder along the lines of autism and other developmental disorders. 

What can a parent do in order to keep their child from sexually offending against much younger children, or in order to sexually abuse a child at all once they are an adult? The idea is to allow your child to vent to you in a clinical way or in a clinical celebratory way. Clinical celebratory disclosures are intended to vent about problematic sexual desires in order to avoid actually acting on them. All a pedophile needs from their parents is to get the burden off their chest, like unloading baggage that is burdensome. 

Most child sexual abuse is committed by non-pedophilic adults, not pedophilic adults. Most rapists or sexual assailants of children are in denial of the sexual attraction to children that most adults have. Most child sexual abuse happens in a sexually repressed environment, where the repressed adult attraction to children comes out sideways onto the child, like a ton of bricks. A pedophile, in rare cases, can repress their pedophilia entirely, and that comes from a sexually shaming environment as a child. However, most abuser pedophiles have a moderate-severe mental disability such as autism. Most pedophilic offenders don't understand the gravity of their actions towards children, but they sure deserve prison just for incurring onto a child in that way.

Most pedophiles have a severe religious trauma. Most pedophiles are not the most religious fellows on the block. Instead, most pedophiles are either atheist or agnostic. They prayed to God to take away their pedophilia, but God did not. My understanding of my pedophilia ultimately is that it is God's Will, meaning it is a spiritual condition that God, for some reason, will never take away. It is a sin nature that I will have for the rest of my life. I am a flawed adult in that respect, and am deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. Most pedophiles were also sexually shamed as children, and so they had to lose their religion in order to cope with being a pedophile. Praying away the pedophile never cured a pedophile. I see pedophilia ultimately as a flaw to use for good, as my whole life involves children, despite me not having much to do with children. I just have to be careful that I don't become an abuser to children like I once was. I ultimately am a regret parent towards children, in parallel format. I have a mental disorder called pedophilia because I acted on it in the form of sexual harassment of children.

A pedophile can make a good child advocate, as most pedophiles are aware of their trauma. However, pedophilia should remain a mental disorder because a pedophile cannot possibly have the sexual relationship with children that they desire, and that will never change. I myself have a parental rights trauma of the legal sort, meaning I hate the idea of disciplinary rights that are enshrined in our nation's laws in all 50 states. I am aware of my trauma, and always was, because I am a pedophile, and a pedophile is usually conflated with a traumatic form of autism. Anyone with autism who identifies strongly by trauma is likely a pedophile. It is a myth that pedophiles are incapable of trauma. My parents used spanking and false imprisonment tactics to control my behavior, and I turned out resentful of my parents due to that treatment. I gave my parents hell until they could not deny their abusive treatment of me any longer, and then I ended up with gentle parents. Pedophiles have a passion for children that can be put to good use. They just need to know the boundaries around children, which can be taught by parents.

Most pedophilic offenders are sexually curious about the bodies of children, and want to see the sexual or intimate parts of children. Certain body books geared towards children entering puberty are also suitable for pedophilic children. A pedophilic child will then know what children's bodies look like, and not need to check for themselves and possibly run afoul of the law. My parents never bought me those books, but I sure leaned on them for questions involving children's sexual development. 

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame their pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to respect and honor from their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, most parents who demand respect and honor from their children don't do anything to earn their respect and honor. The fact of the matter is that respect is earned in parenting, not bestowed by children on a silver platter.

The Fifth Commandment reads in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment does not prohibit speaking against your parents. Instead, the commandment to honor parents means don't dishonor them with acts of elder abuse. The main obligations for children towards their parents is not to strike or attack them (see also Exod. 21:15), don't gaslight your parents to send them places (see also Lev. 20:9), and don't blame your parents for moral crimes that you commit (see also Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from those narrow protections, parents have to earn their honor and respect.

The main way to understand the Fifth Commandment in childhood is the commandment not to strike out at your parents. You can use your parents for pretty much anything that you want, and parents should be there to provide for you as a child. However, striking out at parents is not the way to get what you want from parents. When parents are struck by their children, they should cry out loud, in the form of righteous wailing. You may find that your child simply wants to be heard, but is going about it in the wrong way. A parent should not encourage children to strike out at them.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, that respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up her child in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath her loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup facilitated easy skin-on-skin contact, with children having skin-on-skin time with mothers every time they were picked up. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility to end child sexual abuse

Many parents think that child sexual abuse prevention is about spotting pedophiles and naming and shaming them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. The fact of the matter is that pedophiles are not the problem. Adults are the problem, meaning all adults in relation to children. All adults have the duty to abstain from sexual abuse of children. Not just some. All adults.

Every single adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and is deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children as the sexually entitled adults that they are. Every single adult is capable of child sexual abuse under the right/wrong conditions. That doesn't mean every adult will sexually abuse a child, but all are capable.

All adults presumably have a sexual attraction to children somewhere under their belt, usually at the unaware level. All adults are attracted to teenagers at some level, with 20% of men being sexually attracted to prepubescent children, with this attraction usually being secondary in the adult.

