Why strictness is for parents, not children

Many parents hate their children. We all, as adults, hate children in some way, in some form. The idea is not to hate the child in order to love them, but to char and purify oneself. Strictness is often forced on children, but isn't intended by God for them. Strictness is intended for parents.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-11 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh to you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: for whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards and not sons. Furthermore we have fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers in his holiness. Now no chastening for the present is ever joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. 

The Greek root word referring to chastisement and correction is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning chastening oneself and regulating one's emotions in the Lord, in this context in relation to one's child. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and refers, literally literally, to a scourge of cords under Roman law, which refers ultimately to the rod of correction under Jewish law. The rod of correction literally was a tree branch used as a form of judicial corporal punishment, and only in the Old Testament, hence this is simply punitive nostalgia that should be interpreted as self-directed on the parent in a self-flagellant way, not as a means of promoting corporal punishment for children. Corporal punishment was not a part of the ordinance of the Early Church, and thus the rod of correction had a symbolic meaning, meaning boundaries, meaning if you actually received 40 minus 1 lashes as an adult offender in the Old Testament, you were on the edge in terms of respecting the boundaries of others and society, most likely. When used here, it means God sets the boundaries, often in a way human beings don't like.

The idea behind strictness and chastisement is to char yourself as a parent in front of yourself as a parent. This means dropping the parent label, and simply implying it with your good intentions towards your child, which don't deserve praise as such is commonsense. It is centering oneself in relation to children with God guiding you by the fact that you are evil, wicked, and depraved, and deserve nothing from them that is good, and everything bad and "disrespectful", meaning I deserve hatred from children. The idea is to let these principles guide you as a parent to children, and know your duty and place as caregiver, and once children are grateful for your kindness, or else are kind to you undeservingly, purify yourself in that moment, and replenish, knowing your sacrifice paid off. See vs. 11.

The Greek root word denoting love in the New Testament is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to first being convicted of one's depraved sin nature, charring oneself as a parent in relation to oneself, and to God, in relation to a child, leading to surrender to God with children in place of Him, with adult power and control being left at the footstool of the child, treating them as royalty, fearing reverently their every need as their enemy, leading to good works in terms of providing a child's every need to them, including attachment needs, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children. It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live along the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to chastening oneself up in the Lord as a parent, in a way that regulates one's emotions in an exemplary way in relation to children, meaning co-regulation, where the parent is calm and chastened up, but in a way that listens to and validates the every emotion of a child, not complaining or dismissing the child's needs, but simply reassuring presence. On another level, it means exemplary teaching of Christian family values to children, alongside minimal instruction in discussion format, using Socratic reasoning to allow children to think for themselves by asking them questions in relation to questions, opening dialogue between equals. There are many levels of the chastening of the Lord in parenting, but the primary is by way of example, just as Christ taught His children by example. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning the word "no" or its various variants, meaning any limit or boundary set by a parent, which should be rare, and only verbal in nature. The severity of the boundaries set is weighed by the Greek root word παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses under the biblical context, meaning the torts and damages system under the Eighth Commandment, including assault and battery laws that were extended to children, meaning no legal defense under Jewish law exempted parents for prosecution for kidnapping, which would be the statute used for a pro-spanking parent, meaning immediate excommunication and disfellowship from the church, usually starting with a man being divorced by his wife and the mother of his children (1 Cor. 7:10-11). However, this all was summed up after Christ, and taken further, with the slightest of offense perceived by the child stemming from entitled adult behavior, meaning any entitlement directed towards the child or around the child recklessly in a way that the child's needs were ignored willfully in any way, including attachment needs.

Any sort of punishment was against Jewish law when directed towards children, including even fits of anger from a parent, as anger was to be saved for court, and children were not subject to the Law, and were exempt from Divine Prosecution until they became of age, meaning the age of majority, and until then, children were only expected to be taught, and at their own pace. Attachment parenting was the norm then, with young children being swaddled up to age 3, and children sleeping next to mothers long afterward in the form of co-sleeping, and otherwise children playing freely, yet in close range to parents. Fathers were encouraging, usually in a friendly, amicable way, and encouraged study of the Law, not beat it into children. It was an interest in every young Hebrew boy, and was an interest that was encouraged by fathers then, in a collaborative way. Children were expected to ask questions, and were encouraged to by fathers...Punishment was only acceptable under Jewish law for adults, and only after due process. Before that, nobody could be whipped with the rod of correction.

The depraved and entitled parents provoke not your children to anger! Let them burn and rot in the ever-burning lake of fire and brimstone, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!