Why attachment parenting is biblical parenting

Many parents think punitive parenting is biblical. This is due to many mainstream family values outlets depicting the biblical context falsely as endorsing punitive parenting. There is proper parenting in the Bible, and it is attachment parenting, of the primitive type when applied today to the fullest.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children. Parents especially are to put their own children first, and themselves as parents last, in terms of priorities, to the point of submission to the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with this being Christian love as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Children should be allowed to rest in the unconditional Christian love of children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

This passage describes, in context, the rest children have in parents. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, leading to honoring the example of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining churches, with mothers wrapping up even older children, holding children as old as age 6 next to her bosom, in swaddling blankets, with children not being weaned until age 3. Older children played outside with adult supervision by day, and snuggled next to mothers by night. Children didn't wear clothing until they were adults, and this allowed for much skin-to-skin closeness with children, with children being safe and secure in the loving arms of parents, and then they usually end up being cooperative with parents as they get older. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger imposed upon children, referencing the Eighth and Tenth Commandments against entitlement leading to theft. This was intended by the Apostle Paul and the surrounding legal context then as including any punishment and control of children whatsoever, including spanking and corporal punishment, but also false imprisonment (time-out or grounding) and larceny (loss of privileges). The Apostle Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents for misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their custom of spanking children. The seven verses in the book of Proverbs that depict the rod of correction refers to a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment only applicable to the specific Old Testament context - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. In Hebrews 12:5-11, the rod of correction is also mentioned, this time as symbolism for enduring hardship - the rod of correction was not used in the Early Christian context ever, as Christ endured corporal punishment, and it was believed that He did so that we don't have to. Punishing or controlling a child at all was seen by the Law that Christ promoted as kidnapping, due to the hostage-taking nature of punishing or controlling children.

Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israelite culture and adjoining churches, meaning children were securely attached to parents, and in a policing way at that. Children ordered their parents around, and demanded what they needed/wanted, and children got most of what they wanted. Parents even moved for their children if one of them found the old house spooky in a frightening way, or else had a bad memory attached to a house. 

Children were generally given whatever they wanted, as wants are closely intertwined with attachment needs. Children were not punished for childish behavior, as parents then saw it as normal behavior to cry, whine, pout, or roll eyes, and saw it as a way of communicating needs. The idea is not to corner children with expectations, but just let them develop on their own, in the closeness and safety of parents, resting securely in parents. 

Children see the world just like anyone else, with the same complexity as anyone. However, they don't have the words to express their needs when they are younger, so they cry. They still have a limited vocabulary at school age, so they whine when they can't find "proper" words to use when disagreeing with you. The best way to deal with crying, whining, or other immature protests is to love and accept your child FOR their imperfections, not despite them, just as God feels towards His children.

Children develop naturally, on their own, based on the cultural and religious example they are immersed in, and thus they don't need much imposed discipline or structure at all. Just allow them to grow up naturally. That is how it was done in biblical times, and that is how it can be done today, to the degree parents are able.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! There is a grand investigation going on, and if you are not on the side of children, you are not on the side of God (Matt. 25:31-46). Many will be called, but few chosen. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!