What is the solution? Righteous masturbation to children is the only way out of being at-risk for sexually abusing a child. The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look at children, and even think the think about them later. But, if you do the deed with a child, you probably shouldn't have approached them. Doing the deed involves flirting with or propositioning a child, as well as touching a child anywhere on their body for sexual reasons. The only way out of approaching a child for sexually motivated reasons is to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children.

I am a pedophile. I myself masturbate regularly to sexual thoughts of children. It helps keep my sexual drive towards children in check, as it purges all unrequited lusts towards children. I myself also use righteous avoidance techniques such as tarring the prospect of sexual relations with a child with images of Hell. I masturbate to sexual thoughts of children intentionally in order to stay out of trouble, and it works. I now have attraction only at the connotational level, meaning like a spray tan on the exposed skin of the child.

Most pedophiles are the last people to sexually abuse a child. A pedophile is usually aware of their sexual attraction to children. Most adults do have a sexual attraction to children as well, but on the secondary level, in unaware format. A pedophile usually has a form of autism where they specialize in children in terms of intense interest, with their sexual preferences reflecting their passion for nurturing children. Most pedophiles who sexually abuse a child operate on the surface, in the form of sexual harassment of a child, and don't understand the gravity of their behavior. I myself am that type of pedophilic adult - I am currently under investigation for sexually harassing my cousin in an attic at my grandparents' former home. I plead "yea" to the court of the police not for the rape that I was accused of, but the sexual harassment that did happen.

Aren't we all as adults sexually attracted to children in some way, in some form? Even in the case of women, teenage boys are at least a curiosity. Most men are attracted to teenage girls, and some men are attracted secondarily to children under age 14. If an adult is convicted by this message, they should dig deep into their attraction to children using righteous masturbation. Most men are most attracted to their daughters, whereas most women are most attracted to teenage boys outside of family ties. 

Most child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, usually based off of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape or sexually assault a child. Most child sexual abuse happens when the sexual attraction to children in an adult is repressed, with the sexual drive for children then coming out sideways onto the child, like a ton of bricks. Some sexual offenders operate on the surface, in the form of sexual harassment, and those adults are pedophiles. I myself am guilty of sexual harassment in relation to children, and am deserving of absolutely nothing from children due to that sin count of mine towards children.

Child sexual abuse usually exists in sexually permissive environments, or else sexually repressed environments, but usually sexually repressed environments. Repressing something as powerful as a sexual drive is bound to lead to that sex drive coming out sideways. The idea is to face those attractions head on, and follow the repressed sexual thoughts to the end using righteous masturbation. Most of the time, the masturbation alone spends away the attraction, in which case it then needs to be tended to rarely. If you keep masturbating and the attractions aren't spent away, you are a pedophile and need to own up to it. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that children need to be punished when they cry. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents these days opt for time-out when dealing with their children, usually alongside the occasional disciplinary spanking. However, time-in is becoming more popular. Most time-in is done by way of either the mother kneeling down to the child, or else the child going to a calming corner. However, the biblical way of doing time-in is mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is the optimal way to bond with your child, and deal with their cries. Mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refer to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

There are many ways to do time-in, such as kneeling down to the child's level, or else direct the child to a calming corner. However, there is one way to do time-in the biblical way - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, and from there, the child was held in mammary closeness to the bosom of mothers. Children went naked wherever they went in biblical times, and mothers went naked in the family home, with even picking up a child leading to skin-on-skin mammary closeness. 

A big part of mammary closeness is breastfeeding. Whenever children who were milk-dependent were held close to the bosom of mothers in mammary closeness, they were offered the teat of mothers. Whenever children cried, they were offered the teat of their mothers, breastfeeding their child to sleep. Mothers knew when to introduce solid foods - the child pushed away the teat of the mother. 

The bosom of mothers was not primarily designed for men to sexualize. Instead, the bosom area of mothers was intended to nurture children. The moment you try to use your bosom as a mother for mothering, you will regret not doing it sooner. 

Mammary closeness also happened in public as well as in private. Mammary closeness for a child under age 6 was ensured by way of swaddling. Mothers, when out and about with young children under age 6, wrapped up their children next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, thereby giving her child mammary closeness. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast of the mother, and then from across the dot to her right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Whenever a child cried, the swaddling made the child's cries pacified in nature, with mothers holding the crying child even closer to her bosom in swaddling blankets. Milk-dependent children were given a chance to be breastfed to sleep in the mammary closeness of mothers. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. 

It is a common belief among gentle parents that children should be put in a calming corner as a form of time-in. However, a mother should always be there for her child, able to offer mammary closeness whenever the child needed something. From there, the mother should diagnose the need and then meet it. Children need skin-on-skin mammary closeness when crying in order for mothers to gel a bond with their child. Children, for the first 6 years of childhood, need their mother to be there at all times for them, as most children that young have separation anxiety, which is normal for children that age.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.