Pedophile sensitivity: Why most pedophiles don't ask for much

Society is perplexed by the concept of pedophile sensitivity. Most Americans are opposed to being sensitive to pedophiles because they seem to want "so much". I strongly disagree with these statements. They refer to only a vocal minority of pedophiles, who have an honor code to impose on others, and those that cannot tolerate their honorifics, including other pedophiles, are driven away. Most pedophiles need very little in order to feel understood.

Why should we care about pedophiles? It could be your child. No, not here in terms of your child being molested, but your child growing up to become a pedophile. The most marginalized of pedophiles are still children themselves, hence I take a stand for them as a child advocate. I myself am grateful to have gotten the mental health supports I needed, in the form of parent coaching (that's how my trauma-informed therapist saw me - a parent attracted to children). I turned myself into a therapist, and confided in her. I have a whole team of professionals who care. The trauma-informed system, when it works, can work wonders. We have the resources already in the trauma-informed community, but we simply don't have self-confidence as a community. - only unhealthy pessimism.

Non-offending pedophiles do not demand that non-pedophiles admit their privilege over pedophiles. We simply ask that you hear us out, and if you still don't like us, you can leave pedophiles alone. A pedophile hater is a stalker or groomer, meaning an individual who willfully harasses a page like this. Due to the protection of children's rights neighbors, I don't get much, if any, hate mail. Pedophilia is simply a topic to learn about, where some people will be informed, and some people always will be uninformed. The Virtuous Pedophiles community just wants to be understood, so they educate based on that fact.

There is a privilege element to understanding pedophiles, but only on the individual level. Most people who understand my condition claim that they don't understand it. They just give up trying to understand it for themselves, and listen to how the pedophile perceives their condition. But, I admit privilege over everyone in this way, meaning I can only understand myself, and cannot claim to understand another person, as I don't know their situation. Nobody can understand what it is like to be a pedophile unless they are one, just like nobody can again understand what it is like to be a child unless they are currently a child. The oppression is admittedly greater for children than for pedophiles, but not by much, depending on where you are in this country - some communities welcome pedophiles as long as they keep a low key, and some reject them.

Pedophilia is arrested sexual development at the level of a prepubescent or early pubescent child, meaning it usually associated with a case of either autism or ADHD, and is conflated with the immaturity aspect of the disorder. Think a young adult with autism, namely the type that can only readily relate to children. If you see that, think pedophile, but the right kind. All the pedophilia is then is the immaturity of the individual, with their age-based sexual preferences being reflected by their level of immaturity. My mother simply chalks the pedophilia to the immaturity linked to my autism. I may bring the topic up from time to time with my mother, for casual discussion, but largely can deal with the issue myself, in my case through charring and tarring.

A common form of benevolent stigma from survivors is pity. I simply view children differently, and that's how it manifests itself. I color them differently than most adults, in a more egalitarian way, meaning I am at their level when around them. At this point, I just want to be around them whenever I get the chance, with that chance being whenever they walk into a public venue where I am, and I am delightfully grateful for their presence around me. I like how it allows me to see children as separate from their parents, and not attached to their parents. A predatory pedophile often sees children as attached to their parents. A non-offending pedophile sees children as completely autonomous individuals under the shelter of their parents, which is the proper children's rights view of the child. I get it. You may see it as a curse. I simply see it as a different way of viewing children. I do see myself as recovering from pedophilia, meaning I had a "love" addiction to young girls, but all of that is put down by a change of heart. Today, I use my Christian faith as a compass for avoiding offense in children, and everyone else as well, meaning I am usually silent when in public so that my voice doesn't carry and disturb a child in the process.

I don't identify as a pedophile in my bio for a reason - I want it to be a hidden identity on this page. There is more to Maxwell Clark Scheibner than pedophilia. I am a children's rights advocate, and am on a mission to defend CHILDREN, who are the most oppressed people on earth, before even my own self-interests as a pedophile. That's who I am. I only bring up pedophilia where I want to be seen as one, out of pro-social honesty. Otherwise, I prefer not to be seen as a pedophile, but simply a human being, and just maybe an implied parent if I earn that status. *I* own the label, and *I* hide it unless absolutely on-topic. Anyone can ask, and receive an honest answer, however.

Anti-contacts are easy to please. Just give us some time and a listening ear, and that's all we need from you as pedophiles. The rest is directed towards our persons, as relevant.