Why children shouldn't have rules

Many parents think children should have rules, due to the belief that children need limits imposed on them, and that parents need to be "authoritative" and "be firm" on boundaries. The fact of the matter is that parents should be caregivers, not lawgivers.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, being silent in relation, speaking only at their cue and consent. Parents especially should esteem their children above all else, prioritizing their children first, and themselves last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with this being unconditional Christian love denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers. provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, meaning mothers held their children close, wrapping them up in swaddling blankets, with children being in the nude, receiving skin-to-skin warmth and comfort. Closeness was a goal in ancient Hebrew and Christian parenting, and the main short-term goal. The main long-term hope was that children would shake off the care and provisions of their child at puberty, setting off on a life of their own. Think a woman holding pales of water gathered from a nearby creek, with a young child swaddled next to the mother's bosom. Those were biblical times.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger imposed upon children, as defined as the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including the slightest of unwanted touch perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all forms of punishment or controlling measures, including spanking and corporal punishment, as the Apostle was cracking down on the pagan custom of spanking children, which was justified even then by Scripture. The seven verses in the book of Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they reference a dated form of judicial corporal punishment unique to the Old Testament - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, which was a summary punishment for a capital offense, administered in a courtroom, on an ADULT child and not a minor child. The word for "child" throughout the book of Proverbs refers to young adults above the age of majority, and this is because children under the age of majority could not be charged with any criminal offense or civil wrong. Parents apologized for the minor children they had in their custody, and never forced their children to apologize - they were seen as too young to apologize.

Children shouldn't have rigid rules to be enforced on them. Children need nurturing more than structure or discipline. The Early Christians held their children close, with children being in the nude, with children wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to their mother's bosom, feeding off of mother's nourishment until age 3 at the very youngest, with some children being breastfed until age 6. Some of this context is dated, but much of it isn't, with true biblical parenting being attachment parenting! Parents are to be perfect in parenting, knowing they will never get there, with Christ making up for the rest on the cross!

Children do not need rules. They need a relationship with their parents. The burden of proof to prove one's unconditional Christian love for children is on the parents, not the child, with parents submitting and providing from above, with parents apologizing first, with children owing parents nothing in return - but nonetheless, children will listen to parents and honor their example once they perceive respect from parents. We are talking here a secure bond between parent and children, where parent and child are best friends, with the parent being the more mature friend, and the child the more protected, more vulnerable friend who the parent may apologize for now and then. Children need parents to snuggle next to them. Children will internalize good, polite Christian morals on their own, by way of the example of parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!