Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults sexually attracted to children

Many parents and adults alike blame pedophiles for the child sexual abuse epidemic. Most adults automatically blame pedophiles for every case of a sexually abused child. However, all of us as adults are collectively individually to blame for the child sexual abuse epidemic. 

Every single adult is responsible for the sexual abuse of children, as any old adult is capable of sexually abusing a child under the right/wrong condition. Most sexual abuse happens to teenage girls, and is committed by an ordinary adult man without a single other offense under their belt. Most men are attracted to teenage girls, and when men are alone with a teenage girl, they are likely to offend against a child.

Child sexual abuse does not usually come from pedophiles. It instead comes from adults repressing their sex drive for adolescents. Whenever you repress something as powerful as a sex drive, you risk it coming out sideways onto an unsuspecting child, like a ton of bricks. 

Pedophilia itself does not usually lead to child sexual abuse, Most pedophiles are painfully aware of their sexual desires, but feel it in the form of urges. When pedophiles feel urges, it is because they are trying to deny something that can't viscerally be denied. Most pedophiles who rape children have a mental disability, and don't understand the boundaries with children. Sometimes, a pedophile thinks they are cured, and that is the last thing a child needs - because they are simply feeling it under the hood, at the unaware level. 

I myself have committed sexual abuse of a child. I myself committed sexual harassment of children, usually in the case of street harassment. I am currently under investigation for a case of sexual harassment with a cousin in the attic of my grandparent's house. I was an obvious abuser who engaged in infatuation grooming, Most pedophiles aren't like me, and have a squeaky clean record in relation to children in terms of even lawful child abuse. A pedophile is the last person to abuse a child in any way.

Most career sexual abusers of children are not pedophiles, but are simply ordinary rapists. It is one thing if someone is a pedophile, but are they a rapist? That question is what survivors need to know. Usually, career rapists have a bunch of adult victims, but also have a few child victims that are made of note by the police. Most pedophiles who are career sex offenders think they are cured, right up until their first offense, and then they run with their desires. 

The key to righteous avoidance in parents is righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation comes without pornography, meaning solely for health reasons. The idea is to face your child fantasies head on, and masturbate to the first child that comes to mind. This usually has to happen once or twice, and brings the adult to a place of relief. If you need more than that, and need it all of the time, you are a pedophile, and need to own up to it. The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here to being in lust, meaning having a sexual narcissist. The way to purge unrequired lusts is to masturbate without pornography. Pornography is the new drug, not masturbation. Just masturbate to the first child that comes to mind. That alone should kick the pornography habit. I once had a pornography habit for a very short phase of my life, but I masturbated to the first inage that came to mind on my own, and then the habit was gone. Most men in the Early Church had an amendment to their theology to fit in masturbation in at least some of the time,

Some of us need further restrictions on ourselves. I myself do not ever speak to children unless spoken to by them. I char and tar the every sexual possibility with children with images of Hell. I usually became infatuated with children when I spoke to them. The idea is to avoid speaking to children, as if that leads to an infatuation, I am in danger of mortal sin. If you see me obsess about a child, know that I am an abuser in that context, and need to be kept on watch. I myself saw possibilities with children that weren't there. I can interact with children, but only on their terms, meaning if they come to me first. Until then, interacting with a child is an infraction under my Christian beliefs. Most pedophiles don't need this sort of restriction, but I lacked boundaries in the past, and so I need to know the limits. I actually thought that talking to children as a stranger was appropriate behavior in relation to children. Most pedophilic sexual offenses happen in the same obvious way, meaning the child victim is a target of an obsession that revolves around the child. Most pedophiles know the boundaries.

To repeat, if you see me post about an obsession about a specific child, you know that I am in abuser mode. I am an obvious abuser, meaning I am obsessive about a child in a way that makes it obvious. I am an easy adult abuser to spot, and once I develop that spark, I will have to talk it out with my mom, who is my accountability partner. My mother is a safe person for me to talk about anything with, as she is trained in the field of mental health. I also have a therapist to talk to. I think every pedophile needs someone to talk to about their risk of sexually offending, meaning in the form of clinical celebratory disclosure. However, obsessions about children happen when I speak to a child whom I do not know, and so I can simply look at a child respectfully and fantasize later about her. Btu, if a parent asks if I am a pedophile, I have to answer to the court and plead "yea", and accept the consequences for my plead. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!