Pro-social caregiver: Why there should be no rules for children (only tender loving care)

Many parents think children need rules. The argument is that children need structure in order. The fact of the matter is that children don't need rules, but instead tender loving care. Parents are caregivers, not lawgivers. The parent-child bond refers to a caregiver/ward type of attachment.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION, with parents obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children, and with parents prioritizing putting children first in terms of priorities, and themselves last, leading to submission to the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting in the love and grace of parents, and parents giving due benevolence to their children so that they can rest without worry, bestowing charity from above, with children resting in said charity from beneath. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with children running to and surrendering in the loving arms of parents. Parents were caregivers then, and discipline wasn't seen as the main part of parents. Mothers were charged with nurturing children, and wrapped up children up to age 6 in constant closeness in swaddling blankets, with children older than 6 retreating to the warmth of mother when done playing with siblings and other peers. Teaching was exemplary in nature, with children resting enough to follow the example of their parents as they got older. Children in ancient Israel as well as adjoining churches did not wear clothing, and this was because even the oldest of children occasionally wanted to snuggle with mothers and be swaddled next to her in swaddling blankets, in skin-to-skin closeness. Closeness was the main short-term goal of parenting, with children forming their own rules in relation to parents, taking after their parents and elders, wanting to be like them.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to a provocation to anger imposed upon a child, referring to the commandment in both Judaism and Christianity to love your neighbor and not provoke them to anger, with "provocation to anger" being defined as the slightest of personal offense, including the slightest of unwanted touch, perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul and the surrounding legal context to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including spanking, corporal punishment, and other forms of punishment and control in parenting. Paul was rebuking Greek Christians who were trying to cite Proverbs as an excuse for their dated pagan custom of spanking children. The seven verses in the book of Proverbs that mention the rod of correction refer to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, which took place in a courtroom, meaning not in the family home. The book of Hebrews refers to the rod of correction also, but in figurative form that referred to enduring hardship - no corporal punishment of any kind was ever imposed in the Early Christian church communities in the name of law enforcement.

Parents in biblical times were caregivers, not lawgivers, meaning the primary goal for parenting was not discipline or chastening up children, but the care and protection of children, but especially child care. Mothers held children in her bosom, wrapped up in swaddling blankets, with the nude children being held against her bosom in skin-to-skin contact. Older children played freely in the nude, but were always supervised by a parent. They alternated between free play and warm and sustaining closeness to mothers. Think of a woman holding pales of water, with a young child swaddled to her bosom, breastfeeding at age 2. That is biblical parenting according to the purest of theologies. Much of this, if not all, can be applied today.

Children in biblical times had no rules to go by, and made rules for themselves to give themselves structure. Parents then saw childish behaviors as a phase and not as something permanent that needs to be stopped. Children cried, and were instead listened to. Children whined, and were comforted. Then, they shook off their parents come puberty, and then sought to be independent in order to please their parents. By then, they were seen as adults, as attachment parenting properly prepared them for adulthood, so much that maturity and adulthood came sooner than it did today. 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them burn and suffer God's Wrath in the Hell of fire and torment! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!