What is pedophilia?: Understanding your disorder as a parent (and how not to abuse a child)

Pedophilia is a mental disorder involving intense, sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving sexual contact with a child under age 14. The modern interpretation of this criteria - paraphrased from the DSM-5 - is sexualized attachment to children under age 14. 

Pedophilic attachment to children is ordinary attachment of various forms conflated with sexuality, towards a child under age 14. Ephebophilia is the same sort of attachment towards teenagers aged 14-18, and is diagnosed in the DSM-5 as "paraphilic disorder, not specified". Any sexualized attachment towards a child is pathological due to where it is pointed - at a target that cannot consent in any context.

Pedophilia is a sexually entitled parent, in profiling terms, particularly when entitled. Parental entitlement is want from children to the point of imposition. Pedophilia is the sexually aggressive thread, encased by parental encasement. What defines whether any parent strikes out at their child? Their beliefs. Most child abusers are parents, and believe strongly in what they are doing, at the ideological level. Hence, parental entitlement, including in sexually entitled format, is usually ideological entitlement of some form. I can tell if someone is a risk to children or not based on what they believe, and how they believe what they believe. You have my values everywhere else, but hate the fact that children have rights, you are a threat to children, and I avoid you and campaign for others to avoid you, until you have nobody - I gaslight based on the implied or stated statement of "you have lost a friend".

Are you a risk to children? If you are afraid of such like the majority of pedophiles out there, you are not. Most abusers believe in what they are doing, and if they have ideological views that favor or command child abuse in some way. Most abusers, however, use a glorified title to defend themselves and render themselves "guiltless" in the eyes of most of society - either "parent" or "adult". The most common line child abusers use in this country is "I am the parent". Sound like you? Didn't think so. Some pedophiles are guilty of their tendency to engage in sexual/behavioral neglect. Let's be clear - being "soft" on a child is not permissiveness, and is a blessing, not a curse. What would you do if your child wanted a bicycle and you couldn't afford it until pay day? An actual behaviorally negligent parent would either break down with the child and/or steal the bicycle. Attachment parents are instead the sturdy, quiet type of parents that simply listen and validate while remaining calm, giving reassuring statements and restating the child's concerns. Most pedophiles are attachment parents and don't know it, usually to other people's children as they are single, but also to their own children as well. That means you are your child's friend or pal, but in the providing sense towards a more vulnerable friend.

All child sexual abuse in the United States stems from adult sexual entitlement, meaning an adult that wants sex with children to the point of taking the first steps to commit child sexual abuse. This can be in one's beliefs or in one's actions. Once the sexual entitlement hits the child, it is fornication of some sort, as denoted by the Greek root word πονρεία (Latin: porneia). The slightest of touch for sexual purposes is sexual assault or rape, depending on the severity of the touch and how far it goes. Otherwise, any stance or menace that sexually offends the child is fornication by way of obscenity, and this includes, explicitly in biblical text, any sexually objectifying speech about a child in an open arena that can cause offense (Eph. 5:4). This is what a pedophile should avoid, and if you find yourself avoiding it, you are not a threat. Most child sexual abuse occurs when the adult is alone with a child, so simply make it a policy not to be alone with a child to some degree, and you are good.

Pedophilia is a misunderstood disorder, and hated by many, especially those associated with neo-Nazi groups but also any alt-right fringe group. I myself am conservative, but in the moderate libertarian sense. I am a pedophile, and most people who are understanding to my issues are women, and pro-children's rights. My therapist is actually a part of the children's rights community, which today largely consists of therapy practices and psychological researchers. I myself support the rights of both children and pedophiles, like a healthy balance, but actually prefer the rights of children, and then it goes in a circle - pedophilic children are the most marginalized of children ever. Some communities are more understanding of pedophiles than others. Here in Berks County, Pennsylvania? Yes, the acceptance is creeping up. In rural Tennessee? No way - the hatred is everywhere. This is a red state, blue state type of difference, as we call it here at children's rights, but with the acceptance in blue states more common than that towards children (sadly), and also closeted in a way that can be easily found with the right level of patience. 

Before 2012, when the Virtuous Pedophiles forum was created, everyone hated pedophiles, as the normative Christian belief was that all pedophiles would go to Hell for being perverts (the source of the hysteria), whereas the support is creeping up, and as that has been happening, more support for children's rights has been creeping up equally, with the same people being both pro-child and pro-pedophile. This is because pedophiles, by way of attachment theory, are received on the same level as children, meaning people treat pedophiles the same way they treat children, usually. The more children are respected, the more pedophiles will be respected. Most women in particular naturally would mother a pedophile when the pedophilia was disclosed, seeing him as a kid to be listened to and taken seriously, just like how I am seen here in this majority-women movement. With abusers, women would simply listen for BS, and then turn on the abuser at the end. There is no need to stigmatize pedophiles - just stigmatize any harm inflicted on children whatsoever, which is the primary goal of children's rights anyway. Most pedophile hysteria, across time periods, was held by men, meaning power-hungry men, and they were the ones to infiltrate children's rights movements with their toxic anti-pedophile ideas. 

Ultimately, the "Hell curse", as it is called, is the root of all anti-pedophile hatred, meaning this belief was used to ostracize pedophiles once discovered, criminalizing the disorder as a sexual perversion. No inborn trait alone is a hinderance or stumbling block to salvation. Existence alone as an adult even cannot be prosecuted except by God, who rarely does prosecute, meaning he never does. Existence is simply for me towards my abuser, the pro-spanking parent, so that I know none exist within my periphery of perception - a form of avoidance. A pro-spanking parent is going to Hell for what they defend, usually using ideology that is false, heretical, and abusive in nature. A pedophile is defined not by their choices, but by their sexual attachment to children.

In the Early Church, men who were attracted to children had to be honest about it once confronted. Joking about it or objectifying a child with your speech was seen as abusive to the child, but being honest in an informational way was not only acceptable, but expected, and the more entitled the disclosure, the more entitled the individual. The common route recommended then was re-channeling desires using masturbation, in order to put the pedophilia in a box to use for later, usually alongside want avoidance. A disciplined, chastened man could remain celibate from sex with children entirely if he channeled it in towards sexual fantasy. This is the route I recommend most pedophiles to take, and the more they do it, the more the thought is accepted, but at the same time, the less they want to do it in real life because it is put into a box. This is one tenet of my Christian faith that even an atheist can identify with. 

Let the depraved and defiled adult fornicators burn! They hate pedophiles usually, more so than anyone else! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!